9 episodes

We are Rachel Facio & Stacey Sherrell, the duo behind Decoding Couples. A lot of people on Instagram call us “those dancing therapists that do reels.” Our mission is to take the complications out of communication, help you break unhealthy patterns and connect in a way that makes your grandma blush. We help end cyclical fights, extinguish hot spots and breathe life back into the bedroom. We are known for ditching the fluff and giving you no-BS tools that allow you to see and FEEL tangible change.

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    • Society & Culture
    • 5.0 • 92 Ratings

We are Rachel Facio & Stacey Sherrell, the duo behind Decoding Couples. A lot of people on Instagram call us “those dancing therapists that do reels.” Our mission is to take the complications out of communication, help you break unhealthy patterns and connect in a way that makes your grandma blush. We help end cyclical fights, extinguish hot spots and breathe life back into the bedroom. We are known for ditching the fluff and giving you no-BS tools that allow you to see and FEEL tangible change.

    E8: Why We Cheat w/ Mac Stanley

    E8: Why We Cheat w/ Mac Stanley

    Buckle up! This episode dives deeper than the typical cheating/infidelity discussions you've heard before. While we agree cheating is an incredibly heartbreaking experience for the betrayed to go through and is a choice that has huge life changing implications...we wanted to have a deeper conversation about the motivation behind why people do it. In this episode, Rachel and Stacey are joined by therapist Mac Stanley Cazeau LMHC to explore why people cheat. Rachel, Stacey They discuss how to define what counts as cheating, emotional affairs and the idea of limerence. Mac and Stacey are on the hot seat for DC in the DMs where they rapid fire answer “cheating” or “not cheating” for different community experiences.

    Want to hear more from Mac? Check out Mac Stanley Cazeau on Instagram www.instagram.com/talk2mac as well as his podcast Menage A Mind www.instagram.com/menageamind

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    You can watch future episodes on YouTube! Check out Decoding Couples on YouTube by subscribing here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpgk8G_ktrhH0JfpjbzVPLw

    Want Rachel and Stacey to tackle your relationship situation on DC in the DMs? Make sure you follow them on Instagram here: www.instagram.com/decoding_couples

    • 44 min
    E7: I Never Said That! Defensiveness: Why It's There & What to Do About It

    E7: I Never Said That! Defensiveness: Why It's There & What to Do About It

    Rachel and Stacey start off by admitting what gets them defensive. They also talk about how it shows up & impacts their relationships. They review how defensiveness gets created, the purpose defensiveness serves and tips on how to work through defensiveness and talk about it with your partner. DC in the DMs puts Rachel on the hotseat answering how she would respond to different situations where defensiveness is at play.

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    Come be apart of our Decoding Couples community at www.instagram.com/decoding_couples

    • 40 min
    E6: For Better or Worse Until...Kids

    E6: For Better or Worse Until...Kids

    This episode covers the impacts no one talks about when it comes to kids + relationships. Rachel and Stacey talk about how their marriages changed after kids, why relational satisfaction takes such a hit, and the positive changes that can come from parenthood.

    DC in the DMS puts Rachel on the spot responding to community experiences about changes in relationships after kids. You do NOT want to miss her hot takes and direct advice in this segment.

    Ready to take the guesswork out of your relationship’s future? Check out Before the Next Step, an online course that will leave you with a clear picture of where changes need to be made in your relationship, what areas feel solid, and where future conversations and work need to happen in order for your relationship to successfully take the next big step! www.decodingcouples.com/courses

    Check out Decoding Couples on YouTube by subscribing here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpgk8G_ktrhH0JfpjbzVPLw

    Want Rachel and Stacey to tackle your relationship situation on DC in the DMs? Make sure you follow them on Instagram here: www.instagram.com/decoding_couples

    • 38 min
    E5: Am I Dating My Dad? How Childhood Attachment Impacts Relationships Part 1

    E5: Am I Dating My Dad? How Childhood Attachment Impacts Relationships Part 1

    This episode is part 1 covering how your family of origin impacts adult relationships.  Rachel and Stacey talk about the common sentiment “I’ll never date someone who is like my dad/mom/caregiver” and why it is really likely that you WILL date someone who was like your parent. Rachel and Stacey talk about how they have dated partner’s like their parents and what that looked like for them. This episode dives into the unconscious and conscious process of repeating relationship patterns and dynamics that you experienced growing up, why it happens, what warning signs to look for that isn’t happening and what you can be aware of in yourself to have a corrective experience with your partner.

    For this  week’s DC in the DMs, Stacey is in the hot seat responding to the question “what happens in your family that your partner(s) think is weird/odd but you think is completely normal”. You don’t want to miss this one as Rachel learns some new, hilarious facts about Stacey and her family!

    Ready to start having conversations to make small changes with big impact on your relationship? Find: Love Unlocked a relational card deck by Mac Stanley Cazeau here: www.therapyisforeveryone.org and use code: DC2023 for 15% off

    Check out Decoding Couples on YouTube by subscribing here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpgk8G_ktrhH0JfpjbzVPLw

    Want Rachel and Stacey to tackle your relationship situation on DC in the DMs? Make sure you follow them on Instagram www.instagram.com/decoding_couples

    • 30 min
    E4: The "Unsexy" Side of Sex

    E4: The "Unsexy" Side of Sex

    In this episode, Rachel and Stacey break down the "unsexy" parts of sex...to make them feel sexy again! Rachel and Stacey start by discussing what younger versions of themselves used to find attractive and sexy and how it has changed through age and different phases of life. They then dive into topics such as when partners have different libidos, crying during/after sex, what to do when you or your partner want to try new things in the bedroom but the other doesn't, body image and so much more. In this episode, Rachel is taking on DC in the DMs, where the DC community wrote about their "unsexy" experiences with their partners for our tips and feedback. 



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    Check out Decoding Couples on YouTube by subscribing here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpgk8G_ktrhH0JfpjbzVPLw (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpgk8G_ktrhH0JfpjbzVPLw)



    Want Rachel and Stacey to tackle your relationship situation on DC in the DMs? Make sure you follow them on Instagram here: 

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    • 54 min
    E3: When Therapists Go to Therapy

    E3: When Therapists Go to Therapy

    This episode tackles all things couples therapy! Rachel & Stacey explore why couples therapy gets such a bad rap and what typically lands couples in therapy. They share their experiences in couples (including what went wrong!) and when individual therapy is more appropriate than couples therapy. 

    This weeks DC in the DMs is a little different: Stacey & Rachel were flooded with couples therapy horror stories from their Instagram community, so they set the record straight on exactly what to expect and NOT expect in couples therapy. 

    If you are in an unsafe, toxic or abuse relationship, you can find support 24/7 here: https://www.thehotline.org/

    Check out Decoding Couples on YouTube by subscribing here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpgk8G_ktrhH0JfpjbzVPLw

    Want Rachel and Stacey to tackle your relationship situation on DC in the DMs? Make sure you follow them on Instagram here: www.instagram.com/decoding_couples

    • 46 min

Customer Reviews

5.0 out of 5
92 Ratings

92 Ratings

RonitMenashe ,

SMART, RELATABLE AND FUNNY

Nothing made me happier when the gals from decoding couples decides to launch a podcast. They are legit so smart and their content is so informative, fresh and most importantly is information that I can apply to my relationship. I love the podcast and how Stacie and Rachel share their own personal stories. I learn so much from you gals. THANK YOU for what you do!

hrhcaro ,

Gottman principles plus more!

I really enjoy how they combine the spine of Gottman principles with attachment theory and relational life! I too struggle with mental and emotional health issues and have listened to these therapists all throughout my year+++ long separation and now divorce. Thank you for helping me help me stay alive.

soccer34 ,

Super helpful

Love this podcast

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