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The Confidence Podcast is the podcast for women who struggle with perfectionism, self-doubt, and a self-critical voice. If you know you have potential and purpose, but you still secretly feel like you're behind, not enough, or even an impostor, then this podcast is for you. In each episode, world-renown Confidence Coach Trish Blackwell will teach you how to live confidently and courageously as the woman God created you to be. This podcast is your weekly resource to train your thoughts, take them captive, and use them to help you live with joy, abundance, peace, power, and, of course, confidence. Get FREE instant access to the Confidence Masterclass to learn exactly how to have more confidence with the 3-part "Confidence Formula" at www.trishblackwell.com/freeclass.

The Confidence Podcast Trish Blackwell

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The Confidence Podcast is the podcast for women who struggle with perfectionism, self-doubt, and a self-critical voice. If you know you have potential and purpose, but you still secretly feel like you're behind, not enough, or even an impostor, then this podcast is for you. In each episode, world-renown Confidence Coach Trish Blackwell will teach you how to live confidently and courageously as the woman God created you to be. This podcast is your weekly resource to train your thoughts, take them captive, and use them to help you live with joy, abundance, peace, power, and, of course, confidence. Get FREE instant access to the Confidence Masterclass to learn exactly how to have more confidence with the 3-part "Confidence Formula" at www.trishblackwell.com/freeclass.

    #410: HOW TO STOP BEATING YOURSELF UP

    #410: HOW TO STOP BEATING YOURSELF UP

     

     

    HOW TO STOP BEATING YOURSELF UP

    PODCAST #410

     

     





























    Pull back the curtain of your heart and let's have a conversation about the pressure you put on yourself. 







    In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we'll be talking about:















    The 4 primary fears the drive the self-flagellation and guilt 4 strategies that are proven effective to help break the cycle10 ways to practice self-kindness if you struggle with beating yourself up 







    Do you love the show? We've love for you to become an official supporter of The Confidence Podcast by becoming a Patron. We have 17 bonus episodes ready for you to unlock, all for just $5. Go to https://www.patreon.com/TheConfidencePodcast to get started. 

























    WHAT ARE THE FEARS BEHIND BEATING OURSELVES UP













    Fear of not being enough.-over-attachment to affirmation and culturally defined success (Lack and fixed mindset!) 







    Fear of being discovered as defective.-speak about beauty, makeup, shame, etc, i just wasn't taught and wasn't built up in this way (Inadequacy and shame!) 







    Fear of not actually being motivated-what if you need the pressure and the inner-bully? lack of self-trust (Laziness!)







    Fear of not being able to change.-I engaged in this behavior for years because I felt like I was letting God down, and then I felt overlooked by God because He wasn't healing me from my struggle in the way I wanted or expected; I was afraid I was broken and unable to change or be changed. (Guilt!) 





     

    STRATEGIES THAT HAVE BEEN EFFECTIVE IN MY COACHING

     

    So What Strategy

    -So what, everything will work out just fine and now I get to pivot and learn

     

    Even If, I Will Statements

    -Even if this is botched and I'm behind, I will still be loved, etc. 

     

    Journaling

    -21-Day Toxic Thought Freedom Journal, get yours free at www.trishblackwell.com/freedomjournal

     

    Becoming a Student of Life

    -Growth mindset, learning in everything, trusting God with your transformation, celebrating growth, letting Jesus be my teacher and learning to surrender 



     

    HOW TO PRACTICE SELF-KINDNESS













    1. Be a friend to yourself - slow down, be present, be nice. 







    2. Put a higher value on kindness







    3. Remember that being mean doesn't work 







    4. Focus on more positive self-talk







    5. Write out a daily truth or verse







    6. Practice patience with yourself and others







    7. Accept your challenges as opportunities







    8. Get an aerial view - there's no right way to do anything, there's always a pivot







    9. Surround yourself with people who want you to succeed10. Do a distraction detox 





     

    OTHER EPISODES OF THE CONFIDENCE PODCAST YOU WILL LIKE

     

    How to Stop Being So Self-Critical, Episode #345

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    Why Beating Yourself Up Doesn't Work, Episode #277

    www.trishblackwell.com/277 

     

     



    ANNOUNCEMENTS:













    Did you know that confidence is simple? If you follow The Confidence Formula in the way we teach in the COC, then it's as easy as (1). slowing down, (2). simplifying and (3) strategizing ... all of which we do right alongside you in the COC. We're thick into the Back-to-Basics Challenge,

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    #409: How to Stop Being Jealous of Others

    #409: How to Stop Being Jealous of Others

     

    How to Stop Being Jealous of Others

    Podcast #409































    Jealousy rots the bones, but it doesn't have to rot yours anymore. This podcast episode dives into how to stop being jealous of others so that you can get on with your own life and thrive where God has planted and placed you. Too often we don't call ourselves out on jealousy, envy or comparison, and it tarnishes our spirit, our joy and our confidence from the inside it. It's time to get serious about cleaning out our hearts so that we have space to live with joy, not jealousy. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/409







    In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're chit-chatting about:















    The sneaky ways that jealousy shows up in our lives - and why we never call ourselves out for it - it's time to be honest, y'all!10 ways how you can start eliminating the impact of jealousy in your life right nowThe 2 ways jealousy can destroy a relationship: and how to make sure it doesn't hurt yours







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    REVIEW OF THE WEEK:

     





    Life Changing!! By LizKU124







    Trish and her podcast have changed my life. Her positivity, fresh perspectives, insight, knowledge and experiences have helped me to grow as a person and become less anxious and more confident. She adds in the perfect amount of spiritual content to supplement her teachings, and I know that whenever I start my day with The Confidence Podcast, it's going to be a great day. Thank you Trish for your ongoing encouragement that you share and for helping me to become a better, more confident version of myself! 













     

    HOW DOES JEALOUSY SHOW UP?







    Comparison







    Inadequacy







    Dieting







    Relationships







    Low self-esteem







    Feelings of insecurity 







    Uncertainty







    Worth issues







    Different statements that express jealousy that you might not expect:







    I just feel behind ...







    I should be doing more ....







    They seem to have it all together ...







    They know what they're doing ....







    I wish I had it as easy as ....







    Must be nice ... 







    They're so lucky ...







    Jealousy turns our eyes outward - and sets our hearts up for a state of constant comparison.







    Comparison detracts us from being able to be present, engaged and confident.







    Bottom line: If you want to be confident, you have to ruthlessly eliminate jealousy from your heart





     

     

    HOW TO ELIMINATE JEALOUSY







    1. Pay attention to where it pops up in your life.







    2. Call it what it is .... don't flower it up.







    3.

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    #408: How to Appear More Confident than You Actually Are

    #408: How to Appear More Confident than You Actually Are

     

    How to Appear More Confident than You Actually Are

    Podcast #408













































    Appearing more confident than you are is a decision, and there are a few small tricks you can do to hack this habit for yourself. Confidence is not a destination, but rather a journey - so it's natural for your confidence to ebb and flow. Thankfully, you don't have to always feel confident to be confident. This podcast episode will teach you how to do just that. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/408







    In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we'll be talking about:















    How to appear more confident than you actually are or feel like you areThe secret to being confident, but not arrogant Building a confidence bank for your brain







    Do you love the show? We've love for you to become an official supporter of The Confidence Podcast by becoming a Patron. We have 17 bonus episodes ready for you to unlock, all for just $5. Go to https://www.patreon.com/TheConfidencePodcast to get started. 







     

    REVIEW OF THE WEEK:

     





    Amazing Podcast, 5 Stars by Shelby Eichstadt







    This lady has CHANGED MY LIFE. I have been listening to this podcast for the past two years and I cannot emphasize how much Trish has helped me in my personal growth/mental health/eating disorder recovery journeys. I have done YEARS of therapy and was in inpatient treatment for an eating disorder and I can honestly say this podcast has helped me in probably more ways than those other things. Trish speaks to me in a way that I feel like no one else can relate. Like half of the time I am like, are we like the same person lol. If you haven't listened, you NEED to. This lady knows what she's talking about and can give you PRACTICAL ways to deal with life challenges. I cannot say enough good things about this podcast. Thank you Trish for all that you do. You are making an impact in this world. 













     

    QUICK BONUS COACHING MOMENT:







    We're going to go back to the basics here, and we're going to have a conversation around how to get your neurons firing together so that your brain and thoughts get wired in the way we want --- with a powerful, victorious mindset.







    It starts with a base layer: belief. I believe I can do hard things.







    Next, up the pyramid ...I will not avoid doing hard things, because I understand that hard things are part of life.







    Then, the next ascending layer...I am good at doing hard things.







    Finally...







    I like to do hard things. 







    Get the full coaching hour immediately when you join the College of Confidence.Also - our newest course, Turning Your Trials into Triumphs is getting rave reviews, like what Amber recently said:







    "Your trials to triumph course is phenomenal. Like wow. In all my therapy never have I have had anyone speak with such conviction while embodying Christ. So grateful for my rock bottom(s!) ... it led me here!"







    Enroll today at www.collegeofconfidence.com





     

    HOW TO APPEAR MORE CONFIDENT THAN YOU ACTUALLY ARE







    Do people that appear extremely confident really feel that way? Is it an act? Do they ever feel what I feel? 







    You don't have to be the best.







    You don't have to know what you're doing.







    You just have to be yourself.







    You will appear most confident when you are most yourself and most ...

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    #407: How to Stop Putting Pressure On Yourself

    #407: How to Stop Putting Pressure On Yourself

     

    How to Stop Putting Pressure On Yourself

    Podcast #407























    Putting pressure on yourself doesn't work. In fact, it's a surefire way to wreck your confidence, spiral in overthinking, and lose your joy to comparison and jealousy. Putting pressure on yourself is a false prophet that we have convinced ourselves will lead us to the success crave. But maybe our definition of success is skewed? Maybe there is a way to live free from the pressure, the guilt, the anxiety, the comparison, the feeling behind, and feeling inadequate?  This podcast episode will dive into exactly that and more. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/407















    In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:















    Why we put pressure on ourselves in the first place, and why it's not just not working, but reverse workingThe connection between pressure and guilt5 things you can do today to start shifting the internal conversation in your mind





















     

    REVIEW OF THE WEEK:













    One Step at at Time - 5 Stars







    Miss E Room 135







    Trish1 I am a teacher and thoroughly enjoy the luxury of having summers off. However, as much as I look forward to summer break I always find myself in a weird place as it forces me to process my emotions and face myself. That began as reading my Bible daily and lifting weights consistently. Early on in June I stumbled upon your podcast and am SO THANKFUL for it. I binge listened to the first couple of weeks and now have made the College of Confidence and Tuesday podcast part of my weekly routine. I often say Amen girl! Am feeling so uplifted as I hear your words! 













     

    WHY WE PUT PRESSURE ON OURSELVES IN THE FIRST PLACE













    We think we aren't motivated if we don't.







    We think we're behind or not enough.







    We think our feelings dictate ours lives, not vice versa.







    We aren't doing the thought work we need.







    We aren't making time to think and journal and be coached.







    We aren't stretching our belief systems to believe in change. 







    Ultimately, we are in a constant state of dissatisfaction. 















    How do you know if you're putting too much pressure on yourself?















    -you wake with anxiety







    -you let your failures or fears keep you from trying







    -you don't think you're good enough







    -you feel stressed out all the time.







    -you have unrealistic expectations







    -you always want more or feel like you should do more







     -you can't relax 







    -you think your life will be better when you just achieve the next thing





     

    WHY DOES THE PRESSURE NOT WORK?







    It chokes our confidence. 







    It directs us to chase the wrong definition of success.







    It subconsciously communicates to us that we aren't naturally motivated - we don't trust ourselves.







    It speaks more of pessimism than of optimism. 







    It makes us feel like we're behind where we should be. 





     

    HOW DOES IT ACTUALLY REVERSE-WORK?







    It tarnishes the real definition of success - and our ability to live life well.

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    #406: How to Be Okay with People Not Liking You

    #406: How to Be Okay with People Not Liking You

     

    How to Be Okay with People Not Liking You

    Podcast #406







































    In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're talking about:















    The fact that you are indeed likable, even when you feel like the odd-ball out or an only awkward oneThe reasons behind why we like some people and not others, and vice versaHow to be okay with people not liking you ---- and what to do about it





























     

    REVIEW OF THE WEEK:







    Trish Blackwell is inspiring - 5 Stars







    by HessMart







    I can't believe it took me so long to find Trish Blackwell. I've struggled my whole life with self-confidence, I'm 45-years old. I am learning so many tips from her. She's teaching me how to love myself. I have a very strong Christian faith and she sprinkles in the word of God but doesn't overdo it. Even if you're not a Christian, you will adore her and will feel more confidence from the first podcast you listen to.













     

    MOST PEOPLE LIKE YOU







    First, let it be said that probably most people you know like you.







    And then there are those people who you don't think like you, who really are just having a bad day or need a smile or an attitude shift. (Example - receptionist at new pediatrician, cold to me, irritated and short ... but with kindness, she became kind. - we've got to be patient and extend grace to people --- we never know what's really going on where we can't see). 







    The other percentage of people who maybe aren't overly "nice" to you are sometimes just:







    -distracted







    -busy







    -self-focused







    -anxious







    -insecure







    We often misinterpret people's distraction as a reaction and rating on who we are in their eyes. 







    Finally, there's the group of people that we self-assume don't like us. The people we feel different from that we convince ourselves that because of our differences we don't have commonalities. And this of course, couldn't be further from the true.







    But - a note on being different.







    We all feel different.







    And it's a weird feeling - it creates a deep state of internal tension.







    But, friend, please know, this is quite universal.







    It doesn't mean you're weird. It means that you need to attribute new value to the word and descriptor "different." 







    Side note: in 2020 a lot of us are being different - each interpreting our situations, our priorities and our goals through mixed information. It feels awful, but embrace that place. I'm learning the spiritual gift of accepting being on the outside - on the fringe - on being different because it is forcing me to be okay with people not liking my decisions, potentially judging me or talking about me behind my back, or the like. It's okay to do life differently. 







    In fact, being different inspires me. I don't want to live like the world: stressed, behind, anxious, insecure, chaotic and seeking whatever next high will fill my soul.  I want a hurry-free life. I want a slow life. I want a deep life. 







    I work with my entrepreneurs on this - lifestyle choices that are different are okay --- like having boundaries with your hours, taking a day of complete rest ---- let people have their opinion and you stick to yours. 





     

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    #405: 20 Good Things About 2020

    #405: 20 Good Things About 2020

     

    20 Good Things About 2020

    PODCAST #405































    2020 is a year where your mindset - and your perspective - will make or break you; this podcast episode will help you have a winning perspective about what might be the most challenging year of all of our lives. Here are 20 good things about 2020 that you can apply to your life too. These 20 good things about 2020 will help you stay persistent, powerful, and filled with peace as we continue in the year. This just might change your perspective about everything. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/405















    In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're diving into a chat about:















    The power of perspective - no matter your circumstances20 good things - for real - about 2020 How our feelings follow our thoughts - and how to train our thoughts





     

    REVIEW OF THE WEEK:







    Answered Prayer - 5 starts, by ItsMeBrittV







    I had been kept awake the night before a HUGE event/opportunity for me because of my own anxiety and insecurities. I stopped in the midst of the spiral and prayed for help overcoming my own self doubt. I've always let my fear steal my joy in BIG moments. The next morning as I was getting ready for the day, something told me to search "Confidence" in podcasts ... and BAM. Here you were. A literal answer to prayer. Thank you for walking faithfully in your calling. 













     

    20 GOOD THINGS ABOUT 2020:







    Slowing Down and Simplifying Life: less rushing, more presenceStripping of busyness and distractionIncreased dependence on God - a requirement of faith reintroduced into common conversationCloser connections with community - they are your connection, lifeline, and experienceDeeper sense of gratitude for basics and the people who serve on the front line of lifeTechnology, where it is and how it has pivoted to keep us connected - and how it will change and give us options we never imagined as a result in the futureMedical advances; we live in 2020, not 1820, and we have millions of medical workers around the world united in solving a pandemicDivisions that ignited unity and much-needed conversations about civil rightsReawakened appreciation for how we need one another, we need touch and we need small community interactions Advanced and widespread access of education, online courses, virtual therapy - no longer are there barriers (time, cost, lack of access) to many life-changing resources -- this is a year of personal development and growth Decreased stigma for the need of mental wellness and conversations about depression, anxiety, addiction, and the like.More personal understanding for what matters and what doesn't - what to spend your money, time and energy on, and what not to - how to let go of the little thingsPersonalized appreciation for access to foodRenewed gratitude for cleaning products, clean water, and basic human necessities Higher call to showing up in life for our purpose and to make a difference --- life is short, and we are all intimately aware of thisDeep appreciation for travel and freedom - the gift of missing what has been removed from what was previously normal New sense of wonder and awe for large gatherings - sports, music, theatre, festivals, etc.: we won't take this for grantedOpportunity to try on new things - new style, new goals, new pace of life, etc. - this can be a reset year we have needed and never dreamed to ask for Extreme character growth: this is the bootcamp of perseverance, patience, compassion, hope, trust, being in placeMore intimate relationships with close friends and family - the connection of going through something separate, yet together 

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874 Ratings

kbdaffy ,

Heart of Gratitude

The Confidence Podcast was recommended to me from a friend and since my first listen, I’ve been all in! Living most of my life convinced I was a victim had me suffocating because of self-criticism, isolation, anxiety and depression. My own mind had been my most limiting factor - I just didn’t know how to do anything about it. I wanted to believe I knew God didn’t want these thoughts and feelings to rule my life but I had no idea how deeply routed a lot of my limiting beliefs were. I never would have believed that listening to one podcast episode could impact my life so greatly. I’m now a part of the COC and doing coaching sessions with Trish. I can honestly say I’ve never thought about the power of my own thinking as intentionally as I am now. I’ve never experienced true peace in God’s love until this year. Trish, you are one incredible human and God knows I’m so grateful for you and the work you do. Keep on encouraging and being you! God bless.

Katie156437 ,

So encouraging

If you deal with anxiety and lack of confidence, this podcast is for you!! One of the best.

Debbie (from Boston area) ,

LOVE This podcast!!!

I LOVE The Confidence Podcast!! I look forward to Trish’s podcasts every week. She is a genuine and amazing confidence coach.
Also, I’m truly blessed to be a part of the College of Confidence!
Thank you Trish for all you do to empower us!

Deb Zimon

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