The Holy Trinity to REALLY Love Yourself: Self-Confidence, Self-Worth, and Self-Esteem Powered by Self Love with Sarah Sapora

Is your confidence UNSHAKABLE? Do you believe, down to your core, that you are worthy and valuable and have every ability to kick ass at life? If you’re nodding “Hell yes” that's awesome! If not, take a deep breath because you aren’t alone. At any given time, 85% of people admit they struggle with self-confidence and, roughly the same number of adults admit to having low self-esteem. In this episode we’re getting real about, what I refer to as, the Holy Trinity of Self-Love and that is the ability to have self-confidence, self-worth, and self-esteem.

These things sound the same but are totally different. So we’re breaking it down without the fluffy “woo speak” so you can understand what each of these is, what they are NOT, and why self-esteem, self-confidence, and self-worth matter if you’re going to live a liberated life on YOUR terms. Let’s do this

Topics we’re chatting about include:


Self-Worth: This is the deep-seated acknowledgment of your inherent value as a person, deserving of love and respect.


Self-Confidence: This is the belief in your ability to succeed at specific tasks.


Self-Esteem: This is your personal evaluation of your own worth, often influenced by comparisons with others.


My Personal Path to Self-Discovery: I opened up about my own struggles with these concepts, particularly as I approached my 40s. Despite others seeing me as confident, I was a champion people-pleaser without a true sense of self. My journey to self-love began with the realization that I had been seeking external validation instead of cultivating my own sense of worth.


The Role of the Trinity in Self-Love: Cultivating self-worth, self-confidence, and self-esteem is essential for taking control of our lives. These elements enable us to leave unhealthy relationships, pursue our dreams, and feel deserving of success. They're not static; they can be strengthened or challenged over time, and we can actively work on improving them.


Tools for Self-Reflection and Growth: I provided resources, including the Rosenberg self-esteem scale and the contingencies of self-worth scale, along with reflective questions to help you assess your levels of self-worth, self-confidence, and self-esteem. These tools encourage introspection and are a starting point for personal growth.

Timestamps


01:14 - Starting Point: The Basics of Self-Love


01:57 - Sarah's Personal Journey of Self-Discovery


02:49 - Realizing the Need for Self-Awareness


03:52 - The Confusion Between Confidence and Self-Knowledge


04:36 - The Gap Between External Perception and Self-Perception


05:39 - Introducing the Holy Trinity of Self-Love


06:00 - The Interplay of Self-Esteem, Confidence, and Self-Worth


07:59 - Defining Self-Esteem: Your Sense of Value


09:35 - Tools for Assessing Self-Esteem


11:00 - Exploring Self-Worth: Beyond Self-Esteem


13:09 - Characteristics of High Self-Esteem


14:47 - Self-Worth vs. Self-Esteem: Understanding the Difference


16:03 - The Self-Worth Theory: Ability, Effort, and Performance


18:10 - Common but Questionable Sources of Self-Worth


20:07 - Reflecting on Your Own Self-Worth


21:10 - Defining Self-Confidence: Belief in Abilities


22:36 - Self-Confidence vs. Self-Esteem: A Critical Distinction


23:07 - Summary: The Relationship Between the Three Concepts


24:10 - Sarah's Example: Interconnection of Self-Concepts


27:58 - The Necessity of Balancing All Three for Self-Love


29:02 - Mention of Resources and Upcoming Deep Dives