I hope this podcast helps you in your journey of healing from toxic abuse from those who have been involved with a narcissist. Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is a condition and an epidemic in our culture. This podcast covers this topic from various aspects, and my hope is that you become more educated on the topic as you listen through all the episodes. I was involved personally with someone who was narcissistic and this podcast is solely based on my experience and what I have studies and learned about the disorder. I am not a doctor, clinical psychologist or have any degree in this field. I simply want to draw awareness to this topic, that these toxic personalities exist and by listening to this podcast, you will have a better understand of how to cope and heal.
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Covert Vs. Overt... the difference?
Overt behaviors are those that can be easily observed by others, such as those of the traditional narcissist You ever have a conversation with someone and it feels like they’re trying to pressure you into telling them how nice, or important or accomplished they are? Passive Self-Importance - in a more subtle way, buy not over the top they constantly want you to give them validation and they will make comments to lead you into praising them at something they know they’re already good at. You’ll notice too that The reality for both the overt and covert narcissist is that they have a fragile sense of self. The covert narcissist certainly craves importance and thirsts for admiration but it can look different An overt narcissist will display all kinds of attention seeking behaviors, compared to a covert but in a sly under the table approach. both the overt and covert narcissist is that they have a fragile sense of self. The covert narcissist will be much more likely to constantly seek reassurance about their talents, skills, and accomplishments, looking for others to feed that same need for self-importance. A covert narcissist explain why something is your fault and they are not to blame. They might even pretend to be a victim of your behavior to put themselves in a position to receive reassurance and praise from you.the goal of the narcissist is to make the other person feel less than superior to their victim People with covert narcissism might make dismissive or sarcastic remarks and act as if they’re above the criticism. But internally, they might feel empty, humiliated, or enraged.
What makes someone narcissistic? What is NPD?
In this episode I want to discuss what makes a person narcissistic? Where do these traits come from, were these behaviors taught, or did they derive from conditioned behaviors from a parent? Is this hereditary? Let’s talk.
Why loving yourself is important, one year later..
This episode highlights one year later, where I realized how important it is to love who you are- day in and day out. We always put others ahead of our wants and needs and sometimes, it's okay to be selfish.
This is the Narcissist's Achilles Heel
If you are in a relationship with a narcissist, you will have been through a roller-coaster of ups and downs. Some narcissists live through others in hopes of boosting their own low self-esteem or vicariously fulfilling their own unrealized fantasies and dreams. Underneath their façade is toxic shame, which may even be unconscious. Shame makes narcissists feel insecure and inadequate―vulnerable feelings that they must deny to themselves and others. This is one reason that they can’t take criticism, responsibility, dissent, or negative feedback even when meant to be constructive. Instead, they demand unconditional, positive regard from others A weakness of a narcissist is their extreme hatred of being embarrassed. There is nothing worse for them than having someone point out even the slightest fault. Ironically, they have no problem openly doing this to others. ... Here are eleven ways a narcissist uses shame to control others. The biggest impact you can make on attacking a narcissist at their Achilles Heel is loss of power, and loss of complete control of their victim. They’ve been working extremely hard around the clock to convince you, through constant manipulation, emotionally beating you down, and keeping disconnected from reality that once they lose control of you; be prepared for the toxic destruction, verbal abuse, wreck-less attempts to bully you, lie to you, love bomb, and torment you even more... your now the enemy and must be taken down at al cost. You have to be prepared MENTALLY, they will use any leverage they have- your friends, family and even your own children. They love manufacturing lies, and creating trouble- is empowering and watching you fall to the ground in pain as you suffer through and find out who they truly are. But... being mentally prepared for this to happen is what’s so vital to how you will be able to undermine the entire show and change the plot of the story. It’s hard I’m not going to lie, it will take every ounce of life- every thing you’ve got! The reality here and what really happens is we get trapped in this idea that people are generally good people unless they give us a reason to think otherwise; we don’t assume people are bad actors or have an ulterior motive unless we are faced with those behaviors. Interestingly enough, we allow people we love to “hurt” us because we are strong, it’s nothing we can’t handle; and this is a double edged sword and cuts both ways. We love to help, honor, love, obey and most of all remain loyal/ even to someone who has proven themselves unworthy. You have to be relentless, you have to become the person you never wanted to be, hard-cold-distant-disconnected and protect yourselves and the ones you love. A narcissist doesn’t know love, they don’t connect with human emotion; they’re true self is buried deep within the roots of confusion, intertwined in evil self seeking, built upon decades of guilt, shame, suffocating in their own insecurities. This is the person you never meet, and this is why it’s so hard to pull away/ because you want to believe that the odds are in your favor. You can take your freedom back, your life and find happiness again, but you have to fight this head on- no one else can fight your battles- take what I’m telling you and apply this, you have to be strategic and plan; you think the narcissist put you here by accident? There’s a method to the madness, and now it’s your turn.
Male Vs. Female Narcissist..and which one is worse?
This episode discussed the differences between both male and female, the similarities and differences. Too often, narcissism is portrayed as an overly aggressive male disorder. It is not. Females can be narcissistic as well although it might look a bit different from males. Appearance. Narcissists, in general, believe themselves to be attractive and are usually well groomed to attract attention. While males combine their attractiveness with charm to accomplish a goal, females use it to gain superiority. Most females tend to be obsessed with their appearance sometimes resulting in numerous drastic changes. Seduction. Both male and females narcissists are generally gifted in the art of seduction, but how they seduce is different. Males use their charm to entice their partner, while females use their bodies. Confidence. Narcissists cover their deep-rooted insecurity with a belief that they are “special.” Males tend to be self-confident, gaining their assurance from within. Females gain their poise from comparing their superiority over others. Money. The love of money is strong for narcissists as they believe money gives them power, control, success, status, and dominance over others. Appearance. Narcissists, in general, believe themselves to be attractive and are usually well groomed to attract attention. While males combine their attractiveness with charm to accomplish a goal, females use it to gain superiority. Children. Narcissists like to raise baby narcissists. Often they pick a favorite child and focus all of their efforts and attention on that child. The other children are left feeling inadequate, unworthy, and insecure. Males generally view children as a nuisance, frequently complaining that they, not the children, should have all the attention of their spouse or partner. Females view children as an extension of themselves, even when the child is an adult. Competition. Nothing proves supremacy quite like competition for narcissists. They love an opportunity to excel over others at work and at home. While the competitiveness is frequently praised in a job, it is not amongst family. Males treat other males as rivals. This can be seen in brother/brother and parent/child relationships. Females battle with other females for dominance. This is seen in sister/sister and parent/child relationships
Gaslighting is Dangerous, here's why.
Narcissist denies reality to avoid any consequences ( EXAMPLES: they say your paranoid, misunderstood them, that’s not what said, you just don’t listen to me when I talk, this causes emotional distress and constant confusion to the victim) Denies the reality of the “empath” to intentionally erode their sanity, (remember they want you to feel disconnected from the truth, this is accomplished through a series of mind control attempts by hijacking your ability to think through and process the reality of what your truly experiencing. You stop being able to use your own checks and balances and start leaning into the narcissist for guidance for things you were able to do on your own before. A narcissistic person will deny the true reality in any situation or circumstance- because they don’t understand the reality of the empath and can’t experience real emotions, once they begin to use this gaslighting technique you begin to feel hopeless, similar to a spin wheel and never seem to make progress or come to a clear understanding of where you stand with the narcissist The call you crazy /you have mental health issues/you need help what the narcissist thinks is You’re not the pathological one here, I am. You’re just catching onto who I really am behind the mask and attempting to hold me accountable for my questionable behavior. You’re just insecure and jealous! Translation: I enjoy planting seeds of insecurity and doubt in your mind about your attractiveness, competence, and personality. If you dare to question my numerous flirtations, affairs, and inappropriate interactions, I’ll be sure to put you back in your place in fear of losing me. Lastly.... Conserving your energy! Their goal is to drain you, they mirror you with all of those wonderful traits you have- they want you to give up and lose the battle - the game you’ve entered into with them. They need you at your weakest, because then they feel accomplished and you feel completely defeated. This isn’t some accident, this is working the way it was designed. You don’t realize how much damage a person can cause by falling into their toxic web, they seek after great people like you and I and we have to stick together to send a message that were not here to play their game!
Gaslighted for 18 years..
This podcasts are helpful..
I’m very grateful to understand I’m not alone..
I actually went to a neurologist at some point thinking I was losing my mind. That’s when I learned what gaslighting was and these podcast help. As I’m trying to become myself again.
So thank you for sharing..
Thank you..I’m struggling understanding how the person I thought was my knight in shinning armor was actually my nightmare. This is helping because it’s almost as if you were there
Beyond relatable. YOU ARE NOT ALONE!
I first was taken back by the fact it was a guy speaking on this topic because I mostly come across women but it was so refreshing to hear this podcast and simply know that I AM NOT ALONE. I knew after all the things I related to in episode one that I would continue listening to this podcast.
Hearing this topic come from a Male perspective helped me realize the traits of a narcissist does not differ from male to female. A narcissist is just a darn narcissist and the traits are shockingly the same regardless of the gender. Thank you for reminding us we are not alone that’s been the most important thing for me, to know I’m not alone because as we know a narcissist can make you feel like you are alone and loosing your mind.