Life. What a trip! Journalist ; Self-Styled Orgasm Whisperer & Feminist 'Art-tivist', Rose Cooper explores the mindf*cks of LOVE, SEX & MENTAL HEALTH, with geeky wit, elder wisdom & actual research! Let's push through the awkwardness together!
Boundaries & Synchronicity with ”The Consent Wizard”
Meet Mia Shachter - AKA "THE CONSENT WIZARD" They are, among other things, a consent and boundaries coach. Visit the SHARE THE LOAD website for more information as well as a fabulous list of courses you can partake in to help you navigate your personal boundaries and expand your ideas around consent.
I particularly wanted to talk boundaries in this ep. As someone living with childhood trauma anxiety and abandonment issues, I definitely over burden myself in many ways. And that's where we started. Where we ended up is a beautiful free fall into the concepts of fate, destiny, linear time, object reality and that magical feeling when you find yourself smack dab in the middle of a moment that you felt you'd been preparing for your whole life.
LINKS: Mentioned in this podcast "Betty and Sarah" also known as fab consent experts whom I have interviewed previously: Betty, the author of The Wheel of Consent and Sarah the creator of the Comprehensive Consent resource for parents and educators.
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COUGARTOWN, Chat with Patsy Menuti (2/2)
The Madonna/Whore Diaries - a series of interviews.
We pick up where we left off, tallking about how women's body image changes as we get older and delve into the deeper truths about our search for sexual adventure. Obviously the topic of how much porn has influenced the way younger men behave in bead, rears it's ugly head. One thing's for sure, the older you get, the more valuable it is to retain a sense of humour! There were so many interesting rabbit holes to go down with this fun chat and we definitely went there. Visit Patsy's various websites here: WEBSITE, TIKTOK and INSTAGRAM. She'll make you smile!
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HOLLA HELLA COUGARTOWN! Chat w/ Patsy Menuti 1/2
The MADONNA WHORE DIARIES INTERVIEW SERIES #3
Why does heteronormativity dictate that the male partner should be the older person? Why does society barely even notice when Hollywood leading men, play opposite women 20 years their junior?
Why do we call the younger male partners of older female celebs, "Toy Boys".
And what about same sex relationships?
When it comes to casual liaisons between intelligent, consenting adults - how much does age really matter, and how much does it play into old fashioned patriarchal and 'ageist' stereotypes?
Let's face it, society not only paints older people as 'ugly', it also underestimates the self-awareness, discernment and agency of younger folx who really want to date them.
SO MUCH TO UNPACK and Patsy Menuti aka "HELLA COUGAR" helps me get through some of it! Patsy, 50, is a yoga teacher and life coach, who exhuberantly shares her "spiritual journey as a COUGAR" via her WEBSITE, TIKTOK and INSTAGRAM. She's warm, extremely down to earth and hella funny.
MORE LINKS MENTIONED:
Cindy Gallop Ted Talk about bedding younger men the affect porn has had on their sex education.
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(still) IN BED WITH MADONNAS 2/2
The Madonna Whore Diaries Continues...
Phoebe Dorin and I pick up where we left off last time...where was that? Oh yeah, we were just about to talk about ...breast orgasms.
There's much discussion about the objectification and 'ownership' aspect of breasts. Cos let's face it, they do get co-opted A LOT! The thing that seems to cause all the trouble and confusion regarding sexual enjoyment during pregnancy and after, has literally everything to do with women taking back ownership of their bodies.
Look, it's a very breast-heavy ep. Speaker to speaker BOOBS. If anyone is playing drinking games while listenting: DO NOT NOMINATE THE WORD 'NIPPLE' AS YOUR DRINKING PROMPT! You'll get hammered!
Suggested reading: Fresh Milk - The Secret Life of Breasts by Fiona Giles (2003)
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In Bed with Madonnas.(Sexuality & Motherhood)
THE MADONNA WHORE DIARIES - Conversation No. 2
This week we welcome back Phoebe ("I was raised in a cult") Dorin for a very different chat. We have a deep and intimate and very candid discussion about how pregnancy, childbirth and breastfeeding affected/enhanced our sexuality and sense of ourselves. Because of how society views mothers as either sex objects (MILFS), or angels walking the earth (nuturing and pure) - it's a fine line to tread, to reclaim your sense of (sexy) self, while adjusting to the very real and serious responsibilities of motherhood. And speaking of Breast Orgasms...As mentioned in the podcast I have started a partnership with NIKKI DARLING (Sexual Health and Pleasure retailer, so if you click on the link above, and use the code word ELOQUENT you receive 5% off. Check out my rapturous review of a fabulous stimulation devise - that has literally become this girl's best friend.
MUSIC: 'A Mother's Confession' - Amanda Palmer (c) 2019
PART TWO of my Madonna/Whore chat with MEAGAN
THE MADONNA WHORE DIARIES PART 2
This episode picks up the conversation exactly where it left off - the topic was faking orgasm - which is obviously a whole other thing when you're talking about sex work! We then continue exploring how Meagan's sexuality evolved during the course of her career as a sex worker and how it has influenced her present and future plans. I also finish this episode pondering the topic of vulnerability and how this perceived 'weakness' is at the heart of the Madonna/Whore narrative.
Why is intimacy so scary? How close do we let ourselves get to the people we love and/or desire and how does this play out when squished into the vice like grip of society's expectations around the prescribed power balance in relationships. Why are sexually liberated women also seen as aggressive seductresses?
Oh, so many rabbit holes to explore in the coming weeks!
Click here to see the female anatomy diagram mentioned in this ep.
Women of earth- check out this lady and her feminine wisdom. We will all be hi