Grievers and grief professionals share their personal stories and describe what was helpful for them or their clients in working through grief. This podcast will outline steps to have hope and build meaning into your life.
Don’t Let Grief Become Part of Your Identity — Victoria L. Volk
Victoria Volk is a certified Grief Recovery Specialist and the author of The Guided Heart. Victoria spent her entire life trying to figure out what was wrong with her, why she’d get angry for almost no reason, and the inner despair that she had in her heart. It wasn’t until she discovered the Grief Recovery Institute that things clicked for her. She had let her grief become part of her identity and it stunted her growth as a person. She shares her story and how it’s okay to not be okay.
Victoria lost both her father and her grandmother from cancer when she was 8 and her sister, who she was close with, graduated from high school and left home. Victoria’s mother took on a lot of grief and there weren’t resources back then that she could turn to. Victoria grew up so angry and it took her a long time to address this anger. Back then it was a sign of weakness to express grief or intense sadness. Victoria had a midlife unraveling when her children began to leave the house. When Victoria became a certified grief recovery specialist, that’s when things really clicked for her on her own traumas that she’s carried throughout her life. How is the Grief Recovery Institute different from other grief certification programs? Grief can really derail your entire life and it can even become part of your identity. Victoria feels like her grief stalled her growth early on. There’s over 40+ different losses we can experience in our life. Society makes it difficult to fully grieve and process our emotions. The Grief Recovery Institute is a 7 week program. If you feel like you’re not okay, it’s okay to ask for help. There is nothing wrong with you.
There Is a Root Cause To Your Anger and Triggers — Tanya Tenica Patxot
Tanya Tenica Patxot lost her highschool sweetheart at 24 years old. She was pregnant with their second child at the time and had a hard time coping with everything that was going on. It was almost expected that Tanya would have everything ‘under control’, but on the inside, she was suffering. Tanya shares that when dealing with grief, you also have to deal with the underlying trauma that gets created from losing a loved one. If not, then little problems or triggers will keep happening throughout your life.
How did Tanya get started in this work? Tanya lost her highschool sweetheart two days after she told him she was pregnant with her second child. This is also around the time where Tanya felt psychologically unemployable and wanted to start a business for herself. Tanya wasn’t dealing with grief well. She lost her husband at 24 years old. She had to host two funerals for him and had a child she had to protect. Tanya felt like it was almost expected of her to be under control and have all the ‘womanly’ duties done. She wonders if men would get the same treatment. When people asked her if she was okay, she was honest and just said no. People are so occupied by ‘what can I do for you’, but what you need is to just ‘be there’. When you lose such a presence in your home, you feel so scared and vulnerable. Having people just ‘be there’ in your home and doing everyday activities with you can be huge. How does Tanya help her clients? Some of them were making 6-7 figures and wanted to commit suicide. It sounds silly because we’re adults, but there’s something really powerful about someone giving you permission to be a crazy person/sad/wild/whatever you might be feeling. Oftentimes, when there’s grief, there is also trauma. When you feel triggered, there is a root cause to that and it’s important to keep diving deeper and deeper until you find it.
Introducing Positivity in Your Life When You Just Aren’t Feeling It — Tina Hicks
Tina Hicks is the CEO of Jolt of Energy and is a workout and life coach. She helps her clients find the good and positive in life when things seem to be really heavy and weighing down on you. It all starts with mindset and practicing gratitude every day. It might not seem like much, but sometimes taking the smallest steps towards a positive change can really impact your entire outlook on life. Tina shares more on this week’s episode.
Sometimes you have to let go, but at the same time, you don’t want to say goodbye to who you are. Tina took a break from her career and was depressed. She turned to emotional eating to comfort her. How have you been talking about yourself? Why would you be cruel to your own wellbeing? It’s Tina’s purpose to bring a healthy relationship to yourself. Tina wants you to focus on mindset, not the food. Wake up every day with gratitude. Susan was in such a dark place that she was wondering why even her friends liked her. Fall in love with yourself again. It takes practice, but it’s possible. You can surprise yourself on what your body is capable of. Stop worrying about the little details and beating yourself up for it. Keep the eye on the prize and keep working towards your future self. How does Tina help someone who is in a bad place? Start small and then go from there.
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Pet Bereavement Can Cut Deeper Than a Loved One’s Passing — Wendy Andrew
Wendy Andrew is a lifelong animal lover and vegetarian for over 30+ years. After leaving her job with the police, she became a dog walker and pet bereavement counselor. Through her years of work in this field, Wendy quickly realized this form of grief was often dismissed by employers, family, and friends. In this week’s episode, Wendy shares how the loss of a pet is no joke and can be quite traumatizing for our wellbeing.
Pet bereavement is often dismissed or mocked by society. How did Wendy get into pet bereavement counseling? Pets give you unconditional love and when they pass, your own health can deteriorate too. Our pets are a constant in our lives and it can affect us much more than a person passing away. What are some of the positive ways to mourn your pet in a way that honors them? When does it make sense to discard pet toys or bowls of a passed away pet? So many pet owners get stuck with guilt in their grieving process. When is it okay to get another pet? Getting a new pet doesn’t replace a previous one, it just makes your heart bigger. Employers do need to be compassionate when an employee loses a lifelong pet. Do pets also experience grief? Wendy shares some last thoughts on how to best manage the grief when you’ve lost a pet.
How To Recover From Pet Loss: Supporting You On Your Journey To Acceptance by Wendy Andrew
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Grieving the Loss of My Miscarried Children
Kathy Sanderson always dreamed about having a big family, but unfortunately it was just not in the cards. Kathy and husband would try, but they would end up having miscarriage after miscarriage. Despite having 3 children, Kathy could not carry her babies to term and she felt a lot of shame around this. Kathy shares her grief story and how she was able to overcome her feelings of inadequacy as a woman during these very challenging years.
Kathy shares her grief story and how she got started in this line of work. What is a rainbow baby? Although Kathy currently has 3 beautiful children, she has had several miscarriages and each of them passing was heartbreaking. Kathy needed to prove to herself that she could carry a baby to term. Kathy is a medium so she could hear her children dying and talking to them up until their last breath. The trauma of losing all these children, Kathy had to give up her career to focus on herself. What made Kathy decide that she was no longer going to try to carry a baby to term? Kathy didn’t realize the full extent and impact it had on her husband when he found out that she miscarried. Kathy took the time to look inward and take on a path of spiritual healing, and realized that she never really felt loved. People would tell Kathy, ‘Can’t you just be happy with the 3 you got?’ That’s not the point! Out of all of this, Kathy has learned that she is not a victim and she’s not going to let other people take control of her own life. You choose what happens to you. Death is just not talked about. Kathy’s 3 children have experienced a lot of death from such an early age. What advice does Kathy have for women who are struggling to get pregnant or are unable to conceive? You can maintain your personal power. Keep holding on to your power.
It’s Important to Grieve Everything: Loss of Job, Life Transitions, and Even Death
Jillie Maria is a Transformational Catalyst, Certified Akashic Records Practitioner, & Intuitive specializing in grief and trauma work. She holds space for deep healing, one client at a time. Jillie shares why it’s important to grieve different life transitions, even if you haven’t physically lost someone. Your body keeps emotions in and pushing those down will only cause your emotions to resurface at odd and strange times.
Jillie shares her unique perspective on grief. A lot of us don’t know how to grieve. Our society even shames us for grieving! We have to grieve the routines we don’t have. Jillie’s grandmother survived World War 2 and apologized to her and the family for making them unemotional. She felt like she didn’t have the luxury to feel emotions. You get to feel what you feel. What would it look like if you felt your anger? What would it feel like if you just laid on the ground and cried? Susan has yelled at her husband so many times for having to go through some of these moments alone. What is it like if you get stuck in your grief? For many men, they end up remarrying within two years of losing their spouse. Sometimes you need to take a step back and grieve so you don’t make everyone else’s life around you miserable. How did Jillie become a psychic medium? It’s okay to be happy again, and it’s okay to find happiness again after the passing of a loved one. Jillie lost her best friend in 2016. It was devastating. She shares how she honors her. What should we know about our grief? We are emotional beings. Our loved ones want us to be happy. Sometimes happiness looks like sobbing your eyes out. Jillie shares one piece of advice for someone who is currently grieving.
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Great Insight in How to Support Grieving
Though I’m not personally struggling with grief currently in my life I found this to be very informative in understanding how to talk to and support someone who is.
Excellent Pod Cast!
An opportunity to learn more about the grief process through personal stories and accounts that highlight the raw, brave, and difficult paths through grief towards hope.