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#98: Lian Brook-Tyler
This week on the show, Lian Brook-Tyler joins me to talk about the sudden passing of her father and how it shifted her whole perspective on life, the role of the soul (and why you shouldn’t overthink it!), and Lian’s number one tip for leaving your career and starting a successful business.
Lian and I discuss:
The sudden passing of Lian's father shifted her perspective on life How she started writing a blog to cope with the real life stuff going on Discovering the Three Principles and how her chronic facial pain suddenly disappeared Leaving her job and starting coaching Difference between teaching and coaching To being okay with just who you are A strong sense of helping to birth what's inside within each of us Mentoring, coaching and teaching Having the wisdom to know what somebody needs at the moment Empowering and living into your belief The role of soul On leaving your career and starting a successful business
More about Lian
Lian is a podcast host, Embodied Leadership Coach, and co-founder of the movement Primal Happiness, and despite the Chinese spelling of her name, she’s as English as Mary Poppins.
After working for many years as a leader in the corporate world, Lian’s journey truly began the day she unexpectedly recovered from 15 years of chronic pain and anxiety. That transformation led her to immerse herself in discovering what creates pain and struggle, and conversely, what paves the way to a life jam-packed with meaning and happiness.
Her work with Primal Happiness is dedicated to sharing how we can all reclaim our primal state of happiness: she guides women through Waking The Wild Feminine via her women’s circles, and her Embodied Leadership and Partnership work is focused on guiding Kings and Queens on their own hero’s or heroine’s journey to discover their unique gifts and to embody and express their true nature.
Lian lives in a 400-year-old English country cottage with her husband, two self-described 'wild children', and an array of ginger rescue animals.
Lian’s dream is a world of wild souls set free to work their magic here.
#97: Tristan De Montebello & Michael Gendler
This week on the show, Tristan and Michael join me to talk about why we all have imposter syndrome and how to overcome it, the fundamental rules you must understand to becoming a master communicator, and how Tristan and Michael have successfully navigated their relationship as co-founders.
Tristan & Michael and I discuss:
How Tristan developed the feeling of having an imposter syndrome as he went through every step of the competition Powering through and working even harder despite feeling uncomfortable How Michael got into the public speaking world and experienced the imposter syndrome You can really tell a person by how they express themselves Toastmasters taught 2 main skills: Prepared speaking Impromptu speaking Studying the skill of speaking on the spot transformed Michael's life How the world values communicators When you become more confident with your communication, you start feeling more confident about every aspect of yourself Presence versus performance Building the habit of trusting yourself more Having the mindset of trusting yourself and everything will go well is the mindset of all the top performers in the skill of speaking Surrendering and trusting that things are going to work out On navigating their business and figuring out how they can have an impact Helping people have a bigger impact with their speaking Pros and cons of their relationship as co-founders The ability to receive feedback Building the habit of sharing negative withholds Who they are looking for and how their process works
More about Tristan & Michael
Tristan de Montebello and Michael Gendler are 2 of LA's leading public speaking coaches who specialize in helping people communicate in high-stress environments. (UltraSpeaking.com)
Their unlikely story started when Michael coached Tristan from zero public speaking experience to the World Championship of Public Speaking finals in just 7 months.
Since then, Michael and Tristan have coached some of the worlds top creatives, leaders, and entrepreneurs to speak more effectively in the moments that matter most.
#96: Shelley Paxton
This week on the show, Shelley Paxton joins me to talk about liberating the souls of leaders and organizations, writing her book - "Soulbbatical" and being a Chief Soul Officer of your own life.
I also shared my thoughts on staying longer, moving and settling down. I am also launching a 10 week group program that i'm calling The Fireside Wisdom Sessions.
Shelley and I discuss:
Following someone else's path to success and losing her sense of self along the way Being in her masculine and putting her armour on while operating in the corporate world Being largely on her masculine means being on her protective warrior mode How being in your masculine is largely required in the corporate world Shifting into more courageous and wholehearted leadership and creating that culture Not being able to get into the vulnerable space, playful space is inhibiting our creativity and our innovation Tapping into your creativity and acknowledging your truth Understanding and knowing your soul Principles to Soulbbatical Authenticity as the truest form of rebellion Be careful of the compromises you make in your life The top leader should set the tone, expectations and what success and reward would look like Identifying the misalignment after getting know your self and soul better Soulbbatical is about a way of living Being a Chief Soul Officer of your own life means living by those 5 principles Following your soul's process
More about Shelley
Shelley Paxton is a Chicago-based author, speaker, and professional coach. She spent twenty-six years as a highly regarded marketing and advertising executive stewarding some of the world’s most iconic brands, including Harley-Davidson, Visa, McDonald’s, and AOL. In 2016 she left the corporate world to launch her own company, with the mission to liberate the souls of leaders and organizations by inspiring them to realize their greatest purpose and potential. As a certified professional coach, she works with executives at Fortune 100 companies like Lowe’s and Mars, Inc, as well as private individuals and entrepreneurs. She holds a marketing degree from Boston College, and recently graduated from iPEC, one of the country's premier coaching certification programs. Paxton’s a member of 4PC, Rich Litvin’s exclusive community for extraordinary leaders and coaches, and has been selected to train with Brene Brown on her upcoming Dare to Lead project.
She christened herself Chief Soul Officer and called the journey her Soulbbatical. It did more than change her life, it became her calling.
#95: Robert Kandell
This week on the show, Robert Kandell joins me to talk about getting honest with one’s self, the effect of withholding your truth from your intimate partner, and his book - unHIDDEN: A Book for Men and Those Confused by Them.
Robert and I discuss:
Living the American dream (which was also his father's dream)
How his intense experiences in Burning Man made him rediscover the world
Key moment when he realized things weren't working
How going to Burning Man impacted him
Burning Man is radical free expression. It's an opportunity to see a new side of yourself and to explore different parts of yourself
How he and his wife started to have an honest conversation about their sex life
On starting to explore alternative sexuality by going to a swingers club and taking workshops that tackle forming non-monogamous relationships
Telling yourself the truth first and foremost then telling your partner and intimate friends the truth about you and then inviting them to tell you the truth about them
Process of getting honest with yourself:
Confronting your thoughts
Getting curious about those thoughts
Researching those curiosities
Terminal uniqueness is when we think we are the only person in the entire world that has this particular thought which creates a lot of fear to come out
Instead of spending our energies beating ourselves up, spend that energy creating the life you truly want
Our greatest fear is that we will end up alone and that fear is what stops us from living
How we are forced to wear the facade about who we are
The communication you need to make in the proper form in order to actually be authentic
Frameworks on teaching people to communicate
If you want to have a masterful relationship, you have to build the foundation early on by authentically relating
We are constantly looking externally from ourselves to perceive our value
Compromise equates to acquiescence
Extending the conversation until both people feel right about the decision
Every time you lie, you are creating distance
About his book “unHIDDEN: A Book for Men and Those Confused by Them”
More about Robert
Robert Kandell is an interpersonal communications expert, speaker, podcaster, and the author of the bestselling book, “unHIDDEN: A Book for Men and Those Confused by Them.” Since 2002, Robert’s mission has been to help people find themselves and use their internal power to live their best lives. He has helped thousands of students up-level their communication, leading them to live more balanced, energized, connected, and purposeful lives.
Robert is a veteran of many worlds, having moved seamlessly from corporate America and the startup world, to becoming an authority in the personal development sphere, to building an international 8-figure business and authoring a bestselling book.
He is the host of the podcast, Tuff Love, where he puts his compassionate, hard-hitting insights to work helping people move forward in their lives with clarity. He has been described as “part football coach, part loving Dad, and part slightly crazed drill sergeant.” His style is challenging, fraternal, highly rewarding, and definitely not for the faint-hearted.
#94: Jonathon Aslay
This week on the show, Jonathan Aslay joins me to talk about establishing a framework for compassionate dating, when life gets in the way of love, and how to practice self-love.
I also shared how these past weeks had been tough for me and how self-love has been a great part of getting through this period.
Jonathon and I discuss:
How Jonathon hit rock bottom in many aspects of his life and how he got addicted to the process of online dating
His investment in personal development and spirituality helped him when he lost his son
Self-love is like nurturing your soul
Personal development practice is preparing you not just for the chaos but also how to live in inner peace
How his humbling moments allowed him the opportunity to discover who he really is
Grieving with love
Letting go of the fear of death to enjoy the fruit of life
Having a minimum of 15 mins a day doing some self-help personal development spiritual practice
Why he wrote his book, “What The Heck Is Self-Love Anyway?”
On developing the habit of thinking of the future or thinking about the past
Getting into nature
Speaking your truth and doing it with kindness
What compassionate dating is
Connecting with other people in a deeper level and focusing on being present
Being crystal clear about who you are and what you want in compassionate dating
How technology changed dating in this generation
Getting to know who you are by not being in a relationship
When life gets in the way of love/relationship
More about Jonathon
Known as America’s leading midlife dating and relationship coach, Jonathon Aslay is a defender and protector of women’s hearts around the world. He helps women transform from attracting Mr. Wrong into finding their Mr. Right.
Jonathon studies male behavior. He listens to women and what they want when it comes to love. Most importantly, he is gifted at bridging the gap between the two. He started to see patterns in the things women complained about most and those that continually baffled men. Over time, he realized that processing information from both sides and combining them with his own dating experiences enabled him to filter out the interpersonal “noise” that often causes people to invest in someone who is wrong for them.
In addition to his dating expertise and helping women navigate the dating world, Jonathon Aslay is also a leading figure in the self-love department with his book “What The Heck Is Self-Love Anyway?” which is rated 5 stars and has reached the best-selling ranks on Amazon.
In this book you will learn: simple real-life techniques to understand and create true self-love, exactly what it means to really love yourself, and how powerfully life-changing self-love can be, and how to experience it NOW!
#92: John Henderson
This week on the show, John Henderson joins me to talk about the impact of positive comment in somebody's life, his story about being in jail, and his book, SWAY.
I also shared about committing to get up at 4 a.m. everyday for all of September.
John and I discuss:
Did poorly in school because he didn't fit and think in the structured manner the school wanted
Turning his life around and realising that he is the result of the choices he has made
How everybody in jail thinks they are innocent while successful people he knows think they are guilty
How kids are taught to be generalists when the world rewards specialists
The problem is with the way you are measuring what is and isn't intelligence
How one positive comment can change somebody’s whole life
Finding who to be loyal to and who not to be loyal to is important
Difference made by caring and empathy versus strict humiliation and discipline
John's story of being in jail under "Americas toughest sheriff"
Success doesn't happen without the work
Influence is anytime somebody considers another person or an activity prior to making decision
About his new book SWAY: The Link Between Autism and Influence
More about John
John Henderson is a speaker, top 10 Amazon bestselling author, and occasional blogger. He went from homeless, high school dropout to author and owner of a multi million dollar business.
He is probably the only guy you know who rode to work every day on a rope, attached to the bottom of a helicopter for six months, in Hawaii. He has spoken all across the country, but you can connect with John at the following places.
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I seriously love Nathan’s work. I recall watching him toss a coin and decide to leave his very successful career as a pilot for a life of grand adventure that allows him to bring his myriad gifts to the world. As evidenced in each episode, Nathan leans into his edge—and his podcast invites each of us to do the same.
Every time I listen to one of Nathan's podcast casts, I leave filled with inspiration, determination and full of golden nuggets from him and his guests. And each time, I catch myself saying, "that was the best one yet!" Nathan leads with his heart and is truly authentic - and really is creating an extraordinary life! He's not afraid to have real conversations including topics that might make some people uncomfortable. Because doesn't magic start to happen when we start to get uncomfortable? Nathan's podcast is my #1 recommendation to others! Thank you Nathan for saying yes to an extraordinary life and bring us along with you on this journey through your show!
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