First am going to talk about some of the things you should not do. so Lets just get that out of the way right now.
Don’t say sorry. I hear this all the time/ This isn’t a pity party. No one wants to hear the word sorry. Instead offer a word of hope and encouragement. Saying sorry feels like being patronized
Also a lot of people say this – let me know how I can help or if you need anything. Well while that is the typical thing to say – this is unfortunately the wrong approach. Most people will not call or ask for help.
So how do you navigate through this – the solution is to just do or give. Offer to babysit the kids, give financial help – if you can afford to. bring a meal for the family. How about paying for a cleaning service. There are lots of different things you can do to help by taking into account what the person may be in need of.
Another don’t is sending medical advice or cures – especially those that are unproven, false or misleading. Believe it or not. It increases anxiety and confusion in the midst of trying to think clearly and especially when the news is still fresh. SO please do some research and don’t just forward a chain message from whatapp, a text message or a FB post that contains false information. I get these mssgs all the time – and while the intention may be good – it does create a sense of anxiety especially when the information is misleading.
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