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Give your relationships a boost in 5 minutes or less with Small Things Often from The Gottman Institute. We provide simple, proven, quick tips to help you deepen and enhance your relationships!

Small Things Often The Gottman Institute

    • Society & Culture
    • 4.8 • 658 Ratings

Give your relationships a boost in 5 minutes or less with Small Things Often from The Gottman Institute. We provide simple, proven, quick tips to help you deepen and enhance your relationships!

    How to Hit the Reset Button

    How to Hit the Reset Button

    A fresh start can get you and your partner on the right track! On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to hit the reset button and make positive changes in your relationship.

    • 4 min
    Do You Have Time for a Date?

    Do You Have Time for a Date?

    Date nights are a wonderful and important way to connect with your partner and strengthen your relationship. Think you’re too busy for one? On this episode of Small Things Often, we give you options that can fit into any schedule.

    • 4 min
    Building Your Relationship with Humor

    Building Your Relationship with Humor

    Laughter is a powerful force so use it to build your relationship! Learn how to be mindful and explore humor theories on this episode of Small Things Often.

    • 4 min
    How to be Lovers and Friends

    How to be Lovers and Friends

    Don’t let your friendship with your partner sizzle! On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how being a lover and a friend can strengthen your relationship.

    • 4 min
    Why Does My Partner Hate Me?

    Why Does My Partner Hate Me?

    Does your partner react with negativity whenever you try to have a normal conversation? If so, they may be stuck in “negative sentiment override.” On this episode of Small Things Often, find out what may have caused it — and steps to take in order to break the pattern.

    • 5 min
    Letting Your Partner Make Mistakes

    Letting Your Partner Make Mistakes

    What do you do when a small decision made by your partner turns out to be a mistake? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn the best way of being supportive — even when you disagreed with their decision in the first place.

    • 4 min

Customer Reviews

4.8 out of 5
658 Ratings

658 Ratings

GA Beth ,

Great advice but they need a new narrator

Love love love all these tips for couples. Very practical and helpful. It’s hard for me to listen routinely because the narrator has a voice and tone that is very difficult to listen to. Please get a new narrator. Thanks!

4laurel ,

Narrators voice is like a sappy commercial!

Please get a new, real, authentic narrator voice! Great tips!

Rebommedal ,

Not great

I like reading the Gottman’s research, and I was looking for relationship podcasts my husband and I could listen to— so we gave this one a try.

After listening for probably a month, I’m not very impressed. It sounds to me like the podcast is taking corollary data from research and assuming a causal relationship. Then it’s going a step further and turning that data into prescriptive advice. It’s basically the equivalent of finding in research that healthy people tend to be thin, then assuming that they are healthy BECAUSE they are thin (wrong), and then telling people “If you want to be healthy, be thin!” Wrong wrong wrong. People already get the message all the time that they should be thin, just telling them to “be thin” #1 doesn’t help at all, because if they knew how they already would and #2 the data doesn’t indicate than thinness causes health.

Sorry for all the jargony language but that’s what I feel is happening. The last episode I listened to literally suggested that you should say “we” instead of “I” or “me” when talking about things because that will make your relationship happier….. what??? That does not sound right. It sounds like they found in the research that happy couples tend to do that…. But that doesn’t mean it leads to happiness. And I can think of a few good reasons to maintain your “I” and “me” in life. There have been a lot of pieces of “advice” like that, but I wanted to listen for a while to give it a chance. Chances are up.

TL;DR: I don’t think this podcast has good advice. I will be looking for a different one.

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