Betsy is a Trainer of NLP, author, and speaker. The Art of Living Big is a weekly podcast designed to help you think differently about what could be possible for your life, using brain science and the flow of spirit.
268: Closing Doors to Open Doors
Today Betsy talks about releasing smaller things to call in bigger things.
Hi, welcome to the show. If you’re new here, thanks for listening. I know there’s a lot of shows out there. And the last few shows I have not done like an introduction. Like I took the introduction out. I just wanted to dive in. Every time I just wanted to dive in. And I realized when I would listen to other podcasts, I would like Fast Forward past that part. But maybe the first time you listen, it’s important. I don’t know. Hi, I’m Betsy. I’m Betsy Pake. I’m a trainer of NLP and hypnotherapy. I’m a speaker. And most of all, I think I’m an ocean lover and a deep thinker. And I come on here. And I share some of my deep thoughts in hopes that it helps you expand what you think could be possible for your life. So I wasn’t here last week, I’ve missed a couple and I’m going through it, I’m going through it right now. There’s a lot happening and a lot happening that that I’m not going to share on today’s show, because I like to share it once I have the proper perspective on it. But there are pieces, there are pieces of lessons in it. And you know, I always share stories, because I think that our stories are all so similar. And I know this because when I share a story, I get messages from people that go oh my gosh, that. That’s me like that’s it, you know, that’s how that’s helpful for me to see it that way. And so today, I wanted to come in and talk today’s episode, I think will be called fat caterpillars. So I sent out a text this morning. If you’re not on my tax list, it’s free. If you want to text me if you’re in the United States, you can text me, the number is 770-343-3409. Here’s the thing, if you text the word, Oracle, on October 15, we’re going to pick somebody we’re going to do like a roulette wheel. So what it’s called the roulette wheel, like where you spin the Wheel of all the people that have texted the word Oracle and gotten on the text list to win my Oracle cards. So I created these expansion Oracle cards, this isn’t meant to be an ad, I just want to tell you that I have been texting for like a little over a year, I think. Anyway, in all of that. The texts that I sent, we made some really beautiful Oracle cards, there’s this artist that did this, like amazing ocean theme, beautiful, beautiful cards, you can see them on my website, but we’re gonna give some away, if you’re already on my text list, it doesn’t matter, just text me the word Oracle, and it will put you in the like, in the dumper for this for this wheel spinning the roulette wheel, or whatever you call it. So all of that to say, this morning, I sent out a text. And the text said to do bigger things. Sometimes we need to let go of smaller things. Really saying and molting and moving forward. Don’t miss the opening of something new. Because you have so much fear around the closing. I think that a lot of times we make decisions. I know for me, I make decisions based on fear of something that’s going to happen way out in the future or something that could happen or something that is unknown, instead of making a decision for what’s right now. And what we want and how we want to feel, I think. And I know for me that we will go through a lot, we will suffer a lot in the known because the fear of suffering in the unknown seems bigger somehow. So even if where we are isn’t good, we will stay there because it’s known. We’ll stay there because at least we know what we’re dealing with. You know, we’ll stay there because at least I know how to deal with this from a day to day basis. At least I know it’s not gonna at least I know it’s not ...
267: Keeping your eye on the prize
Today Betsy talks about keeping your focus even when it appears from the outside that everything is falling apart and inspires you to believe that if your dream is still alive, it can still come true.
Hello, today’s episode is called eye on the prize, how shifting your focus changes how you experience your environment. It’s really interesting because I have been sitting here for an hour, like sitting here for an hour, staring at the screen. Starting stopping, erasing, starting stopping erasing starting stuff we read, I think, maybe five times. Then I went and got an English muffin, got a Red Bull. And then I came back and I stared some more. And then I got on Instagram, you know what I’m talking about, you know, those days, right. But when I was journaling this morning, that was the title I on the prize, which I find hilarious, since I could not get my eye on the prize, which was actually recording this podcast, you know, usually what I do, is I get like an idea. And then I come in here, and then I start recording, and then I just shut my eyes. And then I just talk. And today is like really interesting day is a day of completion in a lot of ways. So today, my daughter is moving into the dorms at scad. I know and maybe you’ve been through that, or maybe you’re looking forward to that. Or maybe you’ve seen a lot of friends that are moving their kids into the dorms at whatever school they’re going to and I have to tell you that that it feels it feels so I’m gonna pause for a second. Unbelievable. It feels unbelievable. And here’s, here’s what I’m going to talk about. So you know, if you listen to I think was Episode 253, my daughter was on. So you may have heard her story, she wanted to come on and tell her story. She suffered with extreme anxiety and depression all through high school, junior high, it started high school, to the point where she couldn’t attend school. And we did a lot of things, you can listen to that episode and hear more about it. But ever since she was a little kid, like little kids, she loved to draw. And she was amazing. I remember like seven or eight years old, she would draw stuff and I would hang it in my office like in my cube when I worked. And people would ask me, oh, did your daughter color that. And I was like, it’s not a coloring page. She drew it. And then she colored it. And they would be like, what? And then like she was seven years old, you know, like little her whole life. She wanted to go to scad scad is the Savannah College of Art and Design. And we live in Atlanta. There’s an Atlanta campus, there’s a Savannah campus, and there is a campus in Paris. There used to be a campus in Hong Kong, but I think that one has closed. So her whole life, that’s what she wanted. And then when she got sick, you know, I felt like that dream. I mean, she had no dreams, you know, everything fell to the side and all the things that had been important to her no longer work during that period of time. And she stopped drawing. I remember that was one of the things that made me feel the most sad. She used to draw, and then she would think they weren’t good enough. And so she would crumple them up and put them in the garbage. And I used to put it on Facebook that they were like, garbage art. The garbage art was amazing. It’s incredible. I still have a lot of it. But people would be like,
Oh my god, she threw that in the garbage.
But she was always wanting to learn and get better and so nothing else seemed good enough. I remember at Christmas time it was like she would get so many gift cards to Blix, which is on the Savannah campus. It’s like amazing art store like with I mean it’s huge, you know,
266: When there’s a lot of life happening
In this episode, Betsy talks about when there is a lot happening in life all at once and 4 things you can do to help shift your experience of it.
welcome to today’s show. Today’s show is titled, there’s a lot of life happening.
there is a lot of life happening. You know, it’s funny. years ago, I remember I don’t know why I remember this, you know how sometimes you have like, weird memories where you’re like, I remember that so clearly. And it meant nothing. But I was driving with my daughter. And I was telling her about something that had happened at work. And she was young enough where she was like, Oh, no. And I said, Oh, no, it’s fine. It’s just life happening. And I remember that was like, one of the first times I started saying that, it’s just life happening. And here’s really what I mean by that. And you might just know what I mean by that. But sometimes, it’s not some big, terrible thing that’s happened. It’s just life. You know, it’s just like, the ups and downs of life that are happening. And sometimes it feels like there’s a lot of life happening, like just a lot of ups and downs, and ups and downs. And, like, sometimes it, it can be a little dizzy in. And the thing is, because it’s not some huge thing, although I do have one huge thing that happened, I’ll tell you. But because it’s a bunch of little things, it’s not like a big enough thing where you can say, like, I got to check out for a minute, because I have all these little things happening, like just doesn’t make sense. You know, sometimes I think when big things happen, it gives you a chance to like, pause, you know, pause your life for just a minute, even though you have to focus on the big thing that’s happening, it does give you a chance to like, catch your breath, and all the other places.
But when you just have a lot of life happening, it’s just a lot of life happening. It’s decisions and changes and new things and good things and bad things and uneasy things all happening all at one time. And that’s how I feel like the last couple of weeks have been. And in the end, it’s really, really, really good. You know, I’ve said this so many times before, but I know that we have come here to have this physical experience in order to have the ups and downs that I think we come here to have life happening. And then when life happens, we’re like,
oh my god, I
need a map and a massage. So there’s been a lot of life happening. And so I want to share with you a couple things that I do when life’s happening. I will say, over the last couple of weeks, it’s been a little bit hectic. So life has been happening. But in the middle of all that I did have something big happen. And last week, I didn’t have the show. If you’re on my email list, then you got my email about that we had a family emergency last Monday, my in laws were in a really bad car accident. And we immediately you know, dropped everything and, and drove to North Carolina it’s about 10 hours from where we live, to be with them. And to you know, to be with my mother in law was in the hospital for a little over a week, she had several surgeries, and my father in law came home. But you know, we went to the emergency room in the middle of the night one night, like there’s just a lot of things that were happening,
my husband is still there. In fact, I have been home since Saturday,
265: Reflection, vision, and waffle fries
Today Betsy shares some lessons from her solo trip to AZ.
Hey, and welcome to today’s show. This episode is called reflection, vision and waffle fries. Okay, I just got back from my solo trip to Scottsdale, Arizona. If you listen to last week’s episode, I had planned a trip to take iosa. The trip in 10 changed. And I decided to go on a solo trip. So I was there for four days I left on Thursday came home on Sunday night late late. And it was an amazing trip. It was exactly what I needed. Have you ever had those things where you’re like, we’re like, this isn’t turning out the way that I wanted it to. And then at the end, you’re like, Whoa, that turned out better than I thought it would. So it was a really, really interesting trip, I want to tell you about it. I want to tell you about a few of the things that I became aware of that, maybe it would be helpful for you to become aware of to. So reflection vision and waffle fries. So let’s just start let’s just dive right in.
I had the intention of going and doing high wasco didn’t work out that way. And so before I left, I sat with myself and I asked like, what, what did I think I was going to get from that? What was it that I needed? From the iOS? SCA? What was it that what was the shifts that I was hoping for? What was the the insight that I wanted? Like how did I want to change who did I want to be when it was over. And by spending some time and really diving into what it was I really thought I realized that a lot of the things now, I will say if I did iOS get probably I would have gotten experiences and things and insights that I did not expect, right. But the things that I wrote down that I really wanted, I realized were things that I could get to on my own, you know, it was a level of clarity that I could actually reach on my own, I have a lot of tools, I can sit with myself, I can sit for extended periods of time with myself. And I can really get clear and there were a lot of things that are have been happening in my life that I didn’t really like. And I needed to to make some changes and to see things in a different way and to get clarity on what it was I really wanted. And so when I got there, I actually stayed in the way the resort if you’ve if you’ve ever heard I stayed at the Venetian if you’ve never ever been there, it’s very cool. They have like a big huge hotel, they have like these four pools that are all different levels with like beautiful cabanas, and it’s it’s really beautiful. There’s a huge golf course there and there’s lots of different restaurants. And then they also have a humungous spa that I think people come from all over, just go to the spa. And then they have like these little bungalow houses around the property. And that’s where I stayed. So I had my own outdoor little patio area and you know, room and a bathroom had a huge soaking tub. So I was able to like relax and take a bath and all of that felt really fun. So, so the the experience in itself was really beautiful. I joked inside the alchemy collective I was talking to people and I was like they calling me Mrs. Pake, which made me laugh, right. And so just a really unique experience. And so I had a lot of time to relax and to sit. And so reflection is really the main theme of the four days. And I know that, you know, I feel really lucky that I was able to go away and have a solo trip, right four days away is a real privilege. I didn’t get to go last year because the COVID the year before I went to the beach, and I did an episode on that. It was Episode 155. It was called lessons from the beach. And so being able to so I understand the value and I’ve experienced...
264: My journey of ayahuasca (and why I didn’t take it)
In todays episode Betsy shares a personal story about a very personal decision she recently made while on the path for her spiritual expansion. Listen with an open heart, as always, take what serves you and leave the rest.
Welcome to The Art of Living big. I’m your host, Betsy Pake. I’m an author, a speaker, a master coach, and trainer of NLP and hypnotherapy. And I help people create lives they’re excited about over the next 30 minutes, I hope to help you redefine what could be possible for your life. Now, let’s go live big. Hi, hello. Hi, Hello fellow adventurers. Welcome to today’s show. So today is going to be one of those episodes where we just pretend that we’re friends that met up at Starbucks. And I’m going to tell you a story. It’s a different story than I thought I was going to tell. It’s, it’s, there’s still so much energy around it, I’m going to, but I also, okay, let me say it this way. So I want to tell you a story. We’re meeting up at Starbucks, I want to tell you a story. It’s so fresh, but I wanted to tell it because I know that the more that I think about it and examine it, the more that it may change, you know, as you examine things and time goes by, things start to morph and change. And I wanted it to be as close and as authentic as I could possibly get it. So I was going to do this episode anyway, about why I wanted to do Iosco, and if you don’t know what that is, I’ll explain in just a minute. And then I was going to do a second episode after I did the iOS guy. And then I was going to share them both after I returned so that I was sure that I wanted to share everything, you know, I’m gonna share it, I’ve been doing this show for almost five years. And so when I’m going through my life, I always am paying attention. I like to think that I’m always paying attention and, and, and getting lessons from like, the ordinary things. And those are the kinds of things I think are really good to share. And so in some ways, I think I’ve trained myself to see the world in through a filter of, like, how could this help other people? or How could I best share this. And I also think that that’s just sort of who I am. That I’ve always been like that. And I always I always have tried to connect with people by opening. And in doing so. I think I’ve always hoped it would help them open up to so this episode’s a little different maybe for me, because it sounds um maybe there’s a lesson in here for you. And maybe there isn’t, maybe it’s just gonna be like a really interesting story. Maybe it will help you expand what you think reality really is. Maybe that’s it. So if you’ve never heard of I Alaska, I’m not gonna do a whole lesson on Iosco, you can google but I’ll give you the basic rundown. And maybe that’s like, maybe that is also my lack of fully understanding. And the the depth of my understanding was okay for me. But I’m not totally sure I could explain exactly, all the pieces. I’ve watched a million documentaries, I’ve watched a million YouTube videos, I’ve gone down every rabbit hole, about iosa. So I Alaska is plant medicine. It is a psychedelic and it is done in a traditional ceremony, typically, in the jungle. And it comes from a vine to vines that they brew together to make like a tea. And you drink the tea. And it allows you to expand your consciousness and heal things that need to be healed and release things that need to be released. It is done not as a recreational journey. But it is done as an ascension. You know, it’s done as a way to expand your consciousness and change how you see the world. It allows you to heal things that maybe you’ve tried to ...
263: Meeting the world where it’s at: Deep streaming episode
Today Betsy reads from her deep streaming to share a message about the world, coming back to yourself and upleveling your vibration to a higher place.
Welcome to The Art of Living big. I’m your host, Betsy Pake. I’m an author, a speaker, a master coach and trainer of NLP and hypnotherapy. And I help people create lives. They’re excited about over the next 30 minutes, I hope to help you redefine what could be possible for your life. Now, let’s go live big. Hello fellow adventurers. Welcome to today’s show. So I was sitting this morning, drinking my coffee, doing my deep streaming, just listening, you know, for messages and things I needed to hear. And I actually asked like, what am I doing the show on? I had written down so many notes over the last week of like ideas or things I could talk about. I mean, there’s a million things right that we can talk about. And sometimes like that, when I look at that list, I feel like super uninspired. You know, I was inspired at the moment that I wrote it down. And so I just asked, and so I’m going to talk about what came up when I asked. Yeah, so I’m going to kind of read to you what I got, and then I’m going to explain it the best that I can explain it. I think that might be the way to do it. All right. Before we get going, this podcast is sponsored by the alchemy, collective membership. If you haven’t looked at our membership, go to my website Betsy Pake comm slash alchemy collective. So the alchemy collective is my monthly membership where we have NLP coaching, breathwork classes, success coaching, emotion code, Body Code work, it is a combination of science and spirit and communities. So if you’re into that, check out, check out the collective and become part of it. It’s the best people ever. It’s really awesome. It’s really an awesome container for growth. So anyway, that that is my sponsorship for this episode. Okay. Alright, so here’s what I asked, and here’s what I got. asked, What do I need to talk about on the show today? And I’m going to go, it’s long what I got, but I’m going to just go through each piece. Okay. So talk about the desire to meet the world where it’s at, that, you know, you can’t change everything, but you can change you. And that is what is most important. You know, there’s a lot going on in the world. And I know sometimes for me, when I look out on it, it feels really heavy and, and sort of awful. I saw something recently online where someone was like, is this hell? Like? Are we in the, in the hell with everything happening? You know, there’s feels like so much chaos to me, when I look at things online later, so much division. And I feel like that division started. Well, it’s been happening forever that division, but it feels like it really started heating up. You know, we’ll probably with the presidential election, but even more so with COVID. And there’s the one side and the other side and, and like people just not coming together. And I know sometimes for me, I think like, how do I breathe in that? Like how do I? How do I so many of the choices and decisions are not clear cut, things aren’t just right or wrong black and white, you know, there is gray area in all of the things that we are debating these days. And when there is that gray area, it can be harder to articulate why you feel the way you do. And so much of the work that I do, is talking about the unconscious mind. And our unconscious mind is what holds our values. And our beliefs. And these values are deep seated. They are formed and created when we were very young, and they’re adapted from people that we respected and cared about. And we may not even be aware of them. In fact,
Thank you Emily Aarons for introducing me to Betsy! Listening to Betsy is like listening to a friend. I’ve been binging old episodes and wishing I had found Betsy a year ago- but all in divine timing right?! Can’t wait to get the oracle cards ❤️
Wonderful mindfulness show!
This show is like an old friend—Betsy is so positive and so insightful and so centered, but her profound insights come across in such a fun, candid, entertaining way. Such a joy to listen to, I can’t get enough of it!
Thank you for episode 235!
I loved it - amazing insights. I’m definitely with you out on that raft. :-)