80 episodes

Getting over a breakup? You’re in the right place! Ex-Philes is a weekly podcast all about healing a broken heart, building your confidence, and move forward in an empowered way. And, we know what it’s like. Not only are we both qualified life coaches, but we also have experiences with break-ups that will make you laugh, cry, and get inspired on your healing journey. We love to talk! Our favorite topics include healing from heartbreak, dating, ghosting, no contact, toxic relationships, communication, self-help, attachment styles and more.

You’ve got this, and we’ve got your back!

The Ex-Philes: Break-ups, Broken Hearts and Moving On Clair Lofthouse & Janice Formichella

    • Society & Culture
    • 5.0 • 32 Ratings

Getting over a breakup? You’re in the right place! Ex-Philes is a weekly podcast all about healing a broken heart, building your confidence, and move forward in an empowered way. And, we know what it’s like. Not only are we both qualified life coaches, but we also have experiences with break-ups that will make you laugh, cry, and get inspired on your healing journey. We love to talk! Our favorite topics include healing from heartbreak, dating, ghosting, no contact, toxic relationships, communication, self-help, attachment styles and more.

You’ve got this, and we’ve got your back!

    67. Am I in a Healthy Relationship?

    67. Am I in a Healthy Relationship?

    Do you know how to spot a healthy relationship? When you say you want a healthy relationship, do you know the specifics of what you’re after? We are continuing our DV Awareness Month discussion with a feel-good chat about what makes a partnership a truly functional and joyous one.

    Knowledge is power! It is easy to say that a healthy relationship is one in which both partners feel loved, respected, and seen, but what does it look like day-to-day? Set the bar HIGH with the information included in this episode.

    What do you think about our DV Awareness Month episodes? Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!

    Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts.

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    The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

    • 44 min
    66. Am I in an Abusive Relationship?

    66. Am I in an Abusive Relationship?

    Trigger warning: verbal abuse, financial abuse, intimate partner violence.

    Domestic violence is an often misunderstood topic that society often whittles down to whether or not a person in a relationship is beaten by their partner. Other types of abuse often go undiscussed, unrecognized, and unvalidated, causing a lot of people to live in fear and unhappiness. Today, we are continuing our conversation about domestic violence with a talk about non-physical partner violence and its consequences.

    We hope the information given in this episode will help to promote more awareness and understanding of domestic violence. No one deserves to live in fear of their partner, regardless of the level of physical violence.

    Become an advocate. Please visit the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence to learn how to get involved.

    If you are struggling in a relationship in which you feel abused or lacking control you are not alone. You do not need to justify ending a relationship to anyone, including your partner. If you would like to reach out to someone for support, please consider the following organizations:

    The National Domestic Violence Hotline

    1-800-799-7233 (SAFE)

    www.ndvh.org

    National Dating Abuse Helpline

    1-866-331-9474

    www.loveisrespect.org

    National Suicide Prevention Lifeline

    1-800-273-8255 (TALK)

    www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org

    National Suicide Prevention Lifeline

    1-800-273-8255 (TALK)

    www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org

    INDIGENOUS WOMEN
    National Indigenous Women’s Resource Center

    855-649-7299

    www.niwrc.org

    National Gay and Lesbian Task Force

    1-202-393-5177

    www.ngltf.org

    LEGAL
    Battered Women’s Justice Project

    1-800-903-0111

    www.bwjp.org

    What do you think about our DV Awareness Month episodes? Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!

    Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts.

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    The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

    • 55 min
    65. Domestic Violence Awareness with Ruth Glenn, NCADV

    65. Domestic Violence Awareness with Ruth Glenn, NCADV

    Trigger warning: gun violence, stalking, partner violence, suicide

    October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month and we are honored to be kicking it off with a conversation with Ruth Glenn, President of the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence. Ruth's story is one of survival, inspiration, and information for us all to use and share.

    Domestic violence is a prevalent and misunderstood issue impacting individuals and families in every community in this country. It is estimated that nearly 20 people per minute are being physically abused in the United States, with life-altering non-physical violence just as common but less recognized.

    Yet as pervasive an issue as it is, there are myths and misunderstandings that make daily life even less safe for victims and survivors. In today’s interview, we speak with Ruth about:

    -Her story of being abused by her husband

    -Why “why didn’t you leave” misses the point and puts the blame on the abused person

    -How you can provide hope and support to someone in your life who may be being abused

    -How to recognize abuse in your relationship

    -How to be an advocate to victims and survivors

    Plus: how to get involved with the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence and join the movement against intimate partner violence.

    The NCADV is 100% reliant on grassroots support and donations and not funded by government grants. Please visit them today at https://ncadv.org/ to learn about the various ways to get involved.

    Help us spread awareness this Domestic Violence Awareness Month by using the hashtag #weareresilient in your posts.

    Want to get to know us more? Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!

    Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts.

    ____________________________________________________________________________

    The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

    • 1 hr 21 min
    64. 🚩🚩 Dating app profile RED FLAGS 🚩🚩

    64. 🚩🚩 Dating app profile RED FLAGS 🚩🚩

    It’s true: online dating is a lot about weeding out the “not-so-likely-to-be-a-match” profiles. But how do you know? Today we are having the experts, including the Ex-Philes gals, weigh in about the profile red flags that you can go ahead and avoid.



    The red flags that we discuss are common enough to make us scratch our heads and hilarious enough to make us lose it a few times. And yes, it includes fish pics and “ain’t my baby” discussions. Plus, why asking for “no drama” is a sure sign that drama follows you wherever you go.

    We want you to have fun out there! Up your chances by taking notes on this episode.



    Resources mentioned in this episode:

    Episode 35: Chemistry vs. Compatibility

    Episode 59: Dating App Profile Pics! With Saskia Nelson



    We would love to continue this topic. If you have a funny story or experience with a dating profile high on the “red flag” or “sounds like a winner” spectrum, please join our Facebook group and share.



    Want to get to know us more? Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!

    Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts.

    ____________________________________________________________________________

    The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

    • 1 hr 8 min
    63. Negging and toxic flirting

    63. Negging and toxic flirting

    We want you to have happy, healthy relationships, and those start with flirting that leaves you feeling JUICY, not icky or doubting yourself.



    Regardless of what you (or they) call it, there are toxic, predatory flirting behaviors that are used in today’s scene. No amount of “I’m just kidding” makes them okay. We want to start a movement of sorts: dating is only worth it when it’s fun and feels good. So the Ex-Philes gals and here to give you permission to spot and call out this shit when you see it.

    Are you single and ready to mingle? In today’s episode we will chat about:

    -What negging looks like

    -Why it is ALWAYS wrong

    -Our personal experiences facing negging and toxic flirting behaviors

    -What to do when someone negs you

    -How to make you that you don’t engage in toxic flirting behavior

    Remember: you are not “too sensitive.” If it feels wrong, don’t put up with it.

    Want to get to know us more? Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!

    Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts.

    ____________________________________________________________________________

    The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

    • 1 hr
    62. High-Conflict Coparenting with Katie

    62. High-Conflict Coparenting with Katie

    There are a lot of moving parts to co-parenting. And when you are co-parenting with an ex that you don’t get along with, it can quickly become overwhelming for everyone involved. But there ARE ways to make it work, set a good example for your children, AND maintain your sanity.

    We are so pleased to welcome Co-Parenting Peacefully founder Katie Davie to Ex-Philes. Katie is a co-parenting coach who specializes in providing one-on-one support to individuals who want to find a solution to a co-parenting situation that isn’t working for them. She offers really practical tips and ways of thinking about your own behavior that can be game changers for your entire family.

    Some of what we cover:

    -how to limit contact with your co-parent

    -what are appropriate boundaries to set with your co-parent

    -what a parental agreement is and why everyone needs one

    -what to do when you are the only one trying to make things peaceful

    -How to make sure your kids don’t get caught up in the conflict

    This is a great episode for anyone who has to have contact with their ex.

    Katie is constantly dropping truth bombs on her awesome Instagram account, CoparentingPeacefully. To learn about what she is offering parenting visit her website at Coparentingpeacefully.com 

    What did you think of Katie's approach? Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!

    Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts.

    ____________________________________________________________________________

    The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

    • 52 min

Customer Reviews

5.0 out of 5
32 Ratings

32 Ratings

skull8110 ,

PEACEFUL & UPLIFTING

I’ve really enjoyed the 10-day no contact episodes the last week & a half. Even though they’re about breakups, it’s put me into a powerful mindset, ready to take on anything! I can’t wait to see what’s next for this show! 💜

Italy8301 ,

The help I need

I’m new to the show, however, the first few episodes and the 10 day no contact challenge has been immensely helpful. I can’t wait to continue listening and get the help I need right now. Thank you so much ladies! ❤️

zwol.fit ,

Great podcast for anyone!

This is a great podcast not only for breakups, but also for every day life. Not only do they bring up common obstacles you may face, but they also go over the why behind the what. On top of this they are very entertaining and easy to listen to. Check it out!!!!!!

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