The Chat Was Fire. The Date Was You.

AI has gone from novelty wingman to built-in infrastructure for modern dating—photo pickers, message nudges, even bots that “meet” your match before you do. In this episode, we unpack the psychology of borrowed charisma: why AI-polished banter can inflate expectations the real you has to meet at dinner. We trace where the apps are headed, how scammers exploit “perfect chats,” what terms and verification actually cover, and the human-first line between assist and impersonate. Practical takeaway: use AI as a spotlight, not a mask—and make sure the person who shows up at 7 p.m. can keep talking once the prompter goes dark. This episode is based on the article "The Chat Was Fire. The Date Was You." by Markus Brinsa. https://chatbotsbehavingbadly.com/the-chat-was-fire-the-date-was-you New episodes every Tuesday. Chatbots Behaving Badly is produced in collaboration with SEIKOURI Inc.