15 episodes

Welcome to “The Divorce Reset™ Podcast.” If you are divorced and ready to move on, you have come to the right place. Divorce isn’t what any of us dreamed of on our wedding day, but if you take the right steps you can create a new version of happily ever after. Hosted by Allyson Cole, certified coach, divorce specialist and author of the upcoming book “The Divorce Reset,” each week we will share tools to help you navigate and thrive in this chapter of your life, break up with your divorce story and make peace with the past. Ready to recover from your divorce and build a life with more peace, acceptance and joy? Want more one to one support? Book a free discovery call to see if the Divorce Reset Program is a good fit for you. It's a 9 week coaching program that will accelerate your divorce recovery and help you create an amazing future. Here’s the link to connect: linktr.ee/allysonmcolecoaching

The Divorce Reset Allyson Cole

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Welcome to “The Divorce Reset™ Podcast.” If you are divorced and ready to move on, you have come to the right place. Divorce isn’t what any of us dreamed of on our wedding day, but if you take the right steps you can create a new version of happily ever after. Hosted by Allyson Cole, certified coach, divorce specialist and author of the upcoming book “The Divorce Reset,” each week we will share tools to help you navigate and thrive in this chapter of your life, break up with your divorce story and make peace with the past. Ready to recover from your divorce and build a life with more peace, acceptance and joy? Want more one to one support? Book a free discovery call to see if the Divorce Reset Program is a good fit for you. It's a 9 week coaching program that will accelerate your divorce recovery and help you create an amazing future. Here’s the link to connect: linktr.ee/allysonmcolecoaching

    Boundaries | Episode #15

    Boundaries | Episode #15

    Boundaries are often misunderstood. Some see them as a way to gain power over someone or to try and control other people. But the truth is that a properly set boundary creates trust and intimacy and invites people in because it establishes the space where there is no confusion for you or for them about respect or expectations. Boundary setting is a form of deep self-respect and a part of having healthy relationships.
    In today's episode, we're gonna go through a summary of what boundaries are and what they aren't.  And we'll talk a bit about some of the specific challenges of setting boundaries with an ex during separation, divorce and life after divorce, especially if you have children together.  
    You’ll come away from this episode empowered with the ability to more clearly see boundaries that need to be strengthened, and how you can step into a more honest version of yourself by honoring those boundaries.
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    Produced by Podcast Edition for Red Bird Media, Inc.
    The Divorce Reset Podcast was recently selected as one of the Top Divorce Podcasts of 2022.  Check it out at FeedSpot.

    • 39 min
    The Manual | Episode #14

    The Manual | Episode #14

    Would you like to have better relationships with the people in your life? 

    Listen in to find out about manuals and how our relationships with others (and ourselves) can improve once we recognize them and decide to let them GO.

    Most of us have manuals for the way that we believe the people in our life should behave and what they should do. And when people don’t follow our script or our manuals, we get upset at them. The irony is that the people in our lives often aren’t even aware that there is a manual or rule book to be followed; yet we tie our own emotional wellbeing to their ability to follow our rules and expectations.
    Even though it’s perfectly okay to have expectations of other people, we create emotional turmoil, strain relationships and ruin our own life experience when we start tying our happiness to those expectations. We are often completely unaware that we have a manual for others (or ourselves). 
    Listen to this episode to discover ways in which you might be creating manuals for people in your life. I’ll give you some keys to identifying manuals that aren’t serving you and how to lay your manuals down. We’ll also talk about how to set expectations from a place of clarity and strength, create greater intimacy and trust with yourself and the people in your life, and how to become a woman who simply loves her life and creates her own emotional weather regardless of how things outside might be going.
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    Click here for TDR's Ep 14 Spotify Playlist: "The Manual"
    Produced by Podcast Edition for Red Bird Media, Inc.
    The Divorce Reset Podcast was recently selected as one of the Top Divorce Podcasts of 2022.  Check it out at FeedSpot.

    • 30 min
    Victim Mentality | Episode #13

    Victim Mentality | Episode #13

    What's your reaction when you see that someone is "playing the victim"?  It's often easier to see in other people than ourselves.

    Most of us at different points in our lives may have slipped into this common pattern.  While some  of us may have been victimized at some point in our lives, we can use the feelings we experienced then to re-create suffering now.

    Victim mentality pretends to be useful and true, but is hurting you more than anyone. Today,  I’ll explain what victim mentality really is and all the various ways it shows up.  It can seem very justified, but it can cause all kinds of unnecessary and continual pain and suffering. 

    As you step into this new chapter of your life, I want to share some steps on how we can both recognize and avoid the victim mentality in order to create greater FREEDOM in your life.

    If you've ever thought, "life is against me" then this episode is for you! Tune into to learn how to step into a new and more powerful version of yourself.

    If you are a survivor of domestic violence or abuse, please don't brush past that by thinking that you just have victim mentality.  Here are resources for victims and survivors of domestic violence  and more information on recognizing the signs of abuse and the dynamics of an abusive relationship.  
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    Click here for TDR's Ep 13 Spotify Playlist: "Victim Mentality"
    Produced by Podcast Edition for Red Bird Media, Inc.
    The Divorce Reset Podcast was recently selected as one of the Top Divorce Podcasts of 2022.  Check it out at FeedSpot.

    • 28 min
    The Biggest Little Farm | Episode #12

    The Biggest Little Farm | Episode #12

    Today's episode is a lot of fun and a bit different. Recently, I watched the documentary film, "The Biggest Little Farm" and I was struck by how many parallels there are between it and the process of rebuilding your life after divorce, loss or big life change. 

    You might feel like a lot of the life was extracted from you during your marriage or during your divorce experience. And that's okay, that's so normal. But I also want you to know that this does not have to define the next season of your life. And you can create something that's sustainable, regenerative and can give you a new life and a new perspective. 
    Listen in as I look at how we can learn from some of the obstacles they overcame, and the mindset they had—and sharing how it might apply to your life journey. 
    The Biggest Little Farm

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    Click here for TDR's Ep 12 Spotify Playlist: "The Biggest Little Farm"
    Produced by Podcast Edition for Red Bird Media, Inc.
    The Divorce Reset Podcast was recently selected as one of the Top Divorce Podcasts of 2022.  Check it out at FeedSpot.

    • 26 min
    All or Nothing Thinking | Episode #11

    All or Nothing Thinking | Episode #11

    On today's podcast, we are going to talk about all or nothing thinking.

    We are conditioned to think in absolutes. It's something we all struggle with at times. Our brains are kind of wired that way. It either IS or it ISN'T. It's BLACK or it's WHITE. We want to know if something's either GOOD or BAD. We want to know if other people are good or bad.

    And in this episode, I'll be diving into why it's worth leaning into what psychologists call cognitive dissonance, or the space in between the black and white, where things feel a little more fuzzy or gray. And it is in this space that we grow. We try new ideas. We understand others on a deeper level. And we create a safe place for ourselves, even when we don't have all the answers. 

    And even more importantly, we can allow the discomfort of this gray area to take place and to create new questions around our lives. That's when healing can take place. If we can believe that someone who hurt us is both good and bad. It becomes possible to heal the relationship and to give ourselves that same consideration and grace. 

    So listen to gain a deeper understanding of where you may be stuck in all or nothing thinking and what you can do to create some space and broaden your view.  And I do want to say it's worked and it can be really helpful to each of us when we start to examine the ways that all or nothing thinking holds us back in our lives and our relationships, our goals and moving forward and healing after divorce in particular. 
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    Click here for TDR's Ep 11 Spotify Playlist: "All or Nothing Thinking"
    Produced by Podcast Edition for Red Bird Media, Inc.
    The Divorce Reset Podcast was recently selected as one of the Top Divorce Podcasts of 2022.  Check it out at FeedSpot.

    • 30 min
    Imperfect Days, Perfect Moments | Episode #10

    Imperfect Days, Perfect Moments | Episode #10

    Sometimes divorce and life post divorce can feel like being stuck in the Denver Airport when you expected to already be in Montana, Cancun or another more exciting destination.
    So today we're going to talk about the mess and the fact that sometimes our expectations don't match up with reality.  We all have ideas about our life and the way it's going to be.  We think things are going to work out a certain way with our live, our futures, our family, kids or marriages.  And when those things don't happen the way we planned, it's sometimes hard to know how to navigate. We try to control things and people that our outside of our control. In doing so, we waste energy and create a lot of stress... and because of the mess we may lose the opportunity to experience being present with ourselves and the people we love.

    How do we find those perfect moments? They are in the middle of the imperfect messiness of our very human -- yet very beautiful -- lives. 

    I will show you three ways to create more perfect moments, more space in the midst of your life and to know that whatever is happening and wherever you have landed -- whether it's a long layover in the Denver Airport or chasing a toddler or dealing with your divorce -- it's going to be alright.

    Like what you hear? Awesome! There are three ways to connect with me and share with others:
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    Click here for TDR's Ep 10 Spotify Playlist: "Imperfect Days, Perfect Moments"
    Produced by Podcast Edition for Red Bird Media, Inc.
    The Divorce Reset Podcast was recently selected as one of the Top Divorce Podcasts of 2022.  Check it out at FeedSpot.

    • 29 min

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So helpful!

Love this podcast! Such great wisdom and useful advice.

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Practices what she teaches

Allyson is a great coach and living example of what she teaches on the podcast. The best!

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Thoughtful, careful, and practical advice. These chats feel like a big sister who cares and has a wealth of experience in how to navigate trauma. It takes a very kind and courageous soul to create this type of content.

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