When the clutter, motherhood, relationships, and life seem too overwhelming. When you have resentment and frustration every day - this is a sign you have been living on auto-pilot- letting life happen to you instead of living it ON PURPOSE. I’ve been there. Three kids under 4 and I decided to declutter my home and realized I was living my whole life on autopilot. I wanted more.
I wanted to live a life of action and purpose. I wanted to parent with presence and peace. I wanted to enjoy my husband and kids, and myself.
This took me on a journey to simplify, slow down and SHOW UP for my life, on purpose!
Join me as I share my own journey, my life coaching tips, and my minimalist ideas to help you declutter your home, heart and life and start showing up for your life, for motherhood, for marriage, for YOU! with peace purpose and presence.
I’m Shawna, You might know me as your Nerdy Girlfriend and Life Coach. I am a trained transformation and life coach for moms, enneagram enthusiast, minimalist and author of the Life on Purpose Workbook.
I teach moms around the world the tools they need to set vision for the 9 areas of their lives, live in line with their personal values, and show up better for the life they want by shifting their mindsets.
Through decluttering the home, heart and life we can embrace simple living, be more conscious and positive parents, walk in faith, and live life ON PURPOSE.
I offer one on one coaching for moms and the Life on Purpose Academy for monthly lessons and coaching.
Find me at simpleonpurpose.ca
104. Dress like you are 30
How should a 30 something-year-old dress?
I have asked this question for some years as I decluttered my closet and focussed on creating a closet of clothes I love to wear. I don’t want it to be the latest trends, but the clothes I enjoy and feel like ‘me’.
I’m not a fashion blogger but when the memes went around this month making fun of millennial moms who wear skinny jeans and side parts I felt like I wanted to encourage other millennial moms to focus on building up a closet of clothes they LOVE to wear and not what Gen Z tells us is ‘in’ right now.
Millennial Mom vs Trendy Youth
What being a ‘trendy’ youth is all about. Playing with clothes to see what you like and learn more about yourself
What being a millennial mom is all about. Knowing more of who you are and making choices in line with that
How to declutter and create a closet of clothes you love
Declutter the items you don’t love to wear, torn, unused, etc.
Then start a pinboard of looks you love
Look for a theme in what you are pinning
Name your style (bring it to the Simple on Purpose Group if you want help with that)
Use this style as your guide for what you buy/bring into your closet
Don’t focus on trends, focus on what your style is and what you feel great in
Mentioned in this episode
The Instagram of me being a totally unfun anxious mom on a family walk
Bring your ideas and conversation to the Facebook group
FULL TRANSCRIPT OF THIS EPISODE
This is the podcast for anyone who wants to simplify their homes, feel overwhelmed by clutter? - their heart. Do you feel like you're just kind of angry and resentful all the time? And their life - Do you feel like you're busy, you're on the go, you're just reacting to things. This is a place where I want to help you simplify those things so that you can have the time and space and energy to show up well for the things that matter the most to you in your life.
So this past weekend, we've had a four day weekend as a family, it was a pro D day Valentine's Day family day here in BC, British Columbia. So I take I took four days off work It was so it was weird. But it also felt really good. And we just took our time playing games and puzzles, and going skating and going for walks. And maybe you caught my recent Instagram post about the walk that broke my brain, you can go check that out there. If you want to see just a lovely ball of anxiety that I can sometimes be with my family. And it was a great time. It was great overall, I mean, there's good parts and there's hard parts every single day. So we just keep going, we keep rolling with it.
Alright, so one thing I want to remind you guys of is to leave a review, leave a review in your podcast player, because the podcast player loves them gives us authority in the podcast player. And I really love to read them. I love it when I come across one and especially if I recognize the name, but I didn't recognize this name from Australia. HealwithmeAIP. I loved your thoughtful review. So thank you so much. I read it over breakfast and I told my husband this morning, someone called me quirky. And he's like, What? That's not weird. Like, hasn't that happened before? Like you are quirky and I was like, Oh, okay. And I kind of laughed as I reflected on it because I used to want to define my personal style as quirky French girl. So you totally call me out on this secret byline I'm tryin...
103. Habits of a debt-crushing family (with Bethany + Corey Adkins)
We all can think of some financial goals we want to meet (debt-repayment, emergency savings) and maybe we know what habits could get us there - but DOING it is the hard work. And I find it so helpful to hear what other people are doing and what it looks like in action in real life.
Today I'm sharing the rest of my conversation with Bethany and Corey from the Millenial Mission Podcast about what their debt-free journey has been and in this part, they are sharing a lot about the habits they have formed and mindsets that have supported them in persisting and making an impact.
Developing habits to pay off debt as a family
Three changes that have made a big impact on lowering the debt
Knowing what money is coming in and what is going out
The debt snowball (coined by Dave Ramsey)
The financial freedom a budget can bring you
Weekly budget check-ins and monthly budget reviews
Addressing the problem before it becomes a problem
Spouses supporting one another in budget accountability
What to do when you have a spouse who is not on the same page as you with the finances
How debt repayment has impacted their marriage and parenting
Not doing it perfectly
Trusting God with finances, especially during the pandemic
Making sacrifices as a family
When you aren’t able to pay off debt and not giving up
Surrendering your life and money to God
Being intentional and faithful with finances and how that shows up in the other areas of your life
Encouragement to just get started and get a system in place to know what you are doing with your money
Listen to the first part one: Starting the Debt-Free Journey
How to Own Your Finances So They Don't Own You
Download the free budget worksheet
Find Bethany and Corey on Instagram
Hey friends, it's Shawna, your nerdy girl and life coach from simple on purpose.ca. So welcome for those of you who are new to simple on purpose. This is a place that I just want to share tips and stories and encouragement for you to simplify your home, your heart and your life. And part of life is finances right, we would all like our finances to be simpler. And in the life on purpose workbook and the life on purpose roadmap, there's a section on finances, where you can set the goals and habits you want to have there. And I think all of us probably can think of the goals we want when it comes to our finances. We want debt repayment, we want emergency savings, we want retirement savings, and so on. And maybe some of us even have an idea on what habits will get us there. We know logically, we need to make a budget we need to cut expenses. But doing it putting it into action is a whole other situation. And I don't know about you, but when I am trying to create a new habit or make a change in my life, I find it so helpful to hear the experiences of other people. And that's why I wanted to interview Bethany and Corey from the millennial mission podcast. This is the second part of my conversation with Bethany and Corey. In the first episode, the first part of this interview,
102. Starting the Debt-Free Journey (With Bethany + Corey Adkins)
Wonder what it would be like to make a BIG CHANGE that starts your debt-free journey?
Today we are hearing from Bethany and Corey on their story of what that looked like in their life. When they decide to give up the 'good life' for the 'better life' and by better I mean hard and uncomfortable but moving towards financial freedom.
I love hearing real-life stories from real people who are making the hard decisions that allow them to TAKE CONTROL and start steering their life in a new direction - one that is in line with their values and the call they feel on their life.
Bethany and Corey share a lot about what it looked like to bring God into the decision to make a move and get serious about changing their lifestyle.
This episode is part one of two.
Bethany and Corey's story about staring their debt-free journey
How they were raised to view finances and debt
“Even though you know all the right things you can be very easily deceived”
“It was little things that added up”
How they handled the debt conversation between them
Decreasing the budget to account for leaving a job to become a stay at home mom
Using credits cards for regular spending versus paying in cash
Wanting to give your kids everything and buying them things
Making a big location move to support the debt-free journey
Feeling a calling on their lives to make the big move
When life seems to be good but you aren’t living fully inline with your faith
When life is uncomfortable but also very uncomfortable
Giving up your ‘good’ life as you know it for something ‘better’
Starting a new job in a new town and taking time to build it up
Acting like you don’t have any extra money and putting extra dollars towards debt
Myths we believe about finances that can get us into trouble
Playing the ‘credit card game’
The comparison game
“You have to find happiness in the pits. You have to find happiness in the crappy two-bedroom apartment and the junky car you have to try and start four times, if you can be happy there - you can be happy anywhere. But so often we get it backwards”
Keeping up with the Joneses
The cultural assumption ‘you deserve nice things’
Find the Adkins at the Millenial Mission Podcast and on Instagram @bethanyandcorey.
In the next episode, we talk about more practical budgeting tips, how debt repayment as impacted their family and that season of life where they weren’t making progress. So go check that out too.
Welcome to Episode 102. There's kind of this line you cross as a podcaster. Once you've done 100 episodes you like I, I powered to do, I held out, I did the thing. So it feels so great to be in the triple digits.
And it feels even better. When I hear from you guys hear the episodes you're liking you bring it into the Facebook community, and ask for more topics. So I just love this podcast. And I love the community and the conversation that it is creating. And like I said in the other episodes, we are doing bathroom rentals. So there is some drilling and hammering going on. Just bear with us.
All right, I'm also sharing something today that I don't do often. And that is interviews. Today I'm sharing two episodes, I've broken them up into two from my talk with the Atkins, Bethany and Corey Atkins, the having podcast called the millennial mission.
101. Finding the time, planning the day and stress responses (Life Coaching Q+A for moms who want to live on purpose)
Today I'm sharing some of a LIVE Q+A I did in FB community last month
A few times each month I ask for questions and sometimes on a certain topic, then I come on and answer them live
In this Q+A I am answering questions about putting your head in the sand, planning your day, finding the time when you feel like it is hard to find the time, and how much work it is to change your thoughts and behaviours.
I also mention the Life on Purpose Roadmap - which is the condensed and simple course that takes you from reactive and feeling stressed about your life, to setting a direction for the nine areas of your life and taking control of your time, energy and space.
Topics covered in this Q+A episode:
* Putting your head in the sand
* Knowing your stress responses
* What are you doing when you fight, flight or freeze
* Recognizing when you are in a stress response
* Planning your day, finding freedom in a plan
* Things that have helped me to plan over the years
* Setting plans with your spouse through a calendar meeting
* When you feel like there isn't enough time
* Making hard things even harder
* Choosing thoughts that empower you rather than demotivate you
* Our thoughts create our feelings and we are motivated by how we feel
* It takes a lot of energy to change behaviours and thoughts, here is why
Listen to the episode on decluttering What if I Need This One Day? items
Learn more about the Life on Purpose Roadmap course
Bring your own questions to the Simple on Purpose Community group
Welcome to the simple on purpose podcast. This is your place and your time mama to just slow down - let's just slow down. Let's simplify things. I want to help you simplify your home, your heart and your life. So that you can have more time, less distractions, more energy and space to show up for what's really important to you, what really matters to you, what is in line with who you want to be your personal values, and how you want to show up.
So before we jump in today, I want to remind you that I have this self-paced course you have been asking for over the years, the Life on Purpose Roadmap, this is the course you need if you want to get started with intentional living, and I mean, intentional living, like feeling like you have a purpose in your big whole life, but also acting that out on a daily level.
So this course guides you through knowing what you want in the nine areas of your life, setting out your personal values, planning your day, and relying on more than just willpower because willpower is a myth, guys. And I bust that myth in this course, and putting it all into action.
As with these podcasts and everything I do, I'm on the go like you guys - so I make it small and condensed, jam-packed. All of the lessons are about 20 minutes. And you can just stream the audio like a podcast. One of my students just emailed me the other day to let me know she listens in her car with her kids or at skating lessons, she brings in a workbook and she does a bit in there. And I just love it. Because finding these pockets of time to do the work can be possible. It can even be easy, I dare say.
So if you want more direction,
100. Type 9 Mom (the Peacemaker), Enneagram + Motherhood
We did it friends! I am proud of us! We finished the Enneagram and Motherhood series featuring moms from all over the continent sharing what it is like to parent through the lens of their Enneagram type.
Today we wrap up with the Type 9, which we all know they don't mind being left to the last ("it's fine, whatever works for you!") I say that because I am a Type 9 too.
But this is also my 100th podcast episode so it feels like a nice way to wrap up this endeavour I have been on to grow this podcast into a place that serves and empowers women to strip away the distractions and show up well for their lives.
And I think the Enneagram gives us tools to do this because it gives us awareness and language around how we show up in stress and growth - this is great information to help us redirect ourselves in times of stress - and to really pour into our strengths with mindfulness, truth and love.
In this episode, we hear from two moms sharing their Type 9 Mom experience. Thank you to Lindsey and Angelica for sharing!
The Type 9, we discuss:
* What motivates the type 9
* How they act when in a place of growth (integration)
* How they respond when stressed (disintegration)
* Their approach to dealing with things that don't go their way (harmonic group)
I also share about my own experience as a Type 9 mom. Ways I look for a connection with my kids, struggling to say YES when it means I'll be getting uncomfortable, reconciling with the anger I feel in motherhood and my desire to deny or rationalize away the negative emotions, and so on.
I mention an episode and post on When Did I Stop Enjoying My Kids? you can read that post here and you can listen to the podcast version of it Episode 16 When Did I Stop Enjoying My Kids
You can bring any of your questions to the Simple on Purpose Community Group
Drop me a line on Instagram to let me know you are listening!
And if you are interested in life coaching with me, book a free consult call here to learn about it and see if it is a fit for you.
I'm so excited to round out our episodes on the enneagram with the type nine and I know the tight nines hate waiting to be last. But also we're okay with it. Because we're a type nine, it's fine, it's okay. Being a type nine and always coming at the end of the list is like when your last name starts with a Zed, and you're always called on last in school. But here's my special little treat for you type nines. You're Episode 100, you're the 100th episode of the simple on purpose podcast. I know this is usually a celebratory episode for lots of podcasters. And maybe I'll do something for 101. But I'm just glad to make this one about my type the type nine and just make a space for us type nines. This is such a type nine thing to say.
So the type nine is also called the peacemaker, or the mediator, the type nine is motivated by the need to avoid conflict. So that's why they're called peacemakers because they want to avoid the opposite of what they feel as peace which wou...
99. Type 8 Mom (the Challenger), Enneagram + Motherhood
The Type 8 is also known as the Maverick - they are confident, assertive and make natural leaders.
Today I have three Type 8 moms sharing how their Enneagram type empowers them in their motherhood and how it shows up in stress.
To open up I share some details on the Type 8:
* What motivates them
* How they move towards The Helper in times of growth
* How they move towards The Observer in times of stress
* The two other sides to the type 8 (the wings)
* What the Gut Triad is, how the Type 8 shows up in line with their intuition/gut
Thank you to the moms who shared what their experience is as Type 8 moms - Stacie, Ellen and Melissa.
You can find Melissa at Live with Audacity
Join the Simple on Purpose Community to ask your questions around the enneagram and livng simple, on purpose.
If you can't click links in these show notes then head to www.simpleonpurpose.ca and click LISTEN, you can find all the show notes and episode transcripts there.
For those who are new welcome, I am Shawna, mom of three in small town Canada. I am a trained life coach, a certified transformational life coach, a certified bird nerd. And I wear that with a badge of honour even though my kids make fun of me. But I am proud to be the Lady Nerd that I am.
So simple on purpose is a place where I want to help you simplify your home, your heart, your life, to slow down and show up for the things that really matter the most to you the things that you want to place the highest value on in your life.
We've been covering a series on the enneagram, which is a self-discovery tool that looks at our inner motives. So lots of personality profiling will look at your outer behaviours and other qualities and other actions. But the enneagram takes us deeper, and it's looking at the things that are driving us. So we've been covering all of the types of the enneagram and hearing from mums, who are sharing a couple minutes on their experience of what it's like to be that type how their type empowers them, and how their type shows up under stress.
Today we're hearing from three type eight mums. The type eight is also called the challenger or the maverick I really like that name, the maverick, the type eight is motivated by the need to feel strong and in control. And they want to avoid the feeling of being weak or powerless.
You've heard me mentioned over these episodes about the wings, and we can take on qualities of the type right beside us. So the type A, it can take on the wing of the seven right beside at the adventure and be more spontaneous. It can also take on the wing of the peacemaker, the number nine right beside it and be more warm.
When the type eight is in a place of growth and health. They move towards the qualities of a type to the helper. So they shift their energy towards caring, they become more tender-hearted, which can really feel vulnerable and scary to a type eight. But it allows them to show up to support to connect with others from a place of generosity and respect.
When they are in a place of stress. They move towards the type five, the observer, things get overwhelming. They retreat, they strategize. They're collecting information and just trying to sort things out on how they can come back into the situation. If they stay in this place, they can probably become high strung and stop taking good care of themselves and their needs.
I've also been sharing harmonic groups, and this is categorizing each of the enneagram typ...
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