Ship Wreck Nick Flora and Suzy G

Hold on tight. This week Suz and Nick go commando with no outline. Topics include best practices in the zombie apocalypse, your relationship with yourself, how we need to flush the superlative "SELFLESS" down the toilet, why it's so damn hard to break our behavior patterns, and much, much more. 

Making new friends as an adult can be hard, but having solid friendships outside of your romantic relationship(s) is really important. We need to kill the myth that our significant other can be our "everything". In this episode, Nick and Suz break down adult friendships--how to make them, why we need them, and whether straight men and women can really just be friends. 

Suz and Nick list practical tips for communication and improving dynamics with loved ones and family (however and whomever you’re living with) during isolation. (Books referenced: Stepmonster by Wednesday Martin, PhD; Codependent No More by Melody Beattie)

In the first part of a mini collection of episodes dealing with codependency during Covid-19, Nick and Suz go through an 11-question quiz (yoinked from a video by John Kim, aka: The Angry Therapist) that may determine whether you have dependent tendencies in your relationships. Grab a pen and tally how many of these questions you answer "yes" to:
1) Do you feel guilty for asserting yourself or speaking up?
2) Do you find yourself being the go-to for your friends/family/coworkers as a sympathetic ear or for favors--or are you the person others often seek out to verbally vomit on?
3) Does it sometimes feel like your feelings and needs don't matter?
4) Are you (or were you, growing up) the peacemaker in your family? Did your parents/siblings often fight and you had the job of the referee, smoothing things over?
5) Are you constantly disappointed by being let down by others, or by not being able to trust or rely on others?
6) Do you FEAR that if you told people how you really felt they would judge you or leave you?
7) Does it feel good to be relied upon? That is: do you derive self-worth/value in being the go-to?
8) Does it feel like very few people (or maybe none at all) really know you?
9) When someone is upset or angry, do you feel guilty-- even if you weren't the direct cause of their upset? Even if you had no involvement at all?
10) Do you find yourself obsessing about interactions with people long after the interaction is over?
11) Is it difficult to say no when someone makes demands on your time or energy?

(John Kim did an 8-minute video on this quiz-- we talked about it for an hour and 8 minutes... that's how we operate, guys.)

Let us know how YOU are finding ways to navigate your relationships during Covid isolation. How are you asking for what you need? How are you communicating differently? How have your relationship dynamics changed? 
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Nick and Suz go through 5 ways to set and hold boundaries in all of your relationships. 1) Being direct 2) Recognizing self-abandonment 3) Permission to change your mind 4) Self-care and making yourself a priority 5) Being ok if looks like a relationship is going to end

Nick and Suz dive into several types of personality tests, give their results, and discuss how these kinds of tests can help inform our identities and make us more conscious about how we think, behave, and interact with others. (*BuzzFeed quizzes not actually discussed.)
Actually Discussed:
Hogwart's House
Enneagram
High 5 Test 
Myers-Briggs

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