The Lafaya Way Podcast

Lafaya Mitchell - The Lafaya Way

A mix of poker wisdom and life mastery Life isn’t about the hand you’re dealt - it’s about how you play it. Welcome to The Lafaya Way: Mastering the Mental Game of Life, the podcast for women who refuse to fold in the face of adversity. Whether you’re navigating personal challenges, professional obstacles, or high-stakes decisions, this show is your reminder that you have the power to play to win.

  1. Still Priceless - Loving People with Dementia When Words Fade with Rev Ben Boland

    4D AGO

    Still Priceless - Loving People with Dementia When Words Fade with Rev Ben Boland

    There are conversations that gently rearrange how you see the world. This was one of them. I sat down with Rev Ben Boland—chaplain, pastor, and author—and within minutes, we were naming something many of us feel but rarely say out loud: older people don’t stop being priceless just because the world starts treating them as invisible. Ben has spent over 15 years walking alongside older people and those living with dementia. And this isn’t theory for him—it’s deeply personal. From visiting his great-grandmother as a child… to later accompanying his own father through dementia… Ben brings wisdom that’s tender, practical, and quietly confronting. If you’ve ever wondered: What do I say when someone no longer remembers me? Does dementia erase faith, identity, or worth? How do we show love when conversation isn’t easy anymore? This episode will meet you right there. 💡 Key takeaways from this episode Presence is love in action. You don’t need perfect words—showing up consistently matters more than saying the “right” thing. Dementia doesn’t erase personhood. Memory loss is not loss of value. Meet people at their strengths. Music, photos, touch, shared rituals, and sensory connection often speak louder than words. Faith isn’t fragile. Dementia may change how faith is expressed—but not its depth or meaning. Short, frequent connection beats rare, long visits. Familiar faces and voices ground people more than grand gestures. ❤️ Favourite quote from the conversation“If we visit babies who don’t know our names, why would we stop visiting people with dementia?” Let that one sink in. 📘 Find out more & connect with Rev Ben Boland Rev Ben Boland MDiv, Grad Dip (Ageing and Pastoral), has served as an older persons chaplain for over 15 years. He is deeply passionate about equipping Christians—and communities more broadly—to share love, dignity, and presence with older people and those living with dementia. His latest book, Priceless People (published by Christian Focus Publications), weaves theological depth with practical pastoral guidance for anyone navigating the often-scary terrain of ageing, care, and cognitive decline. 🔗 Connect with Ben on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rev-ben-boland-b4572a108/ And if you want to go further, you can download a free chapter of my book Poker: A Woman’s Game and keep learning how to play your hand with courage and clarity: 👉 https://lafayawaypoker.com

    37 min
  2. Jenny Leigh Hodgins - The Art of Setting Boundaries: A Journey from Burnout to Balance

    JAN 22

    Jenny Leigh Hodgins - The Art of Setting Boundaries: A Journey from Burnout to Balance

    There are conversations that inform…and then there are conversations that slow you down, soften you, and quietly change how you move through your day. This episode was one of those. Jenny came into the studio carrying decades of creative wisdom, lived experience, and deep compassion — not just as an artist and coach, but as a caregiver, a boundary-setter-in-progress, and a woman who has learned (the hard way) that burnout isn’t a failure… it’s a message. If you’ve ever felt guilty for resting, torn between caring for others and caring for yourself, or quietly exhausted from always being the strong one — this conversation will feel like someone finally put words to what you’ve been living. This episode isn’t about fixing yourself.It’s about learning to stay in your lane, honor your capacity, and let stillness work for you — not against you.  Key takeaways from this episode  Burnout doesn’t come from caring — it comes from overextendingJenny explains how chronic over-giving quietly drains creative energy and trust in yourself. Boundaries are a practice, not a personality traitIf boundaries feel uncomfortable, you’re not doing them wrong — you’re building a muscle. Stillness is not “doing nothing”Rest, pauses, and quiet moments are active practices that restore clarity and creativity. Staying in your lane helps everyoneWhen you stop rescuing, others are invited to grow — and resentment loses its grip. Responding instead of reacting changes everythingSpace creates wisdom. Pausing before answering protects relationships and your nervous system. Favorite quote from the episode  “If you’re free of obstacles, you’re probably not alive. The work isn’t avoiding challenges — it’s creating value from the hand you’ve been dealt.” Find out more and connect with our guest Jenny Leigh Hodgins is a musician, composer, author, poet, podcaster ( Your Creative Chord), and creative empowerment coach with 39 years of SGI Buddhist practice. She supports creatives and caregivers who are navigating burnout, creative blocks, overwhelm, and boundary challenges — helping them reconnect to sustainable energy, creative flow, and inspired living. Jenny brings a rare blend of artistic depth, spiritual grounding, and real-life caregiving wisdom to her work — and this conversation is a beautiful reflection of that. Connect with Jenny:  Website: https://www.YourCreativeChord.com  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/YourCreativeChord  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yourcreativechord  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jenny-leigh-hodgins Free resources from Jenny:  Burnout RESET Guide — practical, reflective tools to restore your energy https://www.YourCreativeChord.com/burnoutguide https://www.yourcreativechord.com/getinspiredhere Life isn’t about the hand you’re dealt — it’s about how you play it. If this episode spoke to you, take a moment to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who might need permission to slow down today. And if you want to go deeper into mastering the mental game of life, you’re invited to download a free chapter of my book Poker: A Woman’s Game and explore how strategy, boundaries, and intuition intersect. Let’s play to win — your way.

    31 min
  3. Dr. Ava Eagle Brown - Free-Falling into Faith: What Happens When You Stop Worrying and Start Trusting

    JAN 7

    Dr. Ava Eagle Brown - Free-Falling into Faith: What Happens When You Stop Worrying and Start Trusting

    Some conversations stay with you long after the recording stops. This was one of those. When I sat down with Dr. Ava Eagle Brown, I knew we’d talk about resilience. What I didn’t expect was how deeply her story would mirror something so many of us quietly carry: the tension between worry and trust… fear and faith… pressure and praise. Dr. Ava doesn’t share a polished, picture-perfect success story. She shares the real one. The kind shaped by loss, single motherhood, uncertainty, and moments where the only option left was to keep going — even without answers. What unfolded was a powerful “pain-to-power” conversation about trusting the process, catching ourselves before we spill our stress onto others, and learning how to play the hand we’re dealt with courage, compassion, and grace. This episode is a gentle reminder that you don’t have to have it all figured out — you just have to stay in the game. Key Takeaways from This Episode Why worry doesn’t solve problems — it steals peace How praise and gratitude can become anchors during overwhelming moments The power of pausing before reacting — especially with the people we love most What it really means to “play the hand you’re dealt” in life Why reflecting on how far you’ve come can completely shift your perspective How faith, storytelling, and service can turn adversity into impact Favourite Quote from the Episode“Sometimes we’re so busy worrying about how things will work out that we forget God already went ahead and made provision.” Find Out More & Connect with Dr. Ava Eagle BrownDr. Ava Eagle Brown is a multi-award-winning author, international speaker, and cultural changemaker. A proud Jamaican, she has transformed personal adversity into global impact through storytelling, publishing, and film. She is the author of the bestselling memoir The Mango Girl, founder of Book2Biz Publishing, and creator of the Black River Film Festival, elevating rural Jamaican voices onto international stages. Her work bridges faith, resilience, creativity, and community development — empowering others to rise, rebuild, and live out loud.  Website: https://www.avaeaglebrown.com/about/  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/wwwavbrownorg/  Free Book Consultation (Lead Magnet):https://calendly.com/dravaeaglebrown/new-meeting If you have a story inside you — or a book you want to turn into impact — this is a conversation you don’t want to miss. And if you want to go even deeper into mastering the mental game of life, you’ll love my book Poker: A Woman’s Game. Download your free chapter here: https://lafayawaypoker.com Until next time —Play the hand you’re dealt. Worry less. Praise more.

    23 min
  4. Dori Staehle - A Christian Drum Chick & The Rhythm of Stress Relief - (Not Just) For Neurodivergent Kids And Adults

    12/10/2025

    Dori Staehle - A Christian Drum Chick & The Rhythm of Stress Relief - (Not Just) For Neurodivergent Kids And Adults

    Every now and then, someone walks into the room with a story so unexpected, so wildly improbable, that it stops you mid-breath. That’s what happened when I sat down with Dori Staehle. Imagine this: you survive a freak accident that nearly ends your life… doctors can't figure out what’s wrong… pain becomes your constant companion… and everything you’ve built suddenly slips out from under you. Most would fold their hand right there. But Dori?She reached up instead of giving up.And what she heard in that moment of surrender changed everything. “Use your drums.” Two weeks later—yes, two weeks—she was healed. And the path she took from that moment forward is nothing short of astonishing. From auditioning for a church band at 47 with no lessons and no drums at home, to teaching herself drum set at 59, to running her fourth business, to becoming the only certified drum therapist in North Carolina… Dori embodies the truth she now shares with the world: You’re never too old.It’s never too late.And you absolutely can rock what you’ve got. This conversation will make you rethink healing, rethink purpose, and maybe even rethink the sound of your own heartbeat. Key Takeaways Your lowest point can become your turning point—if you’re willing to ask the right question: “Now what?” Drumming is more than rhythm—it’s science. It syncs the brain hemispheres, boosts focus, lowers stress, and ignites breakthroughs fast. Purpose often hides inside the things we loved as children. Dori was tapping rhythms long before she knew why they mattered. Labels don't define potential. Her work with ADHD and autism shows how rhythm can unlock confidence, communication, and calm. Healing doesn’t always come from where you expect it. Sometimes it comes from a beat, a prayer, a moment of surrender. You’re always one “next stage” away from a completely different life. Favourite Quote “When you get knocked down, you have a choice. You can give up… or you can reach up, rise up, and rock the next stage of your life.” — Dori Staehle Find Out More & Connect with Dori Staehle BioA freak accident in 2011 triggered a rare disease and pushed Dori Staehle into the darkest chapter of her life. When nothing worked—not therapy, not medicine, not time—she asked God for a way to heal herself and others. The answer was clear: use your drums. Within two weeks, she was healed. Now in her 50s and onto her fourth business, Dori runs Next Stage Drumming, where she blends drum therapy, mentoring, and mindset work to help people break through stress, anxiety, ADHD symptoms, trauma, and more. She’s a certified drum therapist, author of two uplifting books, and the founder of a powerful drum ministry. She’s living proof that purpose can hit you like a lightning bolt… or a drumbeat. Website: https://www.nextstagedrumming.comLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/doristaehlembaFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/nextstagedrummingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/nextstagedoriYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@NextStageDrumming Free Resource: 10 Easy Ways to Beat Stress — sign up on her website. As always ... If you're interested in learning more about playing the hand you’re dealt in this mental game of life, you'll love my book Poker: A Woman's Game.Download your free chapter at https://lafayawaypoker.com

    30 min
  5. Cindy Ojczyk - Parenting, ADHD, and the Unexpected Power of Pets

    11/27/2025

    Cindy Ojczyk - Parenting, ADHD, and the Unexpected Power of Pets

    Some conversations stay with you long after the mic turns off.This was one of them. When Cindy sat down with me, she didn’t come with a polished, tied-up-with-a-bow story. She came with the kind that life hands you when you’re least prepared:A sudden loss, a house full of grief, two daughters quietly unraveling, and a mother doing everything she could to keep her family from slipping through her fingers. And then—dogs.Not as a cute hobby or an escape, but as unexpected teachers. What began as an innocent idea to soothe the pain turned into a journey of unlearning, rebuilding, and advocating—for her kids, for herself, and for the animals who showed up carrying their own stories. In this episode, Cindy invites us into that journey with honesty, humor, humility, and a kind of raw hope that feels like a hand on your back saying, “You can get through this too.” If you’ve ever lived through a season where everything fell apart faster than you could fix it—or if you’ve ever had an animal walk into your life at the exact right moment—you’ll feel deeply seen in this conversation. Key Takeaways • Healing rarely happens in straight linesCindy’s story reminds us that grief, growth, and family transitions are layered—and that healing often comes through unexpected messiness rather than perfect solutions. • Grief is not something to “patch”—it’s something to move throughHer daughters learned how to grieve by fostering pets… and by being given permission to feel deeply instead of rushing toward “fine.” • Parenting sometimes requires a complete rewriteCindy and her husband had to abandon the familiar “carrot and stick” model and step into something more aligned, more compassionate, and more creative. • Advocacy is an act of loveBoth daughters were eventually diagnosed with ADHD, and Cindy shares how learning to advocate for them—and with them—changed not just their lives, but their family as a whole. • Connection is the endgameNo matter the season, challenge, or diagnosis, Cindy held one vision at the center: a family that stays connected. And that intention shaped every decision along the way. My Favorite Quote “Learning and trying creates challenges, but we did this together.” A simple sentence… and an entire roadmap for how families survive hard things. About Cindy Cindy Ojczyk is an award-winning memoirist, blogger, and advocate for emotional resilience in both people and pets. Her work lives at the intersection where compassion rebuilds what life breaks. Her upcoming memoir, Mom Loves the Dogs More, explores her family’s journey through grief, ADHD diagnoses, and the healing power of fostering rescue animals. You can follow Cindy, read her beautifully honest writing, and preorder her book here: 🌐 Website / Substack: https://cindyojczyk.substack.com/📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cindyocheck/ Full bio included for listeners: Cindy O. is an award-winning memoirist, blogger, and advocate for emotional resilience in people and pets. Her journey began not with a plan, but with a family in crisis—two daughters facing mental health challenges, and a home filled with slammed doors, silence, and sorrow. Fostering rescue dogs began as a lifeline and became a classroom for transformation. Through her memoir Mom Loves the Dogs More and her Substack Like People, Like Pets, Cindy shares the raw, redemptive stories that emerged from those years. Her work lives in the space where compassion rebuilds what life breaks. ____ If you're interested in learning more about playing the hand you're dealt in this mental game of life, you'll love my book Poker: A Woman's Game.Download your free chapter today at https://lafayawaypoker.com.

    38 min
  6. Audrey Gerber - When Your Body Speaks - Listen, And Reclaim Your Cycle

    11/12/2025

    Audrey Gerber - When Your Body Speaks - Listen, And Reclaim Your Cycle

    When Audrey Gerber got her first period, it was chaos—painful, unpredictable, and isolating. Like so many young girls, she was handed a prescription for the pill and told it would “fix” things. It didn’t. Years later, struggling with depression, weight gain, and confusion about what was happening in her body, Audrey began to ask the question most of us are never encouraged to ask:What if my body isn’t broken? What if it’s trying to tell me something? That question led her on a journey that would change everything—not just for herself, but for countless women she now helps as an integrative health coach and herbalist. In this powerful conversation, Audrey and I talk about what happens when we stop silencing our symptoms and start listening to the wisdom of our hormones. This episode isn’t just for women—it’s for anyone who loves, supports, or raises them. The hidden connection between stress, hormones, and how we show up in life Why your menstrual cycle is more than “that time of the month” How shame and silence keep women suffering unnecessarily What happens when we stop seeing our bodies as broken and start working with them How understanding your hormonal rhythm can change your physical and emotional health “I suffered for years for a resolution that took two months—just because I finally understood what my body needed.” — Audrey Gerber Audrey Gerber is an integrative health coach and herbalist for women struggling with their menstrual cycle. She helps them understand their hormones and use holistic tools to regulate and reclaim their best period ever.  Website: spotlessgirl.com Free Guide: 20 Tips to Reduce Your PMS Naturally LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/audrey-gerber-19636495 Instagram: @audreygerber_ As always, if you're interested in learning more about playing the hand you’re dealt in this mental game of life, you'll love my book Poker: A Woman's Game. Download your free chapter today at lafayawaypoker.com Key TakeawaysFavourite QuoteFind out more and connect with Audrey Gerber

    24 min
  7. It All Makes Sense Now: Making ADHD Work for You - Meredith Carder

    10/23/2025

    It All Makes Sense Now: Making ADHD Work for You - Meredith Carder

    Sometimes the most confusing parts of life start to make sense when you finally get the right lens.That’s what happened for Meredith Carder, ADHD coach, writer, and author of It All Makes Sense Now. When her daughter was diagnosed with ADHD, Meredith began to realize that the very challenges she’d struggled with her entire life — the “why can’t I just…” moments, the guilt, the overwhelm — weren’t character flaws. They were clues. In this heartfelt and deeply relatable conversation, we talk about the power of self-understanding, how to move from shame to self-trust, and why learning to work with your brain instead of against it might be the most freeing thing you ever do. Whether you’ve been diagnosed, suspect you might have ADHD, or simply want to better understand someone you love, this episode will help you see that what feels like a limitation can become your greatest source of creativity and compassion. You can’t accommodate what you don’t understand. Real change starts with self-awareness, not self-criticism. Working memory isn’t about willpower. Practical tools like “scratch pads,” visual cues, and narrating steps out loud can transform everyday chaos into calm. Grace is a game-changer. Learning to give yourself grace teaches others to do the same. Self-trust comes before strategies. You have to believe you can make it work before any system will stick. “You really can’t accommodate what you don’t understand. Once you know how your brain works, you can finally stop fighting it and start working with it.” — Meredith Carder About Meredith:Meredith Carder is an ADHD coach, creator, and writer with a B.S. in Psychology and an MBA. A true multi-passionate entrepreneur, she has spent two decades in employee development and small business leadership. She’s the founder of The Hummingbird Hive, a vibrant community for ADHD adults, and the author of It All Makes Sense Now, a compassionate guide that validates the ADHD experience while offering practical strategies for growth. Links: meredithcarder.com It All Makes Sense Now – available wherever books are sold meredithcarder.substack.com Instagram: @hummingbird_adhdIf you're interested in learning more about playing the hand you're dealt in this mental game of life, you'll love my book Poker: A Woman's Game.🎁 Download your free chapter at lafayawaypoker.com

    30 min
  8. Katelyn Mabry - Name It, Claim It, Tame It, Reframe It: Seeing the Beauty And Brilliance in ADHD Brains

    10/08/2025

    Katelyn Mabry - Name It, Claim It, Tame It, Reframe It: Seeing the Beauty And Brilliance in ADHD Brains

    When Katelyn Mabry was ten years old, she sat in the car trying to make sense of three little letters that would shape her life: ADHD. She didn’t understand what it meant—and neither did her parents. For years, she wrestled with feelings of confusion, rejection, and the sense that something must be “wrong” with her. Fast forward to today, and Katelyn has turned that pain into purpose. As a mom of four (all diagnosed with ADHD), a life coach, special educator, author, and podcast host, she’s helping children and families everywhere see the beauty and brilliance in their ADHD brains. In this heartfelt and eye-opening episode, we talk about what it really feels like to grow up misunderstood, how to replace shame with understanding, and the incredible power of reframing the way we see ourselves and our challenges. Key Takeaways Why “lazy” isn’t the word — and what ADHD brains actually need instead. How understanding rejection sensitivity can transform relationships and self-compassion. The four-step tool that changes everything: Name it. Claim it. Tame it. Reframe it. What happens when we bring our “monsters” into the light instead of hiding them. How Katelyn’s family embraces ADHD as a shared adventure in learning, love, and growth. Favorite Quote “When we’re transparent about things, that’s when transformation happens.” — Katelyn Mabry 00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome 00:52 Meet Katelyn Mabry: ADHD Life Coach 03:32 Katelyn's Personal ADHD Journey 06:12 Challenges and Misunderstandings in School 12:21 Supportive Teachers and Strategies 17:20 Parenting Children with ADHD 18:26 Embracing Diagnoses and Understanding Our Brains 19:34 Building Strengths While Battling Struggles 21:03 Rejection Sensitivity and Emotional Awareness 24:59 Transforming Pain into Power 27:12 Final Thoughts and Resources Find out more and connect with Katelyn: Katelyn Mabry is an ADHD Life Coach and special educator with a master’s in Reading. She’s the author of Hi It’s Me! I Have ADHD and host of the children’s podcast Journey With Me Through ADHD: A Podcast for Kids. Based in Wisconsin, Katelyn is a mom of four, passionate about helping families understand and celebrate their unique brains. 🌐 Website: www.katelynmabry.com🎧 Podcast: Journey With Me Through ADHD: A Podcast for Kids (available on all platforms)📸 Instagram: @journey_with_me_through_adhd If you're interested in learning more about playing the hand you're dealt in this mental game of life, you'll love my book Poker: A Woman’s Game.👉 Download your free chapter at https://lafayawaypoker.com

    32 min

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A mix of poker wisdom and life mastery Life isn’t about the hand you’re dealt - it’s about how you play it. Welcome to The Lafaya Way: Mastering the Mental Game of Life, the podcast for women who refuse to fold in the face of adversity. Whether you’re navigating personal challenges, professional obstacles, or high-stakes decisions, this show is your reminder that you have the power to play to win.