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Hi,
I’m Avital.
(pronounced Ah-Vee-Tal)
I’m a mindful parenting coach, childhood designer, and mother. My work is dedicated to empowering intentional, imperfect parents (like you and me!) who face chaos, clutter, and conflict, through online tools to reclaim peace, presence and play for your family.

The Parenting Junkie Show Avital Schreiber Levy

    • Parenting
    • 4.9, 243 Ratings

Hi,
I’m Avital.
(pronounced Ah-Vee-Tal)
I’m a mindful parenting coach, childhood designer, and mother. My work is dedicated to empowering intentional, imperfect parents (like you and me!) who face chaos, clutter, and conflict, through online tools to reclaim peace, presence and play for your family.

    TPJ 74: Relationship Tips - How Doing What's Fair Gets You Nowhere

    TPJ 74: Relationship Tips - How Doing What's Fair Gets You Nowhere

    Do you feel like you carry the bulk of the load in your relationship? Like all the responsibility falls on you? Like the division of labor and the mental and emotional burden isn’t fair? 
    It’s understandable...and it’s also ruining our relationships.
    In this episode I’m going to walk you through a series of questions to help you shift your mindset and improve your relationship with your partner. 
    [02:16] Are you keeping a running tab of "who does what" in your head? 
    [04:05] Keeping score undermines your partnership.
    [07:59] A transactional approach to relationships is a major cause of division and conflict in relationships.
    [13:36] Is there really such a thing as equality in a relationship?
    [14:16] Do you really want things to be totally even, all the time? 
    [14:43] Does keeping score promote unconditional love?
    [15:58] Does it feel good when you pit yourself against your partner? 
    [16:07] Does nitpicking your partner make you love them more or less?
    [16:32] When you keep track of how much you give, does that make you a better or worse version of yourself?
    [16:53] What does your partner do that you appreciate greatly? 
    [17:19] What does it mean to you to love someone and accept them as they are? 
    [17:27] How does that look, and how do you know when you're practicing that? 
    [17:33] Ultimately, are you displaying unconditional love through it all? 
    [18:10] What's the difference between trying to change someone and trying to evolve with someone and influence them? 
    [18:30] What does your partner appreciate in you that you might be forgetting or discounting? 
    [18:42] What competencies, energies, and skills do you each bring to the relationship?
    [18:57] Should we be forcing each other to bring the exact same qualities to the table? 
    [19:23] Or should you each be contributing to the best of your abilities in our own special way?
    [19:32] What's the meaning of seasons in life? 
    [20:01] Are you accounting for the differences in personalities, temperaments, and abilities you each have? 
    [20:16] Are you communicating your needs properly? 
    [21:02] Are you using punishments to control or manipulate your partner?
    [21:37] Are you truly looking for you both to shine your brightest? 
    [21:47] Are you holding onto a victim mindset?
    [22:02] Are you ready to let you both shine in your unique and individual ways?
    [22:37] There's no such thing as a win-lose in relationships. If one loses, you both lose.
    Ultimately how we partner is how we parent. We should do everything we can to be peaceful partners, because it will translate into our parenting and make a big difference in all of our relationships. 
    If you enjoyed this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about your biggest takeaway. Take a selfie of you listening or a screenshot of the show, post it to instagram stories, and tag me @parentingjunkie or feel free to DM me on instagram, I try to reply to as many as I can!

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    Want to connect to like-minded parenting junkies?
    Join our (free & awesome) FB community Love Parenting with Avital.
    Resources:
    Check out our latest training, Worth The Fight.

    • 24 min
    TPJ 73: HOMESCHOOLING VS PUBLIC SCHOOLING: A Guide for Parents

    TPJ 73: HOMESCHOOLING VS PUBLIC SCHOOLING: A Guide for Parents

    I know there can be a lot of anxiety and indecision when it comes to the topic of school vs. homeschool. How do you know which way to go? What if I try it and it doesn’t work? What if I ruin my kids??
    In this episode I’m going to walk you through the decision making process and take you from indecision to clarity. 
    [10:42] “The best use of imagination is creativity. The worst use of imagination is anxiety.” Deepak Chopra
    [11:58] 1. Our role is to choose the environment in which our children educate themselves.
    [14:04] 2. Our choices aren't right for everyone. They're only right for our own families.
    [16:27] 3. Nothing is set in stone. We can make changes if something doesn't feel right.
    [18:40] Use this matrix & process to help you make a decision.
    [20:31] Education
    [22:13] Time
    [23:31] Cost
    [24:39] Reliability
    [26:16] Method
    [28:01] Socialization
    [31:50] Autonomy
    [33:22] Health
    [34:17] Relationships
    [35:58] Intuition
    [36:45] Add in any additional considerations for your unique situation.
    [41:02] If you're going to homeschool, work on mindset before you go out and buy all the awesome stuff. 
    [42:12] Learning can only be effective when you and your child feel good about it.
    Q&A:
    [49:29] I want to homeschool, but my spouse thinks I'll ruin our kids. 
    [51:47] How old were your (Avital's) kids when you started using your Focus Time approach?
    [53:03] What is a "hybrid model"?
    [54:25] How do I homeschool a preschooler and still work 8 hours from home?
    [56:07] What homeschool system do you recommend for non-English speakers?
    [56:43] My spouse thinks socialization will suffer if we homeschool.
    [58:22] I'm not a structured person and already struggle with routines...I fear it may be a little too much.
    [59:55] What time are the Q&A sessions if I join Focus Time?
    [49:29] I want to homeschool, but my spouse thinks I'll ruin our kids. 
    [51:47] How old were your (Avital's) kids when you started using your Focus Time approach?
    [53:03] What is a "hybrid model"?
    [54:25] How do I homeschool a preschooler and still work 8 hours from home?
    [56:07] What homeschool system do you recommend for non-English speakers?
    [56:43] My spouse thinks socialization will suffer if we homeschool.
    [58:22] I'm not a structured person and already struggle with routines...I fear it may be a little too much.
    [59:55] What time are the Q&A sessions if I join Focus Time?
    [1:01:02] What age should we start? I think my kids are too little.
    [1:02:20] Do I need to homeschool, or is unschooling an option?
    [1:03:30] Does homeschooling work between divorced parents?
    [1:04:33] Would Focus Time help me decide if homeschooling is for me?
    [1:05:13] How do you handle "demand avoidance"?
    [1:08:06] My Mom is an elementary school teacher and talks about homeschoolers always being behind when they start school.
    If you’re still unsure or are homeschool-curious, check out our course Focus Time. It will help you gain clarity and take a peek behind the curtain to see what it’s like to homeschool. 
    If you enjoyed this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about your biggest takeaway. Take a selfie of you listening or a screenshot of the show, post it to instagram stories, and tag me @parentingjunkie or feel free to DM me on instagram, I try to reply to as many as I can!

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    Join our (free & awesome) FB community Love Parenting with Avital.
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    • 1 hr 28 min
    TPJ 72: From UNSURE to UNSHAKEABLE (3 Positive Mindset Shifts)

    TPJ 72: From UNSURE to UNSHAKEABLE (3 Positive Mindset Shifts)

    So many of us have been pushing through, waiting and hoping for things to return to some sort of “normal”. But with a second wave sweeping through the world it seems like it may never get back to normal. And now with the school year approaching and continued restrictions wherever we go, there’s no end to the opportunities to feel anxious, fearful, and overwhelmed. 
    In this episode I want to help you recommit, reenergize, and reinvigorate yourself, bolstering your resolve with 3 simple mindset shifts. 
    [05:58] If you're feeling frustrated, cooped up, judged, irritated, etc., you're not alone.
    [08:13] How can we view everything through a more compassionate lens?
    [09:21] I believe there's a better way to handle differences of opinion.
    [17:11] Mindset #1: The benefit of the doubt.
    [22:03] Mindset #2: Believe in yourself
    [26:51] Mindset #3: Be the you that you want to be.
    Rather than approaching things with anxiety, judgement, shame, and guilt, we can use these mindsets to come at things with love, grace, compassion, integrity, and make a positive impact on the world. Let's be the people who increase calmness, peace, and reason. People who promote a sense of togetherness instead of tearing us apart.  
    If you enjoyed this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about your biggest takeaway. Take a selfie of you listening or a screenshot of the show, post it to instagram stories, and tag me @parentingjunkie or feel free to DM me on instagram, I try to reply to as many as I can!

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    Those shiny 5-star ratings and sweet reviews have me all gushy, thank you. But more importantly, they help other parents discover the Parenting Junkie Show and spread the word about Loving parenting and Parenting from Love. If you have a moment to spare, those reviews mean the world to me, you can leave one here. 
    Want to connect to like-minded parenting junkies?
    Join our (free & awesome) FB community Love Parenting with Avital.
    Resources:
    Not sure if you should let your kids go back to school? Thinking about homeschooling? Attend my free workshop to help you gain clarity on what’s best for you and your family!  Want to homeschool, but feel overwhelmed? My course Focus Time will help!

    • 36 min
    Dangerous Social Media Effects on Family Life

    Dangerous Social Media Effects on Family Life

    Does social media stress you out? Research indicates that it can cause anxiety and even depression. I’ve heard countless people say they felt great after taking a break from it. Why is that? 
    In this episode I want to offer a breakdown of the recent social media landscape; how it may be harming us, what we can do to keep our sanity.
    [04:56] Links between social media and anxiety and depression.
    [10:37] Social media seems to be getting darker and the cons are beginning to outweigh the pros. 
    [14:23] A large part of it stems from anonymity, and losing face-to-face interactions.
    [18:49] There's a major lack of accountability.
    [22:52] There's a lack of discourse and an inflation of terminology.
    [24:22] The main factor contributing to anxiety is catastrophizing.
    [25:30] We're also losing our individuality.
    [26:28] There's a major lack of diversity of thought. 
    [35:38] It's brought back public shaming (which we did away with in the 1800's)
    [36:33] Can we start interacting online like we do with people offline? 
    [40:50] Social media is heavily influencing us and ultimately enslaving us.
    Social media is a tool, and all tools can be used for good or evil. It can be a tool that unites us, helps us keep up with friends and family and develop bonds and connections with people we otherwise wouldn’t have the pleasure of meeting. 
    But it can also be a major source of anxiety and depression, and can derail the relationships with people in our “real life”. So let’s re-evaluate our social media habits and make changes where necessary. 
    If we can start giving people the benefit of the doubt and treat each other with respect and dignity (like we would if we were interacting in person), we may see a shift in our interactions online. 
    If you enjoyed this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about your biggest takeaway. Take a selfie of you listening or a screenshot of the show, post it to instagram stories, and tag me @parentingjunkie or feel free to DM me on instagram, I try to reply to as many as I can!

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    Those shiny 5-star ratings and sweet reviews have me all gushy, thank you. But more importantly, they help other parents discover the Parenting Junkie Show and spread the word about Loving parenting and Parenting from Love. If you have a moment to spare, those reviews mean the world to me, you can leave one here. 
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    Join our (free & awesome) FB community Love Parenting with Avital.

    • 49 min
    TPJ 70: Kate Northrup - Do Less, Get More!

    TPJ 70: Kate Northrup - Do Less, Get More!

    Join me in a conversation with my friend Kate Northrup, "Do Less" author, as we talk about time-management, work-life balance, and vulnerability. 
    Sometimes we feel we have to hide some part of our parenting because we're afraid of people's judgments. We fear sharing our whole, vulnerable self because disagreement is often met with hostile, dogmatic, judgmental comments. 
    One of the things I’ve worked hard to cultivate is friendships with others where it is ok, desired even, to say your honest (respectful!) opinions. And I think this conversation about vaccinations with Kate exemplifies that type of supportive friendship. 
    [03:18] How entrepreneurship and parenthood converge.
    [04:34] The origin of "Do Less".
    [09:02] We have to advocate for ourselves to get our needs met.
    [12:41] Let’s give our children "trust to show up for themselves".
    [15:17] “Less preparation, more presence” -Adrienne Maree Brown
    [17:21] Do less, so that what we do is high quality.
    [19:48] Avoid "keeping score" and tallying the hours spent being mom, working, etc.
    [21:47] Looking outside of ourselves for what we "should" be doing can be dangerous. 
    [25:44] Let's talk about vaccinations...
    [32:16] How Kate handled pushback on her vaccine stance.
    [38:36] We shouldn't have to walk on eggshells or be afraid of saying the "wrong thing". 
    [42:42] You can't "go there" with everyone, but often if we take the lead and try, we'll be pleasantly surprised.
    [43:22] How Kate "does it all".
    [52:35] Stop beating yourself up!
    If you enjoyed this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about your biggest takeaway. Take a selfie of you listening or a screenshot of the show, post it to instagram stories, and tag me @parentingjunkie or feel free to DM me on instagram, I try to reply to as many as I can!

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    Those shiny 5-star ratings and sweet reviews have me all gushy, thank you. But more importantly, they help other parents discover the Parenting Junkie Show and spread the word about Loving parenting and Parenting from Love. If you have a moment to spare, those reviews mean the world to me, you can leave one here. 
    Want to connect to like-minded parenting junkies?
    Join our (free & awesome) FB community Love Parenting with Avital.
    Resources:
    Kate’s book Money, A Love Story Kate’s book Do Less Emergent Strategy by Adrienne Maree Brown Kate’s website Find Kate on Instagram @katenorthrup

    • 55 min
    TPJ 69: The Helicopter Parenting Epidemic: Are You Overparenting?

    TPJ 69: The Helicopter Parenting Epidemic: Are You Overparenting?

    Do you feel tired or burned out in your parenting? Do you feel like you’re “on” all the time and never get a break? Do you think your child’s happiness and entertainment falls squarely on your shoulders? In this episode I want to address an issue I see a lot; overparenting. 
    [03:01] What is overparenting?
    [07:24] A big indicator of overparenting: Burnout
    [08:08] Overparenting is not good for the parents
    [10:45] Don't take on other people's roles
    [12:34] Overparenting is not good for children.
    [15:34] Overparenting makes children weak, timid, and fragile. 
    [16:53] It's not your job to keep your children happy.
    [20:09] It's not your job to constantly entertain your children. 
    [24:00] Get comfortable with discomfort. 
    If you find yourself in the overparenting camp, start sitting back a little more. Let some of those things go, and stop taking on roles you weren’t meant to take on.  
    If you enjoyed this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about your biggest takeaway. Take a selfie of you listening or a screenshot of the show, post it to instagram stories, and tag me @parentingjunkie or feel free to DM me on instagram, I try to reply to as many as I can!

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    Those shiny 5-star ratings and sweet reviews have me all gushy, thank you. But more importantly, they help other parents discover the Parenting Junkie Show and spread the word about Loving parenting and Parenting from Love. If you have a moment to spare, those reviews mean the world to me, you can leave one here. 
    Want to connect to like-minded parenting junkies?
    Join our (free & awesome) FB community Love Parenting with Avital.

    • 32 min

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243 Ratings

Bchiarot ,

Loved loved loved this episode!

Once again, you hit the nail on the head. Thank you for having the courage to speak openly and honesty about social media. More people need to hear your message.

Giayi ,

Love!

Avital’s podcast is one of my favorites. I appreciate how respectful and non dogmatic she is of other voices and how she highlights mindset shifting. Her work on the podcast and through her present play course has been invaluable to me—especially during the days of quarantine.

sheeps0710 ,

Love

Really appreciate you honoring a parents decision to vaccinate or not.

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