Inner Path Seekers | Lessons for Life The IPS Project | Jellis Vaes

It was an absolute delight to have had renowned sex educator and coach, Ruth Ramsay on the IPS podcast in Episode 037, titled 'Improve Your Sex Life with Sex Educator and Coach Ruth Ramsay.'

Now, it's our pleasure to welcome her back for this bonus episode, which is, once again, a treasure trove of resources and practical takeaways to improve your sex life starting today.

Show notes for this episode with all the resources mentioned can be found here: https://theipsproject.com/2024/03/how-to-have-a-great-sex-life/
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📚The IPS Academy📚

If you feel that you’ve gained some insights and lessons from this video, and you are curious to see what else we offer at The IPS Project, check out The IPS Academy, where we offer online courses taught by guests on The IPS Podcast.

Learn more about essential life topics, such as mental health, relationships, the mind, and the body and the brain, through fun and interactive courses. Simply go to https://theipsproject.com/academy.

Each course has a few lessons to try for free, so you get a taste of what the course is like. We have countless reviews from other students so you can see what others think, and there is a 30-day money-back guarantee if you end up not liking the course.

Again, check them out at https://theipsproject.com/academy.
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🕒Timestamps🕒

- Intro 00:00 - 02:44
- Is there anything that people who are listening should know about actively working on their sex life and what this does for other areas of their life that they might not realize right now? 02:45 - 08:17
- What are some great ways to prevent sex from getting boring that many listeners might not have explored? In the first years of your relationship, it isn’t too hard, but after 10, 20, 30, … years, it becomes a lot more difficult to keep things exciting. 08:18 - 16:43
- How do you navigate a relationship where one partner would have very different desires from the other partner? 16:44 - 23:27
- What would be a great piece of advice or exercise for non-binary or transgender people who are listening right now? 23:28 - 26:59
- The IPS Academy 28:15 - 38:00
- What is something that most men feel ashamed or very insecure about surrounding sex, their bodies, and/or the emotional and physical skills they need for intimacy? 28:15 - 38:00
- What is something most women feel ashamed or very insecure about surrounding sex, their bodies, and/or the emotional and physical skills they need for intimacy? 38:01 - 49:48
- Outro 49:49 - 51:26
- The IPS Academy 51:27 - 52:53
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About The Inner Path Seekers Project (The IPS Project):

The IPS Project is an educational platform on life. Here, you can find knowledge about life topics such as mental health, relationships, the workings of the mind, the body & brain, etc.—topics we learn little to nothing about growing up. Learn more about these topics through countless practical articles, animated videos, a book library, online courses, events, a podcast, and more. Start your journey today: https://theipsproject.com/.



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Many are familiar with the age-old wisdom that emphasizes the positive impact of nature on one’s well-being. Those who have immersed themselves in the tranquility of forests, mountains, oceanfronts, or other natural settings can attest to the profound sense of wellness they impart.

Beyond the intuitive understanding that nature feels good, there is actually also an extensive amount of research spanning over a decade that substantiates the remarkable impact it has on both our physical and mental health.

To delve in-depth into this topic, I invited, as a guest of our show, Dr. Melissa Lem—a family physician who is an internationally recognized proponent of nature and health, and who is also the Director of PaRx. An initiative of the BC Parks Foundation, PaRx is driven by healthcare professionals who want to improve patients’ health by connecting them to nature.

Show notes for this episode with all the resources mentioned can be found here: https://theipsproject.com/2024/02/dr-melissa-lem/

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📚The IPS Academy📚

If you feel that you’ve gained some insights and lessons from this video, and you are curious to see what else we offer at The IPS Project, check out The IPS Academy, where we offer online courses taught by guests on The IPS Podcast.

Learn more about essential life topics, such as mental health, relationships, the mind, and the body and the brain, through fun and interactive courses. Simply go to https://theipsproject.com/academy.

Each course has a few lessons to try for free, so you get a taste of what the course is like.

We have countless reviews from other students so you can see what others think, and there is a 30-day money-back guarantee if you end up not liking the course.

Again, check them out at ⁠https://theipsproject.com/academy⁠.

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🕒Timestamps🕒


Intro 0:00 - 02:57
Back to basics: why prescribe nature? 02:58 - 05:07
Dr. Lem’s childhood hero: Dr. Suzuki 05:08 - 10:37
The PaRx project 10:38 - 16:38
Who benefits from a nature prescription? 16:39 - 18:21
The science behind it all 18:22 - 22:30
The healing power of nature 22:31 - 25:17
How much nature time we need to reap the benefits 25:18 - 30:08
The IPS Academy 30:09 - 31:25
How much nature is enough? 31:26 - 34:00
Nature time reduces loneliness 34:01 - 35:01
The 3/3300 rule: more nature for everyone 35:02 - 35:55
Bringing nature indoors 35:56 - 38:49
Getting the most out of your nature time 38:50 - 41:55
Measuring the effectiveness of nature 41:56 - 44:22
The upwards trend of nature prescription 44:23 - 47:15
Exciting upcoming research and projects 47:16 - 49:14
The future of nature prescriptions 49:15 - 51:39
Final question 51:40 - 55:00
Outro 55:01 - 57:13


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Sex educator and coach ⁠Ruth Ramsay⁠ shares key pieces of advice and tips on how to consciously improve your sex life here in this episode.

Ruth has made notable appearances in the media, boasting a rich background that spans over a decade as a striptease artist. She now holds a transformational coaching diploma and supports clients by blending her coaching skills with her life experience. Beyond this, she has contributed to discussions around the intricate world of sex through her writing and played a pivotal role in establishing the first union for adult workers in the UK.

She is also a passionate activist for sexual rights, earning recognition through an award for her advocacy of the erotic rights of people with disabilities. Notably, her TEDx Talk, 'Revamp Your Sex Life In Six Minutes,' ranked up an extraordinary 1.5 million views within just a few months.

Show notes for this episode with all the resources mentioned can be found here: ⁠https://theipsproject.com/2023/12/ruth-ramsay-improve-your-sex-life/

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📚The IPS Academy📚

If you feel that you’ve gained some insights and lessons from this video, and you are curious to see what else we offer at The IPS Project, check out The IPS Academy, where we offer online courses taught by guests on The IPS Podcast.

Learn more about essential life topics, such as mental health, relationships, the mind, and the body and the brain, through fun and interactive courses. Simply go to https://theipsproject.com/academy.

Each course has a few lessons to try for free, so you get a taste of what the course is like.

We have countless reviews from other students so you can see what others think, and there is a 30-day money-back guarantee if you end up not liking the course.

Again, check them out at https://theipsproject.com/academy.

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🕒Timestamps🕒

Intro 00:00 - 03:33

Where shame, negativity, and stigma around the topic of sex, eroticism, and sexuality often come from 03:33 - 06:28

If you have shame around sex, here is what Ruth wants you to know first 06:28 - 09:30

How Ruth became a striptease artist 09:30 - 16:20 

The shame people tried to inflict on Ruth 16:20 - 17:50

Two key bits of advice Ruth received at The London School of Striptease 17:50 - 19:08

Ruth's thoughts on today's glamorization of the striptease industry through Instagram and Tiktok 19:08 - 22:19

The IPS Academy 22:19 - 23:35

Why Ruth became an adult sex educator and coach 23:35 - 29:35

What happens during sex coaching, who it is for, who it isn't for 29:35 - 32:35

Ruth's Tedx Talk 'Revamp your sex life in 6 minutes' 32:35 - 36:05

The subjects Ruth would teach in school if she were invited to do so for a year 36:05 - 41:59

Resources about anatomy and sex science 41:59 - 43:12

Resources to learn and explore more about what you physically like 43:12 - 47:20

Tantra 47:20 - 49:06

Sex surrogacy 49:06 - 53:59

The damaging side of not being recognized as a sexual being 53:59 - 56:35

The work Ruth did with disabled people 56:35 - 1:00:48

How to change your self-image if you don't see yourself as sexy or erotic 1:00:48 - 1:05:31

How to start talking with your partner about desires, fantasies, etc. 1:05:31 - 1:08:35

Podcast suggestions about sex education 1:08:35 - 1:10:07

Would you want a round two with Ruth? (Let us know! :)) 1:10:07 - 1:11:01

Where to connect with Ruth Ramsay 1:11:01 - 1:13:11

Online courses by Ruth Ramsay 1:13:11 - 1:14:23

The final question 1:14:23 - 1:14:55

Outro 1:14:55 - 1:15:59

The IPS Academy 1:15:59 - 1:17:25


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No one is immune to sickness. Whether we are talking about a cold or a mental illness.

Yes, even if you are a doctor, you can still get sick physically. And yes, even if you are a psychologist, you too can suffer from mental illness.

No one is immune. But what do you do when dark thoughts consume you? How can you be there for yourself? In this video, Jellis Vaes, a mental health coach and founder of The IPS Project, an educational platform on life, explains step-by-step how to use The Wellness Plan—a tool to help you be there for yourself during such moments.
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📦RESOURCES📦

Podcast episodes:


Lessons about Life and Death from a Cancer and a Cardiac Arrest Survivor | Dr. Martin Inderbitzin and Jellis Vaes
Dr. Guy Macpherson, Ph.D. What is Psychological Trauma and How to Heal It
Mark Henick – Mental Health Advocate, Coping with Suicidal Thoughts
Sean Galla, Founder of Men’s Group: Being a Man Is Not Easy/The Hardships Men Face

Websites:


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List of suicide crisis lines
Warmline

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📚The IPS Academy📚

If you feel that you’ve gained some insights and lessons from this video, and you are curious to see what else we offer at The IPS Project, check out The IPS Academy, where we offer online courses taught by guests on The IPS Podcast.

Learn more about essential life topics, such as mental health, relationships, the mind, and the body and the brain, through fun and interactive courses. Simply go to https://theipsproject.com/academy.

Each course has a few lessons to try for free, so you get a taste of what the course is like. We have countless reviews from other students so you can see what others think, and there is a 30-day money-back guarantee if you end up not liking the course.

Again, check them out at https://theipsproject.com/academy.
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🕒Timestamps🕒

No one is immune 00:00 - 02:33

The importance of reminders in our life 02:33 - 04:27

The Wellness Plan 04:27 - 04:46

Step 1: Warning signs 04:46 - 05:30

Step 2: Internal coping strategies 05:30 - 06:46

Step 3: People and social settings that provide distraction or people whom I can ask for help 06:46 - 07:45

Step 4: Professionals or agencies I can contact during a crisis 07:45 - 10:30

Step 5: Reasons for living 10:30 - 12:27

Make it visible 12:27 - 14:03

The IPS Podcast 14:03 - 15:14

Outro 15:14 - 16:08
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About The Inner Path Seekers Project (The IPS Project):

The IPS Project is an educational platform on life. Here, you can find knowledge about life topics such as mental health, relationships, the workings of the mind, the body & brain, etc.—topics we learn little to nothing about growing up. Learn more about these topics through countless practical articles, animated videos, a book library, online courses, events, a podcast, and more. Start your journey today: https://theipsproject.com.


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In this episode, I had the pleasure of welcoming reinvention architect Craig Standland, who knows all about how to reinvent your life after watching his own crumble in 2013, when the FBI came knocking at his door, for a second round on the podcast.

In this episode we delve deeper into Craig’s current occupation as a reinvention architect, what that means, and how he guides others as they navigate big life changes and end up becoming better people because of it.

Craig is also the author of the best-seller ‘Blank Canvas: How I Reinvented My Life after Prison’, and gave an inspiring TEDx talk on the subject. If you’d like to spend even more time with him, both are really worth checking out.

Show notes for this episode with all the resources mentioned can be found here: https://theipsproject.com/2023/09/how-to-reinvent-your-life-craig-stanland/
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📚The IPS Academy📚

If you feel that you’ve gained some insights and lessons from this video, and you are curious to see what else we offer at The IPS Project, check out The IPS Academy, where we offer online courses taught by guests on The IPS Podcast.

Learn more about essential life topics, such as mental health, relationships, the mind, and the body and the brain, through fun and interactive courses. Simply go to https://theipsproject.com/academy.

Each course has a few lessons to try for free, so you get a taste of what the course is like. We have countless reviews from other students so you can see what others think, and there is a 30-day money-back guarantee if you end up not liking the course.

Again, check them out at https://theipsproject.com/academy.
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🕒Timestamps🕒


The IPS Academy 00:00 - 00:51
Intro 00:51 - 04:46
What most people wish for when they want to reinvent themselves 04:46 - 08:20
The most common age group Craig works with on reinvention 08:20 - 10:00
What people don't understand about the work Craig does as a reinvention architect 10:00 - 17:18
What Craig's own reinvention journey looked like and how he discovered the tools he uses today with clients 17:18 - 23:00
The four A's 23:00 - 26:02
Three major components to living a rich, fulfilling, and meaning-driven life 26:02 - 32:26
How to find your core values 32:26 - 35:11
The difference between healthy and unhealthy core values 35:11 - 39:00
Exercises to establish your core values 39:00 - 41:50
How to create a system that works for you 41:50 - 45:33
The fears that held Craig back on his own reinvention journey and how he got past them 45:33 - 50:39
The IPS Academy 50:39 - 51:55
What Craig did on his 50th birthday 51:55 - 55:36
What Craig would say to young people who feel pressured to get everything right in life 55:36 - 1:01:10
How to get a healthy view of success 1:01:10 - 1:04:28
When Craig realized meaning and fulfillment were more important than just money 1:04:28 - 1:07:50
Creating a catalyst in your life towards actions that create the life you want to live 1:07:50 - 1:14:06
Upcoming books Craig is working on 1:14:06 - 1:19:37
There is always a reason for behavior: Good people do bad things too 1:19:37 - 1:24:00
Where to find and connect with Craig 1:24:00 - 1:26:15
Final question 1:26:15 - 1:28:09
Outro 1:28:09 - 1:29:08
The IPS Academy 1:29:08 - 1:30:35
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About The Inner Path Seekers Project (The IPS Project):

The IPS Project is an educational platform on life. Here, you can find knowledge about life topics such as mental health, relationships, the workings of the mind, the body & brain, etc.—topics we learn little to nothing about growing up. Learn more about these topics through countless practical articles, animated videos, a book library, online courses, events, a podcast, and more. Start your journey today: https://theipsproject.com/.
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#reinvention #psychology #mentalhealth


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If you see me today talking to strangers on The IPS Podcast and doing these videos here, you wouldn’t say that I used to be a very shy person.

But I was. In fact, it’s quite an understatement. I was always the quietest person in the class or in any room.

Through the years, all this changed when I applied all the techniques, skills, and knowledge (and a lot of effort and work) of the ways to talk to anyone, and when I did the deeper inner work of increasing my self-confidence and taking a hard look at my own self-limiting beliefs.

These are all things that I am sharing here in this extended video. If you are a shy or insecure person (or both), try applying everything shared in this video and giving it time. True change, like with me, is bound to happen.

Show notes for this episode with all the resources mentioned can be found here: https://theipsproject.com/2023/08/how-to-talk-to-anyone/
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📚The IPS Academy📚

If you feel that you’ve gained some insights and lessons from this video, and you are curious to see what else we offer at The IPS Project, check out The IPS Academy, where we offer online courses taught by guests on The IPS Podcast.

Learn more about essential life topics, such as mental health, relationships, the mind, and the body and the brain, through fun and interactive courses. Simply go to https://theipsproject.com/academy.

Each course has a few lessons to try for free, so you get a taste of what the course is like. We have countless reviews from other students so you can see what others think, and there is a 30-day money-back guarantee if you end up not liking the course.

Again, check them out at https://theipsproject.com/academy.
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🕒Timestamps🕒

Intro 00:00 - 02:10
1. Ways to Get a Conversation Going
Smile and Be Approachable 02:10 - 06:25
Pay Attention 06:25 - 09:17
Pretend you Have to Give a Presentation About That Person and Be Genuinely Interested 09:17 - 11:18
Use a Card Game 11:18 - 13:37
Remember Their Name 13:37 - 15:50
Practice Empathy 15:50 - 19:05
Seek Connection 19:05 - 20:10
2. How to Improve Your Self-Esteem and Self-Confidence 20:10 - 20:31
Do Things That You Want to Do But Scare You 20:31 - 24:24
Challenge Self-Limiting Beliefs 24:24 - 31:25
3. Practice, Practice, and Practice 31:25 - 32:45
Outro 32:45 - 33:19
The IPS Academy 33:19 - 34:44
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About The Inner Path Seekers Project (The IPS Project):

The IPS Project is an educational platform on life. Here, you can find knowledge about life topics such as mental health, relationships, the workings of the mind, the body & brain, etc.—topics we learn little to nothing about growing up. Learn more about these topics through countless practical articles, animated videos, a book library, online courses, events, a podcast, and more. Start your journey today: https://theipsproject.com/.


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