The Honestly Adoption Podcast features real voices, sharing real hope and encouragement to parents on the journey of foster care and adoption. Hosts Mike and Kristin Berry, and Nicole Goerges share open and honest perspectives from the journey of foster, adoptive, and special needs parenting. Their goal is to be real and honest but also bring hope and encouragement to parents, all over the world.
Becoming Pro-Human (Part 6): Problematic Narratives And What Foster & Adoptive Parents Can Do
In the wake of the U.S. Supreme Court's decision to overturn Roe v. Wade, a lot of problematic, and dangerous, narratives have risen up. In this episode, we discusss what we've heard, and what foster and adoptive parents can do and say in response.
Also on the show...
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Becoming Pro-Human (Part 5): A Conversation About Fatherhood, Faith, And Equality
For our 5th installment of Becoming Pro-Human, we are excited to welcome our friend, and fellow author and adoptive parent, Steve Disselhorst, to The Honestly Adoption Podcast. We had an amazing conversation on his book, the importance of community for parents, inclusivity, and why the end-goal is for vulnerable children to find permanency with loving families.
A little more about Steve...
Author of the memoir Determined To Be Dad: A Journey of Faith, Resilience, and Love, Steve Disselhorst is the Founder & Principal of a consulting firm, which specializes in personal & professional leadership development and consulting for diversity, equity, and inclusion (DEI). During his tenure at Genentech, a biotech company, Steve led leadership development initiatives including strategies and programming to advance historically underrepresented groups in leadership positions.
Whether Steve is creating leadership development programs, facilitating trainings to improve organizational effectiveness, or designing learning solutions to foster culture change, Steve draws on his MBA in marketing and his 25 years experience in corporate America to help each client achieve their unique goals.
Steve serves on the San Mateo County LGBTQ Commission, is a speaker for the San Francisco LGBTQ Speaker’s Bureau and is active in San Mateo County Stonewall Democrats. Previously, he was co-chair of the board of directors for the non-profit, Our Family Coalition, which advances equity for LGBTQ families with children.
Steve is the father of two wonderful children who are the center of his world. They were both adopted; the first through private, open adoption and the second through the foster-to-adopt program. When he is not working, he is usually spending time with the kids at the beach, park, or riding their scooters.
How to connect with Steve...
Check out Steve's Website Order Determined To Be Dad: A Journey of Faith, Resilience, and Love Follow Steve on Instagram Connect with Steve on Facebook Follow Steve on Twitter Also on the show...
Dads! Join Us This Fall For Road Trip. Road Trip is a conversation and it's safe space for foster and adoptive dads to share and find camaderie with one another. Early Bird registration Is extended to July 9th. Click Here to register today. *Space is limited! Thanks for stopping by this week!
Becoming Pro-Human (Part 4): Overcoming Stigmas Around Pre-natal Drug & Alcohol Exposure
Raised eyebrows. Dismissal in a pediatrician's office. Unfair blame, judgement, or criticism. Conclusion that this is "just a bad kid who wants to do bad things!"
If you're parenting a child who was exposed to drugs or alcohol prenatally, this is all-to familiar territory for you. And, sadly, your child may also be in the crosshairs of these hurtful stigmas. Unfortunately this can be par for the course. But this is often born out of misunderstanding, lack of information, and in correct diagnosis. In this episode of The Honestly Adoption Podcast, we welcome Susan Elsworth, executive director of The Indiana Alliance for Prenatal Substance Exposure to the show to share the realities of prenatal substance exposure as well as discuss the importance of correct information and evaluations.
On the show, we discuss....
What it would mean to have a proper diagnosis and evaluations for young children. Building our systems based on our children's strengths, instead of our parenting styles. What it would mean for everyone (caregivers and professionals) to be informed on prenatal exposure. Eliminating labels such as "they are adopted" from our verbiage as caregivers. How to connect with Susan and Indiana Alliance...
Follow Indiana Alliance on Facebook Visit the Indiana Alliance website Follow Indiana Alliance on Instagram Thanks for stopping by this week ;-)
Becoming Pro-Human (Part 3): How To Care For Our Mental Health As Caregivers
The adoption and foster care journey can take its toll on us. We're not saying that our children take a toll on us. It's just the exhaustion of understanding diagnosis, managing difficult behaviors, navigating a difficult foster care system, and trying to find the best services for our children, in a world that offers zero help in the mental health arena.
Add in a global pandemic for the past 2 years and we find ourselves in a full-blown crisis personally. How do we care for ourselves, as caregivers, while we stay hands-on with our children?
In this episode, we discuss...
The realities of the mental health care system in the US (and globally) The unique ways each of us care for ourselves and our own mental health How we can find hope as caregivers when we feel like we're only surrounded by storms. Also on the show...
Road Trip is open for registration! We talked a little about being a dad and needing support and Mike mentioned Road Trip for dads, happening this October in the mountains of Colorado Springs. Click Here to learn more! Oasis Community. In light of taking care of our own mental health, and the great need we have for community and connection, the crew talked about creating Oasis Community to be that for caregivers. You can try it out for free for 30 days (no strings attached!). Click Here to activate your trial. Thanks for stopping by this week ;-)
Becoming Pro-Human (Part 2): What Are You Afraid Of?
In case you weren't aware, we are raising human beings who are going to grow to think, believe, and identify the way they choose. We can either accept that or resist that. There is no in-between. Yet, so many caregivers do resist, or attempt to damage control, their children's choices when they realize they've chosen a different path from one they understand or agree with. Fear often drives caregivers to do this.
Our question in this episode is this: "What are you afraid of?"
In honor of Pride Month (June), AAPI Month (May), and Black History Month (February) we are taking a deeper look at acceptance and our children. On the foster and adoptive journey it's likely that we are parenting children who will choose different paths from us. And that's okay.
Buckle up, because the crew goes deep in this episode with these questions:
What did you think would happen when you became a parent? Who did you think you would parent? What surprised you? What concerned you? What delighted you? What can we do as our children discover and explore their own identities? What can we do to support them? What can we do to educate and grow ourselves? Also on the show, Mike, Kristin and Nicole get personal...
Currently, Nicole is following Mrcrim3 on TikTok, Kristin is following @steve.disselhorst and @blackwomenincharge, and Mike is kinda-sorta following CardiB (only to watch her video of a million dollar yacht sinking) Nicole shared that she is reading The Wrong Family by Tarryn Fischer, Kristin is reading How To Be An Antiracist by Ibram X Kendi, and Mike is reading The 1619 Project created by Nikole Hannah-Jones. Nicole is listening to Dark History on Spotify, Kristin is listening to Let's Get To It by Kelly Hamilton, and Mike is listening to The Top Gun Soundtrack and sometimes The Greatest Showman Soundtrack (when he wants to jack himself up with inspiration!) Thanks for stopping by this week ;-)
Becoming Pro-Human (Part 1): A Different Discussion
With so much discussion, debate, and arguing happening around Roe v. Wade, and the pro-life versus pro-choice movements, we've decided to start a different discussion: becoming pro-human. But what does that mean? Where do we even begin? Join Kristin, Nicole and Mike as they open up this discussion (and even share some humorous moments!)
Great stuff- much appreciated!
Very helpful for trying to navigate the adoption world
Is this a joke?
Interested in adoption so I chose to listen to this podcast to learn. I had the displeasure of hearing their episode post-Roe overturn. The amount of poor arguments and misinformation they construed regarding this decision, calling our society a “theocracy” due to a constitutional decision, saying that pro-life people who want to adopt are just treating kids like “leftover French fries”. So sad to hear all of this.
I have found a gem!
Your podcast has been a gem of a find for me! I am an adoptive mom whose heart breaks over children who need an abundance of love, security, and hope. I am encouraged by you to pursue my dream of being a foster mom. My husband and I are going to be empty nesters soon and we will have the room available to welcome children and love on birth parents or future adoptive parents of the children God allows us to care for! Thank you for a wealth of resources (at my fingertips all hours of the day or night!!) You are a blessing and doing life-changing, hope-filled work! Shannon 💞