Team Us: A Christian Marriage Podcast

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The best marriages have a teamwork mentality. Spouses serve each other, support each other, and celebrate each other. They tackle life together, and when one slips, the other gives grace. Husbands and wives can be vulnerable with each other because they know they rise and fall as one.Do you want a marriage like this? On each episode of the Team Us: Christian Marriage Podcast, married couple Ted and Ashleigh Slater come alongside you and your spouse as friends and mentors. They talk openly, honestly, and humorously about the betters and the worsts of their marriage, sharing how grace, commitment, cooperation, and lots of laughter have kept them united over the years.Whether you’re newly married and desire to build a strong foundation, or you’ve been married longer and your relationship needs a little TLC, you’ll gain practical, realistic ideas for strengthening your Team Us. Want more from Ted and Ashleigh? Visit https://ashleighslater.com/

  1. 3 Ways We've Learned to 'Leave and Cleave' in Marriage

    10H AGO

    3 Ways We've Learned to 'Leave and Cleave' in Marriage

    In this conversation, we talk about what it means to “leave and cleave” in marriage and how getting married calls you to realign your loyalties and priorities. We share three ways we’ve learned to live out this principle, and we hope it encourages you to keep choosing your spouse first. WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE: The biblical meaning behind the phrase “leave and cleave” Why “leaving and cleaving” is harder in practice than in theory How redefining “immediate family” strengthens your marriage Three practical ways to prioritize your spouse over extended family Why involving parents or siblings in marital conflict can create unnecessary strain KEY TAKEAWAYS Give your spouse priority over parents and siblings. Your marriage becomes your new “immediate family.” While it’s still important to love and honor your parents, your primary loyalty now belongs to your spouse. Determine to make decisions together first. Going to your spouse before seeking outside input builds trust, unity, and interdependence. It shows that your spouse’s thoughts and feelings come first. Decide not to involve extended family in marital conflict. Unless you’re dealing with abuse or serious issues, resolve everyday disagreements privately. Inviting family into routine conflict can damage relationships and make reconciliation harder. US TIME CHALLENGE Write down one specific area where you struggle to “leave and cleave.” Share it with your spouse and discuss whether they see it the same way. Then, together, brainstorm two or three practical ways you can improve in that area this week. STAY CONNECTED BEYOND THE PODCAST Stay connected with us beyond the show! Visit AshleighSlater.com for free marriage tools, updates on new podcast episodes, and to sign up for her weekly email newsletter. TEAM US RESOURCES Team Us: The Unifying Power of Grace, Commitment, and Cooperation in Marriage (https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/) FREE Team Us Study Guide (https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/free-team-us-study-guide/) Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

    20 min
  2. Why Saying "I'm Sorry" Feels So Hard and How to Get It Right

    NOV 4

    Why Saying "I'm Sorry" Feels So Hard and How to Get It Right

    Ever said "I'm sorry" just to move on? You're not alone. In this episode, we’re talking about how to apologize in a way that actually heals and not just hushes the hurt. We'll share what experts say about why it's so hard to say sorry, what makes an apology sincere, and how humility can transform even the most awkward moments into deeper connection. WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE Why apologizing feels so difficult (and what’s really behind it) How to make "I'm sorry" more than just words The difference between regret and a true apology What humility has to do with healing and reconciliation A practical, faith-based process for rebuilding trust after hurt KEY TAKEAWAYS Real apologies focus on the other person's pain, not our own discomfort. Humility is the foundation of every meaningful apology. "I'm sorry if…" or "I'm sorry but…" aren't true apologies—they're defenses. Taking responsibility rebuilds connection faster than explaining your intent. A sincere apology requires empathy, ownership, and change. US TIME CHALLENGE Look back at your most recent apologies. Were they centered on your own feelings or your spouse's experience? This week, practice making your next "I'm sorry" one that reflects humility, empathy, and love. STAY CONNECTED BEYOND THE PODCAST If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to subscribe to Ashleigh's weekly e-newsletter at AshleighSlater.com, so you never miss what's next.  LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE “Study: The states that apologize the most” by Matt Zajechowski “Why is it so hard to apologize?” TedX Talk by Michael Ballard “Why Sorry Seems to Be the Hardest Word” by F. Diane Barth Sorry, Sorry, Sorry: The Case for Good Apologies by Marjorie Ingall and Susan McCarthy   Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

    24 min
  3. 3 Simple Ways to Stop Screens from Stealing Your Time Together

    OCT 28

    3 Simple Ways to Stop Screens from Stealing Your Time Together

    Ever sit down for date night and realize you’re both scrolling instead of talking? You’re not alone. In this episode, we tackle the challenge of “technoference,” or when screens quietly slip between you and your spouse. For couples who can’t just unplug completely—because, for some of us, “off the clock” isn’t really a thing—we share three simple, memorable ways to protect your marriage time from digital noise. From quick phone checks that don’t spiral into scrolls, to turning toward each other when it matters most, this episode offers practical steps to keep your connection strong, even in a screen-saturated world. WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE: What “technoference” means and how it quietly affects relationships Why “just turn it off” doesn’t always work for busy couples Practical steps to handle screens with purpose instead of guilt Three simple, memorable habits for protecting your marriage time KEY TAKEAWAYS Veni, Vidi, Vici — “I came, I saw, I conquered”: Take care of the urgent task quickly, then turn back toward your spouse. Stop, Look, Listen: Pause before reaching for your phone. Notice your moment and your marriage. Ready, Steady, Go: When your spouse bids for attention, get ready to respond, steady yourself to act, and then go by giving them your full focus. US TIME CHALLENGE This week, try one of these three ideas. Maybe it’s setting down your phone mid-scroll, conquering that quick work text and returning fast, or intentionally turning toward your spouse when they reach out. Small shifts can make a big difference in how connected you feel. STAY CONNECTED BEYOND THE PODCAST If you enjoyed this episode, don’t forget to subscribe so you never miss what’s next. And we’d love to hear from you! Which of these takeaways do you need most? Share it with us on social media or send us a message at AshleighSlater.com. LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE The Anxious Generation: How the Great Rewiring of Childhood Is Causing an Epidemic of Mental Illness by Jonathan Haidt (https://a.co/d/a1rrbEA) “Technology Tips and Traps in Your Relationship” by Kailee Hansen and David Schramm (https://extension.usu.edu/relationships/research/technology-tips-and-traps-in-your-relationship) The Big-Baby Pivot from How to Talk So Your Spouse Feels Seen and Heard {Episode 101} (https://ashleighslater.com/team-us-podcast-episode-101/)       Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

    21 min
  4. How to Talk So Your Spouse Feels Seen and Heard

    OCT 21

    How to Talk So Your Spouse Feels Seen and Heard

    Ever feel like you and your spouse are talking but not really connecting? You’re saying words, but they’re not landing. We’ve all been there. In this episode, we share five simple communication techniques—adapted from How to Talk to Anyone by Leil Lowndes—that can help you feel more seen, heard, and understood in marriage. These aren’t gimmicks or manipulative tricks. They’re practical, grace-filled ways to build trust and connection with the person you love most. WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE: Why body language and attention matter more than perfect phrasing How to recognize your spouse’s bids for connection and respond well What it means to become a “word detective” in your marriage Why “thank you for…” is stronger than just “thank you” How to use empathy and echoing to make your spouse feel truly heard KEY TAKEAWAYS The Big-Baby Pivot: Turn your full attention toward your spouse when they speak—it communicates value and presence. Be a Word Detective: Listen for clues about what interests your spouse, and ask follow-up questions. Never the Naked Thank You: Always follow gratitude with for—“Thank you for doing the dishes,” not just “thanks.” Echoing: Mirror key words to show empathy and understanding. Employ Empathizers: Replace “uh-huh” with thoughtful affirmations like “I see what you mean” or “That makes sense.” US TIME CHALLENGE Pick one of the five communication techniques and practice it intentionally. Maybe it’s pivoting toward your spouse when they talk, or saying, “Thank you for…” instead of just “thanks.” Small shifts in how we speak and listen can make a big difference in how connected we feel. STAY CONNECTED BEYOND THE PODCAST If you enjoyed this episode, don’t forget to subscribe so you never miss what’s next. And we’d love to hear from you! Which of the techniques are you going to try first and why? Share it with us on social media or send us a message at AshleighSlater.com. LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE “45 Birthday Questions for Yourself and Your Loved Ones” by Abby Tanner (https://www.familysearch.org/en/blog/birthday-questions) How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships by Leil Lowndes (https://a.co/d/edP59Hc) The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages by Shaunti Feldhahn (https://a.co/d/a9FP4Ej)   Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

    25 min
  5. 10 Simple Hacks for a Stronger, Happier Marriage

    OCT 14

    10 Simple Hacks for a Stronger, Happier Marriage

    It’s our 100th episode! Can you believe it? To celebrate this milestone, we’re sharing ten simple hacks for a stronger, happier marriage. Over the last four years, we’ve talked about each of these in different episodes, but today we’re pulling them all together in one place. These hacks are doable, encouraging, and designed to bring you closer as a couple. WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE: Hack 1: Think “Us,” Not “Me” — shift from “me” to “we” for unity and teamwork. Hack 2: Get on the Same Page — create shared goals and expectations, and keep checking in. Hack 3: Dream Together, Stay Together — build connection by pursuing shared dreams. Hack 4: Make Rituals Your Super Glue — create traditions that bond you through consistency. Hack 5: Show Love with Follow-Through — build trust with small, steady actions. Hack 6: Progress Beats Perfection — focus on growth, not flawless performance. Hack 7: Stay Flexible to Stay Connected — adapt to life’s curveballs as a team. Hack 8: Battle Problems, Not Your Partner — face challenges side by side instead of against each other. Hack 9: Turn Conflict into Closeness — lean into conflict with humility and respect to grow stronger. Hack 10: Keep Love Playful and Fun — laugh together and flirt often to keep the spark alive. US TIME CHALLENGE Choose one hack from the list and practice it together. Whether it’s starting a small ritual, showing follow-through, or sharing a laugh, see how it strengthens your marriage this week. STAY CONNECTED BEYOND THE PODCAST If you enjoyed this episode, don’t forget to subscribe so you never miss what’s next. And we’d love to hear from you! Which hack is your favorite and why? Share it with us on social media or send us a message at AshleighSlater.com. LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE “We Can Build This Dream Together” by Erin Smalley (https://www.focusonthefamily.com/marriage/dreaming-together-in-marriage/) “Ideas for How to Add Fun Back into Your Marriage” by Andrew Linder (https://www.allprodad.com/ideas-for-how-to-add-fun-back-into-your-marriage/) “Without flirting, it wouldn’t be a marriage” by Sarah Hunter Murray (https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/myths-desire/201909/without-flirting-it-wouldnt-be-marriage)   Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

    23 min
  6. 3 Ways to Rekindle Romance in Marriage

    OCT 7

    3 Ways to Rekindle Romance in Marriage

    What do Reese’s, raisins, and rekindling romance have in common? More than you might think. In this episode, we kick things off with a lighthearted chat about October candy trends, before diving into something sweeter: three practical ways to keep the spark alive in marriage. Whether you’ve been married two years or twenty, you’ll walk away with encouragement and simple steps to nurture friendship, show love in everyday gestures, and let go of old hurts. WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE: Why friendship is the foundation of lasting romance The power of small, daily gestures to communicate love How forgiveness frees couples to move forward together US TIME CHALLENGE This week, pick one or two small gestures of love to practice each day. STAY CONNECTED BEYOND THE PODCAST If you enjoyed this episode, don’t forget to subscribe so you never miss what’s next. And we’d love to hear from you! How do you plan to rekindle romance in your marriage this week? Share it with us on social media or send us a message at AshleighSlater.com. LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE  “Tricks, Treats, and Trends: Unwrapping DoorDash’s Sweet Halloween Orders” (https://about.doordash.com/en-us/news/doordash-halloween-order-trends) “What Is the Sound Relationship House?” by The Gottman Institute (https://www.gottman.com/blog/what-is-the-sound-relationship-house/) Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert by John M. Gottman, Ph.D. and Nan Silver (https://a.co/d/dz0gtbl) “F Is for Friendship” by Zac Brittle (https://www.gottman.com/blog/f-is-for-friendship/) “Happy Marriages Are Based on Deep Friendship” by Erin Smalley (https://www.focusonthefamily.com/marriage/happy-marriages-are-based-on-deep-friendship/) “Do the Little Things That Matter Big Time” by Shaunti Feldhahn (https://shaunti.com/2014/06/highly-happy-marriage-secret-1-little-things/) The Relationship Cure: A 5 Step Guide to Strengthening Your Marriage, Family, and Friendships by John M. Gottman, Ph.D. and Joan DeClaire (https://a.co/d/23AvquO) “How to Keep a Relationship Alive” by Tony Robbins (https://www.tonyrobbins.com/blog/keeping-the-spark-alive) “How to Have Lighthearted Marriage” by Ashleigh Slater (https://ashleighslater.com/lighthearted-marriage/)   Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

    26 min
  7. Why Unresolved Conflict Poisons Marriage

    SEP 30

    Why Unresolved Conflict Poisons Marriage

    Every couple has conflict. But what happens when we let it linger? In this episode, we’re unpacking three reasons unresolved conflict can poison our connection, our home, and our marriage. Plus, we’ll explore how understanding conflict management styles can help us handle disagreements in a healthier way. Because how we handle conflict shapes the kind of connection we share. WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE: The five conflict management styles  Why lingering conflict prolongs issues rather than solving them How unresolved conflict breaks connection and trust between spouses The effect lingering conflict has on the atmosphere of your home Practical encouragement from Scripture to address conflict with wisdom US TIME CHALLENGE This week, reflect on your conflict management style. Which one do you tend to use most often in your marriage? Do you need to make changes so that conflict doesn’t linger and harm your relationship? ADDITIONAL TEAM US EPISODES WITH TIPS FOR CONFLICT RESOLUTION How to Embrace Conflict in Your Marriage as an Adventure, Not a Threat [Episode 5] How to Work Together to Resolve Disagreements [Episode 16] What to Do When Communication Is Frustrating [Episode 22] Why Being Right in Marriage Can Be Wrong [Episode 33] How to Respond When Your Spouse Loads the Dishwasher Wrong [Episode 40] Why We Go to Bed Mad (And How It’s Helped Our Marriage) [Episode 41] 3 Tools for Tackling Everyday Conflicts [Episode 64] 3 Ways to Transforms Kitchen Disagreements into Deeper Connection [Episode 91] STAY CONNECTED BEYOND THE PODCAST If you enjoyed this episode, don’t forget to subscribe so you never miss what’s next. And we’d love to hear from you! Which conflict management style fits you best and why? Share it with us on social media or send us a message at AshleighSlater.com. LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE “What’s Your Conflict Management Style” by Walden University (https://www.waldenu.edu/news-and-events/walden-news/2017/0530-whats-your-conflict-management-style) “The Hidden Dangers of Unresolved Conflict in Relationships: How Couple’s Counseling Can Help” by Kathryn Fayle (https://www.resilient-minded.com/blog/rhz76pn5j59sl2hk7fm0wk0rsbka5d) “Conflict in Marriage Does Not Need to Be Destructive” by Jason B. Whitin (https://ifstudies.org/blog/conflict-in-marriage-does-not-need-to-be-destructive) “Unresolved Conflict: 4 Consequences of Ignoring Workplace Tension” by Jeremy Pollack (https://pollackpeacebuilding.com/blog/why-ignoring-conflict-within-the-workplace-is-so-detrimental/) “The Conversation That Saved My Marriage” by John Delony (https://www.facebook.com/reel/995281745911215)     Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

    21 min
  8. How to Be a Better Listener in Marriage

    SEP 23

    How to Be a Better Listener in Marriage

    We’ve all been a non-listener at times. Maybe it’s been the advice giver, the eternal optimist, the doomsayer, or the one who makes the conversation all about us. The truth is, we all fall into bad listening habits now and then. But here’s the good news: becoming a better listener is possible, and even small shifts can make a big difference in our marriages. WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE: The six types of non-listeners, and why we all slip into them sometimes Three practical ways to improve your listening: removing barriers, pausing before you respond, and showing real interest How better listening can deepen connection and help your spouse feel truly valued US TIME CHALLENGE This week, practice pausing for three seconds—or simply taking a breath—before you respond to your spouse. See how it changes the way you listen and connect. STAY CONNECTED BEYOND THE PODCAST If you enjoyed this episode, don’t forget to subscribe so you never miss what’s next. And we’d love to hear from you! What non-listener do you struggle with being? Share it with us on social media or contact us at AshleighSlater.com. LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE “The Five Types of Non-Listeners” by Allison Barron (https://www.boundless.org/blog/the-5-types-of-non-listeners/) There Is No Good Card for This: What to Say and Do When Life Is Scary, Awful, and Unfair to People You Love by Kelsey Crowe, Ph.D. and Emily McDowell (https://a.co/d/cSIRtxG) “Why Silence Makes Us So Uncomfortable” by Michele Leno, Ph.D. (https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/mind-matters/202502/why-are-we-so-uncomfortable-with-silence) “Breathe Before You Speak” by Richard Carlson (https://www.livinglifefully.com/flo/flobebreathebeforeyouspeak.htm) “5 Ways to Show You’re Really Listening” by Prepare/Enrich (https://www.prepare-enrich.com/blog/5-ways-to-show-youre-really-listening/) “6 Tools for Healthy Communication in Marriage” by Mike Bechtle (https://www.focusonthefamily.com/marriage/6-tools-for-healthy-communication-in-marriage/)     Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

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The best marriages have a teamwork mentality. Spouses serve each other, support each other, and celebrate each other. They tackle life together, and when one slips, the other gives grace. Husbands and wives can be vulnerable with each other because they know they rise and fall as one.Do you want a marriage like this? On each episode of the Team Us: Christian Marriage Podcast, married couple Ted and Ashleigh Slater come alongside you and your spouse as friends and mentors. They talk openly, honestly, and humorously about the betters and the worsts of their marriage, sharing how grace, commitment, cooperation, and lots of laughter have kept them united over the years.Whether you’re newly married and desire to build a strong foundation, or you’ve been married longer and your relationship needs a little TLC, you’ll gain practical, realistic ideas for strengthening your Team Us. Want more from Ted and Ashleigh? Visit https://ashleighslater.com/

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