The Evolved Caveman w/ Dr. John Schinnerer Dr. John Schinnerer -The Evolved Caveman

What's the best way to strengthen your connection in your romantic relationship and navigate through the complexities of your deepest core emotional wounds?Join me, Dr. John, and my partner Joree Rose as we dive into the essential understanding of core wounds in relationships, shedding light on how these deep-seated emotional injuries can impact our interactions and connections with our partners. One of Joree’s favorite questions in couples therapy is “What is your partner’s deepest core wound?” More than half of people don’t even know their own core wound. But how can we expect to master the complexities of romance if we aren’t the expert on ourself and our partner? We explore the significance of self-awareness, the power of navigating triggers with compassion. We provide a beginning list of some of the deepest wounds we’ve seen in both the anxious and the avoidant attachment styles. We discuss the role of curiosity and compassion as fundamental tools for healing and understanding. We offer insights into effective communication and the importance of honoring each other's triggers to foster a nurturing, supportive bond.By the end of this podcast, you'll gain a deeper understanding of yourself and your partner, what your core wounds are, how to work with them gently, thus empowering both of you to create a more resilient and loving connection. Whether you're looking to heal old wounds or build a stronger foundation in your current relationship, these insights are invaluable. Join us as we explore the path to a healthier, happier partnership.If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnerer

Love Isn’t Enough: Is Intensive Couples Therapy Right For You?Dr. John Schinnerer & Joree Rose, LMFTJoin Joree and I in an in-depth conversation about our experience in intensive couples therapy (i.e., 2 six-hour days of therapy with Charlie & Linda Bloom!). We also go into our belief that intensives are a much more effective means to create positive, lasting change than the traditional 1 hour, once-a-week sessions.If you are someone that:recognizes the distressing accumulation of hurts, annoyances & frustrations in your relationship, has found traditional couples therapy to be less than effective, or has never even considered couples therapy but desire a loving, supportive, thriving relationship,…then this episode is for you. Questions addressed in this one:After significant relationship issues arise, how long do people typically wait before trying couples counseling?What are some of the differences between traditional one-hour-a-week couples therapy vs. intensive couples therapy?How to be clear on what is your individual work and what is your relational work?How do we get men more comfortable with entering into couples counseling?How can we make therapy more effective for men?What is the role of curiosity and nonjudgmentalness in effective arguing?How can effective couples therapy lead to the secure attachment you’ve always wanted?All this and more, in this episode of The Evolved Caveman podcast!Please like, rate, review and share if you find this show meaningful to you! I’m trying to counterbalance a couple of bad reviews by my ex-wife! 

One of the biggest sources of human suffering comes from our tendency to avoid uncomfortable emotions. We are not taught how to face these unpleasant, somewhat frequent experiences. Our first (and sometimes only) strategy is to suppress them, ignore them, or become overwhelmed by them. Yet how we meet and greet these difficult emotions with curiosity has everything to do with our well-being, resilience, and ability to connect with ourselves and others. Instinctually, we fight against our uncomfortable emotions. In doing so, we reinforce messages of “not good enough” or “I’m not supposed to feel this way.”In this  poignant & actionable conversation with Dr. Beth Kurland, the author of You Don't Have to Change to Change Everything, we learn that, instead of forcing ourselves to feel “happy” and burying what is unpleasant, or instead of getting hooked by intense emotions, we can change our perspective. Dr. Beth offers six vantage points to shift to when difficult emotions arise. They include: ·      The Anchor View: Finding Stable Ground ·      The Child View: Curiosity Is Your Superpower ·      The Audience View: Learn to Zoom Out·      The Compassionate Parent View: How to Become Your Own Ally ·      The Mirror View: Your Strengths and Imperfections Are Welcome Here·      The Ocean View: We’re All in This Together Being aware from each of these six vantage points allows us to cultivate inner stability, greater awareness of our internal strengths and inner resources, interconnection with the world around us and, perhaps most importantly, self-compassion. In this way, Dr. Beth provides a uniquely doable approach to healing that emphasizes changing our perspective instead of changing ourselves.About Dr. John’s Esteemed Guest:Beth Kurland, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist with three decades of experience.  She is also a TEDx and public speaker, a mind-body coach, and an author of three award-winning books: Dancing on The Tightrope: Transcending the Habits of Your Mind and Awakening to Your Fullest Life; The Transformative Power of Ten Minutes: An Eight Week Guide to Reducing Stress and Cultivating Well-Being. Beth blogs for Psychology Today and is the creator of the Well-Being Toolkit online program. She lives in the Boston area. For more, visit BethKurland.com.If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Editing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word! 

Anyone who has ever been a people-pleaser can know how hard it is to be in relationships that don’t have reciprocity. It can feel like we give and give and give, and just because we are connected in the relationship, can think it’s enough, when in reality, we end up feeling depleted and resentful. In this joint episode, with my partner in life and love, Joree Rose, LMFT, we talk about 6 areas that people-pleasers can get stuck in or struggle with, along with some of the context that may lead you to becoming a people-pleaser. The 6 areas that we go in depth into are: difficulty drawing boundaries, feeling an overactive sense of guilt, being conflict avoidant, having a fear of loneliness, building anger & resentment and not knowing what your needs are. If you are someone that feels an imbalance in your relationships, and wants greater insight into why you may be doing what you’re doing, and have the tools to shift into healthier relationship patterns, then this episode is for you. Questions addressed in this one:What does it mean to be a “people-pleaser”?What are some of the main issues involved in people pleasing?How does one become a “people-pleaser”?How does boundary setting figure into people pleasing?What about the gradual accumulation of anger and resentment?Where does the heightened sense of guilt come from?How comfortable are people-pleasers with conflict?How does a fear of loneliness enter into the picture?All this and more, in this episode of The Evolved Caveman podcast!Please like, rate, review and share if you find this show meaningful to you!If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnerer

One partner has an anxious attachment style and gets triggered by her partner needing a time out during an argument, or threatening to leave. The other partner has an avoidant attachment style and gets emotionally flooded during disagreements. During these challenging moments, the anxious partner seeks to turn towards their partner, needing to reconnect in order to calm their physiology. The avoidant person turns away from the relationship, seeking time and space to calm themselves. The anxious partner pursues the avoidant partner verbally and physically, resulting in neither person getting their needs met. This is one of the most common relational dynamics we have seen in our private practice assisting couples to rekindle their passion and connection. Even Joree and John struggled with it! Listen in as they explain what this dynamic is and, more importantly, how to break out of it for a happier and more connected relationship. Here’s a hint: It takes a combination of individual work and relational work to evolve beyond it! To find out more about our upcoming monthly Relationship Master Classes, please visit https://joreerose.com/loveisntenoughmasterclass/.To find out more about our Fulfilling Relationships Retreat in Costa Rica September 28 – October 5, 2024 at Pura Vida Resort, please visit https://loveisntenough.net/costa-rica/For information on our Ultimate Relationship Coaching Package, visit https://loveisntenough.net/the-ultimate-relationship-coaching-package/ 

Psychedelics have been described as “the mind revealing itself to itself.” Recent research backs this notion up, showing the profound healing impact of psychedelics such as psilocybin (magic mushrooms), MDMA, and more. MDMA has been deemed “breakthrough status” by the FDA for folks struggling with PTSD. Psilocybin has been given “breakthrough status” by the FDA for its positive results for individuals with depression, anxiety and substance abuse disorders. There are a variety of ways to access such medicines. Some of them are legal. Some take place in the “underground.” One of the underground ways is via a psychedelic journey led by a shaman  and/or medicine woman. Yet, what does a group psychedelic journey look like? What should one expect?  What is helpful to do prior to a journey? What are the safeguards needed to ensure a positive, healing experience? How does one create a safe container for a journey? Why is integration so important following the journey? About Dr. John’s Guest:Formerly known as Lois Koffi, now her ceremonial spiritual name is Misty Magdalena Grace (Magdalena for short). She is a plant medicine woman/spiritual teacher & microdosing coach, focused on mental/physical/spiritual health.  She has been a coach for 23 years, coaching 20,000 plus people in both health and fitness, as well as business/sales. She has seen so so many people focus on the external DOING of goal setting, new year's resolutions and intention setting and realized that most of our success lies WITHIN. She has had her own awakening journey of working through addictive behaviors, depression/anxiety and struggles as well as many victories and successes.  She has lost 12 friends to suicide and many to addiction and has a huge vision/mission to help people safely with sacred plants.  She has trained with several plant medicine women and shamans through initiations and deep dive healing over 50 times.  Find Out More About Microdosing:https://microdosingforhealth.now.site/homeSubscribe To Her Newsletter:https://loiskoffi.lpages.co/healthy-n-wealthy-n-wise-subscription/Check Out Her Podcast:https://loiskoffi.com/podcast/If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues.Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on| Instagram | Instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman| Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert| Twitter | Twitter.com/@JohnSchin| LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnererOr join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.comPlease visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe!https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnererEditing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer.  Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word!