Shades of Strong™ is about the everyday experiences that shape, make and often break the Strong Black Woman. join us in REDEFINING THE Strong Black woman.
…because being strong is not binary. You can be doing this and that simultaneously. You can be resilient and still have moments when you’re falling apart at the seams. You can be vocally resolute while refusing to accept the nonsense being hurled at you in (and out of) the workplace. You can be a natural nurturer while not putting your needs on the back burner. You can do and be all the things while still embracing your humanness.
If you’re ready to throw the Strong Black Woman trope back at all the people who are constantly throwing it at you, you’re in the right place at the right time.
Season Finale | Let's Imagine a New Normal Together
The running theme for 2020 has been EXHAUSTED for a lot of us, but most of us are still finding ways to maintain our sanity in the midst of it all.
In this episode Natty and I give listeners a sneak peek into some of the revelations we've encountered during this time of uncertainty and some new healthy and life changing practices that we've taken on for the sake of our mental and emotional wellness.
This is our final episode of the season, but we'll still be around. So be sure to follow us on your favorite social media platform. We’re @shadesofstrong EVERYWHERE.
It's Time to Level Up. Can You Help a Sista Out?
It's been a few weeks since we've released an episode because you know.......LIFE!
Let me just tell ya, homeschooling/virtual learning with elementary age children is NO EASY FEAT!
Chile!!! I'm struggling over here.
In this short bonus episode I share the struggle with y'all and invite you help Natty and I level up by answering a few questions to help us better support you.
It only takes about two minutes to complete our short questionnaire about what you want Shades of Strong to look like for you. What do you want and need from us to be of better service. Here's the LINK to make it happen>>>> bit.ly/helpshirlandnatty.
Black from the Past™ | Honoring Phyllis Hyman
In this week's minisode of Black from the Past we're shining a light on the breathtakingly beautiful and amazingly talented Phyllis Hyman.
Phyliss Hyman was a Philadelphia native best known for her contributions to the music world during the late 1970s through the early 1990s.
She had this sultry, velvety and smokey gorgeous voice that absolutely could not be mistaken.
In her own words, she liked songs that talked about the the emotional side of people, which is evident in her album, Living All Alone.
There was this sparkling presence about her that was simply unforgettable. But she also had this dark struggle with depression that wasn't common knowledge into later on in her career.
Click HERE for a few Phyllis Hyman facts and HERE for some Phyllis Hyman Favs.
A few things to ponder while listening:
* The many ways Phyllis Hyman's music helps us to tap into our vulnerabilities
* How often what we're feeling and experiencing doesn't mirror how others see us
* The importance of being aware of our mental and emotional well-being and seeking support when we need it
And be sure to check out her interview with Ebony/Jet where she talks about her insecurities and what it was really like working in the music industry and grab her biography, Strength of a Woman: The Phyliss Hyman Story written by Jason A. Michael available in paperback and Kindle versions.
Phyllis Hyman has not only made a significant contribution to the music industry, but also to the Black female experience as a whole and today we celebrate her legacy, her vulnerability, her humanness.
Do you have a family member or know of someone you would like to see us shine a light on? Send us an email at firstname.lastname@example.org with the subject line Black from the Past suggestion or hop over to our website at shadesofstrong.com and leave us a voice message and we’ll do our best to make it happen.
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Colorism | When They Say You’re Pretty for a Dark Skinned Girl
"You're pretty for a dark skinned girl."
"I don't usually date dark skinned girls."
Has anyone ever had the audacity to utter those words to you? I certainly hope not. But let's be real, if those words had never been uttered, we wouldn't be having the colorism conversation, right?
Dating back to the days of slavery, the chains of colorism were woven into our psyche and are deep within the fabric of our brains, but does mean that we have to succumb to the ridiculous belief one shade of skin is better than another?ABSOLUTELY NOT!
Colorism, originally used by slave owners to cause separation and divisiveness within the enslaved community, is still being used today both interracially and intraracially to pit darker-skinned people against lighter skinned people and we're here to help you break the chains.
Yup! We're pouring out ALL the colorism tea. So, come on in and get you some of this healing.
Here a few things we talked about:
* The origination of colorism
* What it looks like inside and outside the Black community
* Observing colorism for males vs females
* The paper bag test and its possible use within Black sororities
* The mental and emotional effects of colorism
* How Black women can begin to heal from the residual effects of colorism
* How you can start the colorism conversation with the young girls in your life
As you can see, we talked about ALL THE THINGS! We would love to hear your thoughts on the topic as well. So, head over to shadesofstrong.com and leave us a voice message with your thoughts or shoot us a quick email at email@example.com.
OR get in touch with us on your favorite social media platform. We're Shades of Strong EVERYWHERE!
AND if you need help starting the colorism conversation with the girls in your life, Genesis Begins Again is just what you need. Available in paperback, Kindle and audio Genesis Begins Again tells the story of a thirteen-year-old who's fighting to over come internalized racism and a verbally abusive family so that she can learn to love herself. There are ninety-six things Genesis hates about herself and the color of her skin just happens to be one of them.
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* "Healing Processes Creative Practices" Workshop
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* Mental Health Treatment is for Black Women Too
* When the Emotional Wall Come Tumbling Down
* Moving on When Life Gets You Down
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Black from the Past™ | Honoring Margaret Garner
Welcome to the very first minisode in our Black from the Past series.
Black from the Past is our contribution to preserving and normalizing Black history.
Here's where we shine a light on Black women who are often forgotten, but have most certainly made an impact on the Black female culture.
Today's spotlight is shinning bright on Margaret Garner, who in one heart wrenching moment slit the throat of her 2-year-old daughter rather than return her to slavery.
Tune in to hear an account of Margaret Garner's desperate act of love.
Here are few things to ponder while listening:
* How far back the dehumanization of Black people date
* The depths that a parent will go to ensure her child is out of harm’s way
* The Psychological and emotional effects that Slavery had on Black people
* Slavery being a worse fate than death
Not only have artists and poets honored Margaret Garner with their paintbrushes and proses, her story was the inspiration behind Toni Morrison’s novel Beloved, (also available as an audio book) paper back the movie Beloved starring Oprah Winfrey, Kimberly Elise, and Thandie Newton, and it later inspired the 2005 opera, Margaret Garner composed by Richard Danielpour.
Although indirectly, Margaret Garner has made significant contributions to the Black female experience. So today we shine a light on her, we celebrate her and we honor her.
Below are a few links where you can read more about her story.
The Sexualization of Black Women and Girls
The sexualization of Black women and girls has its roots in slavery and racism and heavily contributes to rape culture internally and externally.
And to add insult to injury, mainstream media has been oversexualizing the Black female body for years, for CENTURIES.
Well, y’all know Natty and I are ALWAYS down for a good session of disrupting the madness because...
We are of the belief that Black women should be able to wear whatever they want with all the curves they have without being objectified.
We are also of the belief taht Black women should be able to post picture on social media honoring their bodies, their curves, and their beautiful black skin without that photo being shared as a distasteful sexually objectifying meme.
Come on, people! Be better than the slave owners!
Join us in this week's episode as we chat it up about ALL THE THINGS relating to the sexualization of Black women and girls.
Grab your cup, come on in and let us pour you this good ol tea; and when you're finished sipping it all up, head over to shadesofstrong.com and leave us voice message with your thoughts about the topic or shoot us a quick email at firstname.lastname@example.org
Here a few things we chatted about:
* The objectification and sexualization of Black women and girls having its
roots in slavery and racism
* Black women being the least protected in America
* The sexualization of Black women contributing to rape culture
* Unlearning and retraining the Black culture and American culture
* The mental and emotional effects of sexualization
* Mainstream media contributing to the sexualization of Black women
* The sexualization of Black men and what that could look like
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