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2 fun-loving, wildly experienced Wedding Consultants share their deepest, darkest secrets to help you plan your wedding. You'll learn a lot. Laugh even more. And most importantly get the inside scoop on how to make the most of your big day. Inclusivity is of the utmost importance to us, so this podcast is for EVERYONE.
This is not your traditional wedding blog. Trust us. You can't make this stuff up. Email us your questions and we will answer! thebigweddingplanningpodcast@gmail.com
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The Big Wedding Planning Podcast Michelle Martinez & Christy Matthews

    • Society & Culture
    • 4.8 • 416 Ratings

2 fun-loving, wildly experienced Wedding Consultants share their deepest, darkest secrets to help you plan your wedding. You'll learn a lot. Laugh even more. And most importantly get the inside scoop on how to make the most of your big day. Inclusivity is of the utmost importance to us, so this podcast is for EVERYONE.
This is not your traditional wedding blog. Trust us. You can't make this stuff up. Email us your questions and we will answer! thebigweddingplanningpodcast@gmail.com
If you love our show, please call us and leave a message! You might hear yourself on the show. (415) 723-1625

    #255 Dual-Faith Ceremonies with Guest Rabbi Block

    #255 Dual-Faith Ceremonies with Guest Rabbi Block

    Combining faiths and religious traditions into a ceremony can be both beautiful and confusing. Our guest, Rabbi Block is the master of dual and even multi-faith ceremonies. And of course, being that he is a Rabbi, we are getting some great insight into Jewish ceremonies as well.


    Rabbi Kenneth Block began his rabbinical career in 1974 as the Rabbi of the Jewish Center in Havre de Grace, Maryland. In 1978, Rabbi Block was honored with the Boston College Alumni Association Award of Excellence for Religion. Rabbi Block retired after 40 years as an addiction Chaplain for the Veterans Administration Maryland Health Care Systems and as the Chaplain for the Bel Air, Maryland Volunteer Fire Company. Aside from the innumerable weddings and other religious and secular ceremonies Rabbi Block has performed in association with specific organizations, he has written and performed well over 500 ceremonies outside of those affiliations.
    Rabbi Block describes Jewish ceremonies, as well as weddings that are combined with other clergy and belief systems.


    Big Takeaways



    There is a difference between being religious and being observant. Rabbi Block highlights how religion is about having relationships with others, so that makes marriage religious, inherently.
    Rabbi Block officiates many many weddings, and he is not only available to a certain crowd, or congregation. In fact, his credo is, “No couple should be denied the right to be joined together.”
    Fun history bit: Bridesmaids and groomsmen were originally included as a line of defense when two rival families came together.
    If the officiant is your dad and is also walking you down the aisle, logistically you should absolutely have a planner to help with this. There is a lot of thought that goes into this process and no one wants to be worried about this on their wedding day! If you must do it on your own, get all the right resources ahead of time (planning courses, etc.) so you aren’t scrambling on the day of.


    Links We Referenced
    rabbionthego.com
    Rabbi Block on YouTube
    Washington Post Article


    Quotes
    “People [often] say, ‘I’m not religious.’ Well if you weren’t religious you wouldn’t be talking to me, so it’s important to separate being religious from being observant.” - Rabbi Block


    “The goal is always one ceremony, two traditions, regardless of what the two traditions are.” - Rabbi Block


    “I have come a millimeter from being Obi-Wan. I have been two millimeters from being Gandalf. But, always a bridesmaid, never a bride.” - Rabbi Block


    “It’s always what the couple wants, not what I want.” - Rabbi Block


    “There are no wedding ceremonies described in old or new testament.” - Rabbi Block


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    The Big Wedding Planning Podcast is...



    Hosted and produced by Christy Matthews and Michelle Martinez.
    Edited by Veronica Gruba.
    Music by Steph Altman of Mophonics.
    On Instagram @thebigweddingplanningpodcast and be sure to use #planthatwedding when posting, so you can get our attention!
    Inviting you to become part of our Facebook Group! Join us and our amazing members. Just search for The Big Wedding Planning Podcast Community on Facebook.
    Easy to get in touch with. Email us at thebigweddingplanningpodcast@gmail.com or Call and leave a message at 415-723-1625 and you might hear your voice on an episode
    On Patreon. Become a member and with as little as $5 per month, you get bonuse episodes, special newsletters and Zoom Cocktail Hours with Christy & Michelle!


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    FlowerMoxie
    The Flashdance
    Cactus Collective
    Unboring Wedding Academy

    • 1 hr 18 min
    #254 Not quite engaged, but jumping right in!

    #254 Not quite engaged, but jumping right in!

    Some people start planning before they are officially engaged. It really does happen a lot more than you might think. Our guest this week is Lindsey Leardi. Lindsey has been a listener of the podcast for several months. She is not engaged yet, but she knows it's coming. She has started planning her wedding and we wanted to know more. Oh, and we have decided that Lindsey is our honorary little sister...we adore her!


    Big Takeaways



    Set up a separate email that is just for your wedding! This is a great way to organize communications and saves time trying to hunt down emails later on.
    When it comes to wedding parties, they are much less common than before. When they do happen, they tend to be very small, or mixed genders. When you have a wedding party, and a lot of friends, it can create a lot of drama or frustration. That is not to say it’s bad to have one, but when you have a lot of close friends, it can create a big challenge when choosing.
    Another consideration is that being a bridesmaid, especially, is costly. According to a WeddingWire article from 2017, the average cost was $1200 per person. That price has only gone up since then.
    The pressures of the big fancy wedding are still here post-covid times. Especially with social media. It’s important to remember that you can do what you want and what works for you. Comparing people with very different resources and experiences is a fruitless effort.


    *Links We Referenced *
    weddingwire.com/wedding-ideas/actual-cost-of-being-a-bridesmaid


    Quotes
    “Who in your group of friends makes you feel like the best version of yourself? Because that’s who you want in your close proximity orbit on your wedding day.” - Christy


    “People say, ‘you can say no,’ I mean how often does that happen? Who says no? Who is asked to a bridesmaid and then is like, umm..?” - Lindsey


    Plan your wedding using The Big Wedding Planning Master Class. A self-paced digital course created with love for you by Christy & Michelle.


    The Big Wedding Planning Podcast is...



    Hosted and produced by Christy Matthews and Michelle Martinez.
    Edited by Veronica Gruba.
    Music by Steph Altman of Mophonics.
    On Instagram @thebigweddingplanningpodcast and be sure to use #planthatwedding when posting, so you can get our attention!
    Inviting you to become part of our Facebook Group! Join us and our amazing members. Just search for The Big Wedding Planning Podcast Community on Facebook.
    Easy to get in touch with. Email us at thebigweddingplanningpodcast@gmail.com or Call and leave a message at 415-723-1625 and you might hear your voice on an episode
    On Patreon. Become a member and with as little as $5 per month, you get bonuse episodes, special newsletters and Zoom Cocktail Hours with Christy & Michelle!


    Our Partners
    Special Deals for Listeners - TBWPP Enthusiastically Approved!


    Wedfuly
    SuitShop
    FlowerMoxie
    The Flashdance
    Cactus Collective
    Unboring Wedding Academy

    • 55 min
    #253 Summer Reading 2021

    #253 Summer Reading 2021

    Georgia Clark joins us to talk about her new rom-com novel, It Had To Be You, set in the world of wedding planning in NYC. She also shares tips and fun stories of her own wedding planning experience.


    Big Takeaways
    During her research for the book and her own wedding, Georgia dug into where traditions come from. For instance, she found out that the idea that an engagement ring needs to cost 3x your monthly salary comes from a jewelry company’s marketing campaign.


    Georgia, an Australian, married an American woman, and found that there were a lot of feelings that came up with such a big decision. It meant leaving her home life behind, having a wedding thousands of miles away from her family and dear friends, etc.


    There was a lot of emphasis on making a loving and connected experience for their wedding, especially since so many people were traveling in for the celebrations.


    They had a phone-free wedding! Their personal friend, author and speaker, Esther Perel talked and led a conversation to help get real connectivity between guests.


    Links We Referenced
    georgiaclark.com
    generationwomen.us
    estherperel.com
    bookshop.org
    indiebound.org
    bhldn.com


    Quotes
    “It’s funny actually, the more I think about it, how similar writing a novel and wedding planning is.” - Georgia


    “We’ve been together for five years when we got engaged. So, we have been through things together, and lived together, and knew each other pretty well. But you’re still constantly learning how to live with another human being and make them happy, and make you happy, and make you happy as a couple. Which are three totally different things, and completely different agendas. And to truly be able to do that is tough, you know?” - Georgia


    “In our family dynamics, we are generally raised for autonomy or raised for loyalty. And if you’re raised for autonomy, then the values are go out into the world, go and see it, do it on your own, independence is important. What are your ideas, as opposed to the community’s ideas? That’s being raised for autonomy. Or you’re raised for loyalty which means family is first, family is everything.” - Georgia


    “It’s sort of an interesting part of the book, that the central relationship, of what is certainly a romantic comedy, is not a sexual relationship. And it’s not between a man and a woman. It’s between two women.” - Georgia


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    The Big Wedding Planning Podcast is...



    Hosted and produced by Christy Matthews and Michelle Martinez.
    Edited by Veronica Gruba.
    Music by Steph Altman of Mophonics.
    On Instagram @thebigweddingplanningpodcast and be sure to use #planthatwedding when posting, so you can get our attention!
    Inviting you to become part of our Facebook Group! Join us and our amazing members. Just search for The Big Wedding Planning Podcast Community on Facebook.
    Easy to get in touch with. Email us at thebigweddingplanningpodcast@gmail.com or Call and leave a message at 415-723-1625 and you might hear your voice on an episode
    On Patreon. Become a member and with as little as $5 per month, you get bonuse episodes, special newsletters and Zoom Cocktail Hours with Christy & Michelle!


    Our Partners
    Special Deals for Listeners - TBWPP Enthusiastically Approved!


    Wedfuly
    SuitShop
    FlowerMoxie
    The Flashdance
    Cactus Collective
    Unboring Wedding Academy

    • 1 hr 15 min
    #252 You Ask, We Answer - 42

    #252 You Ask, We Answer - 42

    On the last Wednesday of every month, Christy & Michelle answer listener questions live on the show - YAWA! This month we're answering questions about: Destination wedding logistics / Hybrid wedding invitations / Food for a multi-cultural wedding / Surprise pregnancy while wedding planning / who to share wedding excitement with when nobody you're around regularly are invited to the wedding.


    Question #1: Voicemail
    Couple lives in Hawaii and family lives on the mainland. They have decided to have wedding in Hawaii but they have not resolved the guest list issue. They have a lot of potential guests, large family, etc. There are still some COVID restrictions in place, max 100 people including wedding staff. It’s also later next year, so they might not have the same restrictions. They don’t want to hurt feelings, but make sure people know about the limits. What should they do with Save The Dates? How can we make our guests feel welcomed to the destination?


    Answer to #1:
    Just send Save The Dates to the 100 people for now. Not invitations! Don’t talk about it anymore with your family, you don’t have to make the big decision now. Make a list, whittle it down to 100 people as the A List, and then make a B List for if restrictions are removed or people say no. Don’t rush anyone to RSVP quickly. Because it’s a destination wedding, send the Save The Dates earlier than you normally would, this gives time for the guests to make plans.
    There are lots of things you can do for the guests at a destination wedding. If you are having everyone at one hotel/resort for the whole wedding, it would be really nice to leave a little gift in their room. People will most likely want to adventure and explore on their own. And if your budget is not huge, this is plenty to make everyone feel warm and welcome.


    Question #2:
    I have a question about addressing invitations. Due to COVID restrictions and an over abundance of caution, my fiancé and I decided to do a pretty small wedding of 60 people (which is hard with two Mexican families)! We have also decided to stream our wedding to include family members we can’t invite to physically come to the wedding. Because of this, we are having 3 types of invitations: 1) physical guest invitation 2) virtual guest invitation 3) hybrid invitation where part of a single household is invited physically and the other is virtually. For the hybrid, it’s mostly split between parents who are invited in person and their kids (ages ranging from 1 year to over 21) who are invited virtually. My question is how to address these hybrid invitations - should I have 2 separate invites in the envelope with the parents names on one card and the other with the kids names? Or if they are older kids, maybe 15+, should they just get a completely separate invite? I’m not sure what makes the most sense.


    Answer to #2:
    We've talked so much about this topic, but never this specific angle - about invitations
    for the same event, but two different ways, and to members of the same family. I'm actually not sure of the best answer! I'd like to answer this with Michelle on a YAWA if that's ok with you. I'm going to put it in the outline for this month's YAWA now. We usually record those in the last 10 days or so of the month.
    In the meantime - my thinking is this - I think you should send the main invitations to the in- person wedding to everyone you are inviting. Address the invitations specifically to the people invited - using their full names. If there are kids in the household - include an insert in the invitation with the virtual information. I don't think you need to send a separate invitation to them for the virtual component. If you are inviting some people to the virtual wedding and they live just the two of them (so NOT the hybrid families), you can send them their own invitations with all of the virtual info.
    I hop

    • 1 hr 13 min
    #251 This One's for the Grooms

    #251 This One's for the Grooms

    In this episode, we're calling bullsh#t on the wedding being "all about the bride". A wedding is the union of 2 people. Let's pay attention and pamper each them...equally!


    The dedicated groomsmen coordinator concept began to develop as founder Cameron Fontaine decided to elevate the experience of his groom clients. While working as the Made-To-Measure specialist for a luxury menswear retailer, clients would come in to have bow ties made within an hour of their wedding. While attending to these sometimes frantic gentlemen, Cameron realized that the bride would never have to leave her room for anything on her wedding day. Why should the groom have to?


    After identifying this void in the wedding service industry, Cameron began to offer what is now referred to as "Day-of Groomsmen Concierge”.


    These services included pressing shirts, primping groomsmen, staging photography, pinning boutonnières, and of course tying bow ties.


    *Big Takeaways *



    When it comes to the wedding day between a bride and groom, the bride is often pampered in unexpected ways, while the groom doesn’t even expect special treatment.
    Think about the things the groom wants from his experience, allow room for a little selfishness in the brainstorming time.
    The special day should be special for both of the couple! There can be a lot of missed moments from things being done in the old way, like the groom getting dressed.
    When planning with the photographer, they don’t need as much time in the groom’s room, but it can be meaningful to have them pop in to take photos of the "getting ready" process too.
    All this translates to two grooms as well!


    Cameron’s Tips for getting dressed on the wedding day



    Wear your pants at their proper height
    No show socks - loafers are popular
    Know the proper way to tuck your shirt
    Wear suspenders with a tuxedo, and a belt with a suit
    Have an emergency sewing kit and lint roller on hand
    Have someone else put on your cuff links and use this as a photo op
    Everyone should get dressed at the same time for the photos
    Have a second shirt handy


    *Links We Referenced *
    FontaineConcierge.com (Mention the Big Wedding Planning Podcast for 20% off or use code: BIGWEDDING)
    instagram.com/fontaineconcierge
    facebook.com/fontaineconcierge


    Quotes
    “I think the word of the day is intention. Asking the groom, ‘what is the one thing you want for yourself?’Just think about that and get him into a selfish mindset, just for a second, to start identifying the things the groom wants for their experience.” - Cameron


    “Be authentic in your experience.” - Cameron


    “To me, I feel like it’s not so much, it’s just the same things that are happening on the bride’s side.” - Cameron


    “How many times do you get to be your own James Bond? You’re going to be dressed to the nines. You’re going to be in a beautiful venue. You’re probably going to be transported in a super nice car. Take those shots. Get that photography and that video of you looking the best ". - Cameraon


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    The Big Wedding Planning Podcast is...



    Hosted and produced by Christy Matthews and Michelle Martinez.
    Edited by Veronica Gruba.
    Music by Steph Altman of Mophonics.
    On Instagram @thebigweddingplanningpodcast and be sure to use #planthatwedding when posting, so you can get our attention!
    Inviting you to become part of our Facebook Group! Join us and our amazing members. Just search for The Big Wedding Planning Podcast Community on Facebook.
    Easy to get in touch with. Email us at thebigweddingplanningpodcast@gmail.com or Call and leave a message at 415-723-1625 and you might hear your voice on an episode
    On Patreon. Become a member and with as little as $5 per month, you get bonuse episodes,

    • 1 hr 2 min
    #250 Spotlight Series: SuitShop

    #250 Spotlight Series: SuitShop

    Gone are the days of calling that big tux rental place. Gone are the days of seeing your Groomsmen wearing that ill-fitting suit. Gone are the days of spending hundreds of dollars on renting a tux or suit that's been worn by a hundred people before you...yuck. Enter SuitShop!


    SuitShop (formerly The Groomsman Suit) is changing the old, archaic way of suiting. They are an all-inclusive, brilliant, affordable, excellent quality brand. Listen in as Christy and Michelle interview co-founders Jeanne Foley & Diana Ganz, who by the way have been friends since the 3rd grade! Oh, and you're welcome! ;)


    SuitShop is the first and only brand to offer a coordinated collection of suiting for men, women, non-binary individuals, and children. They’re very size-inclusive, offering one of the largest size ranges of any brand. Additionally, their three adult fits are interchangeable allowing individuals to mix and match combinations to find a fit they prefer.


    Jeanne Foley is a fashion industry expert and entrepreneur who co-founded The Groomsman Suit in 2016. Jeanne spent 12+ years in the fashion industry, engineering apparel fit & construction as a Technical Designer for Under Armour, Abercrombie & Fitch and Talbots. She earned her Bachelor of Arts Degree in Fashion Design from the Illinois Institute of Art.


    Prior to co-founding The Groomsman Suit, Diana Ganz served as Chief Executive Officer for two different Boston based companies. She earned her degree in Biopsychology from the University of Michigan and graduated with an MBA from the MIT Sloan School of Management.


    Together, they join us to talk about building a company, friendship in business, rebranding, and great suits.


    *Big Takeaways *
    SuitShop provides a high-quality suit that looks great, fits very well, is comfortable, and affordable.


    While other retailers offer sets and extremely high-priced options for custom orders, SuitShop offer separates so you can find the right pieces for you. They are not ‘true custom’ but they have every size imaginable, and you can mix and match. The company takes pride in its quality and sizing.


    Fit is a priority at SuitShop! If a customer doesn't know their size at all - the technology on their site asks questions like height, weight, age, shoe size, and typical pants waist size. The system then calculates with the fit finder and suggests the best-fit options. From there, customers can do virtual appointments and talk to a team member. Their suits are lightweight, and travel well!


    The price point is between $194 and $294. Their suits are less expensive or the same price as a rental. They offer a free at-home 7-day trial with a free exchange policy.


    They also offer shoes, ties, shirts, accessories and more.


    *Links We Referenced *
    SuitShop.com (Code: BIGWEDDING10 for 10% off)


    Quotes
    “When times get really tough, you have to have that person that’s just your rock.” - Diana


    “Our supply chain is super lean. We manufacture our fabric from raw materials, and we are really excited to be working on new material with stretch and recycled components, which is super important in the fashion industry.” - Jeanne


    “We get so many customers saying ‘I really didn’t think I would get a suit that fit me ever, off the rack, at this price point.’ And they’re always amazed.” - Jeanne




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    The Big Wedding Planning Podcast is...



    Hosted and produced by Christy Matthews and Michelle Martinez.
    Edited by Veronica Gruba.
    Music by Steph Altman of Mophonics.
    On Instagram @thebigweddingplanningpodcast and be sure to use #planthatwedding when posting, so you can get our attention!
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    • 50 min

Customer Reviews

4.8 out of 5
416 Ratings

416 Ratings

KelseyAJ ,

MUST LISTEN

This podcast has become my best friend for planning my wedding. I listen to it while I drive, clean, shower, or do anything that allows me to blast it on full volume so that I don’t miss a thing! It’s brought my attention to a lot of things that I would have missed if I had stayed using Pinterest as my only guide. Including ways to save money!! Christy and Michelle are funny, SMART, and feel like your best friends giving you necessary advice. Don’t plan your wedding without them in your corner!!

Windy City Thrifter ,

Giving Me the Confidence to Plan My Wedding...Again

My partner and I got engaged May of 2019 and we hit the pavement with wedding planning right away. Within a few months we found our venue, photographer, my wedding dress, my bridesmaids jumpsuits and thrifted most of our decor for our September 2020 wedding. Cue the pandemic and all plans fell by the way side. With my partner’s family being near by and my family living far away, we had to make the difficult decision to elope on our original date just us, our friend who officiated and a photographer. We knew we were going to pick back up with planning our wedding in 2021 but with learning that nothing is certain the first time around, it felt so daunting to make a plan that we wouldn’t have to reschedule. Then I heard Christy and Michelle speak with Caroline from Wedfuly and I finally figured out a way to confidently move forward with wedding planning in these uncertain times. This forward momentum is all thanks to Michelle and Christy and I have continued to learn so much that will help us celebrate our special day! Every episode is engaging and full of great information! We are so ready to #planthatwedding so thank you so much, Christy and Michelle!

- Kaitlin

queeenb🐝 ,

N E W F A V O R I T E P O D C A S T ! !

I am a relatively new wedding planner, so I’m listening from the vendor perspective, and I can say it’s infinitely helpful to get information from two extremely successful planners who frame things from the couple’s point of view, which reminds me of things I don’t always think about. I just discovered the podcast about a month ago, so I’m still only in 2018 (listening chronologically) but I’ve already gained so much!

I have listened to a handful of wedding podcasts geared toward vendors and this is the first I have found that didn’t make me feel like I was being sold something. I truly do learn something valuable (ahem..8 page running google doc filled with notes!!) and am entertained at the same time!

Thank you Michelle + Christy for all that you do by selflessly sharing your time and expertise with the world 🤍

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