Sexual Addiction requires that you know the tools to seek and manage recovery. Learn the strategies to restore your life.
One Man's Journey from Trauma to Triumph with Carol the Coach
Today, Carol the Coach is interviewing Nathan Spiteri who is brutally honest about how sexual abuse affected his life,The episode at the swimming pool was day one of what would become a three-year relationship between an eight-year-old boy and a paedophile in his early 40s, living just streets from each other in the same small town.
Nathan experienced traumatic bonding; a strong emotional attachment between a victim and their abuser, formed as a result of the cycle of violence. The sexual abuse initially continued at the swimming pool but later moved to his abuser’s home.
He also experienced manipulation from a pediphile who threatened him regularly. “He told me to meet him on certain dates and times or he would kill my family,” Nathan recalls.
This is a powerful and deeply vulnerable memoir where Nathan dives into the trauma of trauma bonding with a pediphile and how he not only survived but how he thrived!
Is Trauma Getting in the Way of Your Recovery with Carol the Coach
Healing trauma using somatic experiencing (SE), Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) and Internal Family Systems (IFS).
When is it addiction and when is it trauma?
Many people who accept their sex addiction issues embrace that their focus must be on recovery. What if you’re in recovery and working your program, but life isn’t improving? What if old behaviors keep creeping up or your relationships are still suffering. What if relapses, near slips, and shame start to tank recovery?
Sometimes your problem isn’t a lack of recovery dedication, sometimes it’s trauma. Unfortunately, when people hear the word trauma, they think of voyaging through the dark night of a soul. This can lead to fears of further relapses, fear of digging through the past, and worse, fear of yet another bad experience with a therapist who insists on treating the “T” word without knowing how. In this episode, Carol the Coach will talk with Rebecca Stokes about the treatment modalities that work best for treating trauma, and how to navigate the alphabet soup of terms you might encounter like EMDR, SE, and IFS. We’ll also explore when to add trauma treatment to your recovery, how to decide which program might work best for you, and how to find and interview the right treatment provider.
The Nine Domains of Integration with Carol the Coach
This talk will focus on utilizing Dan Siegel’s theoretical framework he calls “Mindsight”, and his “9 Domains of Integration”. The podcast will also introduce the great American philosopher, Ken Wilber’s “Integral or All Quadrant, All Level (AQAL) Meta-Theory. Eric will be discussing how he utilizes both of these theoretical frameworks in the screening, assessment and treatment of Chronically Problematic Sexual Behaviors. He will briefly cover the core concepts of Mindsight and Interpersonal Neurobiology and Integral-Meta Theory. The “9 Domains of Integration” will then be presented and how they can be combined with Integral Meta-Theory to screen, assess and treat all types of Problematic Sexual Behaviors such as Compulsive Sexual Behavior Disorder in the form of compulsive use of ography, dating application, infidelity, cybersex and teledildonics.
Eric will explain how he utilizes the 9 Domains in conjunction with Integral Meta-Theroy in his assessment and treatment of CSBD. He will introduce practical instruments such as utilizing the Psychograph and the Integration/Differentiation-Plex and how these can be used to help both clinicians and clients in the treatment process.
If you want to understand why your clinician would utilize Mindsight, the “9 Domains of Integration” and Integral Meta-Theory which Eric thinks is vital to keep pace with the current tsunami of all addictive disorders and hopefully provide a more accurate model for what physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, sexual “health” looks like for each individual.
The Emotional Impact Letter with Carol the Coach
Today, Carol the Coach will be interviewing Dr. Crystal Hollenbeckwho will be idiscussing the essential part an Impact Statement plays in the therapeutic process for a couple. Being betrayed by the person you trusted the most has a devastating impact on your whole person. Part of the healing process for the betrayed partner is having the opportunity to share their experience instead of just letting it go and moving forward. The Impact Statement also has significant benefits for the addict’s recovery in helping them break through denial and experience the truth about the destruction their secret life has caused.
Dr. Hollenbeck is Certified in Sex Addiction, Betrayal Trauma, Sex Therapy, EMDR and Anger Management. She helps couples heal from the wounds of addiction and betrayal and leads them to living a healthy balanced life that includes healthy sexuality. She has offices in Orlando and Tampa Florida and offers 3 Day Intensives. Please see her website for a full list of services www.CrystalHollenbeck.com
Come Join Us for Unleashing Your Power Intensive with Carol the Coach
I am so honored to be with Heidi Kinsella who has created an amazing Five Day Intensive Equine Inspired Experience for Women
Join a small group of women for an immersive healing experience set in a rural setting including equine assisted therapy, mindfulness, group therapy around the campfire, psychoeducation about betrayal trauma, and Soundbath healing to help work through the emotional and stress responses to trauma.We will be taking women throughthe three stages of healing including:1.safety and stabilization 2.working through anger, grief and mourning 3.restoration of self with posttraumatic growth. Heidi is using the concepts and exercises from Unleashing Your Powere the book that Carol wrote to woork through the trauma and betrayal.
If you feel stuck and need a healing place to nurture yourself and refocus your sense of emposwement. this may be the experience for you!
Designed and facilitated by Heidi Kinsella, LMHC, SUDP, CSAT, CPTT, CMAT, CCPS and Carol Juergensen Sheets, LCSW, CCPS-S, PCC and will bring her book Unleashing Your Power: Moving Through the Trauma of Partner Betrayal to life.
*Mention Restoring Hearts for a discount of $500.00 per person
Starts at noon on Thursday, 8/4/22 and ends at 1pm on Monday, 8/8/22
What You Need to Know About a Full Disclosure with Carol the Coach
Today Carol the Coach is interviewing Janice Caudill and Dan Drake who have written a series of books including a book for the Partner: Full Disclosure: Seeking Truth After Sexual Betrayal and a book for Addict: Full Disclosure: How to Share the Truth After Sexual Betrayal.
These books teach the couple how to prepare the Addict and Partner for a full therapeutice disclosre and discuss the importance of having skilled clinicians and coaches available who are partner sensitve. These companion workbooks are the gold standard for preparing for instruction on how to complete a full disclosure using a common method, common understanding, and common language toward the shared purpose of restoring the foundation of truth in the relationship.
They also have developed a training program for the Full Disclosure process for therapists, coaches, religious and other professionals who often become involved in the disclosure process.
If you want good information about disclosures, this is the show for you!
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Omg the audio content
Great content, downright terrible audio quality
For straight men and their partners
There’s very little in these podcasts that recognizes that women and LGBTQ people can be sexually addicted. A couple of podcasts focus on the female sex addict with a “SHOCKED” tone, as if it’s stunning news that women could have problems with sexual compulsion. Once in a while the host will add “or she/her” as an afterthought to a comments. I listened to this for several years before realizing that it only reinforced the stigma of being a female sex addict. However, if you’re a straight man or the partner of one, you’ll find a lot of compassionate and informative material here.