The Evolved Caveman Podcast w/ Dr. John Schinnerer

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The Evolved Caveman Podcast w/ Dr. John Schinnerer

The Best Men's Podcast For Greater Happiness & HealthLet’s be honest. If you’re crushing it at work but your personal life is circling the drain, you’re not actually winning. And if you’ve mastered spreadsheets but can’t remember the last time you laughed, touched a human, or had sex that didn’t feel like a negotiation—well, you’ve got a problem.   Who says men aren't into personal development!?The goal here isn’t just success. It’s success and happiness. At work and at home. Anything less? That’s just a burnout cocktail served with a side of regret.  Dr. John Schinnerer has been helping high-achieving men level the hell up for over 20 years. We're talking Army Rangers, Navy SEALs, Fortune 500 CEOs, pro athletes, and high-powered execs—aka, the guys who look like they have it all together but are secretly one crisis away from losing their minds.  It's not enough to be successful. We also need connection, happiness and purpose.John’s obsession? The sweet spot where high performance meets actual fulfillment. Where you stop white-knuckling your way through life and start showing up with purpose, connection, and the kind of swagger that comes from knowing who you are—not just what you do.  So if you want to start tuning into the best podcast for men, if you want to become the kind of man who’s not emotionally allergic, who leads with confidence, loves with intention, and actually enjoys the life he’s built—welcome. You’re exactly where you need to be.  Just do us all a favor and hit subscribe, rate, review, and, most importantly, share this with another person who could use a kick in the emotional pants.  Let’s evolve, fellas. The world needs better men.  Listen to the top podcast for men and the women who love them - The Evolved Caveman Podcast. For more on the podcast, visit:TheEvolvedCaveman.com  For more on Dr. John's executive coaching services, visit:GuideToSelf.com  For info on Dr. John and Joree's top notch couples counseling, hit up:LoveIsntEnough.netFor info on Joree's excellent counseling for women, take a look at:JoreeRose.com

  1. Battling Burnout: Tactics for a Balanced and Fulfilling Life

    6D AGO

    Battling Burnout: Tactics for a Balanced and Fulfilling Life

    The latest episode of The Evolved Caveman has dropped, and this time it’s about stress and burnout, comparing the two, unpacking why you should care and what the hell to DO about them. Burnout is a soul-crushing abyss, not just tiredness, but a full-blown system crash caused by chronic stress. Dr. John Schinnerer highlights the grim reality: 82% of employees are at risk of burnout, with healthcare workers, teachers, and younger workers suffering the most. From financial strain to digital overload, from lack of control to toxic workplaces, John lays out the causes of burnout. He also explores the symptoms—mental exhaustion, cynicism, physical issues, and bad behaviors like drinking and Netflix binging. Differences between stress and burnout? Stress can be productive; burnout is a hopeless black hole. Take a listen if you’re interested in the fixes for burnout.  If you're drowning in the burnout ocean, don't be a hero; seek help.  And hey, be sure to leave a review if this episode saved your sanity, and of course, subscribe so you never miss an episode! Wanna Climb Higher Up The Happiness Hill ? Here’s Where To Begin Your Ascent: 😡 For info on Dr. John's Ultimate Online Anger Management Class (which has over 20,000 graduates!), visit his High Performer Shop  🧠 Top tools for emotional mastery and high tech execs from the best executive coach in Silicon Valley: 👉 GuideToSelf.com 💬 The best podcast for relationships and those who want to create a happier, safer love life: 🎙️ Love Isn’t Enough Podcast  👉 For the tremendous work Dr. John & Joree are doing in couples counseling, visit their top couples counseling site:  👉 LoveIsntEnough.net 🎙️ Top 10 Podcast for Men looking to evolve with greater communication skills, grit, mental toughness and happiness: 👉 The Evolved Caveman Podcast 🌱 Joree’s expert work on mindfulness, therapy & transformation (aka, the best therapist for women near you): 👉 JoreeRose.com 📸 For more info on the superb counseling Joree is doing with women who don’t want the next 20 years to be like the last 20, visit her site at  👉 MindfulnessAndTherapyCenter.com 💬 The top 10 podcast for women over 40: 🎙️ Journey Forward with Joree Rose Podcast

    26 min
  2. Navigating Rude Realities: Unmasking the Epidemic of Incivility with Dr. John Schinnerer & Dr. John O'Brien

    JUL 7

    Navigating Rude Realities: Unmasking the Epidemic of Incivility with Dr. John Schinnerer & Dr. John O'Brien

    In today's sterling episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast, Dr. John Schinnerer teams up with John O'Brien, a licensed psychologist & executive coach from Portland, Maine. Together, the Johns tackle the epidemic of rudeness plaguing our workplaces, political lives, and homes. From defining rudeness and its various types—interpersonal, cyber, and victimless—to exploring anger, incivility, and the startling impact of hostile individuals like some rude surgeons on our physical health, this episode is packed with actionable insights. They even delve into the effects of social media outrage and the challenge of maintaining self-awareness in a world that seems to reward snarky comments. Whether you're dealing with drama in your personal life or just trying to keep your cool on social media, this candid discussion is a must-listen. For those individuals who need a little rudeness rehab: start with self-awareness, therapy, mindfulness, and maybe buying John’s book. This convo oozes with insights, tough love, and a touch of irreverence. And remember, you can’t change the world overnight, but you can start by being a jerk less often to others. Timestamps: 01:32 Defining Rudeness and Its Types 04:20 Personal Experiences with Rudeness 05:33 The Psychology Behind Rudeness 07:19 Anger and Hostility in Society 18:14 Rudeness in Professional Environments 22:25 Righteous Rudeness and Effective Communication 25:16 The Pandemic of Rudeness 27:43 Psychological Payoff of Rudeness 29:21 Self-Awareness as a Solution 32:14 Disengaging from Rude Comments 35:47 Gender and Cultural Dynamics of Rudeness 38:07 Rehabilitating Rude Behavior 39:08 The Impact of Media on Rudeness 40:15 Boundaries and Cognitive Flexibility 43:45 The Role of Emotional Reasoning 45:34 The Future of AI and Deep Fakes 47:21 Final Thoughts and Hope for Change About Dr. John’s Valued Guest: John M. O’Brien, Ph.D.  is a professional speaker and executive coach who helps individuals and organizations create lower stress work environments that ignite employee engagement, increase productivity and strengthen profitability. He is a licensed psychologist, professional speaker, and executive coach in Portland, Maine with over 30 years experience in the mental health field as a clinician and adjunct faculty member at the University of Maine at Augusta. John is the author of a newly released book, “Rudeness Rehab: Reclaiming Civility in the Workplace and Your Home Space.”

    50 min
  3. A Love Letter To All Men

    JUN 30

    A Love Letter To All Men

    In this special episode of the Evolved Caveman podcast, Dr. John Schinnerer delivers a heartfelt message to men, addressing the significant pressures and outdated norms surrounding modern masculinity. Highlighting the findings of the State of American Men 2025 report by Equimundo, he discusses the harmful effects of societal expectations on men, including financial stress and isolation. Dr. Schinnerer emphasizes that men are not broken or alone and advocates for a redefinition of masculinity that includes emotional honesty, mutual care, and deeper connections. He concludes with actionable steps for men to embrace their full humanity and rebuild a more inclusive, compassionate version of manhood. Wanna Climb Higher Up The Happiness Hill ? Here’s Where To Begin Your Ascent: 😡 For info on Dr. John's Ultimate Online Anger Management Class (which has over 20,000 graduates!), visit his High Performer Shop  🧠 Top tools for emotional mastery and high tech execs from the best executive coach in Silicon Valley: 👉 GuideToSelf.com 💬 The best podcast for relationships and those who want to create a happier, safer love life: 🎙️ Love Isn’t Enough Podcast  👉 For the tremendous work Dr. John & Joree are doing in couples counseling, visit their top couples counseling site:  👉 LoveIsntEnough.net 🎙️ Top 10 Podcast for Men looking to become an evolving caveman with greater communication skills, grit, mental toughness and authenticity: 👉 The Evolved Caveman Podcast 🌱 Joree’s expert work on mindfulness, therapy & transformation (aka, the best therapist for women near you): 👉 JoreeRose.com 📸 For more info on the superb counseling Joree is doing with women who don’t want the next 20 years to be like the last 20, visit her site at  👉 MindfulnessAndTherapyCenter.com 💬 The top 10 podcast for women over 35: 🎙️ Journey Forward with Joree Rose Podcast

    12 min
  4. From Trauma to Triumph: Healing through Mindfulness

    JUN 23

    From Trauma to Triumph: Healing through Mindfulness

    In this episode of The Evolved Caveman, Dr. John is joined by Dr. Kasim Al-Mashat, a multifaceted expert whose journey from skepticism to healing spans numerous disciplines. From a childhood in Iraq marred by war to groundbreaking research on trauma and refugees, Dr. Kasim's relentless pursuit of healing has led him through the realms of sales, counseling, and mindfulness. Together, they explore the power of authenticity, the transformative effects of mindfulness and laughter yoga, and the importance of embracing all emotions. Tune in to uncover how Dr. Kasim navigates life's challenges, turning suffering into growth, one breath at a time. 00:00 Introduction to Dr. Kasim Al-Mashat 00:29 Kasim's Early Life and Journey to Healing 03:06 The Power of Authenticity 03:32 Kasim's Experience During the Persian Gulf War 05:46 Challenges of Growing Up in a War-Torn Country 07:04 Discovering a Passion for Counseling 10:11 Transition from Business to Counseling 16:55 Research on the Impact of War on Children 22:37 The Journey into Mindfulness and Meditation 30:22 The Challenge of Silent Retreats 31:23 Understanding Mood Swings 33:22 Benefits of Mindfulness 35:27 Discovering Joy Through Meditation 36:40 The Importance of Positive Emotions 40:48 Laughter Yoga: A Path to Happiness 45:45 The Science Behind Laughter 50:04 Embracing All Emotions 53:11 The Power of Shared Humanity Wanna Climb Higher Up The Happiness Hill ? Here’s Where To Begin Your Ascent: 😡 For info on Dr. John's Ultimate Online Anger Management Class (which has over 20,000 graduates!), visit his High Performer Shop. 🧠 Top tools for emotional mastery and high tech execs from the best executive coach in the San Francisco Bay Area: 👉 GuideToSelf.com 💬 The best podcast for relationships and those who want to create a happier, safer love life: 🎙️ Love Isn’t Enough Podcast 👉 For the tremendous work Dr. John & Joree are doing to heal relationships, visit their top couples counseling site:  👉 LoveIsntEnough.net 🎙️ Straight talk on evolution, masculinity & growth on the best podcast for men: 👉 TheEvolvedCaveman.com 🌱 Joree’s expert work on mindfulness, therapy & transformation from the best therapist for women near you: 👉 JoreeRose.com 📸 For more info on the superb counseling Joree is doing with women who are stuck in their lives, visit her site at  👉 MindfulnessAndTherapyCenter.com   💬 The best podcast for women who seek to get unstuck in live and make the next 30 years better than the last 30: 🎙️ Journey Forward with Joree Rose Podcast

    1h 2m
  5. Evolving Beyond AI: Why Emotional IQ is Men's Ultimate Advantage

    JUN 9

    Evolving Beyond AI: Why Emotional IQ is Men's Ultimate Advantage

    In this episode of the Evolved Caveman podcast, Dr. John explores the next wave of the AI revolution, emphasizing emotional intelligence over technical prowess. Addressing an audience of modern men, he stresses the importance of evolving beyond outdated ideals of stoicism and rugged individualism. Dr. John outlines seven practical steps to enhance emotional intelligence, including naming emotions, staying curious, seeking therapy, practicing vulnerability, slowing down, listening to understand, and taking responsibility. As AI rapidly develops emotional nuances, men are urged to prioritize connection, authenticity, and empathy to stay relevant and fulfilled in a rapidly changing world. Please be sure to leave a 5 star review and share with someone who needs to hear this message. Both help us to build a bigger audience and teach more people. Thank you! Wanna Climb Higher Up The Happiness Hill ? Here’s Where To Begin Your Ascent: 😡 For info on Dr. John's Ultimate Online Anger Management Class (which has over 20,000 graduates!), visit his High Performer Shop at https://guide-to-self.mykajabi.com/store  🧠 Top tools for emotional mastery and high tech execs from the best executive coach in San Ramon Valley: 👉 https://GuideToSelf.com  💬 The best podcast for relationships and those who want to create a happier, safer love life: 🎙️ Love Isn’t Enough Podcast at https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/love-isnt-enough/id1774236475  👉 For the tremendous work Dr. John & Joree are doing in couples counseling, visit their top couples counseling site:  👉 https://LoveIsntEnough.net  🎙️ Top 10 Podcast for Men looking to evolve with greater communication skills, grit, mental toughness and happiness: 👉 The Evolved Caveman Podcast at https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-evolved-caveman-podcast-w-dr-john-schinnerer/id1463310003  🌱 Joree’s expert work on mindfulness, therapy & transformation (aka, the best therapist for women near you): 👉 https://JoreeRose.com  📸 For more info on the superb counseling Joree is doing with women who don’t want the next 20 years to be like the last 20, visit her site at  👉 https://MindfulnessAndTherapyCenter.com  💬 The top 10 podcast for women over 40: 🎙️ Journey Forward with Joree Rose Podcast at https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/journey-forward-with-joree-rose/id1454834765  #loveisntenough #relationshipadvice #loveandrelationships #relationshiptips #relationshippodcast #relationshiptools #relationshipgoals #marriage #marriageadvice #marriedlifetips #marriedgoals #marriagetips #couplestherapy #couplegoal

    12 min
  6. From Conflict to Connection: Transform Your Marriage with Rich Heller

    JUN 2

    From Conflict to Connection: Transform Your Marriage with Rich Heller

    In this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast, Dr. John sits down with Rich Heller—a marriage whisperer with two decades of experience and the brains behind the *Rich in Relationship* podcast. Think of Rich as a relationship mechanic who helps couples stop setting emotional fires and start building actual connection (without needing a fire extinguisher or a therapist on speed dial). They dig into the juicy stuff: Rich’s own WTF moments that shaped his career, how generational trauma likes to crash your relationship uninvited, and why shame is the sneaky gremlin screwing things up behind the scenes without your knowledge or permission. They also take a sledgehammer to outdated ideas of masculinity (spoiler: being emotionally clueless isn’t sexy), and explore how to create relationships that don’t suck—with actual tools, not just good vibes. This one’s for anyone who wants less drama and more connection—minus the woo-woo fluff. 01:32 Rich Heller's Journey to Marriage Coaching 04:16 Personal Reflections on Divorce 05:08 Managing Anger and Emotional Triggers 11:33 Conflict Resolution in Relationships 17:22 Understanding and Releasing Trauma 30:05 The Metaphor of Cleaning the House 30:49 Exploring Masculinity Myths 31:43 The High Plains Drifter and Masculine Myths 32:48 Replacing Outdated Masculine Myths 35:39 The Importance of Connection and Vulnerability 36:16 From Fixer to Feeler: Helping Men Connect 39:48 Understanding Men's Root Fears in Relationships 42:41 The Role of Shame in Men's Lives 47:55 The Difference Between Shame and Guilt 53:08 Relational Wealth and Personal Fulfillment About Dr. John’s Cool Guest; Rich Heller, MSW, PCC, ELI-MP, Rich is the podcast host of Rich in Relationship, and Marriage Transformation Coach. He helps couples move from conflict to synergy, from parallel lives to true connection, and from routine to transformation. Rich holds a BA from Vassar College in sustainable social change and an MSW from Hunter School of Social Work, specializing in relational dynamics. He is a Professional Certified Coach (PCC), Master Practitioner of MER and NLP, and a trained mediator and parent coordinator.  Rich has helped thousands of couples break free from old patterns and build relationships rooted in love, partnership, and prosperity—including his own marriage of 20+ years.

    1h 1m
  7. The 4 Indicators of Looming Divorce Part 2: Contempt and Stonewalling

    MAY 28

    The 4 Indicators of Looming Divorce Part 2: Contempt and Stonewalling

    Welcome back to a special joint episode of The Evolved Caveman andLove Isn’t Enough podcasts, where your favorite therapist power couple,Dr. John and Joree, lovingly drag your toxic relationship habits into thedaylight. This week? We’re tackling the last two horsemen of your relationalapocalypse: Contempt and Stonewalling. (Because your love life wasn'talready teetering on the edge after Criticism and Defensiveness lastweek.)First up: Contempt — the "I’m better than you" flavor of loathing that turnsevery dishwasher squabble into a power play. It's got everything: eye-rolls,sneers, and the emotional subtlety of a flamethrower. According to theGottmans, contempt is basically the kiss of death. Spot it in the first 5minutes of a fight? That relationship’s got the lifespan of a mayfly (that is,breakup is around the corner!).Then there's Stonewalling, the cold shoulder’s evil twin. It’s when onepartner shuts down, checks out, and basically becomes a decorative plantduring conflict. Spoiler: that's not sexy. Or helpful. Or sustainable. It’s also aharbinger of breakup.John and Joree keep it real by admitting they used to suck at this stuff too.But they’ve done the work — and now they're here to help you recognizethese behaviors before your relationship flatlines.So if you're tired of feeling unheard, judged, or like you’re arguing with abrick wall (or *being* one), tune in. You might cringe a little, but hey —growth isn’t supposed to be comfy.Wanna Climb Higher Up The Happiness Hill ? Here’s Where To Begin YourAscent:�� For info on Dr. John's Ultimate Online Anger Management Class (which hasover 20,000 graduates!), visit his High Performer Shop.�� Top tools for emotional mastery and high tech execs from the best executivecoach in the San Francisco Bay Area:�� GuideToSelf.com�� The best podcast for relationships and those who want to create a happier,safer love life:��️ Love Isn’t Enough Podcast�� For the tremendous work Dr. John & Joree are doing to heal relationships,visit their top couples counseling site:��  LoveIsntEnough.net��️ Straight talk on evolution, masculinity & growth on the best podcast for men:�� TheEvolvedCaveman.com�� Joree’s expert work on mindfulness, therapy & transformation from the besttherapist for women near you:�� JoreeRose.com�� For more info on the superb counseling Joree is doing with women who arestuck in their lives, visit her site at�� MindfulnessAndTherapyCenter.com�� The best podcast for women who seek to get unstuck in live and make thenext 30 years better than the last 30:��️ Journey Forward with Joree Rose Podcast

    31 min
  8. The 4 Horsemen of Looming Divorce: Criticism & Defensiveness Edition (Part 1)

    MAY 13

    The 4 Horsemen of Looming Divorce: Criticism & Defensiveness Edition (Part 1)

    Welcome back to a special joint episode of  The Evolved Caveman and Love Isn’t Enough, where Joree and John lovingly drag your relationship habits into the light—so you can stop sabotaging your love life one passive-aggressive comment at a time. In this episode, we’re saddling up with the Four Horsemen of the (Relationship) Apocalypse, straight from the research of the OG love nerds, Drs. John and Julie Gottman. These four bad boys—criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling—aren’t just annoying. They’re *statistically proven* to predict divorce with a freaky 92% accuracy rate. That’s right. If these habits are riding around unchecked in your relationship, you're not just arguing over the dishwasher—you might be headed for Splitsville. Today, we’re going deep on the first two horsemen: Criticism (AKA “Let me tell you why you suck”) and Defensiveness (AKA “Oh really? Well what about YOU?”). Joree and John keep it real with personal stories, hilarious moments of self-awareness, and insight from working with clients who, let’s just say, *learned the hard way*. What You'll Learn (Besides How to Stop Arguing Like 5-Year-Olds): * Why your nervous system flips out in the middle of a fight * How criticism is NOT the same as feedback (and why one will wreck your weekend) * The sneaky ways defensiveness kills emotional safety * How to stop being a porcupine when your partner needs a hug * Simple ways to shift from reaction to curiosity (yes, even mid-argument) * The absolute magic of non-defensive listening (hint: your partner might cry happy tears) * And how to actually connect—even when you’re pissed Because the goal isn’t just to stop fighting. It’s to fight smarter, love deeper, and maybe—just maybe—not feel like you're stuck in a never-ending episode of *Who’s the Bigger Jerk?* Bottom Line? You don’t need to be perfect—you just need to show up, own your sh\*t, and stop letting bad habits ride roughshod over your connection. With curiosity, compassion, and a little non-defensive magic, you can actually make your relationship feel less like a battlefield and more like, well, love. Want more tough love with tools? 💔 Check out the Relationship Master Class at 👉 [LoveIsntEnough.net](https://LoveIsntEnough.net) (Spoiler: love isn’t enough. But boundaries, communication, and knowing what to do when your partner is annoying? Total game-changers.) 🎙️ Listen now on The Evolved Caveman Podcast 👉 [TheEvolvedCaveman.com](https://TheEvolvedCaveman.com) 💃 For Joree’s powerhouse work helping women ditch burnout, find joy, and stop dating emotionally unavailable man-children:  👉 [JoreeRose.com](https://JoreeRose.com) 👔 For Dr. John’s work helping execs and high performers stop silently imploding:  👉 [GuideToSelf.com](https://GuideToSelf.com) 😡 For info on Dr. John's Ultimate Anger Management Course (which has over 20,000 graduates!), visit his High Performer Shop at https://guide-to-self.mykajabi.com/store.

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The Best Men's Podcast For Greater Happiness & HealthLet’s be honest. If you’re crushing it at work but your personal life is circling the drain, you’re not actually winning. And if you’ve mastered spreadsheets but can’t remember the last time you laughed, touched a human, or had sex that didn’t feel like a negotiation—well, you’ve got a problem.   Who says men aren't into personal development!?The goal here isn’t just success. It’s success and happiness. At work and at home. Anything less? That’s just a burnout cocktail served with a side of regret.  Dr. John Schinnerer has been helping high-achieving men level the hell up for over 20 years. We're talking Army Rangers, Navy SEALs, Fortune 500 CEOs, pro athletes, and high-powered execs—aka, the guys who look like they have it all together but are secretly one crisis away from losing their minds.  It's not enough to be successful. We also need connection, happiness and purpose.John’s obsession? The sweet spot where high performance meets actual fulfillment. Where you stop white-knuckling your way through life and start showing up with purpose, connection, and the kind of swagger that comes from knowing who you are—not just what you do.  So if you want to start tuning into the best podcast for men, if you want to become the kind of man who’s not emotionally allergic, who leads with confidence, loves with intention, and actually enjoys the life he’s built—welcome. You’re exactly where you need to be.  Just do us all a favor and hit subscribe, rate, review, and, most importantly, share this with another person who could use a kick in the emotional pants.  Let’s evolve, fellas. The world needs better men.  Listen to the top podcast for men and the women who love them - The Evolved Caveman Podcast. For more on the podcast, visit:TheEvolvedCaveman.com  For more on Dr. John's executive coaching services, visit:GuideToSelf.com  For info on Dr. John and Joree's top notch couples counseling, hit up:LoveIsntEnough.netFor info on Joree's excellent counseling for women, take a look at:JoreeRose.com

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