The Happy Highly Sensitive Life Podcast Marya Choby

How restful are your weekends?
Do you wake up on Saturday mornings planning to do your chores and errands first to get them over with, and then, before you know it, you get to Sunday and you realize you never stopped doing tasks? 

On Sunday night, you feel tense about starting a new week because you had zero time to rest and recharge. 
I have been there. 
Then, learning about Human Design, I discovered that the body’s most powerful energy motor, the Sacral Center, turns on in response to opportunities that light you up. And I started to rethink how I use my free time for rest, switching up my priorities to focus on doing what feels good and restorative first, before doing anything else.
We live in an anti-rest culture and are conditioned to pack our days full and to be productive 7 days of the week. 
But the good news is that there’s a cultural pushback occurring. People are talking more and more about creating an anti-hustle culture. One that prioritizes well-being, really resting, and having more by doing less. 
This is a movement that is good for empathic highly sensitive people, giving more acceptance to the notion that resting doesn’t mean weakness or laziness, but is instead an act of care and self-love, and an expression of how you value yourself and your physical and emotional health. 
And so in the latest episode of the podcast, I’m talking all about rest. You will learn…
What Human Design teaches us about energy and restHow I define rest6 signs you need to restWhy it’s essential to prioritize real rest to remain vital, especially right now2 types of rest and why you may need both25 ideas for restingI hope this episode will give you a nudge to rest in a way that works for you.

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Links + Resources Mentioned in this Episode
Episode 3, How to Cope with Intense Situations as a Highly Sensitive Person

Episode 4, How to Cope with your Feelings as a Highly Sensitive Person
Episode 10, An Introduction to Human Design for Highly Sensitive People
Episode 11, Got Empath Overload? What Human Design Shows You About Being an Empath + How to Cope
Episode 12, Exhaustion, Hustle + Burnout: What Human Design Can Teach HSPs About Fatigue
Grab my free guide to getting started with Human Design for HSPs
Grab a 50-page written guide to your unique Human Design. Receive a downloadable custom blueprint to guide you as you begin to incorporate the principles of Human Design in your life, based on your unique Human Design Chart. I custom create each guide.

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Are you happy at work?
Work has always felt like an important part of who I am. But, I’ve also felt like a mismatch for the world of work in terms of how it left me depleted. 
Perhaps you’ve felt this way too? 
If you’re an empathetic person, the work that expands your energy may also contract and drain your energy.
Even work environments that say self-care is important for employees, have workplace norms that make it more difficult to get what you need. 
Knowing that, in this episode, I'm sharing 5 things I wish I’d known as an HSP when I first started working. 
And, how accepting that I felt “different” gave me permission to find the freedom to think differently about what I needed from work.
Also, for the first time, I share why I felt so turned upside down by working as a therapist.
I hope that this episode will give you permission to craft your work in a way that works for you. And that the resources I mention will help you care for yourself amid a busy work life.
Links + Resources Mentioned in this Episode
Episode 3, How to Cope with Intense Situations as a Highly Sensitive Person

Episode 4, How to Cope with your Feelings as a Highly Sensitive Person
Episode 11, Got Empath Overload? What Human Design Shows You About Being an Empath + How to Cope
Join The Aligned Job Short Course for HSPs. Until March 31st, use promo code SPRINGBREAK to take $10 off and join the class for just $38.

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I will confess that there are certain terms that come from the therapy world that lead me to feel a bit put off. Boundaries. Enmeshment. Codependent to name a few. 
You may know that I am a former therapist. And because of that, you may think that, at some point, I had an affinity for these terms. 
But, I know firsthand, as someone who needed to learn better boundaries in my life, that there’s a certain level of shame that goes with discovering you resonate with these terms. 
What ends up happening is that we label ourselves as having bad boundaries. And the word “bad” sticks with how we identify ourselves. 
The language we use to talk about ourselves is important. Words assign meaning and also influence how we feel about having the potential to evolve, learn, and grow. 
After learning about Human Design and how the energy Centers function, I prefer to shift the focus from talking about setting boundaries to talking about staying self-connected. 
Staying self-connected means maintaining focus on your own wants and needs in the midst of absorbing energy from others that could overpower or disrupt that self-attunement.
As HSPs, we so often find ourselves just knowing or intuiting the wants and needs of others. And our own wants and needs can get pushed to the back burner and remain unspoken as a result. 
Learning to stay self-connected is about staying aware of your wants and needs, and feeling assured to speak up about what’s important to you so that you protect your time, physical energy, and emotional energy. 
At times in my life, when I’ve considered bringing up a hard topic of conversation, I would analyze the situation from every possible angle, trying to imagine how the other person would respond and what I would say back. The idea of speaking up felt really hard. 
If you’ve been in this place, you’re not the only one. 

I’m here to say, please don’t give up on saying what you need because it feels overwhelming. 
When you put your life on autopilot without steering the course of it, saying yes and agreeing to whatever comes your way, absorbing the emotions and wants and needs of others at the expense of your own, giving what you don’t have to give, leads to frustration, anger and disappointment. It’s hard to thrive emotionally and physically. 
It is possible to learn how to stay self-connected and to speak up for your wants and needs. 
In this episode of the podcast, I’ll talk about just that. You will learn…
6 open Centers in Human Design and what they show us about challenges that may emerge related to staying self-connected How our history shapes how we stay self-connectedHow staying self-connected is a skill that can be learned10 tips for speaking up about what you want and needIf you find yourself saying yes when you really mean no, my hope is that this episode will give you a new way to reframe setting boundaries and give yourself grace as you try a new and different way of relating to others.
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As highly sensitive people, we push ourselves hard to…
Show up for other people even if we’re worn out.Be good partners, parents, employees, daughters and sons.Get things done even when we really need to restGet out of our comfort zones to try new things.We’re super conscientious, wanting to give our best to everyone and everything. To not let people down, even if it means sacrificing ourselves. 
Exhaustion and burnout are signs something needs to give. 
The messages about needing to hustle to “live the good life” have us all mixed up.
But Human Design shows us how to get back on track and how physical energy is activated. 
We each have our own unique configuration for generating energy. 
In this episode, you will learn…
What the 4 Human Design motor centers show us about physical energy and energy management What’s really occurring if you’re constantly feeling pressured by your to-do list and why you never feel like you get it all doneThe surprising thing Human Design shows us about willpower How living in alignment is key to tapping into energy How, if you have open motor centers, your perceptions of your energy and what you can accomplish may depend on who you’re aroundHow to sustainably incorporate exercise and sleep into your lifeWe receive so much conditioning and so many messages about how we should live hard and play hard. We see how people around us race through life, rushing from one thing to the next, surviving on caffeine and skimping on sleep and we think that’s how we should manage our energy too.
My hope is that this information will give you a new understanding of yourself and your energy. And give you permission to create a life that gives you the space and time to rest and restore in the right way for you. 
Links + Resources Mentioned in this Episode
Learn about The Aligned Job Short Course for HSPs
Episode 10, An Introduction to Human Design for Highly Sensitive People
Episode 11, Got Empath Overload? What Human Design Shows You About Being an Empath + How to Cope

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One of the traits of being an HSP is being empathetic. And it’s always struck me that empathy shows up differently in different people. And in varying degrees. My way of experiencing empathy may feel different than yours.
When I discovered Human Design, I finally had a framework for understanding how we empathically experience other people. I knew the information I’m sharing in this podcast episode could lead to profound self-understanding for HSPs and empaths. 
When you know and understand how your empathic transmissions occur, you can lean into the strengths that come with them and use mindful awareness to reduce the emotional toll that comes from experiencing others so strongly.
This episode is inspired by the questions I’ve received from HSPs. You are living and working led by your big caring hearts. On one hand, it feels so meaningful and important and is such an honor to understand others so deeply through your empathy. And on the other hand, taking in the energy of other people can make your own emotional load feel heavier and heavier.  You may feel the quality of your own life evaporating. 
So in the latest podcast episode, you will discover:
The 4 Centers in Human Design where you most powerfully take in the energy of others.The Center that’s responsible for analysis paralysis that also shows you how to move past it.Strategies for reducing the emotional toll of being an empath.Why I abandoned my Instagram account.Why decisions are not meant to be made with your mind and what to do instead to tap into your inner knowing.My goal is always to share information that will empower you and help you see new possibilities for living a life of greater ease that lights you up, and my hope is that this information will begin to do just that.
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At Happy Highly Sensitive Life, you’ve seen me cover living as an HSP from a lot of different angles. As a multi-passionate person, I'm always following my intuition to discover and explore from a variety of perspectives. 
If you’re wondering what’s on the horizon for Happy Highly Sensitive Life in 2022, this space will be evolving to explore living as an HSP through the lens of Human Design.  
You may be wondering why Human Design is relevant for HSPs. 
I know you come here for ideas, strategies and tips for living a life of greater ease that lights you up. You’re seeking answers and solutions for your life. 
And if you’re feeling stuck and you’re not sure why a strategy works for someone else, but not for you, here’s why. 
You are unique and you need solutions that are personalized, not one size fits all. 
That’s where Human Design comes in. 
Human Design is a personality assessment tool that synthesizes the ancient systems of astrology, the Hindu Chakra System, the Chinese I Ching, and the Kabbalah with genetics, biochemistry, quantum mechanics and astronomy. Your Human Design chart is based on your birth information and creates an image of your unique personality makeup. 
Human Design is especially useful for HSPs. 
We often struggle with fatigue.  Human Design shows you how you can tap into sustainable energy and how you’re meant to work and rest to create a life that allows you to thrive. 
We often question and second-guess ourselves. Human Design shows you how to tap into your inner knowing and wisdom to make decisions that are aligned for you. And that living in alignment expands your energy. 
We take in the energy of other people. I’m often asked to talk about how to set boundaries and to share strategies for living as an empath or for dealing with difficult relationships. 
Human Design provides insight into how you absorb energy from others, why conflict feels magnified, and how you experience pressure that can lead you to say yes when you want to say no. 
Once you know how you take in the energy of others, you can learn to work with the energy in a new and different way. 
I’ll explore these subjects in depth in the new year, through the lens of Human Design.
Seeing yourself through the lens of Human Design is so confirming. And, as I’ve studied to become a Human Design practitioner, I’ve repeatedly had moments of deeply seeing myself that have allowed me to develop more self-compassion for who I am and for how my life has progressed. 
I have come home to myself with a level of self-trust I’ve never known before. 
As an HSP, I know first hand that questioning and second-guessing yourself can be consuming. And that’s why I want other HSPs to have a chance to learn about their Human Design. 
In the latest episode of the podcast, I’m talking about how to get started with learning about your Human Design.
You will discover…
How to run your free Human Design chart and the basic components of the chart.The 5 Types, their unique purpose, energy configuration, and their corresponding Strategy for navigating life in an aligned way.An overview of personal Authorities, and how to tap into your inner wisdom to make decisions that are aligned. How to get started with living by your Design. If your intuition says it’s a fit, I hope you’ll join me for the next evolution of Happy Highly Sensitive Life and the podcast.

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