The Feral Era for Women Over 40 with Kirsten Bombdiggity

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Each episode, Kirsten joins forces with a brazen, brilliant woman for a fast, fun, ferociously unfiltered conversation about people-pleasing, burnout, masking, imposter syndrome, aging bodies, ambition, relationships, identity shifts, and launching our comeback tours.

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  1. 5d ago

    Reinventing Yourself with an Audience Is Wild | CHANGE with Anna Przy

    There comes a point when life starts asking different questions. Not "Can you handle more?" but "Do you even want this anymore?" Not "What will people think?" but "What do you think?" For a lot of women, that's where change gets uncomfortable. Not because we're becoming someone else, but because we're finally considering ourselves in decisions we've spent years making for everyone else. That kind of honesty has consequences. Sometimes the people who loved the old version of you aren't quite as excited about the new one. Anna Przy knows what it's like to evolve in public. As a comedian, content creator, author, and now tour host, she's built a career by showing up exactly as she is, whether that's on stage making people laugh or standing in a messy house admitting she doesn't have a single ounce of motivation left. In this conversation, she shares what happened when she stopped chasing the version of herself that looked impressive and started choosing the version that actually felt alive. The result isn't a conversation about becoming someone new. It's a conversation about finally trusting the person who's been there all along. FERAL SNACKS "I had to try. Maybe it doesn't work, but I had to try." "If you constantly put yourself first, somebody's going to be disappointed." "I'm just a lady. That's why they want to hear from you... because you're just a lady." "I fought my whole life to get my sh*t together... and I haven't had one single day in 38 years where it was together." "It can change, and it will change." IN THIS EPISODE • Why disappointing people is sometimes evidence you're finally listening to yourself.• The surprising reason audiences connect more deeply with humanity than perfection.• What happens when the version of you everyone expects no longer fits.• Why "having your sh*t together" might be the biggest myth we've all been chasing.• The difference between building an impressive life and building one that actually feels like yours.• How curiosity can interrupt anxiety and create room for something new.• Why trying and failing is often healthier than staying safely stuck.• The freedom that comes from realizing you're allowed to change your mind. ABOUT ANNA PRZY Anna Przy is a content creator, comedian, and author who turns human messiness into connection. She brings realness, chaos, and heart to the internet, the page, and the stage. Her book, Keep It Up, Cutie, is a collection of the humor and humanity that have made her a favorite among people looking for laughter without pretending life is perfect. Website: akprzy.com Instagram: @akprzy YouTube: @akprzy ABOUT THE FERAL ERA The Feral Era for Women Over 40 with Kirsten Bombdiggity is a weekly live show for successful women who are tired of feeling invisible in their own daggum lives. Because mindset is useless if our nervous systems are fried. Live every Wednesday at 1pm ET, Kirsten sits down with one featured guest for a fast, fun, ferociously unfiltered conversation about people-pleasing, burnout, masking, imposter syndrome, aging bodies, ambition, relationships, identity shifts, and launching our individual comeback tours. If this episode made you think of someone who's standing on the edge of a change they haven't quite admitted to yet, send it their way. Follow the show, share it with a friend, and come back next week for another conversation that reminds us we're allowed to stop performing and start coming home to ourselves.

    Reinventing Yourself with an Audience Is Wild | CHANGE with Anna Przy

  2. Jul 8

    The Uniform Fit. The Silence Didn't. | VISIBILITY with Col. Bree Fram

    Some versions of us fit so well that nobody notices they're costumes. They earn promotions. Compliments. Trust. Belonging. They make other people comfortable. They check every box on paper. Until one day, they don't fit the person wearing them anymore. This conversation isn't just about visibility. It's about what happens when authenticity becomes more valuable than approval. About the quiet moment when a person decides that surviving as someone else's version of themselves is no longer enough. Col. Bree Fram knows that decision intimately. A retired U.S. Space Force colonel, astronautical engineer, public policy expert, former Congressional candidate, and author, Bree shares what it means to become visible in a world that would often prefer you remain invisible. Together, Kirsten and Bree explore authenticity, leadership, identity, privilege, and the extraordinary freedom that begins the moment we stop asking permission to become ourselves. "I gave myself the gift of possibility at 30. I gave myself authenticity at 40." "I went through some awful things, and I don't want you to have to go through those." "Why would anyone choose to be discriminated against? This made my life harder. But the value I got from being myself taught me how to be a better leader." "No one's going to give it to you. There's no magic promotion. There's no external validation that's going to say, 'Okay, now you can be you.'" "What are you waiting for?" Why some of the most powerful leadership lessons begin with identity. The difference between performing a life and actually living one. What authenticity gives back after it costs you almost everything. The hidden privilege of never having to wonder whether it's safe to be yourself. Why visibility creates possibility for people you've never even met. How becoming yourself can expose blind spots you never knew you had. Why your people can't find you if you're hiding behind a version of yourself that no longer fits. The surprisingly profound life lesson hidden inside a 12-foot Halloween skeleton. Col. (ret.) Bree Fram is an astronautical engineer, public policy expert, author, speaker, former Congressional candidate, and retired U.S. Space Force colonel. Bree came out publicly as transgender on the day the military's transgender ban was lifted in 2016 and was later forced to retire following an executive order targeting transgender service members. In her final military assignment, she led requirements development for future Space Force capabilities. Her work has appeared in the New York Times, Washington Post, and other national and international media outlets. She is the author of Forging Queer Leaders: How the LGBTQIA+ Community Creates Impact from Adversity and editor of With Honor and Integrity and With Valor and Visibility. Website: www.breefram.com LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/bree-fram/ The Feral Era for Women Over 40 with Kirsten Bombdiggity is a weekly live show for successful women who are tired of feeling invisible in their own daggum lives. Because mindset is useless if our nervous systems are fried. Live every Wednesday at 1pm ET, Kirsten sits down with one featured guest for a fast, fun, ferociously unfiltered conversation about people-pleasing, burnout, masking, imposter syndrome, aging bodies, ambition, relationships, identity shifts, and launching our individual comeback tours. If this episode made you feel a little more seen, share it with someone who's been wondering whether the life they're performing still fits the person they've become. Follow the show, subscribe wherever you listen, and come back next week for another conversation that reminds us we're allowed to become more ourselves on purpose.

    The Uniform Fit. The Silence Didn't. | VISIBILITY with Col. Bree Fram

  3. Jul 1

    You Don't Need to Speak to a Manager | PERMISSION with Shari Biery

    Some women can organize a family vacation, negotiate a salary, advocate for everyone else's needs, and somehow still freeze when someone asks, "What do you want?" Not because they don't have an answer. Because somewhere along the way, wanting something for themselves started feeling like it required approval. This week's conversation isn't really about confidence. It's about authority. The quiet ways women outsource it. The invisible permission slips we've been handing to bosses, partners, parents, calendars, guilt, and imaginary committees that never seem to adjourn. Shari Biery knows this terrain well. After spending two decades supporting her husband's military career, moving ten times, reinventing herself again and again, and finally hearing the words, "Now it's your turn," she realized nobody else could authorize the life she wanted to build. That signature had always belonged to her. Together, she and Kirsten unpack the strange way midlife invites women home to themselves. Not through becoming someone new, but by finally trusting the woman who's been waiting underneath decades of over-functioning. FERAL SNACKS "Clarity gives you the direction. Permission is what actually moves you forward." "The only person that can really sign that permission slip is ourselves." "We've gotten our permission slips a lot from the outside. And now the question shifts from 'What does everyone else need from me?' to 'What do I want?'" "No one is coming to give you permission. It's your turn to choose yourself." "We need to stop treating ourselves like side characters." IN THIS EPISODE • Why so many women wait until burnout before they believe they're "allowed" to rest • The sneaky ways we outsource decisions we were always capable of making • What military life taught Shari about identity, reinvention, and finally choosing herself • Why midlife feels less like reinvention and more like coming home • How wellness culture can accidentally pull us farther away from our own body wisdom • The hidden cost of always being the dependable one • Why coaching assumes the answers are already inside you • The difference between functioning well and actually feeling alive ABOUT SHARI BIERY Shari Biery is a Purpose & Well-Being Coach for Midlife Women, keynote speaker, and author of It's Your Turn. A National Board Certified Health and Wellness Coach, she helps women reconnect with themselves after years of putting everyone else first. Through her signature C.A.L.M. Method™, she teaches practical, sustainable ways to manage stress, restore energy, reconnect with body wisdom, and build lives that finally feel like their own. Website: https://www.sharibiery.com LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/shari-biery ABOUT THE FERAL ERA The Feral Era for Women Over 40 with Kirsten Bombdiggity is a weekly live show for successful women who are tired of feeling invisible in their own daggum lives. Because mindset is useless if our nervous systems are fried. Live every Wednesday at 1pm ET, Kirsten sits down with one featured guest for a fast, fun, ferociously unfiltered conversation about people-pleasing, burnout, masking, imposter syndrome, aging bodies, ambition, relationships, identity shifts, and launching our individual comeback tours. If this episode made you recognize yourself, send it to another woman who's spent a little too much of her life waiting until everyone else was okay before letting herself be okay. Follow the show, subscribe wherever you listen, and come back next week for another conversation that might just hand you another piece of yourself.

    You Don't Need to Speak to a Manager | PERMISSION with Shari Biery

  4. Jun 28

    Strength Training Ain’t About the Dumbbells | STRONG with Monica Moehring

    Some women spend decades trying to weigh less while carrying more.More responsibility. More invisible labor. More emotional weight. More expectations. More people who somehow mistake "she can handle it" for "she should."Then one day they pick up a dumbbell and discover something unexpected: strength was never about getting smaller. It was about becoming more capable of carrying the life they actually want.This conversation isn't really about deadlifts.It's about what happens when women stop measuring themselves by a number on a scale and start measuring themselves by what they can build. Muscle. Confidence. Boundaries. Trust. Capacity. A life that finally fits the woman living it.Because sometimes becoming physically stronger is simply the first place a woman practices becoming more herself.FERAL SNACKS"I became a different person, a better person, once I started lifting heavy weights." "If you actually want to look toned, you should train like you're trying to get bulky." "Not trying to get back to that person, but just get to the best version of yourself now in this phase of life." "Pick something that feels ridiculously easy." "I never want anybody to become more like me. I just want people to realize that they can be more like them." IN THIS EPISODE• Why strength after 40 has far more to do with identity than appearance• The myth of "getting bulky" and why it's keeping women small• Trading scale goals for performance goals that actually feel good• What lifting heavy teaches women about confidence outside the gym• Leaving the certainty of a paycheck to build a life that finally fits• Why tiny habits beat dramatic life overhauls every single time• The surprising connection between agency, trauma, and physical strength• Why becoming stronger sometimes starts with giving yourself permission to take up spaceABOUT MONICA MOEHRINGMonica Moehring is a Personal Trainer and owner of Movement With Momo. She specializes in helping women over 40 build strength through proper weight training so they can thrive instead of simply getting by during this incredible season of life. Her no-BS approach helps women increase muscle, improve whole-body health, and discover the confidence that comes from becoming stronger inside and out.Instagram: @movementwithmomoFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/monica.moehringABOUT THE FERAL ERAThe Feral Era for Women Over 40 with Kirsten Bombdiggity is a weekly live show for successful women who are tired of feeling invisible in their own daggum lives.Because mindset is useless if our nervous systems are fried.Live every Wednesday at 1pm ET, Kirsten sits down with one featured guest for a fast, fun, ferociously unfiltered conversation about people-pleasing, burnout, masking, imposter syndrome, aging bodies, ambition, relationships, identity shifts, and launching our individual comeback tours.If this episode made you look at strength a little differently, send it to the woman who's spent her whole life carrying more than anyone realizes. Follow the show so you don't miss next week's conversation, and if you're enjoying The Feral Era, sharing it with one friend is one of the best ways to help more women remember they're allowed to take up space.

    Strength Training Ain’t About the Dumbbells | STRONG with Monica Moehring

  5. Jun 18

    Some Women Learned Damage Control Before Self-Trust | DIPLOMACY with Genie Gratto

    Some women can negotiate contracts, manage teams, calm angry clients, and navigate awkward family dynamics with the precision of a Swiss watch.Then they spend forty-seven minutes rewriting a text message because they don't want to sound rude.Not because they're weak. Not because they're insecure. Because somewhere along the way, many women learned that keeping the peace was safer than telling the truth.This episode lives in that space.The space between diplomacy and disappearing.The space between being emotionally intelligent and becoming the unpaid public relations department for everybody else's comfort.The space between what you mean and what you actually say.Kirsten Bombdiggity sits down with Genie Gratto, CEO and Founder of GWRITES, for a conversation about communication, self-trust, perception, boundaries, and the hidden costs of constantly translating yourself into something more comfortable for other people to consume.Because clarity turns out to be a lot kinder than self-erasure.FERAL SNACKS• "It doesn't make things kinder. It just makes things blurrier for people."• "Ambiguity costs you years."• "We don't need to ask people to grade us."• "The feral era is not about stopping diplomacy, but it is about not confusing diplomacy with disappearing."• "Diplomacy is clarity. Diplomacy is never self-erasure." IN THIS EPISODE• Why softening your message can accidentally hand other people the pen• The hidden difference between being kind and being blurry• How women learn to apologize before they've done anything wrong• What happens when you're better at managing perception than expressing need• The reason disappointing people you love feels scarier than high-stakes negotiations• Why ambiguity quietly drains time, money, energy, and relationships• The surprising connection between diplomacy and self-trust• The gap between what you mean and what you actually sayABOUT GENIE GRATTOGenie Gratto is a mission-driven communicator with a passion for narrative, storytelling, technology, and social change. She believes the right words can shift perceptions, build trust, and move people toward meaningful action.Website: http://www.gwrites.comLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/geniegrattoABOUT THE FERAL ERAThe Feral Era for Women Over 40 with Kirsten Bombdiggity is a weekly live show for successful women who are tired of feeling invisible in their own daggum lives.Because mindset is useless if our nervous systems are fried.Live every Wednesday at 1pm ET, Kirsten sits down with one featured guest for a fast, fun, ferociously unfiltered conversation about people-pleasing, burnout, masking, imposter syndrome, aging bodies, ambition, relationships, identity shifts, and launching our individual comeback tours.If this episode made you feel seen, send it to the woman who apologizes before asking a question, rewrites emails three times, or somehow became responsible for everybody else's emotional weather.Then hit subscribe and stick around.We're just getting started.

    Some Women Learned Damage Control Before Self-Trust | DIPLOMACY with Genie Gratto

  6. Jun 15

    Women Aren’t the Six Sigma Sex | VIBE with Michelle Pecak

    Some women can read a room faster than they can read themselves. They notice the tension. The awkward pause. The weird text. The subtle shift in somebody else's energy. Meanwhile, their own exhaustion is standing in the corner waving both arms like it's directing airport traffic. For years, many women were rewarded for becoming experts at emotional logistics. Keep things smooth. Anticipate needs. Manage reactions. Stay useful. Stay pleasant. Stay "fine." The problem is that eventually you can become so good at maintaining the vibe around you that you lose track of your own. This conversation explores what happens when that realization finally catches up with you. Michelle Pecak spent two decades building billion-dollar systems in corporate America before discovering that the same pattern recognition that made her successful in supply chain could also help people better understand themselves. The result is a conversation about human design, nervous systems, intuition, identity, joy, and why the second half of life often feels less like reinvention and more like remembering. Because sometimes nothing is technically wrong. And that's exactly why it's so hard to ignore the feeling that something needs to change. FERAL SNACKS "Sometimes you start using words before you actually know it's your thing because your soul knows it's your thing." "They're just not my vibe." "Nothing you did in your day job was a waste. It's just how you repurpose it." "You can't f*ck up your life path." "You can never miss what's meant for you because what's meant for you is going to arrive right on time." IN THIS EPISODE • Why some women become emotional air traffic controllers for everybody around them • The difference between lowering your standards and choosing your energy • What twenty years of supply chain strategy taught Michelle about human behavior • The moment a corporate career stops fitting but still pays the bills • Why your joy job and your day job don't have to be the same thing • The surprising overlap between dog breeds, nervous systems, and identity • What happens when your body knows before your brain does ABOUT MICHELLE PECAK Michelle Pecak, Founder of MY VIBE Michelle Pecak took her 20 years in supply chain and created Quantum Operations, an assessment of how people, process, product, and pricing are all connected by strategy. Michelle has worked for some of the largest billion-dollar B2B distributors and manufacturers in the world, helping organizations scale through strategic pricing and heart-centered leadership. A master connector and advocate for holistic wellness, Michelle believes that understanding yourself is one of the most powerful luxuries available. Her work helps people identify their strengths, align with their purpose, and create meaningful growth in both life and business. She is also the Founder of My Vibe Community, a conscious commerce marketplace where healers, organizations, professionals, entrepreneurs, and executives come together through collaboration, reciprocity, and connection. Website: www.myvibehumandesign.com Community: www.myvibecommunity.com ABOUT THE FERAL ERA The Feral Era for Women Over 40 with Kirsten Bombdiggity is a weekly live show for successful women who are tired of feeling invisible in their own daggum lives. Because mindset is useless if our nervous systems are fried. Live every Wednesday at 1pm ET, Kirsten sits down with one featured guest for a fast, fun, ferociously unfiltered conversation about people-pleasing, burnout, masking, imposter syndrome, aging bodies, ambition, relationships, identity shifts, and launching our individual comeback tours. If this episode made you feel seen, send it to the woman who keeps taking care of everybody else while quietly wondering when she gets to be included in the plan. Follow the show, subscribe wherever you listen, and keep these conversations close. The women who need them most are usually the ones convinced they're fine.

    Women Aren’t the Six Sigma Sex | VIBE with Michelle Pecak

  7. Jun 3

    The Patterns of Inconsistency | CONSISTENCY with Carla Birnberg

    Some women have become so dependable that nobody notices they're disappearing. The texts get answered. The deadlines get met. The appointments get scheduled. The birthdays get remembered. The work gets done. The family gets fed. The dog gets walked. The world keeps spinning. And yet somewhere along the way, they stop returning to themselves. This conversation flips the entire idea of consistency on its head. Because maybe the problem isn't that women are inconsistent. Maybe we're incredibly consistent. Consistent with over-giving. Consistent with overriding exhaustion. Consistent with postponing our own desires until some mythical future version of life finally calms down. Carla Birnberg has spent years studying consistency, and what emerges in this conversation isn't a lecture about discipline. It's a conversation about desire. About self-trust. About showing up imperfectly. About returning after the missed workout, the abandoned project, the rough season, the messy chapter, and deciding that one imperfect step still counts. Because sometimes the most powerful form of consistency isn't doing it perfectly. It's returning. FERAL SNACKS "Return is sexy." "Consistency is practice mindset. Perfection is presentation." "It's vulnerability. It's the willingness to show up wanting." "On my crappiest, hardest day, what is the smallest step I can take?" "It's all about the return." IN THIS EPISODE Why some women become wildly reliable at their own expenseThe difference between streaks and self-trust• What happens when discipline starts masquerading as self-abandonmentWhy desire feels surprisingly vulnerableThe hidden freedom inside structure• The emotional cost of believing consistency must look the same every dayHow high-achieving women accidentally expect beginner skills to arrive fully developedWhy returning matters more than perfectionABOUT CARLA BIRNBERG Carla Birnberg, M.Ed., is the author of The Consistency Advantage series, which explores consistency as a driver of workplace culture, leadership, and human connection. Blending behavioral insight with cultural observation, her writing examines the gap between what people claim to value and what they actually reward. Drawing from experience in organizational culture, employee engagement, leadership communication, and global mental health initiatives, Carla connects patterns across behavior, performance, and identity. Her work reframes consistency not as rigid discipline or streaking culture, but as adaptability: the ability to remain reliable and engaged over time. Website: carlabirnberg.com ABOUT THE FERAL ERA The Feral Era for Women Over 40 with Kirsten Bombdiggity is a weekly live show for successful women who are tired of feeling invisible in their own daggum lives. Because mindset is useless if our nervous systems are fried. Live every Wednesday at 1pm ET, Kirsten sits down with one featured guest for a fast, fun, ferociously unfiltered conversation about people-pleasing, burnout, masking, imposter syndrome, aging bodies, ambition, relationships, identity shifts, and launching our individual comeback tours. If this episode made you feel aggressively seen, send it to the woman who keeps showing up for everybody else while quietly negotiating with herself. Follow the show, share the episode, and come back next week. There are a whole lot of women discovering that the life they've built technically works... but something inside them is asking for more. This show is for them. And maybe for you, too.

    The Patterns of Inconsistency | CONSISTENCY with Carla Birnberg

  8. May 28

    The Relationship Between a Woman and Her Voice | DECIDE with Karen Lyu

    Speak softer.Don't make it awkward.Be easy to work with.Don't ask for too much.Keep the peace. After enough years, those decisions stop feeling like decisions. They become muscle memory. They become the way you answer emails, the way you enter a room, the way you explain yourself before anyone has even challenged you. This conversation starts with voice but quickly wanders into something much bigger: the tiny daily choices that shape a life. The ones that determine whether we speak up, shrink down, over-give, over-explain, or convince ourselves we don't really need what we need. Karen Lyu has spent years helping people find their voices, but somewhere along the way she realized many women weren't struggling with sound. They were struggling with permission. Permission to take up space. Permission to have boundaries. Permission to want something different. Permission to decide. And sometimes the difference between the life you have and the life you want is not a five-year plan. It's one new choice. FERAL SNACKS "You're one decision away from a completely different life." "We have so many choices in life. When we get into a stuck place, we often think of only two options or three options, and that's absolutely not true." "Unless you are able to speak up for yourself, you cannot have the life you want." "Maybe it's finally making decisions from the version of us that was there before the performance started." IN THIS EPISODE • The decisions that quietly become part of our identity • Why speaking up for yourself is often a boundary issue before it's a confidence issue • 4 New Choices" framework by Karen Lyu • The Six Decisions framework by Dr. Susie Hansley, PhD • The Six Boundaries framework by Nedra Glover Tawwab • What emotional regulation has to do with making decisions you can actually live with • The strange way survival mode convinces us there are only two or three options • Why some women become experts at managing everyone except themselves • A story about a "tone deaf" student that turned into a karaoke championship • The first decision Karen believes belongs to every woman ABOUT KAREN LYU Karen Lyu (aka "Karey Poppins") is a queer Korean-American author, keynote speaker, holistic voice coach, award-winning jazz diva, integrated mindset coach, and game designer who helps women leaders, nonprofit professionals, and educators strengthen vocal confidence, prevent fatigue, and lead with clarity without losing themselves. Once a shy, bullied wallflower, Karen transformed her relationship to her voice and built a career as a professional performer, executive director, and holistic voice coach. Today she blends storytelling, neuroscience, mind-body wellness, and artistry to help leaders, educators, and women reclaim confidence, communicate with authority, and create lives that feel more aligned with who they truly are. Website: www.holisticvoicecoach.com Linktree: www.linktr.ee/karenlyu Book:Singing in Tune: Solutions for 25 Pitch Problems ABOUT THE FERAL ERA The Feral Era for Women Over 40 with Kirsten Bombdiggity is a weekly show for successful women who are tired of feeling invisible in their own daggum lives. Because mindset is useless if our nervous systems are fried. Live every Wednesday at 1pm ET, Kirsten sits down with one featured guest for a fast, fun, ferociously unfiltered conversation about people-pleasing, burnout, masking, imposter syndrome, aging bodies, ambition, relationships, identity shifts, and launching our individual comeback tours. If you've ever talked yourself out of asking for what you wanted, or realized halfway through a conversation that everyone else's comfort somehow became your responsibility, this episode is for you. Share it with the woman who puts herself at the bottom of her own priority list. Follow the show, subscribe wherever you listen, and keep collecting evidence that a different life might be one decision away.

    The Relationship Between a Woman and Her Voice | DECIDE with Karen Lyu

  9. May 20

    You Can Outgrow a Life That Once Saved You. | STARTING OVER with Diane Cole

    Some women become so good at surviving that nobody notices they’ve been emotionally holding their breath for years. In this episode of The Feral Era for Women Over 40, Kirsten Bombdiggity sits down with Diane Cole, Licensed Mental Health Counselor, bestselling author, and startup founder, for a conversation about grief, trauma bonds, emotional loyalty, healthy love, nervous systems, and the strange moment women realize the life they built to survive no longer feels like a life they actually want to live inside. This conversation gets into the exhausting emotional math so many women do to stay chosen. The way chaos can masquerade as chemistry. The grief hidden inside starting over. And the reality that some women were praised for being “strong” when they were actually chronically under-nurtured and emotionally abandoned. Because sometimes the version of you everybody else benefits from is the exact version quietly exhausting you. FERAL LITTLE SENTENCES “Some women aren’t afraid of starting over. They’re afraid they’ll spend another decade betraying themselves to avoid it.” “You can outgrow a life that once saved you.” “Healthy love can feel suspicious to a nervous system trained to earn affection through exhaustion.” “Some women became emotionally useful before they ever became emotionally safe.” “The body notices long before the brain finally admits it.” IN THIS EPISODE • Why starting over after 40 often feels more like grief than freedom• The difference between being loved and being emotionally depended on• How trauma can create loyalty to people who repeatedly hurt us• Why some women confuse chaos with chemistry• The hidden exhaustion of performing ‘fine’ for years• What healthy love feels like to a nervous system trained on unpredictability• The moment functioning stops feeling like living• Why women who look the strongest are often carrying the most invisible emotional weight ABOUT DIANE COLE Diane Cole is a therapist, speaker, entrepreneur, and co-CEO dedicated to helping women heal, grow, and reconnect with their fullest selves. With a background in trauma-informed care and a passion for emotional healing, she blends psychology, spirituality, empowerment, and practical transformation in a way that feels both grounded and deeply inspiring. Diane is the creator of Heartbundance, a healing and manifestation framework designed to help survivors of relationship trauma reclaim self-worth, abundance, and personal power. Through therapy, retreats, writing, and transformational experiences, she creates spaces where women can process pain, rediscover joy, and step into lives that feel aligned and expansive. Website: https://www.thedianecole.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/thedianecoleTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thedianecole ABOUT THE SHOW The Feral Era for Women Over 40 with Kirsten Bombdiggity is a weekly live show for successful women who are tired of feeling invisible in their own daggum lives. Because mindset is useless if our nervous systems are fried. Live every Wednesday at 1pm ET, Kirsten sits down with one featured guest for a fast, funny, ferociously unfiltered conversation about people-pleasing, burnout, masking, imposter syndrome, aging bodies, ambition, relationships, identity shifts, and launching our individual comeback tours. If this episode hit you in the chest a little bit, send it to the woman who keeps calling herself “fine” while carrying everybody else emotionally like a human backpack full of bricks. And come back next week for another fast, fun, ferociously unfiltered conversation about becoming more yourself on purpose.

    You Can Outgrow a Life That Once Saved You. | STARTING OVER with Diane Cole

  10. May 14

    Discernment and Fear Are Not the Same | HEALING with Rev. Samantha Hasty, MDiv

    Some women become so practiced at doubting themselves that fear eventually starts sounding responsible. Smile bigger.Need less.Stay agreeable.Stay exhausted. And after enough years of disconnecting from your own instincts, it gets harder and harder to tell the difference between discernment… and survival mode wearing church clothes. In this episode of The Feral Era for Women Over 40, Kirsten Bombdiggity sits down with Rev. Samantha Hasty for a conversation about spiritual scar tissue, religious conditioning, self-trust, over-functioning, and the quiet grief of realizing how often women were rewarded for abandoning themselves. This conversation explores what happens when healing stops being about becoming “better” and starts becoming about finally believing your own nervous system again. FERAL LITTLE SENTENCES “Fear eventually starts introducing itself as discernment.” “Some women are so good at functioning that nobody realizes they’re disappearing.” “Self-abandonment gets mistaken for holiness all the time.” “Nothing looks technically wrong from the outside… but your body knows.” “Healing sometimes looks less like becoming nicer and more like becoming harder to override.” IN THIS EPISODE • Spiritual scar tissue women carry without realizing it• The difference between discernment and conditioned fear• Why exhausted women often become emotional shape-shifters• The moment functioning stops feeling like living• Religious systems that accidentally teach women to distrust themselves• Why some women feel guilty the second they stop over-giving• What healing feels like inside the body before the brain catches up• The invisible exhaustion of constantly second-guessing your own instincts ABOUT REV. SAMANTHA HASTY, MDIV Rev. Samantha Hasty is a pastor, coach, and community leader dedicated to helping LGBTQ+ people heal from religious abuse and reclaim a faith that brings freedom, connection, and joy. Through her work with Q Christian Fellowship and Pitch in Theology, she creates safer, trauma-informed spaces for spiritual exploration, healing, and belonging. Samantha leads community groups, workshops, retreats, and mentorship experiences focused on spiritual trauma recovery, LGBTQ+ spirituality, and authentic faith development. Known for her warm pastoral presence and accessible teaching style, she helps individuals navigate deconstruction, rebuild trust in themselves, and cultivate meaningful spiritual practices. Samantha lives in Indianapolis with her family. Instagram: @sjhasty88 ABOUT THE SHOW The Feral Era for Women Over 40 with Kirsten Bombdiggity is a weekly live show for successful women who are tired of feeling invisible in their own daggum lives. Because mindset is useless if our nervous systems are fried. Live every Wednesday at 1pm ET, Kirsten sits down with one featured guest for a fast, funny, ferociously unfiltered conversation about people-pleasing, burnout, masking, imposter syndrome, aging bodies, ambition, relationships, identity shifts, and launching our individual comeback tours. Watch on YouTube:The Feral Era for Women Over 40 on YouTube Listen on Spotify:The Feral Era for Women Over 40 on Spotify If this episode made you feel weirdly seen in the best possible way, send it to another woman who’s tired of second-guessing herself into exhaustion. Subscribe, follow, and come back next week for another fast, funny, ferociously unfiltered conversation about becoming more yourself on purpose.

    Discernment and Fear Are Not the Same | HEALING with Rev. Samantha Hasty, MDiv

  11. May 7

    Some of Y’all Are Out Here Wearing Emotional Spanx. | FIT with Erin Coupe

    Some of y’all are out here trying to squeeze your actual humanity into lives that technically function… but feel like wearing emotional Spanx for 14 hours straight. Nothing is visibly “wrong.”You’re competent.Reliable.The one everyone counts on. This week’s Word of the Week is FIT, and Erin Coupe joins Kirsten for a conversation that starts with productivity and quietly turns into a full-body rebellion against obligation, over-functioning, and becoming the emotional Sherpa for every room you walk into. They unpack what happens when women spend years trying to earn gold stars from jobs, relationships, expectations, and invisible rules that never actually asked whether we were okay. From Wall Street panic symptoms to chronic illness to nervous systems stuck in fake survival mode, this episode keeps circling one uncomfortable question: What if the problem isn’t that you’re failing at your life?What if your life doesn’t fit anymore? There’s also a wildly important conversation about the difference between solving problems and absorbing them. And the body usually knows long before the brain catches up. Feral Little Sentences “Mindset is useless if our nervous systems are completely fried.” “Your body should be your partner in crime, not your adversary.” “I told her your job is to solve the problem, not to absorb it.” “We want to control how others perceive us. That is a dangerous one.” “You’re giving your time, but you’re not energized by it at all.” In This Episode • Why some women become the emotional load-bearing wall for literally everyone around them • The sneaky difference between helping and absorbing • What chronic stress can look like when your body finally files a formal complaint • Why “trying to leave work on time” hit Kirsten’s nervous system like expired mayonnaise • The hidden exhaustion of constantly shaping yourself around other people’s expectations • How obligation changes the energy in every relationship • The moment Erin realized success was costing her connection with herself • Why nervous system alignment sometimes looks less like discipline and more like finally exhaling ••• If this episode hit a little too close to home in the “why am I carrying everybody else’s emotional IKEA furniture?” kind of way… subscribe, share it with a friend, and come hang out with us again next week. The Feral Era for Women Over 40 is for women who are tired of confusing over-functioning with living.

    Some of Y’all Are Out Here Wearing Emotional Spanx. | FIT with Erin Coupe
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