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Ep #105: Helping kids who struggle with correction
Most children don't like being corrected. For some children, that correction can be difficult and paralyzing. Children who struggle more than normal with being corrected may be suffering from Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria.
Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria means that they don't handle rejection well and get very upset if someone criticizes them, often to the point of focusing only on the criticism. For example, you could give a hundred positives about something they did well, but all they will remember is the one small criticism in a 100 positives.
Children with ADHD tend to be more prone to Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria and can believe they are a problem instead of having a problem.
Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria is real and can cause difficulties in relationships, school, and jobs. They tend to blame themselves, focus on the negative, or have trouble believing any praise given to them.
Correcting Behaviors' goal is to help them see that the correction doesn't mean they are a terrible person as the Teaching-Family Model skills are relationship-focused.
By being faithful to the steps, your child can see and understand that correction doesn't happen willy-nilly, but rather you are on their side to help them learn. It also helps them to realize that you are not here to punish them.
Correcting Behaviors can be incredible in helping your child deal with their Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria.
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Ep #104: Investing in your child and your relationship
As parents, we have limited time to invest in our children. We can, though, make our investment count--even with limited time. How? By focusing our energy and efforts on the areas that will create the most return by using Effective Praise.
Effective Praise helps you focus on what your children are doing well, no matter how small, and letting them know what you saw.
Using the skill of Effective Praise builds your relationship in multiple ways.
It signals to your child that they matter. When children feel like they are valued, they are more likely to respond positively to correction.
It focuses on the positive instead of the negative. Where we focus our energy is what will grow. The more positive interactions we have with our children now, the more positive interactions we will have with them in the future.
It helps your child understand what is expected of them. By pointing out the positive, you are encouraging them to repeat that behavior in the future.
It strengthens your relationship. Your child will trust, respect, and love you because they will understand that you are there to help them grow and be successful and they will not want to disappoint you.
Effective Praise doesn’t require huge effort or time, but we promise the return will be incredible.
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Ep #103: Creating a foundation for success with Following Instructions
Following Instructions builds the foundation for a successful life.
Following Instructions reduces frustration, arguing, and talking back. It keeps kids focused on what is expected of them while preparing them for the future.
Following Instructions helps parents build and repair the relationships with their child.
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Ep #102: Helping kids stay focused and on task
Under the best of circumstances, children can have a hard time staying focused and staying on task. What kids--and families--are experiencing during this time is not normal.
Having to frequently check-up on your child and correct their behavior can exacerbate the pressure you're under. When parents feel overwhelmed, it can be easy to respond in ways that we can make the problems worse, so it's important to learn Correcting Behaviors' skill.
The way we correct our child can either damage or strengthen our relationship with them. Because of this, it's essential to be strategic in how we address problems.
When a correction is given with love and trust, your child will grow up feeling that way. If corrections are given from a place of anger or frustration, your child will grow up feeling that they are the problem instead of believing they have a problem that needs to be solved.
If you are struggling with addressing certain behaviors, we recommend creating a script of what you will do or say. Having a script allows you to stay focused on what needs to happen and not get distracted.
If you are struggling with helping your child during the pandemic, this is the podcast for you!
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Ep #101: Teaching your kid to function without you
As parents, we want to teach our children to function without us. We want them to know what to do in any situation. We want them to be able to be an advocate for themselves. We want them to be successful at school, work, and in their relationships.
If we want our children to know what to do when we are not around. We have to Role-play it, and then Role-play it repeatedly until they are comfortable and know how to do it. Without practice, it is hard for children to remember what they are supposed to do as our brains only remember so much information at a time. It’s the practicing that makes something real to a child, not the words we tell them.
Role-playing is an often underutilized skill, but it is one of the most important ones in preparing our kids for the future. You can Role-play with both young children and teenagers. You can Role-play any situation, from making friends, knowing how to interview for a job, or what to do when someone is mean.
Role-playing doesn’t require any fancy equipment; it just requires us to be consistent.
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Ep #100: How to give consequences that work
Welcome to episode 100! We are so grateful for all of you and look forward to the next 100 episodes!
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Giving consequences that work can be tricky. Frequently when giving a consequence, parents tend to go to the extreme, which leaves parents nowhere to go if it doesn't work.
A consequence aims to teach our child. Consequences are not punishments. When giving a consequence, parents should ask themselves, "What is the least amount of consequence to get my child to stop the negative behavior?"
Consequences must meet the five components of Effective Negative Consequences.
First, the consequence needs to be immediate and should happen as soon as possible after the negative behavior.
Second, it needs to match the inappropriate behavior.
Third, you need to be able to follow through with consequences every time the negative behavior happens.
Fourth, you shouldn't give the same consequence for all negative behavior.
Fifth, the consequence should mean something to your child. If the consequence doesn't mean something to your child, they have no motivation to stop their negative behavior.
Learn about Effective Negative Consequences on SmarterParenting.com
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Informative and productive advice
Due to Covid shutdowns, I’ve had the chance to homeschool my 5-year-old, and now strongly suspect he has attention and anger-management problems. I implemented the advice on this show, and it helped a little. It’s helped me be more understanding and patient with my kid, even if his behavior hasn’t changed. The host has a nice, calm tone
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Time out ? An outdated practise
Agreeing a time out for children who are struggling with anything in the class room gives the wrong message to everyone. The classroom believes that anyone who is struggling should be excluded until they are capable of finding and applying the tools before they are accepted back to the group. No empathy or help finding or applying these tools. Is it any wonder that people with any form of mental illness feel isolated and desperate. We teach kids from a young age that exclusion is an acceptable way for society to behave. Very sad that these methods are still being taught and used.