21 episodes

Ever feel like you don't fit? Like you can't be real? In other words, you have to fake it because you're not accepted as your true self. Yeah, that seems about right. And ridiculous.Every day people from every background—not just you—put on masks to make it through life. Talk about exhausting. But we keep doing it because no one wants to talk about the insanity of it even though it keeps us from being our best.Well, that's about to change.Welcome to Square Peg Round Hole with ​Timothy Eldred, writer, speaker, and friendly disrupter of the status quo on a mission to end aloneness and help people live and lead with authenticity in an artificial world.

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Ever feel like you don't fit? Like you can't be real? In other words, you have to fake it because you're not accepted as your true self. Yeah, that seems about right. And ridiculous.Every day people from every background—not just you—put on masks to make it through life. Talk about exhausting. But we keep doing it because no one wants to talk about the insanity of it even though it keeps us from being our best.Well, that's about to change.Welcome to Square Peg Round Hole with ​Timothy Eldred, writer, speaker, and friendly disrupter of the status quo on a mission to end aloneness and help people live and lead with authenticity in an artificial world.

    Ep.20 | Shut Up and Relax

    Ep.20 | Shut Up and Relax

    Does that title sound a bit harsh? Well, it is certainly abrupt. Why? Because sometimes there's no sugarcoating the truth. And the truth can hurt. But there are times we need someone to speak boldly and get our attention. That's what I hope to do for us in this episode. 

    My goal is to both challenge and encourage us all to remember the power we possess—the power of choice. We can choose what we listen to. And who we listen to. We have control over our minds and our mouths. So instead of getting all wound up with all the news and noise of the world and believing the worst about ourselves and others, perhaps it's time to learn to wind down. Especially in light of the growing anxiety people are experiencing today.

    So shut up and relax isn't just a title. It's a prescription to reclaim your life.

    • 21 min
    Ep.19 | Too Much Thinking

    Ep.19 | Too Much Thinking

    We overthink.

    And the thoughts bouncing around in our brains shape our world and become our reality. We also take life too seriously. Is it any wonder we are so emotionally stressed and uptight? 

    What would happen if we chose to relax, care less, and see life as a beautiful gift? Because it is precisely that, my friends. That truth is available for everyone to experience every single day.

    You don't have to take everything so serious or let others' thoughts dictate your days which means you don’t have to:
    Pretend to agree with everyoneTake responsibility for how others feelApologize oftenAlways say yesFeel uncomfortable if someone disapproves of youAct like the people around youNeed praise to feel goodGo to great lengths to avoid conflictSuccumb to the pressure of fitting inBelieve you are less than othersTolerate toxic peopleThe choice to abandon these behaviors is 100% yours. No one else controls you. But only you can lighten up and stop overthinking. With that list in mind, here are a couple of questions:
    Who is the person I am being in my life and showing the world? And how much of that person is the truth of who I am?How am I using my public persona to hide my authentic self, and why do I feel the need to hide it?Do I feel a disconnection between the person I pretend to be in the world and the person I connect with more deeply inside myself?What would it look like for me to take off the mask and live more authentically?I'm excited for you to listen today and find some long-needed freedom on your path to living with authenticity in an artificial world.

    • 26 min
    Ep.18 | Take One Small Step

    Ep.18 | Take One Small Step

    Most of the time, many people who are trying to make significant and lasting changes in their life do one major thing wrong—they go too far too fast. It's like quitting a habit cold turkey. You are either going to fail now or relapse later because you bit off more than you can chew.

    Well, breaking free from the acceptance of others is even harder because of the emotional addictions we suffer from in life that keep us hooked on the praise and applause of people. And while we are busy living for the approval of others, we're dying a little bit inside.

    The more and more we sacrifice our identity to gain acceptance, the less and less of us is left. So how do you move ahead as your authentic self in a world that requires you to be someone you're not? Slowly. One step at a time is the recipe for finally being free to be you. Or just be.

    • 21 min
    Ep.17 | Don’t Put on Your Face

    Ep.17 | Don’t Put on Your Face

    Have you heard the phrase (or used the phrase) I need to put on my face? It’s an idiom about putting on makeup; however, the concept can be applied in much broader terms. Because we all put on a “face” of sorts. Our face (or public persona) is the outward identity we reveal to others which may or may not portray the true, authentic you. 

    In this episode, I talk about the idea of not only taking off your mask but actually choosing to not even put on your face in the first place. What would happen in the world if we followed this challenge? What if we let other people see our blemishes and brokenness? Would we be better as a society? Would we be healthier as the human race?

    If you’ve listened in the past, you already know my answer to those facetious questions. If you’re new to Square Peg Round Hole, welcome. You’re about to know my answer, too. But regardless of how long you’ve been listening, I believe you will be brave enough to break some rules to become your true, authentic self in this artificial world. Cheers!

    • 25 min
    Ep.16 | It's Not My Fault, Dammit.

    Ep.16 | It's Not My Fault, Dammit.

    Have you noticed that it's nobody's fault anymore? No one is responsible. For anything. Personal responsibility is becoming ancient history. It's no longer a virtue we value.

    Everyone wants to fight for their rights. But few want to be held accountable for their behavior. For their personal choices. Does life actually work that way? Has it ever? 

    I'm wading into that idea today with a point of view that the lack of personal responsibility is the greatest threat facing humanity. Not terrorism. No pandemics. Not climate change.

    And yes. I'll take responsibility for my words. 😂

    SHOW LINKS:
    Hope Partners InternationalThe Prime Belief | Article by Mark MansonThe Subtle Art of Not Giving a F@$kComments? Questions? I'd love to hear from you.
    Contact Timothy Eldred

    • 24 min
    Ep.15 | Love: Feeling, Choice, Both, Other?

    Ep.15 | Love: Feeling, Choice, Both, Other?

    What is love anyway? Has it been so exploited or so poorly explained that we really have no idea anymore? Maybe our ideas about love are the very reason we don't understand it in a healthy way. Or perhaps it's only my perspective on the whole subject that is wrong. Who knows? But either way, that's my focus on this episode for your consideration. My goal is to be encouraging, but I'm fine with challenging our thinking on the topic as well because there's obviously room for improvement in our world where love seems to be misconstrued—or just missing.

    SHOW LINKS:
    Hope Partners InternationalThe CompleMentor

    • 22 min

Customer Reviews

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26 Ratings

26 Ratings

Kelli12913 ,

You won’t be sorry for listening

I have listened to every episode, I couldn’t just stop at one. I had to finish all of them. That should tell you how good Square Peg Round Hole is. Tim keeps your attention, makes you think, makes you rewind and listen again. His guests are wonderful too! I like how he ties everything together in each episode. I was so surprised that many episodes pertained to me, I found myself saying, “yes, that’s me!” I think everyone should listen because there is going to be at least 1 episodes that hits your heart real hard. I HIGHLY recommend this podcast. You will not be sorry.

Blyn ❄️⭐️ ,

Taking off the Mask

Tim really knows how to get you thinking. This podcast has been such a great conversation starter and thinking point to remind myself that no matter what I’m going through, I’m not alone. We are here on this earth and get the opportunity to do life with so many different people. It’s helpful to be reminded that we are all human and all have baggage and that’s not something to be ashamed of but rather to share with those around you and support the people around you as well!

BlueJay2K ,

🎧+❤️‍🩹

I found this to be a very profound episode. Stop treating the symptoms. Start understanding the causation. The root of it. Means we have to go deep. And face what we don’t want to face. Means we have to put down the armor. Words make worlds. Never bend yourself to fit other people’s deceptions and dilutions of the human potential in each of us. No more lemmings. No more giving up your power and your light. ❤️‍🩹💪🏻🙏🏻 Listen on. Headphones + healing 🎧 + ❤️‍🩹