300 episodes

A lot of us live in our head, disconnected from our feelings and intuition. This podcast touches on releasing insecure attachment, accepting your authentic self and getting “unstuck” by connecting to how you FEEL instead of how you THINK. I’ve been there, and discuss sensitive subjects using my own experiences with a lot of laughs and even more empathy… because we’re all flawed humans.

Deal With It! Tracy Crossley

    • Education
    • 4.8, 199 Ratings

A lot of us live in our head, disconnected from our feelings and intuition. This podcast touches on releasing insecure attachment, accepting your authentic self and getting “unstuck” by connecting to how you FEEL instead of how you THINK. I’ve been there, and discuss sensitive subjects using my own experiences with a lot of laughs and even more empathy… because we’re all flawed humans.

    Journey Of Attachment: Why Can't You Allow He or She To Be Who They Are?

    Journey Of Attachment: Why Can't You Allow He or She To Be Who They Are?

    You feel like you need to "fix" other people. Do you spend a lot of your time and energy focused on the other people in your life? Maybe you rehearse what you need to say, so you get the reactions you want. You might even think there is an issue and plan out how you’ll react to them. Maybe you spend hours planning your actions, always trying to control the situation.

    Whether this happens behind a computer screen on social media or to your significant other, when you focus on fixing someone else's flaws, you're avoiding your own. Controlling someone else just helps you avoid what's going on inside.

    You can waste your life focused on someone else's or you can start to focus on your own and why you need others to be how you want them. In this episode, you'll learn how to take action for yourself, and focus on what you can do for YOU.

    Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt

    Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST.

    Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617

    • 29 min
    Should You Stay For the Kids or Should You Honor Your Feelings?

    Should You Stay For the Kids or Should You Honor Your Feelings?

    In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of choosing preferences vs. connection when dating, staying in an unhappy marriage for your kids, and introducing your partner to your family.

    Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt

    Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST.

    Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617

    • 30 min
    Journey Of Attachment: If He or She is Nice to You, Can You Handle It?

    Journey Of Attachment: If He or She is Nice to You, Can You Handle It?

    Recently, by looking at myself and where I used to be, I've had a big realization: I've come so far in my journey of attachment. I listen to others who are trying to salvage relationships with people who it is “square peg/round hole” situations and the pain, the suffering and hope that this could somehow turn into something which feels good is a motivator. The big issue is that you aren’t being nice to yourself and I guarantee you may not feel your date or mate is being nice to you either.

    In my relationship, my husband cares about my feelings, and he does nice things for me all the time. At an earlier point in my life, I would've been waiting for the big reveal, for the moment he realizes that I'm worthless. Meanwhile, I would've done everything that I could to prove I was worthy of someone being good to me. All that work, all the time left me always feeling like I just had to do more; it was a constant push/pull. I've learned how to break my own patterns of self-sabotage and receive love and attention. As I have grown, I care about my own feelings, I care what I give and what I receive; I am all about feeling good and having that reflected by handling someone being nice to me.

    In today's episode, you'll learn how to love and accept yourself, so you can finally be ready for a happy, healthy relationship.

    Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt

    Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST.

    Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617

    • 20 min
    When Should You Not Be Vulnerable?

    When Should You Not Be Vulnerable?

    In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of letting go of relationships, believing someone will change because of you, and when you should not be vulnerable.

    Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: https://bit.ly/2WRdKBt

    Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST.

    Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617

    • 21 min
    Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Lisa A. Romano

    Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Lisa A. Romano

    Lisa had to make the difficult decision of ending her marriage when she realized she was conditioning her kids to be dysfunctional just as her parents had programmed her. It killed her inside to see the effect of what she was doing in her children. Her therapist told her it would take everything she had to change it, but she knew she had to do it. After an ugly divorce, her personal trainer clients started to express their interest in her coaching them. She built her website and started writing about what she had learned and people responded! She eventually wrote her book ''The Road Back to Me'" and it became an Amazon bestseller. After that, the flood gates opened, she wrote more books and became a certified life coach. She now helps people to get out of the patterns they run and stop begin codependent.

    Here's what we talked about:
    -How Lisa found out she wasn't crazy but codependent
    -Getting into the wrong relationships because the new potential partner looks good on paper
    -People-pleasing as a result of feeling unworthy
    -Self-care being deemed as selfish by the people in your life
    -A marriage not surviving if both people don't grow together
    -Going from victimhood to empowerment
    -Codependency and the patterns we run over and over again
    -Understanding where you come from is the only way to change where you're going
    -Attachment vs. codependency

    Here's more about Lisa:
    Lisa A. Romano is a Certified Life Coach, bestselling author, and YouTube Vlogger specializing in codependency and narcissistic abuse recovery. Lisa is also one of the most listened to meditation teachers on Insight Timer and her podcast, Breakdown to Breakthrough ranks in the top 100 of the mental health category.

    Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST.

    Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617

    • 1 hr
    Journey Of Attachment: My Life is a Mess. No, It's Not.

    Journey Of Attachment: My Life is a Mess. No, It's Not.

    Your life isn't a fairytale, who’s is? For some of us we have this sneaky little habit. It’s called looking for problems, all the time and you probably don’t even know it! Perhaps, you're someone who looks for problems as a distraction. If you were to look at your life objectively, do you really have any major problems? I get it if you do, absolutely! Sometimes things happen that are to be dealt with and you have no choice. But I am talking about where you do have a choice, where if you were to focus on the good in your life you would realize there is not a real problem. And that is where you want to have awareness, the awareness of how you create problems with impossible solutions to keep you from looking inside and figuring out what's really going on.

    With everything happening in the world right now that's out of your control, you might be feeling like a victim of circumstances. You might wake up every day afraid and anxious, watching the news, social media, anything that can feed right into how you feel these reactive feelings. Often though there is no looking beneath the reactions you feel, instead it’s an avoidance of what is really going on inside. It is how you avoid what triggers you or why you feel out of control on the inside, so it just keeps you in a cycle of repetition. Looking at the same reactions every day and calling that the problem rather than digging deeper to see what is really going on!

    In today's podcast, I'll show you that your life isn't really a mess, but a distraction. You'll learn to grow up and live your life without fear weighing you down.

    Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST.

    Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617

    • 27 min

Customer Reviews

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199 Ratings

199 Ratings

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Wow

Just found this & wow!! It’s helping me understand so much about my anxious-avoidant attachment style. THANK YOU!

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I feel understood

I’ve only listened to one episode so far (about dealing with avoidant attachment) and I feel so heard. It feels like I’m not suffering from this emotional hardship alone, and that I have some answers. Thank you!

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As someone who truly thought that I was being punished by the universe and destined to be alone, this podcast really shined the light on the things that I need to heal internally in order to move forward. I love that these podcasts don’t tell you what to do or teach you manipulative strategies but really help you understand the value in trusting yourself and learning how to make the best decision for you.

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