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Light-hearted yet penetrative interview show about divorce hosted by comedian and author Samantha Baines, who recently got divorced (don't worry she's fine)! 


Changing the conversation around divorce.


Samantha is on a mission to discover how other people managed the weird and wonderful world of paperwork, tears, freedom, sex with strangers, and listing your ex's belongings on eBay in this upbeat interview show. Whether you are part of The Divorce Club or not this is a fun, informative and touching look at how 42% of marriages end! 


Host: Samantha Baines


Twitter: @divorcepod
Email the show: thedivorceclubpod@gmail.com
www.thedivorceclub.co.uk

The Divorce Club Samantha Baines

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Light-hearted yet penetrative interview show about divorce hosted by comedian and author Samantha Baines, who recently got divorced (don't worry she's fine)! 


Changing the conversation around divorce.


Samantha is on a mission to discover how other people managed the weird and wonderful world of paperwork, tears, freedom, sex with strangers, and listing your ex's belongings on eBay in this upbeat interview show. Whether you are part of The Divorce Club or not this is a fun, informative and touching look at how 42% of marriages end! 


Host: Samantha Baines


Twitter: @divorcepod
Email the show: thedivorceclubpod@gmail.com
www.thedivorceclub.co.uk

    Shappi Khorsandi

    Shappi Khorsandi

    Comedian and author Shappi Khorsandi joins Samantha Baines to talk about her divorce. The comedians chat motherhood, pets killing things and crying in the green room of the Jonathan Ross Show. Turns out panel shows aren't always the best things to be on when you are going through a break up and Shappi talks about her own brand of heartbreak, dating rock stars, finding out about her new boyfriends double life and "basically having a breakdown". An honest, unforgettable episode of the new smash hit podcast!


    Trigger warnings:


    break down
    single mum
    double lives
     
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    Ella Kenion

    Ella Kenion

    Actress Ella Kenion joins Samantha for this entertaining and probing chat about her two divorces, single parenthood, parents evenings with the ex, her dog pooing in ideal places and having sex with your ex husband for fun! Yes, really.


    Trigger warnings:
    **shame/guilt**
    **sex**
    **cheating**
    **depression**




    Transcription:


    Sam 00:12
    Welcome to the divorce club hosted by me comedian and divorcee Samantha Baines. You might be starting a new chapter due to your divorce. Maybe you have a friend who's going through a divorce or you're just plain curious. I recently got divorced age 32. And it was a bit of a whirlwind doing it so young. Yes, I still believe I'm young. Don't ruin it for me. I felt confused, free and lonely. So I decided to interview some interesting people about their divorce experiences in the hope that it would help me get out of house mainly, and maybe help you too. Don't worry. I am a comedian so it won't be all doom and gloom.


    Welcome to the divorce club. So I am joined by Ella Kenion she's been in everything on the telly, including the Catherine Tate show and swashbuckle. If you are a mother or father or guardian of small children, you'll have seen a lot Ella.
    Hi. Welcome to the divorce club.


    Ella 01:14
    Well, hello, I'm doubly in it because I've had two. 


    Sam 01:18
    I can't wait for all of your insights and tips. 


    Ella 01:21
    yeah, one based on truth and the next one based on lies. So I've got both ends of the


    Sam 01:26
    covered all bases.


    Ella 01:28
    Ive got it all covered babes.


    Sam 01:30
    Well, I'll say it again. Welcome to the divorce club for the second divorce. Yes. How does that make you feel when I say you are divorced?


    Ella 01:37
    Oh, I immediately picked somebody with quite wizened t**s. Shouldn't do that should I. divorced? Yeah, like a little bit. A little bit like I can see a mum with dyed blonde hair and a really big glass of wine. You know, the glasses that are a whole bottle in a glass. That's not me. That's a ....


    Sam 02:16
    Yeah, with the straw.


    Ella 02:34
    Glass straw now, obviously, yeah, but I suppose that makes my heart sink a little bit. I also think of kind of cougars. And does that mean I'm on the hunt for toy boys? So and that's so not my experience. My first divorce was brilliantly managed. We spent 150 pounds between us. And we got the idiots guide to divorce the book. It's brilliant if your relationship is amicable enough to do this, I mean, he hates me, obviously. But I'd realised another say, and this was in 98. And we sat down around the kitchen table, we went through the book, and we didn't pay anyone except the fees to, you know, petition for divorce and everything. And we just said it was unreconcilable differences, and it was all sorted.


    Sam 02:45
    But that's so interesting. Well, let's delve back a minute. So you said when I said you're divorced, how does that feel? You seem to have these images of stereotypes.


    Ella 02:55
    Yes, which is silly isnt it.


    Sam 02:56
    and thats quite distant from you? What do you I feel being divorced.


    Ella 03:02
    Right? And it's just remembering Samantha said this is an upbeat programme.


    Sam 03:06
    We should be truthful. It's just that we don't have to be sad all the time.


    Ella 03:11
    I want to be honest, I am fundamentally at my core quite a sort of happy person. I think if I was a dog, I'd be like a golden retriever puppy. And for the most part. Yeah, like really just Yay. And then my distraction. And then, so yes, happy person. But sometimes, you know, I just feel a bit lonely sometimes. And I think I mean, I've got my 12 year old lives with me, and that's awesome. But sometimes I'm that close to asking the builder or the postman. Could you just give us a hug? Then I don't think I want much else. I think it's the name. I just don't like the word. I just don't like the word divorce. I really don't. I rea

    • 53 min
    Leyla Hussein OBE

    Leyla Hussein OBE

    Somali activist and psychotherapist chats to Samantha about divorce and marriage in the Somali community and standing out from that. We hear about being a single mum living in a council flat and choosing her child over all else. Leyla professes her love for a divorce party and convinces Sam that she should have one, maybe even one with a slogan cake. The two chat losing friends, the divorce commission scheme and everyone thinking you are going to steal their husband.


    Trigger warnings
    **emotional abuse**


    Episode transcript:


    Sam 0:12


    Welcome to the divorce club hosted by me comedian and divorces Samantha Baines. You might be starting a new chapter due to your divorce. Maybe you have a friend who's going through a divorce or yet just plain curious. I recently got divorced age 32. And it was a bit of a whirlwind doing it so young. Yes, I still believe I'm young. Don't ruin it for me. I felt confused, free and lonely. So I decided to interview some interesting people about their divorce experiences in the hope that it would help me get out of house mainly, and maybe help you too. Don't worry. I am a comedian so it won't be all doom and gloom. Welcome to the divorce club. 


    I am joined by Leylia Hussein OBE, a psychotherapist and activist. Hello, welcome to the divorce club.


    Leyla 1:05


    Oh my God, I've been so excited about this conversation. So I'm glad to be here.


    Sam 1:11
    Welcome. What made you so excited about it? People don’t normally say that.


    Leyla 1:13
    Well, it's interesting. As soon as you asked me to do it, I quickly said I wanted to do it because it's like, there's like a shame connected to divorce, which it shouldn't be. I mean, the way I got divorced a long, long time ago. I separated 18 years ago and then the divorce didn't happen until two years later, but it was…  I will always say I'm happily divorced and people will be shocked by it.


    Leyla 1:37
    Because people say happily married right? Yeah. Why can I be happy? Because I'm happier. After I was actually we were nicer people.


    Leyla 1:47
    So I don't there's always a stigma and I organised a divorce party for our friend. Because you know, we always have wedding parties, but no one celebrates the fact that you left a very s****y relationship. Which that should be the case, in my opinion. So that's I'm really excited about we're having this conversation, but there's no space. Let people think you're crazy when you say I'm happily divorced.


    Sam 2:09
    Yeah, that's I mean, that's what this is all about is kind of changing the conversation around divorce and kind of delving into that taboo subject. And so did you say you got divorced 18 years ago?


    Leyla 2:21
    so I separated from my ex husband when my daughter was three months. That was 2000. God I have blocked us out.


    Leyla 2:30
    My divorce papers didn't come through to 2006. So I'm officially divorced for 14 years. I was separated for a couple of years.


    Sam 2:37
    So you separated 17 years ago, and then it took you three years to get the divorce papers through. And why was that? Was that just kind of the admin of it all or?


    Leyla 2:48
    No, no, he didn't want to divorce.


    Sam 2:50
    Oh, wow. 


    Leyla
    He's been a pain in the ass about it. Yeah, yeah. He was avoiding the whole thing. I think he still wanted to work it out. But it was too damaged. I mean, I think I actually didn’t want to be in the relationship, and I had a little girl at the time, my daughter was three months. When I wanted the first divorce it was because I didn't want to bring her into a toxic environment. So that was a no, no. And for him it was like, I mean, he's from Somalia where I'm from. So pride was a big part of “why do you want to get divorced?” Like, you know, his family never got divorced, so it was like a big deal. And he dragged it on and I think the reason he dragged it on as well - it was because I didn't ca

    • 40 min
    Rich Wilson

    Rich Wilson

    "I would still be a w*nker if I didn't get divorced" - Rich Wilson


    Samantha Baines interviews fellow comedian and divorcee Rich Wilson about his marriage experience. They chats pockets of contentment, gender roles in relationships and buying your own spoons in Ikea. Couples counselling, assault charges and moving in with his son post break-up, Rich Wilson is brutally honest about his experiences of divorce and his journey towards finding himself whilst trying to avoid clichés.


    Rich is host of the Insane in the MENbrain podcast.


    Trigger warnings:
    divorce
    depression
    cheating
    mental health


    Transcript:
    The Divorce Club: Rich Wilson


    0:12
    Sam: Welcome to the divorce club hosted by me, comedian and divorcee, Samantha Baines. You might be starting a new chapter due to your divorce, maybe have a friend who is going through a divorce? Or you're just plain curious! I recently got divorced aged 32 and it was a bit of a whirlwind doing it so young. Yes, I still believe I'm young, don't ruin it for me. I felt confused, free and lonely, so I decided to interview some interesting people about their divorce experiences in the hope that it would help me get out of the house mainly and maybe help you too. Don't worry, I am a comedian so it won't be all doom and gloom. Welcome to the Divorce Club. 


    0:57
    Sam: I am joined by comedian and podcaster, with a brilliant podcast called insane in the menbrain, the wonderful Rich Wilson.


    1:05
    Rich: Hello


    Sam: Hello. 


    Rich: Hello. 


    1:08
    Sam: Welcome to the Divorce Club. 


    1:10
    Rich: Thank you so much. It’s nice to be here.


    1:13
    Sam: It’s a special club for divorcees like us. So, how long have you been in the divorce club? 


    1:20
    Rich: It all got finalised two or three years ago. It's quite recent,


    1:24
    Sam: And how long ago were you separated.


    1:28
    Rich: Five years ago, I think, something like that. You know. I can't remember. It also happened really quickly. Like one minute we were married, then we weren’t getting on and then suddenly we were separated and getting divorced. And it was all a bit of a whirlwind, really.


    1:42
    Sam: So how long were you married for?


    1:44
    Rich: Five years. I think. Typical bloke not remembering. I remember it was 2011. I remember the date. 


    Sam: I'm bad at dates.


    Rich: That’s when we got married, but it's just been. It's just been a lot going on in the last you know, since we split up and I know my now ex wife is very good at compartmentalising things. She doesn't look back and go, awwI miss that, I miss that. It's like no, that was, that was that part of my life? And I'm going to put all that and anything connected with that in that box. And then that lives over there. And she's very businesslike. This is how she deals with trauma and horrible things.


    2:21
    Sam: And how do you deal with trauma and horrible things?


    2:24
    Rich: I’m too emotional. I'm always like, aww that was good, aww I miss that bit. Oh I wonder what she's doing now. You know, that sort of thing. 


    Sam: I do that, definitely. 


    Rich: Yeah. Rather, rather than just going look, that was a moment in time it didn't work out is a shame. She's a great person, but everybody's moved on. Every now and again. You kind of go wow, that was good. You know, and I was like, that was a nice holiday we went on and yeah, I wish had been better at that. I wish. Yeah, you know, yeah. I should stop fretting. 


    Sam: Well, maybe it's good. Maybe it helps you learn about yourself. 


    2:54
    Rich: Absolutely. That was the turning point for me, because I'd never been married before. No disespect to anyone else I've ever been out with. It was just, I just felt this is, this is it, I felt like this is the one. This is the person I want to, I want to make this commitment to. And then when it broke down, it was like, Well, what was this? What's going on? The easy thing to do is to

    • 39 min
    Sarah Millican

    Sarah Millican

    Comedian Sarah Millican discusses her divorce and welcomes Samantha Baines to the Divorce Club in the first episode of the podcast. Samantha interviews the top comedian about her divorce experience. Sarah and Samantha compare divorce notes, emotions, chat confidence, sexual explosions and changing your exes name in your phone to "the arse".


    "Why would anyone ever want to be with someone who doesn't think they are awesome. I'd rather be with nobody than someone who thought I was anything less than that" - Sarah Millican


    Sarah reveals that it was divorce which meant she tried stand up for the first time, so lets all thank her ex-husband for that. Now happily married, Sarah talks re-entering married life, losing friends, moving in with your parents aged 29. We delve into the sad moments as well as the euphoric ones in this discussion on marriage, divorce and relationships in general. Magic Mike even gets a mention!


    This episode was recorded via Zoom during lockdown.


    Episode transcript:




    0:12
    Sam: Welcome to the divorce club hosted by me, comedian and divorcee, Samantha Baines. You might be starting a new chapter due to your divorce, maybe have a friend who is going through a divorce? Or you're just plain curious! I recently got divorced aged 32 and it was a bit of a whirlwind doing it so young. Yes, I still believe I'm young, don't ruin it for me. I felt confused, free and lonely, so I decided to interview some interesting people about their divorce experiences in the hope that it would help me get out of the house mainly and maybe help you too. Don't worry, I am a comedian so it won't be all doom and gloom. Welcome to the Divorce Club. 


    0:57
    Sam: So I am joined by comedian Sarah Millican. Hello Sarah.


    Sarah: Hello. How are you?


    Sam: I'm good, thank you. Welcome to the divorce club.


    1:07
    Sarah: Yeah, I mean I've been in a long time. Where have you been more importantly?


    1:10
    Sam: I know I stormed in and I'm taking over the party. It's a bit rude isn't it.


    1:15
    Sarah: It is. How long have you been divorced? I mean it's not a competition.


    1:21
    Sam: Well I think you've won because I've only been separated for a year and a half. I've had the piece of paper stamped that the judge says we can get divorced but we still haven't done the financials.


    Sarah: Right.


    Sam: Sort of divorced but sort of not finished divorcing.


    1:39
    Sarah: How quickly did you take off your wedding ring?


    Sam: I love this you're just interviewing me, this is great! I took off the wedding band almost immediately


    Sarah: Yeah.


    Sam: But I kept the engagement ring on for a while, because for some reason, that had more meaning.


    1:55
    Sarah: Oh that's nice, I quite like that, but also it... maybe it was worth more money? 


    1:59
    Sam: Yeah I know, I was like, it's pretty and there's diamonds.


    2:04
    Sarah:  And also I wonder if keeping something on that finger keeps men at a distance, when maybe that's what you're after?


    2:13
    Sam: No, I had a sexual explosion when I separated from my husband and I don't mean in my nether regions. I mean, I was sexual with lots of other people.


    Sarah: Oh.


    2:25
    Sam: I think it.. I was so used to having something on that finger. I wear a ring now on that finger, it says ‘wow’.


    Sarah: Oh nice.


    2:33
    Sam: I was so used to having it there, it felt so naked and like... vulnerable to have nothing there.


    2:39
    Sarah: I found that my finger was really thin in the middle where it had been nipped in by the wedding band. It's weird because I think I was baking the other day and I took all my rings off and I said, oh look, I look like I'm divorced, because it just went in, because obviously now I've had another ring on for a few years and I found that, just the finger, looked... looked really miss-shaped I suppose.


    3:05
    Sam: And bare and also sometimes if you wear thick wedding bands you get that

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heartbreaking and real ,

Love it!

Sarah m. Is always so wonderful to listen to. I hope future eps are similar in vibe, though I’m excited to hear all the different types of divorces, since I think it’s usually a lot more messy.

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