The Power of Wants and Needs in Relationships, Ep. 36

Nope! We're Not Monogamous

Today, I'm talking to Dr. Joli Hamilton, again! We had such a great time on Episode 21 that we decided to do it all over again!  We're talking about how to differentiate your needs and wants and desires and how that shows up in long term relationships that are opening up or have been open for a while.  We touch on how we deal with jealousy and how to use our reactions to dig deeper into what’s changing in ourselves.

Dr. Joli Hamilton is the relationship coach for couples who color outside the lines. She is a research psychologist, TEDx speaker, and AASECT certified sex educator. Joli’s also the author of the best-selling book Project Relationship: The Entrepreneur's Action Plan for Passionate, Sustainable Love and host of the Project Relationship podcast. She has spent the past two decades studying and reimagining what love can be if we open our imaginations to possibility. Joli helps people create partnerships that are custom-built for their authentic selves, no more shrinking, pretending, or hiding required.

💨 TLDR;

  • How do you know when it’s time to evaluate a relationship?
  • How to deal with frustration when you’re in a non-monogamous relationship.
  • The entry point to moving out of the adolescent phase.
  • What is desire? What is fantasy?
  • Bringing your desire to your partner is not enough.
  • How to turn on your internal flame and turn it on your partner.
  • There’s no “right” way to deal with jealousy.

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