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A podcast dedicated to helping Christians speak biblical truth to the shame they experience in their relationships. Sam's hope for you is that you grow in your understanding of how shame impacts you, so you can learn how to better connect with God and others. If you experience fear, hiding who you are, boundary issues, anxiety, and/or depression in your relationships, then this podcast is for you. It’s time to speak truth to your shame!

The Genesis of Shame Podcast Sam

    • Religion & Spirituality
    • 4.9 • 18 Ratings

A podcast dedicated to helping Christians speak biblical truth to the shame they experience in their relationships. Sam's hope for you is that you grow in your understanding of how shame impacts you, so you can learn how to better connect with God and others. If you experience fear, hiding who you are, boundary issues, anxiety, and/or depression in your relationships, then this podcast is for you. It’s time to speak truth to your shame!

    Ep. 53 - Identifying Relational Red Flags in Christian Relationships - Gottman's Four Horsemen in Dating Relationships

    Ep. 53 - Identifying Relational Red Flags in Christian Relationships - Gottman's Four Horsemen in Dating Relationships

    On today's episode, I'll be discussing the red flags in Christian relationships, but specifically on observing how you and the person you're dating relate to one another. Oftentimes, we are so used to behaving the way that we do in relationships without realizing how we may be harming the other person and even ourselves by not being aware of the negative ways in which we relate.

    If you want to know how people “truly are”, see how they respond when they’re under stress or when they’re given power.  This is crucial to observe in dating relationships.

    To help us understand what this can look like in Christian relationships, I provide some biblical advice to implement to counter what John Gottman calls the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse: 
    - First, I discuss some obvious red flags that lead you to leave the relationship immediately, 
    - then, we discuss some more subtle red flags, and 
    - lastly, we discuss Gottman's Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse: criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling. 

    Scriptures used in this episode: 
    Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear. – Eph. 4:29A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. – Prov. 15:1A fool gives full vent to his spirit, but a wise man quietly holds it back. – Prov. 29:11By pride comes nothing but strife, But with the well-advised is wisdom. – Prov. 13:10Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” – Eph. 4:32But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, - Gal. 5:22Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. – Eph. 4:2When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom. – Prov. 11:2Before a downfall the heart is haughty, but humility comes before honor. – Prov. 18:12If you have any questions or comments on this topic, please  email me at slconnect08@gmail.com.

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    My mission is to provide Christians with content on how to address spiritual and mental health issues within the church. In fact, I often address shame and its effects on relationships within the church. 

    I look forward to walking alongside you as we draw closer to Christ!
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    • 41 min
    Ep. 52 - What Forgiveness Can Teach Us About Processing Shame

    Ep. 52 - What Forgiveness Can Teach Us About Processing Shame

    Forgiveness is one of the most important aspect of our relationship with Jesus. It is based off us repenting from our sins, accepting Jesus into our hearts, and accepting his forgiveness for our sins. But, what does accepting this forgiveness look like? What does it look like in our interpersonal relationships? And, what does it look like to to apply self-forgiveness?

    For those who have experienced shame, forgiveness may be a difficult concept to grasp, be it in their interpersonal relationships their relationship with God, and it often leads Christians to believe that they are not deserving of forgiveness. This is not true. 

    On this episode, Dr. Kim shares with us the different facets of forgiveness as well as the importance of it for healing from hurts:  
    - Defining forgiveness and reconciliation,
    - The need to have a sense of right and wrong in order to forgive, 
    - Discussing divine forgiveness, self-forgiveness, and interpersonal forgiveness, and
    - How shame impacts the way we view forgiveness.

    If you have any questions or comments on this topic, please  email me at slconnect08@gmail.com.

    Remember to please LEAVE A REVIEW for the podcast as it helps get the word out to a larger audience, and remember to SUBSCRIBE and/or follow on Itunes, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay, and all other podcast platforms.

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    My mission is to provide Christians with content on how to address spiritual and mental health issues within the church. In fact, I often address shame and its effects on relationships within the church. 

    I look forward to walking alongside you as we draw closer to Christ!
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    • 43 min
    Ep. 51 - Identifying Red Flags in Christian Relationships: What Does Their Christian Walk Look Like?

    Ep. 51 - Identifying Red Flags in Christian Relationships: What Does Their Christian Walk Look Like?

    On today's episode, I'll be discussing the red flags in Christian relationships. So many couples today are dating without asking questions that are critical to aligning with some key Christian values that are instrumental to their own personal walk with Christ. 

    I discuss what Christian belief "red flags" to look out for if you're about to enter or are in a dating relationship:  
    - Deconstruction - "I'm in the process of reconstructing my faith", 
    - Does not see the church as important for Christian growth - "I'm not committed to any local church, but God knows where I stand with Him", and
    - Family tradition of going to church - "Church has always been very important to me because my family has always been religious".

    If you have any questions or comments on this topic, please  email me at slconnect08@gmail.com.

    Remember to please LEAVE A REVIEW for the podcast as it helps get the word out to a larger audience, and remember to SUBSCRIBE and/or follow on Itunes, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay, and all other podcast platforms.

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    ABOUT ME 👇

    My mission is to provide Christians with content on how to address spiritual and mental health issues within the church. In fact, I often address shame and its effects on relationships within the church. 

    I look forward to walking alongside you as we draw closer to Christ!
    Support the show (https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/slandajr)

    • 31 min
    Ep. 50 - How Shame Manifests Itself in Romantic Relationships

    Ep. 50 - How Shame Manifests Itself in Romantic Relationships

    For my 50th episode, I decided to do an episode on answering questions about shame in relationships. This is an important topic, because I think most couples have something that they have experienced in their past which can be shameful to share in a relationship. 

    It can also breed fear, because if you share this experience from you past, you essentially place the ball on the other person's court and they get to decide whether they want to continue in a relationship with you, or if they want to distance themselves from you. It can be very unnerving to experience rejection after being vulnerable with someone, but in order to grow in intimacy in relationships, these painful experiences must be shared. 

    In this episode, I discuss how shame manifests itself in romantic relationships:  
    - back to Genesis,
    - the "hiding" element of shame, 
    - the "oversharing" element of shame, 
    - asking the tough questions about each other's past, and 
    - learning how to move forward.

    If you have any questions or comments on this topic, please  email me at slconnect08@gmail.com.

    Remember to please LEAVE A REVIEW for the podcast as it helps get the word out to a larger audience, and remember to SUBSCRIBE and/or follow on Itunes, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay, and all other podcast platforms.

    If you're on Facebook and/or Instagram, I'd greatly appreciate it if you SHARE this episode! :)

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    ABOUT ME 👇

    My mission is to provide Christians with content on how to address spiritual and mental health issues within the church. In fact, I often address shame and its effects on relationships within the church. 

    I look forward to walking alongside you as we draw closer to Christ!
    Support the show (https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/slandajr)

    • 36 min
    Ep. 49 - Discussing the Detrimental Effects of Clergy Sexual Abuse: A Survivor's Story

    Ep. 49 - Discussing the Detrimental Effects of Clergy Sexual Abuse: A Survivor's Story

    The Bible warns us about "wolves in sheep's clothing" and one of the most evident ways in which we see them at work is when they prey on women in the church. They find ways to integrate themselves into the functions of the church by being charismatic, ideas-filled, enthusiastic, and articulate speakers. For some, they may not see this as a problem, but for those of us who have encountered the profiles of such characters before, we see it almost immediately.  

    Even Jesus, Luke, Paul, and Peter warn us about them.
    "Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep's clothing but inwardly are ravenous wolves." - Matthew 7:15

    "I know that after my departure fierce wolves will come in among you, not sparing the flock;.. - Acts 20:29

    "For such men are false apostles, deceitful workmen, disguising themselves as apostles of Christ. And no wonder, for even Satan disguises himself as an angel of light. So it is no surprise if his servants, also, disguise themselves as servants of righteousness. Their end will correspond to their deeds." - 2 Corinthians 11:13-15

    "But false prophets also arose among the people, just as there will be false teachers among you, who will secretly bring in destructive heresies, even denying the Master who bought them, bringing upon themselves swift destruction. And many will follow their sensuality, and because of them the way of truth will be blasphemed. And in their greed they will exploit you with false words. Their condemnation from long ago is not idle, and their destruction is not asleep." - 2 Peter 2:1-3

    We have to protect our brothers and sisters in the church from these "wolves in sheep's clothing, and hopefully, by you tuning in today, you can discover how and also how to minister to the women who are scarred by the detrimental effects of clergy sexual abuse. 

    Tune in today as Sandy and I discuss the following:
    - Sandy's testimony on how she was groomed, sexually abused, and manipulated,
    - How the church responded to the sexual abuse, 
    - What the church told her to do in response to the sexual abuse, 
    - How this experience changes one's view of church and God, and 
    - How to respond to women who have been sexually abuse in the church. 

    If you'd like to more know about this topic or more about Sandy's story you can visit her website or buy her book below:
    Sandy Kirkham's website - https://bit.ly/3EHWpza 
    "Let Me Prey Upon You: Breaking Free from a Minister's Sexual Abuse" - https://amzn.to/2Zq1ps8 

    If you have any questions or comments at all, please  email me at slconnect08@gmail.com.

    Remember to please LEAVE A REVIEW for the podcast as it helps get the word out to a larger audience, and remember to SUBSCRIBE and/or follow on Itunes, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay, and all other podcast platforms.

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    FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM:
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    ABOUT ME 👇

    My mission is to provide Christians with content on how to address spiritual and mental health issues within the church. In fact, I often address shame and its effects on relationships within the church. 

    I look forward to walking alongside you as we draw closer to Christ!
    Support the show (https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/slandajr)

    • 50 min
    Ep. 48 - What Do the Psalms Teach Us about God, Man, Sin, and Shame?

    Ep. 48 - What Do the Psalms Teach Us about God, Man, Sin, and Shame?

    Christians love reading the Psalms! It brings us peace, comfort, truth, and joy. But, it also brings to the forefront the various emotions of everyday life: sadness, depression, anxiety, anger, and fear. The Psalms teach us much about how God interacts with us through the difficulties and tribulations of everyday life. 

    On today's episode, Dr. Gary Yates addresses the following questions:
    - Why do Christians love reading the Psalms?, 
    - What purpose do the Psalms have in the lives of believers?
    - How should Christians approach reading the Psalms?, 
    - What do the Psalms teach us about God, man, sin, and shame?, and 
    - Do the Psalms address shame and guilt outside of Psalm 51? 

    If you have any questions or comments on this topic or would like me to share your thoughts on future episodes, please  email me at slconnect08@gmail.com.

    Remember to please LEAVE A REVIEW for the podcast as it helps get the word out to a larger audience, and remember to SUBSCRIBE and/or follow on Itunes, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay, and all other podcast platforms.

    If you're on Facebook and/or Instagram, I'd greatly appreciate it if you SHARE this episode! :)

    FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM:
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    ABOUT ME 👇

    My mission is to provide Christians with content on how to address spiritual and mental health issues within the church. In fact, I often address shame and its effects on relationships within the church. 

    I look forward to walking alongside you as we draw closer to Christ!
    Support the show (https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/slandajr)

    • 50 min

Customer Reviews

4.9 out of 5
18 Ratings

18 Ratings

ddrecntravel ,

Thanks for the great show!

Top quality podcast that covers deep topics in an approachable way. Great for the modern day Christian.

Ships On Fire ,

Good Word!

Genesis of Shame Podcast provides great content with biblical foundation traced back to the garden. Great combination of head knowledge, heart and practical application. Time to remove the fig leaves and walk in freedom.

Kimberly Spellman ,

Genesis of Shame

Great Podcast! Very enlightening. Thanks so much for sharing your insight on this critical topic. Much disorder stems from underlying shame.

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