The 5-Minute Youth Ministry Coach

Jay Holland
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The 5-Minute Youth Ministry Coach is a practical training and encouragement podcast for student ministry volunteers serving in the local church. Whether you're brand new or a seasoned leader, each short episode is designed to help you grow in confidence, skill, and spiritual impact. Originally developed by Pastor Jay Holland at Covenant Fellowship Baptist Church in Stuart, Florida, this resource is created with the broader church in mind. We recommend beginning with the first ten core episodes as foundational training for anyone stepping into youth ministry. Then continue with our weekly 5-minute episodes to sharpen your leadership and stay encouraged. Episodes are available in podcast, blog, and video form at youthministry.coach and on YouTube.

  1. Ep. 20: What to Do When You Don't Know the Answer

    OCT 19

    Ep. 20: What to Do When You Don't Know the Answer

    Welcome back to the 5 Minute Youth Ministry Coach — equipping you to lead students with wisdom, humility, and gospel-centered confidence.   In this episode, What to Do When You Don't Know the Answer, we talk about a moment every small group leader will face: when a student asks a question you can't answer. Whether it's a tricky Bible passage, a deep theological tension, or a personal "why" question, you don't need to panic — you just need to respond with humility and grace. First, admit when you don't know. Honesty builds credibility and models authenticity. Second, discern what's behind the question — sometimes curiosity hides confusion or pain, and students need empathy more than explanations. Third, model how to search for answers together by turning to Scripture, mentors, or trusted resources. And finally, always point back to the character of God — His love, goodness, and faithfulness never change, even when we don't have all the answers.   Volunteer Takeaways: It's okay to say, "I don't know." Humility builds trust. Listen for what's behind the question — curiosity or pain. Use hard questions as opportunities to model how to seek truth. Always point students back to who God is, not just what we don't understand. You don't have to have every answer to be an effective leader — you just need to point students to the One who does.

    7 min
  2. Ep. 19: When Your Group Doesn't Talk

    OCT 18

    Ep. 19: When Your Group Doesn't Talk

    Welcome back to the 5 Minute Youth Ministry Coach — helping you lead students with wisdom, patience, and purpose.   In this episode, When Your Group Doesn't Talk, we tackle one of the most common frustrations in small group leadership: silence. Whether your group has always been quiet or your usually chatty crew suddenly goes flat, don't panic — it's normal. Quiet doesn't mean failure or apathy; it often means students are still learning to trust the space. Start by asking better, open-ended questions that invite reflection instead of yes/no answers. Then, embrace silence — wait a few extra seconds after asking a question and let students process. Lower the bar for participation with simple, low-pressure prompts like scales or pair-sharing, and affirm every attempt students make to engage. Finally, if your group goes unexpectedly quiet, pause and check in — sometimes the Spirit is leading you to address something deeper. Healthy groups grow over time when leaders stay patient, curious, and consistent.   Volunteer Takeaways: Silence doesn't mean failure — it's often part of growth. Use open-ended questions and wait for responses. Lower participation pressure and affirm every effort to share. Stay flexible — sometimes the best conversations aren't scripted. A quiet group doesn't need a louder leader — it needs a patient one. When you create safety and space, even the most reserved students will eventually open up and grow in their faith.

    7 min
  3. Ep. 18: Following Up After Group

    OCT 17

    Ep. 18: Following Up After Group

    Welcome back to the 5 Minute Youth Ministry Coach — equipping you to lead students with wisdom, intentionality, and heart.   In this episode, Following Up After Group, we're talking about one of the most overlooked parts of discipleship: what happens after the small group ends. Some of your most meaningful ministry moments will happen between meetings — when you check in, pray, or follow up with a student. First, remember that group time is just the start, not the finish. Growth happens when relationships continue throughout the week. Second, track what matters — prayer requests, life events, and spiritual questions — so you can follow up intentionally and personally. Third, close the loop by checking in about what students share and letting parents know when you see growth. And finally, use a variety of follow-up methods — from texts and notes to coffee meetups — to keep connection alive. Small, intentional touches build trust and show students that discipleship is personal, not programmatic.   Volunteer Takeaways: Group time plants seeds — follow-up helps them grow. Keep notes so you can pray and connect intentionally. Follow up with both students and parents to strengthen relationships. Use simple gestures — a text, a note, a call — to show consistent care. When students realize your care extends beyond the group circle, they feel seen, valued, and known — and that's where real discipleship begins.

    7 min
  4. Ep. 17: Building Community

    SEP 29

    Ep. 17: Building Community

    Welcome back to the 5 Minute Youth Ministry Coach — helping you lead students with wisdom, intentionality, and heart.   In this episode, Building Community, we focus on one of the most important goals of small groups: helping students feel like they belong. Students don't stay for a Bible study outline — they stay because of relationships. First, make sure everyone is known by regularly learning names, sharing basic details, and spotlighting individual students. Second, create consistent relational rhythms like weekly check-ins, birthday celebrations, or answered prayer updates that turn your group into a safe, familiar tribe. Third, go beyond group time — show up for students in their everyday lives, host casual hangouts, and encourage peers to reach out when someone misses. True discipleship flourishes when students feel seen, supported, and connected.   Volunteer Takeaways: Every student should feel known and remembered by name and story. Consistent relational rhythms build trust and safety. Community grows deeper when leaders and students show up outside group time.   When your group feels like family, students don't just attend — they belong, and that's where lasting discipleship takes root.

    7 min
  5. Ep. 16: Redirecting an Inappropriate Conversation

    SEP 22

    Ep. 16: Redirecting an Inappropriate Conversation

    Welcome back to the 5 Minute Youth Ministry Coach — giving you short, practical tools to help you lead students with wisdom and grace.   In this episode, Redirecting an Inappropriate Conversation, we look at what to do when group discussions go off the rails. Inappropriate doesn't always mean vulgar. It could be gossip, oversharing, or distractions that take away from discipleship.   As a youth leader, your job isn't to panic or shut students down but to respond with wisdom. First, recognize what actually counts as inappropriate and why it matters. Second, match your response to the moment. Sometimes a gentle redirect works, other times you'll need to set a clear boundary or follow up privately. Finally, shepherd the conversation with grace, guiding students toward what builds up the group and honors God. Leadership in these moments isn't about control — it's about protecting students and cultivating a safe, Christ-centered space.   Volunteer Takeaways: Not every off-topic moment is a crisis — but don't ignore harmful talk. Match your response to the situation with redirection, boundaries, or follow-up. Shepherd conversations with grace, protecting both truth and relationships. Healthy groups aren't free of awkward or inappropriate moments — but wise leaders know how to guide them back to what's good and godly.

    7 min
  6. Ep. 15: Coaxing the Quiet Kid

    SEP 15

    Ep. 15: Coaxing the Quiet Kid

    Welcome back to the 5 Minute Youth Ministry Coach: helping you lead students with wisdom, empathy, and gospel-centered confidence.   In this episode, Coaxing the Quiet Kid, we look at one of the most common challenges small group leaders face: how to engage students who rarely speak. Quietness isn't a flaw. It's a clue. Some students are shy, anxious, or processing privately, while others may simply not feel ready to share. As leaders, our role is not to force them to talk but to create safe, welcoming environments where they want to. First, focus on safety, not the spotlight. Connect one-on-one and let them know their voice matters. Second, offer lower-risk ways to participate, like pair-sharing, hand-raising, or advance notice of questions. Finally, celebrate progress, not performance. Even small steps of engagement matter. By leading with curiosity and compassion, you create space for quiet students to grow at their own pace.   Volunteer Takeaways: Quietness isn't disinterest — it's an invitation to curiosity. Create safe spaces that reduce pressure, not spotlight it. Encourage low-risk participation and celebrate growth, not volume. When you move toward the quiet kid with patience and empathy, you help them know they're seen, valued, and safe in your group.

    7 min
  7. Ep. 14: Managing the Dominant Talker

    SEP 8

    Ep. 14: Managing the Dominant Talker

    Welcome back to the 5 Minute Youth Ministry Coach — giving you weekly tools to lead students with wisdom and confidence.   In this episode, Managing the Dominant Talker, we tackle a common small group challenge: the student who talks too much. Instead of shutting them down, wise leaders affirm their energy and then gently redirect the conversation so others can share. Setting clear group norms early on helps everyone understand expectations and makes redirection feel natural, not personal. Finally, using structure — like going around the circle, assigning a student to ask questions, or using a simple "talking object" — helps balance voices and ensures space for every student. Leading a group well isn't about silencing strong personalities but shepherding the discussion so all students can process and grow together.   Volunteer Takeaways: Affirm participation, but guide it with gentle redirection. Establish group norms early so expectations are clear. Use structure to create balanced conversations and equal voices.   Managing dominant talkers with grace allows you to protect the group's purpose and help every student find their voice.

    7 min
  8. Ep. 13: Asking Great Questions

    SEP 1

    Ep. 13: Asking Great Questions

    Welcome back to the 5 Minute Youth Ministry Coach: equipping youth leaders to lead with purpose, confidence, and clarity.   In this episode, Asking Great Questions, we unpack one of the most important skills for small group leaders: how to ask the kind of questions that spark meaningful conversation. First, open-ended questions invite students to think for themselves and process truth, rather than giving quick "yes," "no," or "Jesus" answers. Second, clarity beats complexity. Great questions don't have to be deep or wordy, they just need to be clear enough to guide students from facts to feelings, implications, and application. Finally, good leaders listen like shepherds, paying attention to both what's said and who's speaking, following up with care and drawing quieter voices into the discussion. Asking great questions doesn't mean you need all the answers. It means creating space for students to discover truth for themselves.   Volunteer Takeaways: Use open-ended questions to help students process and reflect. Aim for clarity, not complexity, when guiding conversations. Listen like a shepherd — noticing both the content and the people in the room. When you prepare for group, bring questions that fit your students, and let curiosity lead to transformation.

    7 min
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The 5-Minute Youth Ministry Coach is a practical training and encouragement podcast for student ministry volunteers serving in the local church. Whether you're brand new or a seasoned leader, each short episode is designed to help you grow in confidence, skill, and spiritual impact. Originally developed by Pastor Jay Holland at Covenant Fellowship Baptist Church in Stuart, Florida, this resource is created with the broader church in mind. We recommend beginning with the first ten core episodes as foundational training for anyone stepping into youth ministry. Then continue with our weekly 5-minute episodes to sharpen your leadership and stay encouraged. Episodes are available in podcast, blog, and video form at youthministry.coach and on YouTube.

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