Spotlight your TRUE self Michaela Kettner

Yes, sometimes we are envious of someone, because he/she has something that we do not have. We have grown up hearing that it is bad to be envious and jealous. So, whenever we feel envy and jealousy, we push this feeling aside, or even judge ourselves for it.

What makes you envious? Seeing other people who have


A happy relationship? A family? Kids?
A good job? A higher position? A higher salary?
Material things like a bigger house, a car or jewellery?
A different lifestyle?

What I want you to understand: Being envious of anything of the above (or something else) is nothing bad! Instead, it is a very important indicator, what your real desires in life are!

I am sharing with you also my personal insights what my own envy told me about becoming a mother, focusing on my career and doing public speaking.

What is it that makes you envy? Use it to define the right targets for you! Whatever you are lacking now – remember that you just done have it YET!

If you need guidance to define your targets in the right way, check out the episode that I made about reaching the own goals: #36 – Define, feel and reach your goals



I am happy to support you that you can have a successful and fulfilling career by being able to show your true, authentic self! Therefore, this podcast is based on three pillars:


Self-confidence & self-esteem
Managing your emotions
Concrete communication techniques based on NLP

And in each episode, you will hear about one of them. – Subscribe to not miss any important points!

If you don’t want to miss the coming episodes – then following me on LinkedIn (Michaela Kettner) or Instagram (@michaela.kettner.fi).



Keywords: Successful career, fulfilling career, successful in my job, self-confidence, envy, jealousy, envious, jealous, why am I envious, stop being envious, other people have more, other people are better, trigger, negative feelings, negative emotions

What is a trigger? What is triggering you emotionally – something that somebody says or does that makes you angry, aggressive, sad or even panicking? At your workplace, in your family, in your network of friends or even just by walking around in the city?

What can you do when you recognize that you got triggered and you are close to overreact or have done already?

First: be proud of yourself that you are already reflecting your own behaviour in such a way! How many people get triggered and just let out their aggressiveness without questioning it?!

Here are the 5 steps that I explain in detail in this episode how you can handle it when you get triggered:


Recognize your emotions and thoughts
Ask yourself: Why are you reacting like this? Does this remind you of something?
Zoom out! How would a neutral person assess this situation?
Conclude: Is it a personal trigger or something you really have to set boundaries against it?
Decide on your next action: Do you want to talk to a neutral person about it or even give the person, who has triggered you, a feedback?

I am happy to support you that you can have a successful and fulfilling career by being able to show your true, authentic self! Therefore, this podcast is based on three pillars:

• Self-confidence & self-esteem

• Managing your emotions

• Concrete communication techniques based on NLP

And in each episode, you will hear about one of them. – Subscribe to not miss any important points!

If you don’t want to miss the coming episodes – then following me on LinkedIn (Michaela Kettner) or Instagram (@michaela.kettner.fi).



Keywords: Successful career, fulfilling career, successful in my job, self-confidence, emotional trigger, emotional wound, emotional injuries, healing from the past, awareness, reflecting the own behaviour, self-reflection, resolve trigger, give feedback, toxic workplace, toxic working environment

Are you desperately looking for a job? You write applications, you reach out to companies, you network and try to get in contact with recruiters and hiring managers – without success?

I am now a hiring manager myself, and I have observed that many people make at least one out of these three mistakes:


They are downgrading their own competences
They are not able to keep their energy up in the right moment
They are not empathetic enough when handing in their application

From the perspective of a hiring manager, these three mistakes would DISTRACT me from a candidate applying to the position that I have open, no matter how good the CV or cover letter looks like!

I am therefore sharing with you in this episode, what you should do to avoid making these mistakes.



I would be happy to support you that you can have a successful and fulfilling career by being able to show your true, authentic self! Therefore, this podcast is based on three pillars:

• Self-confidence & self-esteem

• Managing your emotions

• Concrete communication techniques based on NLP

And in each episode, you will hear about one of them. – Subscribe to not miss any important points!

If you don’t want to miss the coming episodes – then following me on LinkedIn (Michaela Kettner) or Instagram (@michaela.kettner.fi).



Keywords: Successful career, fulfilling career, successful in my job, self-confidence, job search, job application, CV, cover letter, network, job interview, show my skills and capabilities, convince recruiter, give 100%, do your best

What if you do something stupid in front of others? What if that happens while you are on a stage – in the full spotlight?

Do you have this limiting belief as well “Don’t do anything stupid – what should the others think?!” In this episode you will realize: We all have that.

This episode is the second part of the interview with Lauri Lehmusvirta, my fellow member in the Toastmasters club ‘Stadi Talkers’, where we regularly practice speaking and leadership skills.

Lauri is active in public speaking since 2016 and has been a member of Toastmasters clubs in Japan, Hong Kong and Helsinki.

You learn from him:


How you overcome the fear to do something stupid in front of others
How a successful career in Toastmasters International can look like
How difficult it is to create humour
How you prepare a professional key note speech
What do you do if you have a complete black-out

Lauri is a coach for public speaking and is currently offering a course to become a professional key note speakers that comes together with a 6-weeks 1:1 coaching with a lot of analysis and feedback for the speeches that his coachees are developing. Do you have a concrete goal for your next speech or presentation? – Contact Lauri on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/laurilehmusvirta/





The podcast ‘Spotlight your TRUE self’ is based on three pillars:

• Self-confidence & self-esteem

• Managing your emotions

• Concrete communication techniques based on NLP

And in each episode, you will hear about one of them.

If you don’t want to miss the coming episodes – then following me on LinkedIn (Michaela Kettner) or Instagram (@michaela.kettner.fi).



Keywords: Self-confidence, public speaking, anxiety, fear to speak in public, limiting beliefs, confidence, courage to go on stage, deal with a black-out, stage freeze, stand-up comedy, pauses in a speech, key-note speech, speech preparation, speech structure, audience, intention, key message

Public speaking – does that sound scary to you or like something you always wanted to try out? Going in front of an audience and give a speech or presentation?
Have you ever heard about the Toastmasters International organization?
Toastmasters International is an organization for public speaking and leadership. Thousands of Toastmasters club exist world-wide where people gather together regularly to practice giving speeches, moderating, evaluating and improvisation.
I am myself a member of the English-speaking Toastmasters club ‘Stadi Talkers’ in Helsinki and have interviewed my fellow club member Lauri Lehmusvirta, who has already over 7 years of experience in public speaking. Lauri is also a member of JCI and coaches people in having a debate and giving presentations.
In this first part of the interview you will learn

How it shapes your personality to try out different profession
What mental challenges are normal when you go on a stage the first time
How to easily bring humour into your speech

In the second part of the interview (episode #66) you will then hear more about how to fight limiting beliefs when being on a stage and what you can do yourself to become better in speaking in front of others.

The podcast ‘Spotlight your TRUE self’ is based on three pillars:

Self-confidence & self-esteem
Managing your emotions
Concrete communication techniques based on NLP

And in each episode, you will hear about one of them.
If you don’t want to miss the coming episodes – then following me on LinkedIn (Michaela Kettner) or Instagram (@michaela.kettner.fi).


Keywords: Self-confidence, public speaking, anxiety, fear to speak in public, limiting beliefs, confidence, courage to go on stage

How to prepare for presenting yourself in a job interview?
In a meeting at work how to avoid ‘death by PowerPoint’?
And what are common struggles of CEOs and leaders when communicating with their employees?
Listen to the second part of the inspiring interview with Jacqueline Farrington! She is a TEDx Senior Speaker coach and nowadays also coach for CEOs and senior leaders for big clients such as Amazon and Microsoft to train them in a better authentic communication.
She says, giving a presentation is a performance! It requires 100% commitment and mental engagement from you to serve your audience. And she brings in this beautiful message of “Aim to being helpful instead of being good” - that will make a big difference for your presentation and will also boost your self-confidence!
Very recently, Jacqueline has published her book “The non-obvious guide to better presentations – How to present like a pro: virtually or in person” (https://www.nonobviousguides.com/betterpresentations/). And you can find more information about Jacqueline and her great work on her website https://farringtonpartners.com/ or on her LinkedIn profile!

The podcast ‘Spotlight your TRUE self’ is based on three pillars:
• Self-confidence & self-esteem
• Managing your emotions
• Concrete communication techniques based on NLP
And in each episode, you will hear about one of them.
If you don’t want to miss the coming episodes – then following me on LinkedIn (Michaela Kettner) or Instagram (@michaela.kettner.fi).