My mission is to provide motivation, inspiration, and hope to those who feel overwhelmed, exhausted, discouraged or anxious about their life’s problems and challenges. I am your host, Tamara K. Anderson. I am the mother of four children who struggle with autism, ADHD, anxiety, visions issues, and all bring me great joy.
I invite you to join me every other Wednesday beginning January 23, 2019 to hear real stories and lessons learned through adversity’s refining fire. You will hear interviews from normal people (just like you) who have had scrapes with death, been fired from jobs, survived the death of a loved one, experienced extreme health challenges, mental illness, and disability.
Come laugh, cry, and feel hope as you hear these heartwarming stories and the inspiration drawn from rock-bottom moments survived with God’s help. So, pull up an imaginary chair at my kitchen table as you listen and feel inspired by Stories of Hope in Hard Times.
Caroline Rose: Why I Chose Hope and Kept Fighting
Caroline Rose went from running marathons to being a cancer patient with non-Hodgkins Lymphoma. She shares her journey of faith, endurance and how a dog she rescued, saved her in return.
Episode Discussion PointsHow she reacted to the news of her sudden life detour of non-Hodgkin’s Lymphoma.
How her type A personality was able to learn (eventually) that she really doesn’t control anything. God is in control and we can trust Him.
The wise advice her doctor uncle gave her which gave her the courage to fight.
How rescuing a dog then helped her through subsequent treatments
Why she and her husband froze embryos after she went into remission.
How her son was a medical miracle
Sometimes we have to wait for miracles to happen
The angel who came to help Caroline when she relapsed a third time.
The four types of prayers: “help,” “thank you,” “whatever” and “oh well.”
There is an emotional component to healing, fighting and surviving.
The reason why Caroline kept fighting when she wanted to give up and quit chemo.
The shifting of hope that takes place after someone you love dies.
Hope isn’t always getting the outcome we want. It is getting to the point where we can accept the situation, be okay, and keep going.
Listen to your “God-voice” or intuition.
Everyone’s journey is unique.
How she emerged from the struggle with cancer different than she was before. This also affected her loved ones around her.
Favorite QuoteOne of my favorite things Caroline said is, “We can’t fully live unless we hope.” So, if you are struggling, keep your flicker of hope alive. Believe in God and that with His help you can get through anything. You then will live, and live fully.
Resourceshttps://brenebrown.com/ (Brenee Brown)
https://jenhatmaker.com/ (Jen Hatmaker)
https://kriscarr.com/ (Kris Carr)
Connect with Carolinehttps://dearrileyrose.com/ (https://dearrileyrose.com/)
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The Mother's Mite
Today I share The Mother's MIte, the story of a modern woman blended with the Bible story of the Widow's Mite. Jesus can and will help in our darkest hour.
The Mother's MiteThe Mother’s Mite tells the short story of Sarah, a modern-day mother juggling a teething baby, sick children, laundry, dishes, work, and finances. Sarah feels spent, drained, alone, and empty.
One night her exhaustion turns to desperate pleas heavenward.
God's answer came to her in a dream where she met a man who saw into her heart and taught her a soul-stirring lesson as an old widow gave her last two mites.
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Chani Barlow: My Life Didn't Turn Out How I Thought
Chani had several life detours including an accident and being unable to have children. She learned to trust God through adoption, foster care, and life.
Episode Discussion PointsHow being hit by a car at 15 changed her life dreams of being an Olympic athlete
How a photo of Jesus and a simple saying helped her to keep going
How one phone call from a doctor shattered her dreams for having children
The questions she asked God after finding out she wouldn’t have biological children
How Chantelle grieved for the children she would never have, and how it is totally normal to grieve lost expectations.
What adoption looks like, and the roller-coaster of emotions it brings.
Why waiting in limbo is really hard and the piece of advice that kept her going when they didn’t get picked for adoption.
What it felt like when her son was placed in her arms.
Can adoptive moms have baby blues after adopting a baby?
The things she did to pull out of the blues.
Why it is important to be open and honest when we are struggling.
The dream of having a baby girl that kept recurring, and the different emotions that went with that.
What it is like to be a foster parent.
Find and enjoy the season you are in right now and find the everyday miracles.
Lessons Learned Through Her TrialsPatience--learning to wait for God's timing.
God is there. He cares—even about the little foster care kids she has in her home.
There are miracles everywhere—little messages from God if we can see them.
Let go of the “control” of your life and let God guide you. His path is better. Trust Him.
Remembering and looking back on times in the past when God has helped you through tough situations helps us be okay to trust Him with the issues we are facing today.
Self-care isn’t a luxury it is a necessity to keep us going in a more balanced manner. Some of the things Chani does for self-care are:
A daily devotional where she can connect with God.
Time to meditate and be still and listen. Chani uses the Ten Percent Happier app to help her meditate. https://www.tenpercent.com/ (https://www.tenpercent.com/)
Exercise, moving and getting outside.
Take a break when you need a breather because life is “too much.”
Writing can help you get your thoughts and feelings out—both the positives and the negatives. Writing also helped her see the patterns in her life. Chani used a program https://calliopewritingcoach.com/ (https://calliopewritingcoach.com/) to help her write her story into a book.
My Favorite TakeawaysI loved two quotes Chani said that work really well paired together: “Heavenly Father seems to know I grow the most when I’m asked to wait.” She also added to this by saying, "The best way to get there is His way, not mine.” It takes a lot of trust in God to let Him help us navigate the detours in our lives, but it all works out...eventually.
Favorite Bible VerseMatthew 11:28-30
Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls.For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.Chani loves this verse which the Savior speaks because, “it is an invitation to share that burden together.” And “He can help better than I can do it myself.”
Connect with Chanihttps://www.chanibarlow.com/ (https://www.chanibarlow.com/)
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TranscriptionYou can find the complete transcription of this episode here: https://tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/chani-barlow-my-life-didnt-turn-out-how-i-thought (https://tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/chani-barlow-my-life-didnt-turn-out-how-i-thought)
Lisa Goich: Learning to Process Grief with Humor and Grace
Lisa Goich shares the story of being able to spend 14 days with her mother before she passed away and how she learned to process grief.
Episode Discussion PointsLoved ones and others come as death draws near to usher loved ones to the other side.
Why it is important to keep talking about loved ones after they pass—especially their funny stories.
Processing death (especially when it is unexpected) takes time.
Live life and tell people how much you love them!
You never know how many lives you touch.
How using a journal (whether it be Lisa’s guided grief journal or a blank spiral notebook) can be a place to write down your thoughts or what you want to tell your loved one who has passed. Or you can talk to them as if they are in the room.
Everyone goes through grief differently.
Don’t carry around guilt or “I should’ve called, visited, etc.” That won’t help you. Put yourself in their shoes and choose to live life happily—because that is what they would want for you.
Why it’s okay to feel okay again after a loved one passes.
Embrace wherever you are today in your grief journey. Grief is often like the game Chutes and Ladders.
Have a list of friends names and phone numbers to call when you are struggling.
You are not the only one grieving. Find a support group in person or online. You can also join Lisa’s group: @guidedgriefjournal
One of My Favorite TakeawaysLisa said, “We all grieve differently. We all heal differently." I love this thought. Too often we compare where we are vs. where someone else is, and that is such an unfair comparison because we are each unique and process things differently.
Connect with Lisahttps://mailtrack.io/trace/link/b17242d47e6256148b9b7ed0ee0a772b8af0392b?url=http%3A%2F%2FGuidedGriefJournal.comanduserId=477776andsignature=882df8b46397deef (GuidedGriefJournal.com)
You can order her new Guided Grief Journal here: https://www.amazon.com/I-Wonder-Guided-Grief-Journal/dp/1642936421 (https://www.amazon.com/I-Wonder-Guided-Grief-Journal/dp/1642936421)
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TranscriptionYou can find a transcription of today's episode here: https://tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/lisa-goich-learning-to-process-grief-with-humor-and-grace
Sharla Goettl: How Sharing Stories Helps Youth Build Resilience
Sharla shares the story of her grandfather going from mobster to faithful follower of Christ and how telling true stories can help youth learn resilience.
Lessons from GrandfatherYou don’t have to be perfect to fulfill your life mission and to follow God.
When you know God loves you, you can follow Him with complete trust and faith.
Episode Talking PointsOne prime example she uses in her newly released book, Spiritual Resilience: Leading Our Youth to Go and Do, is that of Nephi, a young man in the first chapters of the Book of Mormon, who left Jerusalem about 600 BC. Sharla explains that unlike Esther, Mary or Daniel, where we don’t have much of the backstory for why they chose to be faithful to God, that with Nephi we have many chapters.
Sharla tells the story of walking away from a promising job in New York City because she kept feeling it wasn’t right—and how years later it all made sense.
It’s important to teach youth the good stories and the stories where we have struggled in our lives.
Youth need life-size examples of people trying to do what is right.
The lessons learned from hiking into a cave with a group of young women that was pitch black.
The Holy Ghost is part of our life on a daily basis—so follow the small promptings to send a text, talk to a friend, comfort someone who is sad.
How to teach youth to follow God’s GuidanceGo and Do, take action
Help them figure out their deepest why—what motivates them the most.
Articulate why they want to follow Christ and believe that He will helps them fulfill their deepest desires in life.
Teach youth that “our doubts and our testimonies can live along side each other.”
One of My Favorite TakeawaysI loved when Sharla shared that Christ loves us so much that He wants to interact in the details of our lives—big and small. It is a good reminder that our daily interactions matter to God and we can invite Him to be a part of all that we do.
Connect with Sharlahttps://sharlagoettl.com/ (https://sharlagoettl.com/)
You can also find her on social media
Order Sharla’s new book here: https://www.amazon.com/Spiritual-Resilience-Leading-Our-Youth/dp/1736349600/ (https://www.amazon.com/Spiritual-Resilience-Leading-Our-Youth/dp/1736349600/)
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TranscriptionYou can find the transcript for today's episode here: https://tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/sharla-goettl-how-sharing-stories-helps-youth-build-resilience
Why Hitting Rock Bottom Might Be Good For You
Have you ever wondered why we hit rock bottom? Could good ever come from it? I share 4 questions which help rebound stronger after hitting rock bottom.
My Most Recent Story of Hitting Rock BottomIn September https://www.tamarakanderson.com/blog/im-in-my-pajamas-and-im-broken (I hit rock bottom). The combination of dealing with COVID restrictions, trying to help my children stay focused for online school after a LONG and exhausting summer caring for my son with low-functioning autism. I was exhausted and broken. . . again!
Here are 4 questions I learned and used as I was rebounding from my rock bottom. I hope they help you as well.
Ask These 4 Questions to Rebound Stronger After Hitting Rock Bottom 1. God, Will You Help me?First, ask God to help! He is uniquely situated to help you in your specific situation. Talk to Him and ask Him for help and guidance as you desire to do better and be better.
Isaiah 57:15, "For thus saith the high and lofty One that inhabiteth eternity, whose name is Holy; I dwell in the high and holy place, with him also that is of a contrite and humble spirit, to revive the spirit of the humble, and to revive the heart of the contrite ones."
2. Why did I burn out and hit rock bottom?The first question to ask yourself is why. If we don’t know why we can change and solve it.
"Hitting rock bottom doesn't mean you have to stay there." — Michelle ParsonsStory of leper colony and the purpose in pain.
3. What do I want to change?"Never be afraid to fall apart. It represents an opportunity to rebuild yourself the way you wished you'd been all along." — Rae Smith
When we hit rock bottom it is probably because some of our foundations stones in life have cracked and need to be repaired. We can only build a taller, stronger and better us when our foundation is solid.
4. How do I commit to change it?"Strength and growth only come from continuous effort and struggle." — Napoleon Hill
Now that you know why and what you want to change, make a plan HOW you will change.
InvitationWant to avoid rock bottom in the first place? Take 30 min or more to evaluate your life and see if you are out of balance. Need help? Download and use my ‘Not-To-Do-List.’
PromiseIsaiah 40: 28-31
Hast thou not known? hast thou not heard, that the everlasting God, the Lord, the Creator of the ends of the earth, fainteth not, neither is weary? there is no searching of his understanding.He giveth power to the faint; and to them that have no might he increaseth strength. . .But they that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint. God is never weary nor faint. He can and will renew and increase your strength as you move forward with His help from rock bottom. Rock bottom can be good after all because you can use it as a powerful tool to change yourself to be better, stronger and more capable.
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GoooooOOOOOD vibes spreadin’!!! =)
Hearing your interview on the ALSO SPECTACULAR Podcast Latter Day Lives was OUTSTANDING! When I found out about this podcast I was excited to try it out. (Seems to be SO DIFFICULT to find truly GOOD, uplifting & “All that Jazz” kinda podcasts to listen to!) THANKS for your stories AND your STRENGTH!! =)
I’ve been going through a particularly hard time as three of my kids have contracted Covid and our quarantine keeps starting over and over. When I’m feeling discouraged and drained I listen to an interview while I cook or clean and feel so much better after the episode. There is a wide variety of guests with interesting insights to share. These stories really have made me feel hopeful during a hard time!
Love the stories very powerful!