Tonetta Clay was born and raised in St. Louis, Missouri as an only child in a two parent household. This came with an array of experiences and lessons, both good and bad, as she navigated throughout life. The first major lesson was “What not to do” as she witnessed her parents drug / alcohol abuse as well as her father's physical / emotional abuse to her mother. These events greatly shaped her life. She made it known with the actions she took that her life would be nothing like her parents or anyone around her.
She has graduated from high school then college with a Bachelor’s degree in Social Work and entered a career where she knew she could advocate, support and plant seeds with the clients she worked with who were coming from similar environments like the one she grew up in. This career has spanned over 20 years of professional experience. Being a Social Worker, Tonetta had a love for all people no matter how their past may have looked. She knew that everyone possessed positives and strengths no matter what their current behaviors were.
As she navigated through life and noticed how her earliest relationships impacted her life, she began her own soul-searching journey in an attempt to put to rest those generational curses, negative mindsets and find her own truth that would set her free. She saw how this new journey set her on a different course and mission in life, career, relationships and spiritually. Looking back on her life as a mentally free and healed woman, she began to see different perspectives as to what could have been the causes of the breakdown in her own relationships as well as that of her parents. She embarked on a journey to find out the why’s.
With her love of people and how they related to one another, as well as seeing how their behaviors made or broke their relationship bonds, Tonetta started on a journey into the world of relationships with the Facebook blog called Taboo: A Love, Sex and Relationship Blog about five years ago. This blog has now been turned into a full-fledged relationship coaching business called Speak Your Truth in February 2020 during the covid-19 crisis. With the world in quarantine, she knew that people were now forced to be home including couples whose relationships may have been strained due to years of foundation of breakdown. She created Speak Your Truth out of this concern as a means to help those committed couples create a better relationship through improving their communication, friendship foundation and couples spark. The rest is yet to come...