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Partners Need to Celebrate their Wisdom and Strength with Carol the Coach
Carol the Coach will be interviewing Michele Saffier who will be speaking about her work with partners struggling with betrayal trauma. Discovery forces partners into an existential crisis of self. The choice they are faced with has very little to do with external decisions about their life– divorce, reconciliation, therapy, polygraphs and disclosure, why the betrayer did what they did, etc. There are two paths ahead. The must choose one. The path on the left is the relationship healing journey – individual therapy, partners group, S-Anon, marital therapy, accountability, etc. This path manages the acute crisis yet wellness still depends largley on the “we” and not the “I”. The path on the right far more difficult; it is a Heroes’ Journey. They will battle two-headed dragons, angry monsters and, the scariest monster of all, their own dark side (shadow self). If they hang on for dear life and stay on their journey, they will emerge, like the Phoenix rises from the ashes, transformed. Death and then rebirth. Partners must slay their own dragons to transform themselves. In the spirit of Kintsugi, brokenness is not to be hidden with gorilla glue but rather it is to be celebrated and mended with gold. She believes that partner should be celebrating the wisdom, beauty and strength in their brokenness.
Financial Issues Is Typically Part of Sex Addiction with Carol the Coach
Money issues and financial distress is all a part of the sexual addiction cycle. Listen as renowned "sex addiction's expert" Debra Kaplan talks about her new audio book which will help to unravel the damage that sexual addiction has contributed towards in the relationship. Debra Kaplan, who wrote For Love and Money: Exploring Sexual and Financial Betrayal in Relationships turns a provocative, literary lens on the world of sex, money and relational power. For over a decade, Ms. Kaplan has been a licensed psychotherapist treating problem related to sex addiction, money and relationships. Join us for a provocative exploration into relationships about sex, money and power.
A Male Partner Shares His Truth with Carol the Coach
Today, Carol the Coach interviews Gary Owens who is the male spouse of a female sex addict. He has written a book titled The Betrayed Husband’s Survival Guide as a way to tell his story and to help other men who find themselves in the battle of their lives. Being the partner of an addict is difficult, especially in the early days of recovery. And being a man whose wife betrayed him can be a blow to ones masculinity. Gary shares some of the things which have helped him find the road to his own ongoing recovery of self.
Sexual Acting Out in the Military with Carol the Coach
Sex addiction is a common occurance in the military, Lauren Rich explains, "ography is a huge problem. Excluding military sexual assault in this discussion ography and infidelity are an infinite battle. You have to remember that we’re talking majority men, minority women and that they are young, testosterone filled males who look to ography as a way to escape, feel good, and meet sexual needs. There’s little to no shame of doing this while enlisted, when they discharge and get married is when it can become an issue. Many stop use by this time but others struggle greatly." Today, she will explain what resources are available to the men who are serving our country.
Sleep Decreases Your Triggers with Carol the Coach
It is so important to recognize how the proper sleep can help sex addicts with thier urges, cravings and triggers. And for the partner, the proper sllep insures more stress management including less triggers and more emotional regulation.Listen as sleep specialist Laura Childers reminds us how important sleep really in the management of trauma and good mental health.
Is Betrayal Trauma Different for Male Partners with Carol the Coach
Betrayal Trauma can feel different for male partners Their greatest wounding is to believe that nothing that they experienced with their significant other was real. They experience an out-of-the-blue grief response to the sudden loss of what they thought was their life and they have nowhere to turn because that there are very few resources for male partners. Our guest today, Sibylle Georgianna has written a book for male partners to offer that support and she wants male partners to know that at some point they need to mourn the relationship they thought they had. She knows that reactions such as anger, sadness, numbness or craving to go out and cheat yourself show the humongous loss. The betrayal wound causes you to no longer trust your significant other and yourself. In her book she says: "You have many questions: Was my relationship with the one who betrayed me an illusion? What’s my sense of reality that I did not see the dual life of the one who betrayed me sooner? How could I have entrusted myself and my family to a person I did not know? You have been wounded on so many levels. I would like to repeat: betrayal trauma is not your fault. "
Listen as she talks about why she believes that it is so hard for male partners to ask for help!
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For straight men and their partners
There’s very little in these podcasts that recognizes that women and LGBTQ people can be sexually addicted. A couple of podcasts focus on the female sex addict with a “SHOCKED” tone, as if it’s stunning news that women could have problems with sexual compulsion. Once in a while the host will add “or she/her” as an afterthought to a comments. I listened to this for several years before realizing that it only reinforced the stigma of being a female sex addict. However, if you’re a straight man or the partner of one, you’ll find a lot of compassionate and informative material here.
Audio could be improved
Please invest in some improvements tools for your Audio. I want to continue to listen but I get turned off by the poor quality of the Audio.