The Grooming Process

Listen to our new episode of Reclaim Your Power podcast, THE GROOMING PROCESS, where we share our own experiences of grooming across different cultures and circumstances with our first guest, Dr. Khumoetsile Moetse. The grooming of a victim is performed by predators across all categories of abuse and extortion: from financial fraud, romantic fraud to physical or sexual abuse, predators have a rule book by which they operate. Understanding and recognizing the mechanisms behind grooming keeps you safe from falling victim of such crimes or at the very least keeps you alert to lower the chances of becoming a victim. Many times victims and survivors do not recognize that they are being groomed, as this process is done slowly and skillfully. Victims typically realize what has happened once the threat becomes imminent - often life threatening. Various psychological tactics are applied that will prompt the victim to let down their guard and become increasingly open for the abuse. Psychological defragmentation of a victim is every groomers approach. The forms in which this defragmentation takes place may vary, based on culture, nature of the crime committed and the groomers intent.