60 episodes

Eric Payne, a divorced dad and retired marriage & fatherhood blogger, tells the comedic tale of his "Chapter 2" — having to start life over brand new after a divorce he didn't want.

What Does Starting Over Mean?

Although "free” for the first time in 15 years, Eric has years of baggage and a stubborn desire to hold on to the past which initially keeps him stuck as he tries to move in a world way different than the one where he first met his ex-wife in the year 2000. From one-night stands to ghosting to online dating, to mental anguish and heartbreak to the self-care that is required of a 40+, divorced Black man and father in America, Eric tackles it all with fearless transparency, vulnerability, and a refreshing sense of humor — especially when it comes to making fun of himself.

It's transparent, it’s raw, it’s funny, it’s messy, and it’s hopeful, but most of all it’s proof that second chances do in fact exist for us when life doesn’t go as planned. Tune in for the exploits, especially the failures — there are plenty along the way on his journey of trying to find love again and discovering himself in the process.

The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide Eric Payne

    • Society & Culture
    • 4.7 • 63 Ratings

Eric Payne, a divorced dad and retired marriage & fatherhood blogger, tells the comedic tale of his "Chapter 2" — having to start life over brand new after a divorce he didn't want.

What Does Starting Over Mean?

Although "free” for the first time in 15 years, Eric has years of baggage and a stubborn desire to hold on to the past which initially keeps him stuck as he tries to move in a world way different than the one where he first met his ex-wife in the year 2000. From one-night stands to ghosting to online dating, to mental anguish and heartbreak to the self-care that is required of a 40+, divorced Black man and father in America, Eric tackles it all with fearless transparency, vulnerability, and a refreshing sense of humor — especially when it comes to making fun of himself.

It's transparent, it’s raw, it’s funny, it’s messy, and it’s hopeful, but most of all it’s proof that second chances do in fact exist for us when life doesn’t go as planned. Tune in for the exploits, especially the failures — there are plenty along the way on his journey of trying to find love again and discovering himself in the process.

    From Paris to Atlanta with Malice and a 10-Piece Bucket of Drama

    From Paris to Atlanta with Malice and a 10-Piece Bucket of Drama

    We're back like we never left! By we, I mean me because I really don't speak in the third person. Season Four kicks off with literally everything that could go wrong going full-speed into Wrong-Ville and Drama Town with a whole lot of texting and not enough talking.

    • 33 min
    From Paris to Atlanta: Dressed in ALL BLACK Like the Omen

    From Paris to Atlanta: Dressed in ALL BLACK Like the Omen

    Episode 2 of Season 4 of The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide continues with the ongoing my ongoing post-divorce journey. Broken boundaries, the past, present, and an unconfirmed future relationship collide at a birthday party where my insecurities are running high.

    • 27 min
    From Paris to Atlanta: Dad, You Can’t Date!

    From Paris to Atlanta: Dad, You Can’t Date!

    My family life and my dating life begin to intersect. My youngest is older and has some pretty strong opinions on how her mother and I should be conducting ourselves as single, dating people. I

    • 23 min
    From Paris to Atlanta: Pretty Isn't Everything & Dating Can Be Messy AF

    From Paris to Atlanta: Pretty Isn't Everything & Dating Can Be Messy AF

    Things don't always go as planned or envisioned. When this happens what do you do? Do you run away or do you stand and see your way through the mess? I experience this in grand fashion during Episode Four of Season Four.

    • 45 min
    From Paris to Atlanta: I Choose YOU!

    From Paris to Atlanta: I Choose YOU!

    The ability to choose is a powerful asset to have in your dating/love and happiness toolkit. In this episode, I share why it is of the utmost importance that YOU choose at every stage of the dating experience, most importantly, the beginning.

    • 42 min
    From Paris to Atlanta: What If?

    From Paris to Atlanta: What If?

    In Episode Six of Season Four of The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide, the question of “what if” comes up when I get triggered after stumbling upon an artifact from my past. This episode explores: why not having an opinion can be dangerous; what happens when a woman can’t rely on a man; why doing something is better than doing nothing when faced with a challenge; why the past and all its failures and shortcomings will always be a prison if you allow it to be; and how to spin “What if?” from a question that can imprison you in regret into a personal challenge that puts you in charge of your life.

    • 32 min

Customer Reviews

4.7 out of 5
63 Ratings

63 Ratings

Jessi Fenni ,

So good!

I love this podcast because it’s really interesting and gives great perspective to anyone in a co-parenting situation!!!!!!!!

RunPhdRun! ,

Excellent Listen

This podcast has been an excellent way to get some understanding of my own experiences in being divorced and dating after being out of the scene more than a decade. Listening to Eric Payne has become my bi-weekly go to for both laughter and deep thought. A must-listen!

Notorious K.I.M. ,

Go on and get this gem dropping...

I stumbled across the Dating After Divorce podcast by following the podcast hashtag on IG. After reading some of the captions and hearing the very funny (and brutally honest) trailer/intro I knew I had to check it out, even though I am neither dating nor divorced. I believe everyone, in whatever stage of partnerhood you're in, can learn a thing or two from other people's relationship experiences - Eric has experienced the full arc - single, married, divorced - and has a lot of insight coupled with the gift of being able to share it episodes that are insightful, authentic, compelling and often hilarious. You'll find yourself nodding along to his stories that are so personal but deeply relatable at the same time. Eric has a way of making this space so intimate that you feel like you're talking to an old friend. You'll feel for him when he experriences missteps and disappointments and you'll root for him when you feel like real love might be right around the corner. There a lot of gems and takeaways here that I won't spoil but one big one: fellas if you want to be a better man/partner, get you some female friends to pull your coat on some thangs.

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