Every mom wants to be a good mom but how many times a day do we question this?! We have been conditioned to believe that there are rules for being a good mom but I say your definition is the only one that matters. As a mom with four kids with neurodiversity and a background in education, I believe every child has gifts and talents of genius. I also see life's unexpected trials as chances for us to grow in our strength, love, and connection as a family. Escape from your "bad mom" soundtrack each week to listen in for inspiration on all the mom things, whether neurodiversity is in your family or not. Get the go ahead to have way more fun without guilt, hear new perspectives on old problems, and finally feel like you know what you're doing as a mom.
Facing Our Pain Points
There are reasons we avoid feeling our own pain as moms. We are good at this, but what we think makes us strong is actually keeping us dissatisfied. In this episode you'll hear the top 3 pain points (guilt, shame, and responsibility) that manifests most often in moms I coach, and how to process them. You'll also get a new way to think about emotional pain in general, so that it is something that you can leverage for personal growth instead of seeing as a bad thing in your life. XO
Recovering from Blow-Ups
Blow-ups happen. It doesn't make us a bad mom if our family has blow-ups. It indicates people care deeply for each other as well as for having their voice heard and their emotions acknowledged. There are 3 things that I've noticed help a lot in the recovery process: humor, saying "I hear you," and expressing how we truly feel about protecting and honoring the relationship.
Do you always strive for "balance" and think this is just what all moms do and it's a good thing to strive for? What if we decide that balance is not the goal? What if we decided that imbalance is a natural part of the way the world works? What if we just stop expending energy on trying to attain balance and ride the teeter-totter? All of these are options we can choose, if we want to. In this episode I introduce the idea that balance, like everything that we perceive, can be more in our control than we think it is, and it is the way we choose to think about it that will create our experience of it.
The Incredible Brain
Be warned this is one of my rants this week. I touch on the way we think about illness in the brain vs. illness in other organs, and how we also think of maladaptive behavior in kids or adults as it relates to the brain. I leave with you a challenge to think a little bit differently than the way many people do, and regard the brain as the phenomenal organ that it is.
Triggers: Dealing with Them
Triggers are simply an activation of a thought in our brain that creates an emotion that we want to take an action from. Knowing and understanding how the brain's motivation to protect us, help us avoid pain, and seek pleasure can help us interrupt triggers for ourselves and for our kids.
Setting Up the School Year for Success
You do you, mama. If you have a system that works for you and your family and it reduces stress, awesome. If you do not, I offer the permission to let that be OK. My kids are living proof that despite a less-than-on-top-of-it mom, they figured it out. I share a suggestion of the clean slate frame, for introducing yourself and your kids to the new teacher this year and how that can start the relationship off on the right foot. Plus, a couple of behind-the-scenes at the Schilling house confessions that may give you some comic relief. :)
You make me feel like a better mom!
Thank you for your valuable insight, Jodi! I feel better about my parenting with each episode!
Exactly what I need each week!
Thank you. I don’t feel so alone in my life. A regular in my schedule.
Wow! Spot on
What an awesome source of support for moms! Love this!