150 episodes

Hello everyone! Welcome to the Simply Resilient Podcast. My name is Jessie Ellertson and this is life coaching from a military wife who is in the trenches of life with each of you. This is a podcast for military wives who know how to handle the challenges of deployments and frequent trainings, but want to stop feeling mentally miserable in the process. You know what to do and you’re doing it, all while holding down the fort at home, but you are weary from living in survival mode and battling with your brain. You are ready to thrive and you are in the right place!

Simply Resilient - A Podcast For Military Wives Jessie Ellertson

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Hello everyone! Welcome to the Simply Resilient Podcast. My name is Jessie Ellertson and this is life coaching from a military wife who is in the trenches of life with each of you. This is a podcast for military wives who know how to handle the challenges of deployments and frequent trainings, but want to stop feeling mentally miserable in the process. You know what to do and you’re doing it, all while holding down the fort at home, but you are weary from living in survival mode and battling with your brain. You are ready to thrive and you are in the right place!

    Episode 104 - Reintegration

    Episode 104 - Reintegration

    In this episode we are talking about reintegration. The key is to focus on managing your mind and your emotions and giving your partner the space to work through their feelings without adding a lot of extra hurt/drama/pressure/stress by making the way they are behaving mean something about you. You are both going through this reintegration transition and it isn't easy, but when we give our partner the benefit of the doubt and focus on ourselves/our mental health/ our behavior rather than what you think they need to be doing so that you can feel better it goes so much better. There are so many excellent resources available on reintegration and I recommend you seek those out as well. My main message is this is a time that we get easily offended and hurt because we're so excited they are home and whether we want to or not we have expectations that are often not met.

    The visual I use is whenever you catch your finger pointing out at your partner (he isn't doing this, he won't stop doing this, I cant believe he blank, why won't he blank) then you know you are SUPER focused on him and ignoring you. The truth is that you both need to work through this. So if you're struggling during deployment then some of the problem is with you and some of the problem is with him which means that some of the solution is with you and some of the solution is with him. But if your finger is pointed at him and you are focused on him and his behavior and you are feeling hurt and resentful, then you are trapped in thinking the whole problem is with him and the whole solution is with him. The problem with that is it is not true and it makes us feel very out of control because we can't control him and make him change his behavior and "fix" the problems. I ask my clients to turn the finger around and focus on themselves and what is in their control. What you both need is time and love and space and grace to work through it in whatever ways you do that and that comes from focusing on the parts in your control which is you. Enjoy!

    • 26 min
    Summer How To Series - How To Stop Feeling So Heavy

    Summer How To Series - How To Stop Feeling So Heavy

    This summer I will be publishing my Summer How To Series which will be a series of mini-episodes addressing some topics that I know are on your mind and my client's minds. These shorter episodes will give you some quick, actionable, and deep tips and insights into things you are are struggling with or working on so that you can start making changes today!

    In this episode we are addressing the times in our lives when we are feeling heavy, weighed down, and drained. It's interesting to note that whatever we currently believe is making us feel so heavy (for example the responsibilities of motherhood) doesn't always make us feel heavy, it just is right now. This shows us that the thing isn't making us feel heavy, we are making us feel heavy. This is surprisingly great news because if we are the problem then we are the solution to the problem. Tune in to find out specific ways we drain ourselves and how to stop doing it. Enjoy!

    • 7 min
    Summer How To Series - How To Ask For Help

    Summer How To Series - How To Ask For Help

    This summer I will be publishing my Summer How To Series which will be a series of mini-episodes addressing some topics that I know are on your mind and my client's minds. These shorter episodes will give you some quick, actionable, and deep tips and insights into things you are are struggling with or working on so that you can start making changes today!

    In this episode we are talking about the super important topic of asking for help. This is a critical element of successful deployments where we are able to thrive instead of merely survive. For many reasons, asking for help can be so challenging. And yet, when we are solo parenting for an extended amount of time, like during a deployment, help is what we need. In this episode we discuss why it's hard to ask and some very specific things you can start doing today to have more success when it comes to asking for help and support. Enjoy!

    • 10 min
    Summer How To Series - How To Decrease Drama

    Summer How To Series - How To Decrease Drama

    This summer I will be publishing my Summer How To Series which will be a series of mini-episodes addressing some topics that I know are on your mind and my client's minds. These shorter episodes will give you some quick, actionable, and deep tips and insights into things you are are struggling with or working on so that you can start making changes today!

    In this episode we are talking about drama, how we create it, how we can decrease it, and how we will benefit in our lives when we do. I give you very specific ways that we create and exactly what you can start doing today to decrease the amount of drama that we are creating in our lives. I don't believe that we are meant to live a drama free life, we are humans and so are all of the people around us. Because of this, there will always be drama and that's ok. However, when we have extra and unnecessary amounts of drama in our lives it can really affect our relationships and our lives. Enjoy!

    • 9 min
    Summer How To Series - How To Be Ok Being Alone

    Summer How To Series - How To Be Ok Being Alone

    This summer I will be publishing my Summer How To Series which will be a series of mini-episodes addressing some topics that I know are on your mind and my client's minds. These shorter episodes will give you some quick, actionable, and deep tips and insights into things you are are struggling with or working on so that you can start making changes today!

    In this episode we are talking about the difference between being physically alone and feeling lonely. Sometimes, these two things go hand in hand, sometimes they do not. Sometimes we enjoy being alone, sometimes we do not. If you have to spend more time alone than you would like (and in the military that is the case), then you will want to listen to this episode. Enjoy!

    • 7 min
    Summer How To Series - How To Stop Comparing

    Summer How To Series - How To Stop Comparing

    This summer I will be publishing my Summer How To Series which will be a series of mini-episodes addressing some topics that I know are on your mind and my client's minds. These shorter episodes will give you some quick, actionable, and deep tips and insights into things you are are struggling with or working on so that you can start making changes today!

    In this episode we are talking about that ever enticing comparison trap. There are actually many ways we fall into this trap and once you understand what they are and why you're doing it, then you're in a perfect position to decrease the amount of time you spend suffering from this problem. Enjoy!

    • 12 min

Customer Reviews

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49 Ratings

49 Ratings

Je tool ,

Great support for anyone - not just military wives!

I listen to podcasts while commuting by bike and subway and love it when one of Jessie’s podcasts comes up in my feed! I find that her perspective is helpful for me as a busy father of four, and gives me an important opportunity to check in with myself and my thought processes. I have recommended it to my teenage daughters, as I think her discussions about positive self image are SO important for all young women to hear. Thanks for keeping so much great content coming!!

Just Me abc123 ,

Excited to learn more

I just started listening to these podcasts, and I’m excited to learn more. I look forward to working on shifting my mindset. Thank you!

Sky-Fin ,

Amazing for military and civilian peeps alike!

This podcast is amazing! I started listening to it when my partner was first deployed, but quickly realized that the tools that Jessie teaches could be applied in all aspects of my life. After avidly listening to every podcast episodes, I ended up scheduling some one on one coaching sessions with Jessie and I’m so glad I did! Jessie is an amazing coach, and a beautiful person all around. It’s been an amazing journey and I’m so glad I found Jessie to be a part of it and help me thrive even in challenging situations (military related or not). Thanks so much Jessie!!