The Expat Mom Podcast Jennie Linton

Most of us were given the advice when we got married, “Do everything you can to make your spouse happy.”  This sounds like such lovely and good advice.  I agree that we should be loving and kind and sacrificing.  But when we do these things with the expectation that it will make our spouse happy, very often we undermine our happiness and the happiness of our spouse.  In other words when we do this we are people pleasing—doing something in order to manipulate someone’s response.  There is a much healthier and much more fun way of cultivating happiness in your marriage.   

What you’ll learn on the podcast
Why sometimes our spouse doesn’t feel happy even when we’re trying our best Why trying to make our spouse happy can cause us to feel miserableHow trying to make our spouse happy can actually cause disconnection in our marriage Why your spouse may not WANT us to try to make them happyHow to cultivate happiness in your marriage in a healthier way How to create connection even when you don’t honor your spouse’s wishesHow to hold space for your spouse’s disappointmentFree Mini-Coaching Session
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One of the blessings of living in a developing country as an expat, can be having a household helper.   It can be a wonderful way to learn about the host culture, and language, as well as have assistance figuring out new things like bleaching fruits and veggies, figuring out how to get around, paying your bills, and more.  And then, there is the incredible blessing of having help around the house and with child care.   It's great to be able to contribute to the local economy in a positive way.  We have been SO thankful for the wonderful helpers that have blessed our family. 

However, employing someone in your home also comes with some challenges, and it can lead to frustration and difficulty.  I have certainly made lots of mistakes over the years.  This is a conversation with a fellow veteran expat, Angi Solley.  We discuss some of our takeaways about navigating having a household helper. 

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Has someone in your family ever gotten a cold?  Within a few days, everyone in the family has one?   Just like germs are contagious, so are emotions.  Obviously, we don't pass microparticles to each other like bacteria, but we do have biological structures that cause us to mirror emotions in each other.  On the podcast, we explore how this can be SO useful in our relationships and how it can also be destructive.  I offer some tools to use this human phenomenon to build our relationships rather than destroy them.  

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Cows spend 7-8 hours a day chewing, swallowing, regurgitating, re-chewing, and re-swallowing their food.  That's a lot of time!  Humans spend a lot of time ruminating as well.  Rather than ruminating on food, they ruminate on thoughts:  they love to chew on thoughts over and over again, swallow them, regurgitate them, and chew on them some more.  While rumination can be helpful to cows in digesting food, rumination for humans has the opposite effect.  It wastes time, depresses our mood, and keeps us from solving a problem.  In this episode, we dive into rumination--why we do it and how to stop it. 

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Have you ever noticed that sometimes the very things you love about someone are also sometimes the things that drive you crazy?  Often our strengths and our weaknesses are two sides of the same continuum.  We're constantly late but it's because we're optimistic about how much we can get done.  We're compassionate, but when we care too much, we might neglect ourselves to solve other's problems.  Understanding that our weaknesses are actually just our strengths overused can be a game changer in helping us accept ourselves AND in learning how to navigate situations with our strengths as opposed to our weaknesses.  

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Do you ever feel like you have a CNN line ticker constantly moving across the bottom of your brain listing all the things you have to keep track of from whether you've run out of toilet paper, to order the soccer uniform, to making dinner, to exercising etc.?  This is your mental load.  Studies show that women carry significantly more of the mental load around home life than men do.  In reaction to this, many women feel frustrated and expect men to "do their share."  But what I've seen in my coaching is that this actually discourages both partners to blame the other partner and expect them to suddenly do what their partner does.   I see it create frustration and disconnection in marriages.  I created a podcast to share some ways to navigate mental load without sabotaging your marriage--in fact, it can bring you closer together.  

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