The Beautiful Side of Grief Helen Morris

Are you a hot emotional mess?
 
You know when you feel EVERYTHING - your brain goes into overdrive, and when you feel pain it's unnaturally intense, and the struggles you face seem to be on another level compared to others.
 
Well I've got a guest today who I hope is going to help you make sense of all this and let you know it doesn't have to be this way. Her name is Jennifer Moore and she is a multi award winning author with her book Empathic Mastery. She's also an energy healer, an intuitive guide/psychic, and a mentor and master trainer for EFT International. Her passion is working with highly sensitive empaths and helping them to move from absorbing the distress of the world to using their unique gifts to thrive.
 
No stranger to loss and grief, in May of 2020 Jen’s father died from CoVid after years of decline from dementia. This served as an invitation for her to redefine her priorities and boundaries. It has also allowed Jen to understand the interrelation between life and death and also to recognize that relationships do not necessarily end with someone’s passing.
 
 
In this episode, Jen shares the following:
 
[00:03:57] It was like people were speaking a completely, like a foreign language to me that I just didn't understand. And so all I could conclude from that was that there was something very wrong with me and that I was broken, that I needed to be better, that I needed to be a different person than I was.
 
[00:05:00] It has a tendency to exacerbate all of the anxiety and the depression and the things that were not helping me at all. But it also was it, it basically became sort of the agent of change
 
[00:05:27] So for that sugar really did what it was supposed to do because it wasn't working. It was, I, I had gotten sick and tired of being sick and tired
 
[00:10:14] The difference between somebody who's like intuitive or psychic or has just sort of gifts versus, and, and the ability to pick up on sort of paranormal information, extra sensory perception is that what I've noticed is that those of us who are empaths process information somatically mentally and emotionally as if it's our own.
 
[00:12:41] And what I believe is happening right now is that many of us are awakening to our empathic sensitivity because in order for us to survive as a species on this planet
 
[00:18:28] So in my personal experience, one of the sort of dead giveaways about being an empath or that you are an empath is that you are going through life...
 
[00:23:24] But most of us who are empaths grew up in environments where the feedback we got was, you are too sensitive
 
[00:27:20] First going to protection if we just start putting a bubble of light up around ourselves and trying to just protect ourselves. The problem is that we are often going to be kind of containing all the stuff we've already absorbed.
 
[00:35:45] But when we really make that connection to source to the divine till El Muno Bueno, we can ride through the journey and ride through the process and ride through the experience in a way that, like even the, you know, even the most heartbreaking experience
 
... and so much more!
 
Quote:
"Grief is not hard when I let myself feel it. Resistance to grief is hard." ~ Jennifer Moore
 
 
Resources:
 
Jen's links:
Website:  https://empathicmastery.com
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/EmpathicMastery
IG: https://www.instagram.com/empathicmastery/
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@empathicmastery
Show: Http://empathicmasteryshow.com
 
 
 
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When you get married you are thinking of the foreverness of it all - a life with your partner by your side, someone you can confide in and who has your back, exciting times a head, a home, a family, the feeling that this is what life is all about. For some though, this dream is cut short.
 
Jen Zwinck will never forget the moment that changed her life. In 2011, her husband was walking home from a bachelor party when he was attacked, robbed, and killed. Jen instantly became a young widow, left to raise their two year old daughter alone. Overcome with grief and anxiety over the loss, Jen chose her own unique path to heal. She packed 4 suitcases and moved with her daughter to a tiny island in the Caribbean where she knew no one.The years she spent on the island gave Jen the time to process the loss and rebuild her own strength and find the courage to move forward.
 
Jen is now a Podcast host, Co-founder of the Widow Squad Online Community, Widow advocate, & Author, and in 2017 she remarried,  a year later welcomed another wonderful daughter into their family - so now they are enjoying a fun and crazy life in South Louisiana as a family of four.
 
 
In this episode, Jen shares the following:
 
[00:02:42] my favorite memories are about us going out on our boat.
 
[00:11:16] it's 10 o'clock at night or whatever. But the, one of the detectives came up to me and he just said, okay ma'am, we just need you to go home and try and get some sleep and just let us do our job. And I was like, what did he just say to me?
 
[00:18:17] I asked myself and I beat myself up over that. Like, why couldn't I just be that, that, that nagging wife that is like, no, you can't go. Stay home
 
[00:22:33] I said, I have to go, I have to get outta here. I have to do something. I can't be here.
 
[00:26:39] I have got to figure this out, trying to be a mom now on my own. And so, that was my plan.
 
[00:34:33] It kept me grounded, it kept me safe. It really kept the anxiety at bay
 
[00:38:51] I feel like that time that we had together, it was the best decision that I, I've ever made
 
[00:39:41] I want people to know that the pain that they are feeling is not going to be forever
 
[00:41:49]  you are in this time warp. Really. Time is so tricky with, with grief
 
[00:44:03] And I went down the line of those of those widow friends that I was telling you about, and I interviewed them. And the whole concept and the whole mission behind the podcast was to put out these stories of hope
 
[00:47:08] Some people, I mean, they don't, they don't have what I had with my, with my widow girls.
 
[00:50:19] that's the big one, is the guilt because so many people feel like they are still married. They, they just feel like that, that's, that's still their husband.
 
[00:52:13] And so they they stay in that, in that widow box, and they stay where they don't really want to be.
 
[00:52:52] Yes, I put together a whole program about it. It's date about dating after loss
 
... and so much more!
 
Quote:
"Whatever moment you are in, just put your hand on your heart and go back to that memory and that love of them". ~ Jennifer Zwinck
 
 
Resources:
 
Jen's links:
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      https://www.widow180.com/lonely -
Website:  https://www.widow180.com
      https://www.widowsquad.com
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/312036956454927
IG:          https://www.instagram.com/widow_180/
 
 
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Website: https://healing2bu.com
 
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I had the pleasure of interviewing John Lodal, a former Hewlett Packard engineer for 32 years and self-confessed problem solver, on what he discovered following the death of his adored wife, Pam, to cancer. Used to thinking analytically and logically, he was unprepared for his world imploding and the storm of emotions he experienced when things quietened down after the funeral. Fortunately, a friend referred him to a wonderful grief counselor, who John refers to as his decoder of grief. What followed is a painful, yet wonderful journey into discovering ways to face the hurt, unleashing his creative talents, and revealing a new, softer side to himself as he got to know and understand his feelings.
 
The wealth of information John shares is pure gold. His book, A Right Brain Awakening: What grief taught a heartbroken engineer, is aimed at helping left-brained individuals who find themselves lost in the foreign landscape of emotions, though will provide anyone listening with well thought-out perspectives on grief and helpful ways to navigate it. In this episode, John shares this wisdom with a great deal of heart.
 
John  lives in Boise, Idaho. Has 2 children and 4 grandchildren. He is a musician, a rotarian, a member of the board of directors of the non-profit Semilla Nueva, and has a great desire to leave his hometown, and world at large, better than he found it 💜
 
Highlights of this episode include:
 
[00:05:04] Pam crossed the Rainbow Bridge. And my, my world exploded and I had a lot of things I had to figure out in terms of moving forward without without my true love by my side
 
[00:06:58] I was so focused on being the best caregiver I could. There were so many things that that Pam needed. And I can tell your listeners that when your own last lap comes, look into hospice
 
[00:07:59] And it was after everyone left. That's when I realized I. I am in a position now of something that I cannot do on my own
 
[00:09:55] Well, you know, there was a lot of questions of faith
 
[00:11:22] Eight months after Pam died, I came to the conclusion that that part of me died the same day Pam died, and that that is not earth shattering stuff, but I hadn't even thought of it until then. And I believe it was one of those metal circuit breakers clicking back in saying, okay, he's ready for this now
 
[00:17:08] well, so, I guess I was lucky that Jerri was was particularly well suited to meet my needs. And this is, this is, we had some discussions and this is when I started to recognize that the right side of my brain was starting to wake up
 
[00:23:02] How am I going to How am I gonna plan out who this new guy is gonna be? I'm not here just to take up space
 
[00:29:45] I've got I've got a number of points that I like to share with folks. We talked about pain being your new full-time companion.
 
[00:32:00] And the key on that journey is to keep your eyes and your ears and your heart open

... plus so much more!
 
Quote:
"This is not about the destination at all. This has everything to do about what you're learning, what you're seeing, who you're interacting with along the way." ~ John Lodal
 
 
Resources:
 
John's link:
 
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/john.lodal/about_overview
 
Follow me on:
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Website: https://healing2bu.com
 
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Do you need help to shift your heartache, grief, guilt, anger, anxiety, dread, or despair? Let's connect - send me a message 💟

Note - this episode does mention suicide (though with the most wonderful outcome!). Listener discretion is advised, and please ensure you are well-supported on your grief journey.
 
First off he shouldn't even be here.
He has a rare genetic disease that wasn't diagnosed for years and years. Seriously, he was 36 before he found out he had Muckle Wells Syndrome! He's had over 40 operations between the ages of 28 and 40. He's had multiple body parts removed. He lost the ability to speak for 2 years - and this is just the tip of the iceberg of what he has endured medically. Having always felt he was a boy and unsure how long he would live he also made the decision to transition.A huge decision when you come from a LA Latino background.
 
In between all of this Dr Lino Martinez got his doctorate in Clinical Psychology and recently became an author with his book A Little Less Fear, which he hopes will encourage others to live with his motto of living with less fear in their lives. If that isn't enough, this human dynamo is also a playwright, screenwriter, ASL Mentor, and LGBQT+ Life Coach AND... puts out 3 episodes a week on his podcast a Little Less Fear - where he talks outside the box - no subject is taboo. So buckle up as we are talking many different forms of loss today and the grief that ensues.
 
In this episode, some of what Lino shares:
 
[00:03:58]  I was barely five pounds. I was in the hospital for a little over a month and my mom wasn't able to bring me home
 
[00:05:28] Because we're here, we're talking about grief and I do wanna explore and let you know that there's beautiful lessons that I've learned along. But before it became beautiful, it was very traumatic for me
 
[00:10:03] You know why it was not a concern for me at the time because when I decided to transition, I was already, I was dying from this genetic disease. I, by that time, I had already undergone about 30 surgeries at the time, in, in, in just between 28 and 34
 
[00:14:48] At 19 years old, I had a quarter of my cervix removed because they found stage three cancer cells caused by the hpv
 
[00:21:42] So I spent six days in this hospital, but this is what changed my life, Helen
 
[00:26:26] So there're just a lot of things and, and that was one of the biggest epiphany was at the time was don't have fear about who you are and because now you're gonna be a freaking doctor. Like, speak up for yourself. It's okay
 
[00:34:09] You've suffered way too much. And he said, so this is what's gonna happen. We're gonna take your entire bladder out. We're gonna take your urethra out. It's no good anymore. It's been strictured.
 
[00:37:19] ... so I, I lost my voice four years ago, maybe close to five years ago, and I lost it for two and a half years. And that was the disease progressing
 
[00:38:30]  I feel that my higher self said, you know, this is the only way you're gonna sit your ass down and be quiet and really tune in by losing your voice and your hearing
 
 
[00:39:58] And, and I, and I heard trust, I heard the words trust. And when I say hear, I didn't hear from my, my, my audible ear. I heard it as a thought. And the thought was trust.
 
[00:41:00] And I just kept going, but it was very painful my first year, and now I'm in my second year and I. Happily say that I'm finally thriving
 
[00:41:57]One of the biggest advices I can give is that failure is not fatal.
 
[00:42:59] At the other side of grief, of losing who I, or, or, or lose losing who I guess I, I was gonna say my healthy self, but I was not healthy from the time I was born, but, but losing my ability to appear, losing my voice...
 
[00:49:57]  I, I'm just so, I, I just feel so much gratitude to, to life in general. People I meet, I mean, life is so beautiful
 
 
Quote:
"A lot of your suffering that you go through can be to help someone else and to relate with someone else and help someone else. So don't underestimate some of t

I would like to let you know that this episode deals with suicide. This may be sensitive and triggering topic for some so please use your discretion and ensure you are well supported.
 
It must rate as one of life's most distressing situations - having a loved child take their own life. This is what happened to Marinda K Dennis, my guest today, in the past year. Her bright  vibrant 15 year old made the decision to end her life.
 
For most parents this would be enough for them to check out for a couple of years as they navigate the why's? Whys that can be neverending. Marinda, instead, threw herself into her work, teaching 13 college composition classes in one term. Now the beauty of this, is what Marinda discovered, a population of students crying out in their writing. A huge 52%!! She then proceeded to provide a safe space for them to tell their story, their way.
 
Marinda is an author and editor in addition to being a college professor of English. She is a  published author, most recently in an anthology she produced entitled Love Lingers Still. The book was inspired from the pain she felt after losing her teenage daughter to suicide.
She does guest appearances now to share her story and to help those who are grieving the loss of a loved one due to this heartbreaking modality.
 
Her company, Energy Threads, now seeks to publish works that are specifically centered around themes of Love, Loyalty, and Healing. It's a company that desires to help those who grieve, those who seek solace after difficult times, and those who are weary from the trials of this life.  I think she has just summed up a large portion of the world's population in those phrases.
 
In this episode, Marinda shares the following:
The background surrounding her very special daughter, Angel  What she discovered in the writings of her students Why you need to know YOU matter How her anthology, Love Lingers Still, was born out of her pain What is helping her less than a year into her grief ... and so much more!
 
Quote:
"We have a nation, we have a country, we have a global silent pandemic right now with people who are hurting. And they don't know how to get that help, and they want to understand it." ~ Marinda K Dennis
 
 
Resources:
 
Marinda's links:
Website:  https://energy-threads.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/marinda.kaye
Check out the resources available on Marinda's website:  https://energy-threads.com/resources  
 
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Facebook:  https://facebook.com/thebeautifulsideofgrief
Website: https://healing2bu.com
 
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And thanks, Gabe Dovaston for the great music! www.themusicacademypapamoa.com
 
Do you need help to shift your heartache, grief, guilt, anger, anxiety, dread, or despair? Let's connect - send me a message 💟

Think back to a time that you were deeply disappointed that things didn't work out - a job, a relationship, a marriage, parenting, not travelling, or perhaps you're living with a body or illness that is simply not playing ball with how you want to look or feel.
What you may not realise is that all of these things come with their own signature of grief. Throw that into the mix of what you are currently experiencing and I bet you've found yourself in one messy situation.
 
So, I have a guest today who is going to help us unravel this for you.
 
Amanda Kate experienced this first hand trying to juggle the corporate job of her dreams with parenthood, being a wife and looking after the home. And she got sick big time. The person she knew herself to be disappeared. Now she is a Spiritual Seeker, a truth teller and her inner Sage has an insatiable quest for knowledge, wisdom and new ways of becoming. She is the Author of Divine. Messy. Human. A Spiritual Guide to Prioritising Internal Truth over External Influence. She's a Kinesiologist, Mentor, Archetypal Life Coach, Mother and so much more. This recovering people-pleaser and self-flagellator wants to help people like you regain vitality, smashing through your limitations to find new levels of health, vitality and abundance - because she's walked this path herself. Plus Amanda also works with business owners to increase their vibration and attract greater wealth and prosperity.
 
In this episode, Amanda shares the following:
When you have too much conflicting and competing stuff happening and the toll that takes on your body and mind Unhappy? How to recognise that as grief How to shift trapped energy through somatic healing You don't have to have major life events to store trauma Learning to live with loss and love How what we eat and move affects how we feel You don't have to understand the 'why' ... and so much more!  
Quote:
"We don't look at the grief of losing our jobs, losing our marriages, changing relationships, changing circumstances, having to cancel plans that, you know, we dismiss it as first world problems." ~ Amanda Kate
 
 
Resources:
 
Amanda's links:
Website: www.amandakate.com.au
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/amandakatetransformation
IG: https://www.instagram.com/amanda__kate/
LinkedIn:  www.linkedin.com/in/amanda-kate
TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@divinelymessy
  
 
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Website: https://healing2bu.com
 
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Would you like to shift your heartache, grief, guilt, anger, anxiety, or despair? Let's connect - send me a message 💟