119 episodes

The Place We Find Ourselves podcast features private practice therapist Adam Young (LCSW, MDiv) and interview guests as they discuss all things related to story, trauma, attachment, and interpersonal neurobiology. Listen in as Adam unpacks how trauma and abuse impact the heart and mind, as well as how to navigate the path toward healing, wholeness, and restoration. Interview episodes give you a sacred glimpse into the real-life stories of guests who have engaged their own experiences of trauma and abuse. Drawing from the work of neuroscientists such as Allan Schore, Dan Siegel, and Bessel van der Kolk, as well as Christian thought leaders Dan Allender and John Eldredge, this podcast will equip and inspire you to engage your own stories of harm in deep, transformative ways.

The Place We Find Ourselves Adam Young | LCSW, MDiv

    • Religion & Spirituality
    • 4.8 • 1.9K Ratings

The Place We Find Ourselves podcast features private practice therapist Adam Young (LCSW, MDiv) and interview guests as they discuss all things related to story, trauma, attachment, and interpersonal neurobiology. Listen in as Adam unpacks how trauma and abuse impact the heart and mind, as well as how to navigate the path toward healing, wholeness, and restoration. Interview episodes give you a sacred glimpse into the real-life stories of guests who have engaged their own experiences of trauma and abuse. Drawing from the work of neuroscientists such as Allan Schore, Dan Siegel, and Bessel van der Kolk, as well as Christian thought leaders Dan Allender and John Eldredge, this podcast will equip and inspire you to engage your own stories of harm in deep, transformative ways.

    How To Engage Someone's Story Part 4

    How To Engage Someone's Story Part 4

    This is the final episode in a four-part series on how to engage another person’s story. We conclude by looking at the final seven tactics for effective story engagement. Tactic 6: Continually bring your dialogue with the storyteller back to the story they have shared. Tactic 7: Identify the storyteller’s feeling of complicity in their abuse. Tactic 8: This is going to sound both odd and wrong: you have to amplify the storyteller’s shame. Tactic 9: Notice when the storyteller turns on themselves… and name it. Tactic 10: Invite the storyteller to feel their grief. Tactic 11: Use data points from their story to build a case.  Tactic 12: Explore their posture toward the boy or girl in the story.

    • 35 min
    How To Engage Someone's Story Part 3

    How To Engage Someone's Story Part 3

    In Part 3 of this series on how to engage someone’s story, we look at five specific tactics you can use. Tactic 1: Explore the trauma before the trauma. Tactic 2: Explore triangulation. Tactic 3: Ask (good) provocative questions. Tactic 4: Invite the storyteller to be embodied as they are engaging with you. Tactic 5: Name and address betrayal, powerlessness, and ambivalence in the story.

    • 37 min
    How To Engage Someone's Story Part 2

    How To Engage Someone's Story Part 2

    This is part 2 of a series of episodes on how to engage another person’s story. Today, we look at principles 3-7 of effective story engagement. Principle 3: Use the exquisite instrument that is your body. Principle 4: Always be monitoring the storyteller’s affect. Principle 5: Your right brain matters much more than your left brain when you are engaging someone’s story. Principle 6: Remember that there is always a reason for human behavior. Principle 7: Repairing rupture is more important than engaging their story perfectly.

    • 30 min
    How To Engage Someone's Story Part 1

    How To Engage Someone's Story Part 1

    Engaging another person’s story is a skill that can be learned! Over the course of the next four episodes, I will explain how to engage another person’s story well. Today, I discuss the first two principles of effective story engagement. Principle 1: Attunement is more important than engaging the story brilliantly. Principle 2: Kindness will take you further than skill.

    • 29 min
    Restorative Practices: How to Care for Our Hearts and Bodies in the Wake of Trauma with John Eldredge

    Restorative Practices: How to Care for Our Hearts and Bodies in the Wake of Trauma with John Eldredge

    John Eldredge joins me today to talk about how to care for our hearts and bodies in the wake of trauma. Topics include how to navigate life when you feel deeply disappointed by God, how to access the mothering of God, and why it’s so important to get a piece of paper and write down our losses so that we might grieve them. Today’s episodes is based on John’s new book “Resilient: Restoring Your Weary Soul In These Turbulent Times.”

    • 39 min
    Why It’s So Important To Tell Your Story To An Attuned Listener with Curt Thompson

    Why It’s So Important To Tell Your Story To An Attuned Listener with Curt Thompson

    I am joined today by Christian neuroscientist Curt Thompson. In this vulnerable conversation, Curt and I talk about: why our brains change when we share our story with another human being who is attuned to us, why engaging your story is the single best way to become a better parent, and why it’s so important to pay attention to the younger parts of ourselves.

    • 56 min

Customer Reviews

4.8 out of 5
1.9K Ratings

1.9K Ratings

Sovi ~ Warriormama ,

Clarity

I have been receiving so much clarity in my life through Adam’s podcasts! I started with his very first podcast and am working my way up to his latest one! I’m so extremely grateful to have been introduced to these podcasts. They have been lifesaving AND life giving. I’m learning so much about myself and my attachment style, etc! Thank you Adam for these podcasts and sharing truth in such a life giving and empowering way!

reaper of sadness ,

I Finally Understand

I finally understand. I was directed to a podcast from another site and listened to the types of attachment. One of them described my life and my way of relating perfectly. Now I am listening to more of the podcasts and exploring the website for more insights and help. I am so thankful for finding Adam's work.

Pipperton ,

Life-changing

Invaluable resource. Truly good news so far.

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