The Best Gay Sex Podcast

Dr. Trevor Hoppe
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The podcast for gay, bi, and queer men who are having the best sex of their lives… and everyone else who wants to learn how. Dr. Trevor Hoppe interviews porn stars, practitioners, and sexperts to learn how they have the best gay sex. Tune in as we dive deep (ahem… to the hilt) to explore pleasure, desire, and intimacy.

  1. "Recovery" ft. Mark S. King

    FEB 24

    "Recovery" ft. Mark S. King

    What does recovery look like when sex and substances have been fused together for years? In this episode, host Dr. Trevor Hoppe sits down with HIV activist and writer Mark S. King (My Fabulous Disease) for a candid, funny, and deeply human conversation about rebuilding a life—and a sex life—after addiction. Mark breaks down how crystal meth can “rewire” desire, turning intimacy into a ritual where the drug becomes a third presence in the room—and what it takes to “record over the old tapes” with something healthier. Along the way, we talk about queer sexual culture across generations, the aftermath of AIDS, and why recovery deserves to be celebrated out loud in our communities. If you or someone you love is struggling, you’re not alone—and this episode is a reminder that recovery is possible.

    1h 9m
  2. "Love" ft. Lolita Chanel

    JAN 27

    "Love" ft. Lolita Chanel

    In this episode, I sit down with Charlotte, NC drag sensation Lolita Chanel for a candid conversation about love in all its forms—growing up queer in the South, early relationships and hookup culture, and how she came to understand herself as asexual while still deeply romantic. We talk about the Ace spectrum and common misconceptions, the difference between performance and availability in drag and burlesque, body confidence, and the kinds of friendship and chosen-family love that can be as sustaining as romance. Lolita also shares why community care matters to her, including her work supporting the Carolina Migrant Network.

    1h 25m
  3. "The Best... and Worst" ft. Micah Elijah Caldwell

    JAN 6

    "The Best... and Worst" ft. Micah Elijah Caldwell

    Have you ever had a hookup go spectacularly wrong? In this special listener-stories episode, host Dr. Trevor Hoppe is joined by the one-and-only Micah Elijah Caldwell to read your submitted best and worst sex stories. Trevor and Micah cackle (and occasionally clutch their pearls) through chaotic meet-cutes, “wait…wrong apartment” moments, threesome misadventures, legendary party nights, a mile-high throwback, and a Super Bowl-themed group hang that truly earns the name “Super Hole Sunday.” It’s horny, hilarious, and—beneath the mess—kinda tender: a reminder that shame-free sex education sometimes starts with telling the truth about how weird bodies and hookups can be.

    59 min
  4. "Play" ft. Jamal Herrera-O'Malley (Guest Host: J. Tebias Perry)

    11/18/2025

    "Play" ft. Jamal Herrera-O'Malley (Guest Host: J. Tebias Perry)

    For episode 4, I hand the mic to guest host Master J. Tebias Perry—leather titleholder and author of the book, "Leather Mentorship"—as he sits down with his mentee, Jamal Herrera-O’Malley, a.k.a. Alpha Pup Savage and International Mr. Leather 46. Together, they trace a mentorship that started with sneakers in a bar and grew into a deep, non-traditional leather family bond. Jamal talks about finding his way from rugby pitches to pup hoods, from handler to pup, and from Atlanta to San Francisco—while navigating colorism, fetishization, and being an Afro-Caribbean Latino leather titleholder in overwhelmingly white kink spaces. They dig into what **play** really means: pup play as headspace, touch, and intimacy; flipping the script on being fetishized; exploring dungeons and kink with consent, curiosity, and a sense of purpose. Along the way, Jamal reflects on why he ran for IML, what representation actually *does* for people watching, and why you should never come to the stage—or the dungeon—empty. If you’ve ever been told your desires are “too much” or “too weird,” this episode is an invitation: Don’t be afraid to play. Content note: Frank discussion of kink, pup play, group sex, fetishization, racism/colorism, and trans politics.

    51 min
  5. "Tantra" ft. Matthew Shur

    11/04/2025

    "Tantra" ft. Matthew Shur

    Tantra isn’t woo—it’s a toolkit. In this episode, I sit down with intimacy coordinator/sex coach Matthew Shur (Himeros) to talk about how breath, sound, movement, touch, and clear intentions can turn sex from performative to connected—on set and at home. We get into what an intimacy coordinator actually does, why slowing down reads hotter on camera, consent that builds arousal, and how play and laughter crack rigid scripts wide open. Matthew shares the retreat that changed his life, the workshops he runs for performers, why “agency first” makes better porn, and simple practices you can try tonight (yes, including breathwork and the PC-muscle path to non-ejaculatory orgasms). If “tantra” sounds intimidating, this one grounds it in the nuts-and-bolts: practical, queer, embodied. Listen in, take a breath, and let Tantra do what it does best—bring you back into your body.

    1 hr
  6. "Outsider" ft. David Halperin

    10/21/2025

    "Outsider" ft. David Halperin

    In this episode, I am joined by my mentor, David Halperin, for a conversation about working from the margins—getting fired early for being gay, exiled to Australia, coming back to help build the field, and catching heat for teaching How to Be Gay—and what that fight actually taught us. David breaks down desire as something that always exceeds what it can hold (and why that matters for sex and culture), and how living abroad trained him to read difference without rushing to domesticate it. We get into new global gay storytelling (BL dramas, Netflix spillover, and their politics) and what gay men still want: the ideal boyfriend…plus everybody else, and a world built for our flourishing. This is a conversation about making a livable world from the margins—and pulling others with you.

    1h 6m
  7. "Queering Consent" ft. Dr. Shantel Gabrieal Buggs

    10/07/2025

    "Queering Consent" ft. Dr. Shantel Gabrieal Buggs

    Consent isn’t a contract; it’s a practice—and it’s gloriously messy. For the Season 2 premiere, I’m joined by sociologist Dr. Shantel Gabrieal Buggs (my co-editor on the book, "Unsafe Words: Queering Consent in the #MeToo Era") to talk safe words vs. surveillance, HSV disclosure and ethics of care, racialized desire and fetishization, and why “preferences” are never just personal.

    1 hr
  8. "Sexual Freedom" ft. David Wichman

    04/29/2025

    "Sexual Freedom" ft. David Wichman

    For the Season 1 finale of The Best Gay Sex Podcast, I’m joined by author and sex worker David Wichman to talk about sexual freedom—and why it matters now more than ever. Drawing from his new book The Four Rooms, David shares how surviving a rough childhood, navigating survival sex work, and finding queer joy shaped his radical vision of sexual well-being. We dive into why pleasure is political, how connection builds resilience, and why queer joy isn't just a luxury—it’s a lifeline. Plus, David spills a few juicy stories about taking all the daddy d*ck he can handle (and why that's self-care, baby).

    44 min
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The podcast for gay, bi, and queer men who are having the best sex of their lives… and everyone else who wants to learn how. Dr. Trevor Hoppe interviews porn stars, practitioners, and sexperts to learn how they have the best gay sex. Tune in as we dive deep (ahem… to the hilt) to explore pleasure, desire, and intimacy.

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  • Creator
    Dr. Trevor Hoppe
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    22
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Copyright 2024 Dr. Trevor Hoppe.
  • Show Website
    The Best Gay Sex Podcast

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