Thank You Heartbreak with Chelsea Leigh Trescott Chelsea Leigh Trescott

Transformative coach, mediator, creative consultant, and first time author of Carry Me: Stories of Pregnancy Loss, Frieda Hoffman joins Chelsea 10 minutes in to normalize the dialogue around death and desire and open up about the emotional seesaw of infertility and pregnancy loss, cycling between hope and disappointment, an all encompassing love and then estrangement, and learning to chart one’s own path with a fiery feminist spirit in the midst of surrendering to the vulnerable space of partnership, the mystery of one’s body, and the lurking sense that maybe this isn’t meant for me.

We talk about struggling with depression and suicidal ideations as a teenager, turning dark energy into a big energetic ball of human and creative potential, debunking the myth of needing to be fully healed to be worthy of a fulfilling and freeing partnership, and the beauty and bravery of gifting ourselves the possibility of love and more connection especially when we’re not a finished masterpiece.

To connect with,

Frieda Hoffman:

Website: http://friedahoffman.com
Book: https://www.friedahoffman.com/book
Amazon: Carry Me: Stories of Pregnancy Loss 
Coaching: https://www.friedahoffman.com/coaching
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/friedahoffmanwrites

Chelsea Leigh Trescott:

Website: https://breakupward.com
Advice Column: https://www.huffpost.com
Writing: https://thoughtcatalog.com/chelsea-leigh-trescott
Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreak
Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/musings
Email: chelsea@breakupward.com

International Mentor, Consultant, Depth Therapist, Writer, & the Founder of Promethean Men's Groups, an epicenter of continual development for men to rise out of confusion and Live Their Own Myth, Jordan Seth Kozey, joins Chelsea 14:00 minutes in for a poignant and mutually confronting conversation on the formidable experience of crying, of honoring one's life by not holding on to grief in total defeat, removing the obstacles of love and learning to bathe in the blessing of being loved, saying yes to the pain and no sooner and more efficiently in dating, the exhausting leak of compassion fatigue, over-identifying with roles, overextending ourselves with care and the frantic need to be somebody, and surrendering to the flow of life as well as the earnest and urgent voice that yearns to step away from doing it all in order to be a beautiful nobody for awhile.

To connect with,

Jordan Seth Kozey:

Website: http://jordanseth.net
Mentorship: http://jordanseth.net/mentorship
Promethean Men's Group: https://prometheanmensgroups.com
Jordan's Article Discussed Within The Episode: What Happens When A Man Can't Cry

Chelsea Leigh Trescott:

Website: https://breakupward.com
Advice Column: https://www.huffpost.com
Writing: https://thoughtcatalog.com/chelsea-leigh-trescott
Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreak
Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/musings
Email: chelsea@breakupward.com

Three-time guest Paul Ronto (ep. 172 & 191) joins Chelsea 12:15 minutes in to talk about the journey toward his most daring and earnest adventure yet, starting his company Type3Life, a facilitated curriculum designed to teach men to live a Type3Life through wilderness adventure trips targeting motivation, self-growth, leadership skills, confidence, community, and a way to get past what’s holding them back. 
With radical introspection and his classic dose of charisma and candor, Paul dives heart first into how he confronted the darkness and division within through couples therapy and a life altering diagnosis of Traumatic Brain Injury, freed himself from the ethereal feeling of not yet arriving with the help of the Paterson Center's 2 day intensive LifePlan, and pivoted 180 degrees within a year starting with outsourcing the overwhelm and the motto Just Say No. The short of it is, there’s no such thing as hoping to get better. You have to actively go do something to treat yourself and trust the people around you to help you—all of which requires talking about what’s troubling you.
We talk about All Of It. Following your passions is all about timing (15:00). Learning to be resourceful dumpster diving and living on $100/week (17:00—23:00). Dating with financial insecurity (28:45).  Marrying, spreadsheets, and budgeting every cent. Wealth, not measured by millions, but by free time. Intentional dating can be valuable without being expensive (31:00). To wear a ring or not to wear a ring (43:30). Therapy, treatment, and transcendence. CTE, TBI, and Lexapro (40:00—1:01:00). Breaking down men’s mental barriers. First comes the physical challenge, then comes the bonding. The beer after the mountain bike ride. The car ride home after a hard day skiing. When you’re happy where you are, giving yourself permission to coast. Letting the air out. Real winners celebrate small wins. Fun, freedom, and fearing less. Revamping your inner dialogue. The limiting beliefs within suicidal thoughts (1:07:00). Dropping the bright light to let the human side rush in. The relief in being relatable. When someone asks how you are, tell them (1:09:00). Tricking wives into believing you're never not winning (1:17:30). The journey is the goal (1:36:00). What it means to Breakupward (1:43:00) and live a Type3Life of fun (1:45:00).
To connect with,

Paul Ronto and Type3Life:

Website: https://type3life.com
Trips: https://type3life.com/trips
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/type3life
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/type3life
Twitter: https://twitter.com/type3life

Chelsea Leigh Trescott:

Website: https://breakupward.com
Advice Column: https://www.huffpost.com
Writing: https://thoughtcatalog.com/chelsea-leigh-trescott
Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreak
Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/musings
Email: chelsea@breakupward.com

When Laura Whitfield was fourteen, her extraordinary brother, Lawrence, was killed in a mountain climbing accident. That night she had an epiphany: Life is short. Dream big, even if it means taking risks. So, after graduating from high school, she set out on her own, prepared to do just that.

Laura's stirring memoir, Untethered: Faith, Failure, and Finding Solid Ground, is about a young woman’s seeking nature and the quest to fill the void left by her brother’s death through complicated relationships, the demanding nature of New York City,  the chance to become a cover girl, returning to college, and more. Untethered is Laura’s story of overcoming shame, embracing faith, and learning that taking risks—and failing—can lead to a bigger life than you've ever dared to imagine.
Topics discussed within this episode: the self-sabotaging nature of self-criticism, the failure to launch, healing from comparison and perfectionism, extending yourself forgiveness and grace, disordered eating, being the other woman, nourishing the mind through self-care, the writer's life, learning to accept the skin you're in, the adventure of building a resume and coming both back to yourself and into yourself, and creating a life worth telling.

Laura Whitfield:

Website: https://laurawhitfield.com
Blog: https://laurawhitfield.com/blog
Untethered: Faith, Failure, and Finding Solid Ground via Amazon
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/laurawhitfieldwriter
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/laurawwriter

Chelsea Leigh Trescott:

Website: https://breakupward.com
Advice Column: https://www.huffpost.com
Writing: https://thoughtcatalog.com/chelsea-leigh-trescott
Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreak
Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/musings
Email: chelsea@breakupward.com

British-born empath, fear buster, and internationally acclaimed life advisor Suzannah Galland joins Chelsea 7:00 minutes in to talk about counteracting fear and tapping into your inner knowing and divine intelligence in moments when you feel deprived of certainty and connection. She shares insight on having the courage to opt out, why rejection leaves us helpless and recovery is so brutal, and offers post-heartbreak guidance in cultivating faith that something greater is coming versus self-criticism that something is wrong with us.

Suzannah Galland:

Website: https://suzannahgalland.com
Blog: https://suzannahgalland.com/blog
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/suzannahgalland
Twitter: https://twitter.com/suzannahgalland
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/suzannah.galland

Chelsea Leigh Trescott:

Website: https://breakupward.com
Advice Column: https://www.huffpost.com
Writing: https://thoughtcatalog.com/chelsea-leigh-trescott
Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreak
Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/musings
Email: chelsea@breakupward.com