The Gates in Real Life: Human Design & Gene Keys for Purpose Driven Coaches

Heidi Weiland & Melissa Naslund
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Welcome to The Gates in Real Life, where Heidi and Melissa - two holistic coaches, friends, and Human Design nerds - gather for casual, heartfelt conversations about the weekly Sun transits in Human Design and Gene Keys. We’re all about keeping it down-to-earth and practical. No human design experience needed. Expect to learn about the gates via our thoughts and experiences - not a boring regurgitation of someone else’s teachings. We’re here to live it out loud—through the lens of business, healing, relationships, creativity, and the real messiness of being human. Each week, we dive into the current gate the Sun is transiting, unpacking the energy, the Gene Key shadow/gift/siddhi, and how it’s showing up in our lives and client work. It’s less textbook, more tea time. Think of it like being a fly on the wall - come sit with us, reflect with us, and maybe see your own patterns in a new light. Perfect for sensitive souls, intuitive entrepreneurs, or anyone looking to live more aligned with cosmic timing (without the jargon or pressure to be perfect).

Season 1

  1. EPISODE 1

    Gate 29 - The Leap of Devotion: What Commitment Really Feels Like in Life + Business

    In this unfiltered, off-the-cuff conversation, we dive into the deep waters of Gate 29 - no Human Design or Gene Keys knowledge required. This one’s for the coaches, creatives, and growth-minded souls wrestling with what it means to actually commit. From burnout and overcommitting... to those moments of “jumping into the abyss” and trusting what’s on the other side... we talk about real-life devotion, not performative hustle. And how honoring your energy and authority can change everything - in your work, your message, and your life. Melissa's Resource Links: https://www.melissanaslundcoaching.com/podcast Heidi’s Offerings: Get my Daily Nervous System Checklist at be.servicewithsoul.co/checkslist. Find my latest offers, resources & social media links at servicewithsoul.co/link-tree Mentioned in this episode: tGIRL intro

    33 min

  2. EPISODE 2

    Gate 52 - The Wisdom of Stillness: Divine Timing, and Slowing Down to Speed Up

    If you've ever felt torn between doing more or doing nothing... this conversation is for you. In this episode, we dive into Gate 52 in Human Design (also known as the Gate of Stillness) and what it reveals about stress, restraint, presence... and trusting your own divine timing. We also explore how these themes show up in the Gene Keys, and why they matter so much for coaches navigating business and personal growth. We talk about: The difference between frenetic action vs. aligned energyPausing with intention (instead of freezing in fear)What restraint really looks like in businessWhy going “slower” often leads to better, more magnetic resultsHow faith and nervous system regulation go hand in handBuilding a new paradigm of business led by stillness, service, and self-trust We also share personal stories around burnouts, breakthroughs, and learning to walk away from that “always-on” hustle culture so many of us were conditioned to chase. Melissa's Resource Links: https://www.melissanaslundcoaching.com/podcast Heidi’s Offerings: Get my Daily Nervous System Checklist at be.servicewithsoul.co/checkslist. Find my latest offers, resources & social media links at servicewithsoul.co/link-tree Mentioned in this episode: tGIRL intro

    39 min

  3. EPISODE 3

    Gate 62 - From Intellect to Impeccability: The Power of Speaking From Source

    What happens when you stop letting your mind lead… and start letting your message come from somewhere deeper? In this conversation, we explore Gate 62 through the lens of the Gene Keys and Human Design. It’s known as the Gate of Details… but this isn’t just about logic or precision. It’s about the journey from intellect (overthinking, overproving) to impeccability - speaking with resonance that can only come from alignment. We talk about: The difference between intellect and true intelligenceWhat “impeccability” actually means in your marketing and businessHow this gate shows up in your communication, copy, and contentThe inner tug-of-war between trusting your frequency vs. trying to get it perfectAnd how the shadow of this gate can have you stuck in your head... even when your heart knows exactly what to say This one is for coaches who are ready to show up with more clarity, precision, and truth in their voice... and who are tired of second-guessing every word. Whether you have this gate in your chart or not, the themes inside this conversation are everywhere — especially in how you express your message, lead your business, and trust your inner knowing. Tune in… this one will rewire how you think about “getting it right.” Melissa's Resource Links: https://www.melissanaslundcoaching.com/podcast Heidi’s Offerings: Get my Daily Nervous System Checklist at be.servicewithsoul.co/checkslist. Find my latest offers, resources & social media links at servicewithsoul.co/link-tree Mentioned in this episode: tGIRL intro

    35 min

  4. EPISODE 4

    Gate 56 - Beyond the Story... Into the Moment

    Gate 56 - the Gate of Stimulation - is often called the storyteller. But it’s not about facts... it’s about how we make meaning through experience.  In this episode, we explore Gate 56 through the lens of Human Design and the Gene Keys, unpacking its full spectrum - from the shadow of distraction and overstimulation... to the gift of enrichment... and ultimately to the siddhi of pure intoxication with the moment. We talk about: Storytelling and self-expressionBusyness as a cultural addictionThe subtle trap of over-preparingHow marketing gets more powerful when it gets more youTransmitting energy vs. just delivering informationAnd how your deepest presence is often more potent than any strategy This one is for coaches who’ve ever chased the next dopamine hit, overthought their content, or wondered whether they’re saying too much... or not enough. Tune in for a fresh look at how meaning, message, and marketing are all deeply connected - and how Gate 56 might already be living in your voice, whether it’s in your chart or not. Heidi’s Offerings: Get my Daily Nervous System Checklist at be.servicewithsoul.co/checkslist. Find my latest offers, resources & social media links at servicewithsoul.co/link-tree. Melissa’s Offerings: https://www.melissanaslundcoaching.com/podcast Mentioned in this episode: tGIRL intro

    42 min

  5. EPISODE 5

    Gate 33 - The Power of the Pause: What You Remember in the Quiet

    This conversation isn't about tactics. It's about the in-between moments. The spaces where you're not launching, not fixing, not creating... but remembering. We explore the deeper themes of Gate 33 through the lens of Human Design, the Gene Keys, and the lived experience of business, transition, and personal evolution, especially for coaches and creators navigating change. We open up about the uncomfortable magic of pausing... how "forgetting" shows up when you're shifting directions... and what it really means to remember who you are, without needing to explain or justify. If you've been craving stillness, sensing an energetic shift, or letting go of something that's quietly run its course - this one will land. And if you're asking yourself, "What comes next?" ...you might not need the answer right now. You might just need this. Heidi’s Offerings: Get my Daily Nervous System Checklist at be.servicewithsoul.co/checkslist. Find my latest offers, resources & social media links at servicewithsoul.co/link-tree. Melissa’s Offerings: melissanaslundcoaching.com/podcast Mentioned in this episode: tGIRL intro

    34 min

  6. EPISODE 6

    Gate 7 - The Leadership they never taught us: Quiet power, and the space we hold

    You’ve never fit the mold of a traditional leader... and maybe you’ve wondered if that means you aren’t one. Gate 7 flips that narrative inside out. In this episode, we explore Gate 7  through the lens of Human Design, the Gene Keys, and what it really means to lead as a coach, guide, or creator in today’s world. We talk about: how true leadership has nothing to do with control, charisma, or having the loudest voicethe difference between power over vs. power withwhy listening is one of the most radical leadership skills we havehow introverts and space-holders are being called to redefine what influence looks likethe spectrum from division to virtue, and how the energy you hold changes the roomhow to market and guide from the gift of guidance... even when you’re allergic to bro vibesand how our kids and clients benefit when we embody this kind of leadership in business This episode is for the women who’ve been quietly leading all along... and are finally ready to own it. Heidi’s Offerings: Get my Daily Nervous System Checklist at be.servicewithsoul.co/checkslist. Find my latest offers, resources & social media links at servicewithsoul.co/link-tree. Melissa’s Offerings: melissanaslundcoaching.com/podcast Mentioned in this episode: tGIRL intro

    40 min

  7. EPISODE 7

    Gate 4 - Trying to always “Figure It Out” IS the problem

    What if the answers you're chasing are the very thing pulling you out of alignment? In this episode, we dive deep into Gate 4 – the Gate of Formulization – through the lens of Human Design, the Gene Keys, and the lived experience of coaches navigating growth. This gate is obsessed with logic, certainty, and solution-making… but the real medicine lies in what happens after the mind runs out of formulas. We explore how this gate's shadow of intolerance shows up in business, life, and our nervous systems... and how the gift of understanding and the siddhi of forgiveness invite us into a radical release of judgment, control, and mental gymnastics. This one's for you if you're: Always trying to figure it outCraving certainty in your strategy, message, or next moveReady to trust your body more than your thoughtsBumping up against logic but longing for freedom We talk real-life applications in client work, how conditioning around “right answers” keeps you stuck, and what Gate 4 can teach you about creating a business rooted in trust, softness, and truth. Warning: this episode might challenge everything your mind believes about success. Melissa’s Offerings: melissanaslundcoaching.com/podcast Heidi’s Offerings: Get my Daily Nervous System Checklist at be.servicewithsoul.co/checkslist. Find my latest offers, resources & social media links at servicewithsoul.co/link-tree. Mentioned in this episode: tGIRL intro

    35 min

  8. EPISODE 8

    Gate 40 - Rest like you mean it... boundaries, burnout, and the power of saying no

    What if saying no is your real superpower? In this episode, we explore Gate 40 - the Gate of Aloneness - through the lens of Human Design, the Gene Keys, and how this energy shows up for coaches navigating work, boundaries, and burnout. But it’s not aloneness in the disconnected, isolating sense. This gate is about sacred separation - the kind that protects your energy, restores your center, and helps you reclaim your right relationship to work, support, and rest. We talk about: Why relaxation and rest are not the same thing (and why it matters)The difference between energy vs. force... and how to tell what you're running onThe very real link between willpower, burnout, and physical symptoms (like digestion)How to create space in your business that actually fuels your creativity and resultsWhy our nervous systems need daily moments of nothingnessAnd how boundaries are less about control... and more about deep, embodied trust This one is medicine for the high-achievers, helpers, and over-functioners. You don’t need to push harder. You need a nervous system that knows it’s safe to stop. •••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••• Melissa’s Offerings: melissanaslundcoaching.com/podcast Heidi’s Offerings: Get my Daily Nervous System Checklist at be.servicewithsoul.co/checkslist. Find my latest offers, resources & social media links at servicewithsoul.co/link-tree. Mentioned in this episode: tGIRL intro

    36 min

  9. EPISODE 9

    Gate 64 - The gift inside the confusion: what coaches get wrong about clarity

    Feeling stuck? Overthinking? Not sure what your next step towards your goal is? It might not be the problem you think it is. This episode explores the ins-and-outs of confusion, and helps you find a more empowered relationship with it.  We’re diving into Gate 64 in Human Design - the one that holds the energy of confusion, imagination, and illumination. And here’s the thing most coaches get wrong: confusion isn’t the enemy. It’s where real clarity starts. We also explore how this gate shows up through the lens of the Gene Keys, especially in the realms of creativity, communication, and aligned decision-making. In this conversation, you’ll hear why: Your foggy moments might be the most fertileClarity doesn’t come from fixing... it comes from feelingTrying to figure it out is often what keeps you spinningImagination is more trustworthy than imitation We talk through what it looks like to sit in the unknown without forcing answers, how Gate 64 connects to niche confusion and marketing paralysis, and why honoring your own mental rhythms can lead to breakthroughs that logic never could. If you’ve been second-guessing yourself or waiting for things to “make sense” before moving forward… listen to this. There’s nothing wrong with you. You’re not behind. You might just be in the exact right place. •••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••• Melissa’s Offerings: melissanaslundcoaching.com/podcast Heidi’s Offerings: Get my Daily Nervous System Checklist at be.servicewithsoul.co/checkslist. Find my latest offers, resources & social media links at servicewithsoul.co/link-tree. Mentioned in this episode: tGIRL intro

    32 min

  10. EPISODE 10

    Gate 47 - Finding clarity in the confusion

    Ever felt mentally stuck... like you're swimming in fog with no exit sign in sight? Today, we’re diving deep into Gate 47, the Gate of Realization, through the lens of Human Design, the Gene Keys, and the lived experience of coaches navigating clarity, pressure, and purpose. Through stories about yin meditation, business blueprints, rainbow body mysticism, and midlife awakenings... we unpack how Gate 47 asks us to stop fighting the fog and instead surrender to it. Because sometimes, clarity doesn't come from control... it comes from trust. Expect raw reflections, powerful questions (like “what do I fear the most?”), and lived wisdom about why your biggest mental pressure might just be hiding your next epiphany. For anyone questioning the chaos or craving clarity... this one's got you. •••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••• Melissa’s Offerings: melissanaslundcoaching.com/podcast Heidi’s Offerings: Get my Daily Nervous System Checklist at be.servicewithsoul.co/checkslist. Find my latest offers, resources & social media links at servicewithsoul.co/link-tree. Mentioned in this episode: tGIRL intro

    34 min

  11. EPISODE 11

    Gate 6 - Conflict, connection, and the fear of being seen

    What if conflict wasn’t a problem... but rather a portal to transformation? In this episode of The Gates in Real Life, we explore Gate 6 in Human Design - the Gate of Friction - and its deep ties to the fear of intimacy, emotional transparency, and the power of diplomacy. Through personal stories, raw reflections, and honest conversations, we unpack how this gate shows up in relationships, family, and coaching businesses. We also take a look at Gate 6 through the lens of the Gene Keys, moving from the shadow of Conflict to the gift of Diplomacy and ultimately the siddhi of Peace. Whether you're navigating tough client dynamics or confronting your own emotional edge... this conversation invites you to stop avoiding the tension and instead, see it as the path to deeper connection. Perfect for coaches curious about Human Design, the Gene Keys, and how the gates can help you grow a business that feels as true as it is transformative. •••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••• Melissa’s Offerings: melissanaslundcoaching.com/podcast Heidi’s Offerings: Get my Daily Nervous System Checklist at be.servicewithsoul.co/checkslist. Find my latest offers, resources & social media links at servicewithsoul.co/link-tree. Mentioned in this episode: tGIRL intro

    38 min
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Welcome to The Gates in Real Life, where Heidi and Melissa - two holistic coaches, friends, and Human Design nerds - gather for casual, heartfelt conversations about the weekly Sun transits in Human Design and Gene Keys. We’re all about keeping it down-to-earth and practical. No human design experience needed. Expect to learn about the gates via our thoughts and experiences - not a boring regurgitation of someone else’s teachings. We’re here to live it out loud—through the lens of business, healing, relationships, creativity, and the real messiness of being human. Each week, we dive into the current gate the Sun is transiting, unpacking the energy, the Gene Key shadow/gift/siddhi, and how it’s showing up in our lives and client work. It’s less textbook, more tea time. Think of it like being a fly on the wall - come sit with us, reflect with us, and maybe see your own patterns in a new light. Perfect for sensitive souls, intuitive entrepreneurs, or anyone looking to live more aligned with cosmic timing (without the jargon or pressure to be perfect).

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