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We teach Inner Leadership™. It's mindset mastery for driven professionals. The perfect combination of been-there-done-that wisdom combined with the latest in the cognitive behavioral approach and neuroscience. Yes, it's free to listen. But we predict you'll start thinking of it as your secret weapon. Give it a listen and then be sure to follow us. Because there's a new episode every Sunday. And you won't want to miss it. Let's be sure to connect on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. It's a great place to get more information, a little daily motivation or to reach out to me directly with questions. See you there!

The Purposeful Career Podcast Carla Hudson

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We teach Inner Leadership™. It's mindset mastery for driven professionals. The perfect combination of been-there-done-that wisdom combined with the latest in the cognitive behavioral approach and neuroscience. Yes, it's free to listen. But we predict you'll start thinking of it as your secret weapon. Give it a listen and then be sure to follow us. Because there's a new episode every Sunday. And you won't want to miss it. Let's be sure to connect on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. It's a great place to get more information, a little daily motivation or to reach out to me directly with questions. See you there!

    How to Deal When Things Don't Work Out as Planned

    How to Deal When Things Don't Work Out as Planned

    As happens many times with this podcast, today I want to talk about something that’s coming up for a lot of my clients right now. And that is, what to do when something does not work out as planned.
    I think this is topic is relevant for most working people because for the past few years, we’ve been in an exceptionally strong job market. And you know what THAT has meant. They called it the Great Resignation because so many people – more than 47 million in the U.S. alone – have changed jobs. For whatever reason – money, location, flexibility, title, career change, more responsibility – there are so many reasons we do this. 
    But guess what?  
    According to two surveys conducted earlier this year, up to 20% of people who changed their job during the Great Resignation, now REGRET it. That’s 1 in 5 people. So, in the U.S., where an estimated 47 MM people changed jobs, that’s just shy of 10 MM people who now regret that decision.
    And this idea of disappointing outcomes isn’t confined to our careers. In 2022, it’s estimated that a little over 44% of marriages will end in divorce. So, for every 6 people who get married this year? 2.6 will get divorced.
    Same thing with relocation. Because that was another big shift during the pandemic. Millions of people picked up and moved. And according to statistics, about 30% of them regret at least a few things about their move – whether it’s about moving away from friends or family, dislike of the new location or whatever.
    Basically, the important thing to know about making big, life changing decisions is that when we do, there’s a decent chance that it won’t go as planned. 
    And there are so many reasons for this. So many things we could talk about related to big decisions. About whether we put the proper thought into it. Or paid attention to all the variables. Or did our research. Or listened to our gut. Or whatever. 
    But today, I don’t want to focus on how to make strong decisions or aligned decisions upfront. Today I want to talk to those of you who are currenting DEALING with the aftermath or unfortunately outcome of a big decision.  
    Because dealing with regret or disappointment or unfortunate outcomes is part of the human experience. it’s going to happen. For all of us. In one or maybe many areas of our life. And for that reason, it’s important to be clear about what to do when maybe you did all the upfront analytics, when you weighed the pros and the cons, and things STILL didn’t turn out the way you hoped. Whether you’re feeling a little disillusioned or swimming in massive regret, it’s important to know that there are things you can do to turn it around.
    I think this is going to be an important episode and a relevant and timely one for so many of you, so, let’s dive in.
    When we make a big decision, we’re essentially taking a chance. We’re leaping into the unknown and counting on the outcome to be what we expected it to be. But as the stats that I shared earlier show – whether we’re talking career, marriage, relocation or probably any other big decision you will make – a good percentage of the time, things aren’t going to work out the way you hoped.
    When this happens, it’s so easy to get stuck in either denial or blame or victimhood or regret. 
    And when you do that, you know what happens? You make the disappointing outcome even worse by keeping yourself stuck there longer. 

    For more, give the episode a listen.

    • 31 min
    The Power of Small Steps

    The Power of Small Steps

    We’re almost at midyear. So, this is a time when people tend to look back at the year so far and evaluate – whether formal or informally – what they’ve managed to get done this year. And that’s especially true for people who are looking for change in some part of their career or life. Whether that’s about changing jobs, making more money, starting a business, losing weight, finding a relationship or anything else that’s calling to you. Mid-year is a natural time to evaluate how we’re doing against those goals. 
    A few episodes ago, in Episode 78, we talked about “How to Transform Your Career and Life.” 
    And the focus in that episode was about how you can make big transformational shifts by looking to your FUTURE vs. what we typically do, which is trying to build from where we’re currently at. So that’s all about channeling the thoughts, feelings and actions that are consistent with that FUTURE version of you. And learning how to BE that future version of you that already HAS that big new thing so that it eventually comes about.
    So, if you’re dreaming of something big and new and you haven’t listened to that episode yet, you might want to go back and give that a listen because I think you’ll find it a very helpful perspective and one we don’t usually think about when it comes to achievement.
    Today, we’re going to talk about that same thing – how to make changes in your career and life – but from a different perspective. I want to talk about what to do if you’re someone who might dream of making big changes in some part of your life but maybe finds it tough to get started. Or maybe you get started but you find it hard to stay with it.
    Now if you’re a regular listener to this podcast you know that our actions – whether we start or don’t start, or whether we quit or stay with it – it’s all driven by what you’re thinking. And if you’re thinking things like “it’s too hard” or “it’s impossible” or that “it’ll take too long” or “you’re not disciplined enough to stay with it,” then that’s going to cause emotions like defeat or procrastination or whatever. And you’re going to either not start or quit. 
    It's so easy to let our brain talk us out of the big things we want to go do. And in my experience, it’s far too easy to believe whatever lie our brain is telling us. Because when we want something that’s far from where we are right now, the new thing we’re dreaming of seems like it’s just out of our reach. And when we look at it through that lens, from where we are vs. where we want to end up, it’s easy to believe that the journey is just going to be too hard. That it’s too big a shift. That we won’t stick with it long enough to make it happen.
    For more, give the episode a listen.

    • 26 min
    Having Your Own Back

    Having Your Own Back

    So today we’re going to talk about something important and that is, how we handle it when things don’t work out as planned. 
    Because that’s a big part of life, right? 
    It’s always fun to talk about goals and possibilities. But the truth is, as important as it is to know how to go after and get the things you want in life, it’s equally important to get good at dealing with it when things don’t work out.
    Because as we all know, no matter how much we plan and no matter how hard we work at things, sometimes life doesn’t go our way.
    Whether that’s in business or some aspect of our personal life.
    Life isn’t guaranteed.
    The truth is disappointment, setbacks, and failure are part of the experience. And the more you push for personal growth and achievement, the more you put yourself out there, the more likely it is that you’ll experience the kinds of setbacks that can really take a toll if you don’t learn how to roll with them. 
    To learn to process through the loss or the disappointment or the failure, pick yourself up, dust yourself off and keep moving forward.
    That’s not always an easy thing to do. 
    In fact, it can be super hard at times.
    Hard to let go of the thing we were so invested in.  
    And so easy to fall into the negative cycle of overthinking and regret and self-blame. And when we do that, you know what happens? 
    We get stuck.
    It erodes our self-confidence.
    It keeps us from getting out there and doing all the things we want to do.
    So today, we’re going to talk about “Having Your Own Back.”
    And if you’re someone who has an overactive inner critic, I think you’ll find this episode especially helpful. 
    So, let’s dive in. 
    And let’s start with the definition of what it means to ‘have someone’s back.’
    I checked both the Cambridge and the Urban Dictionary (since it’s kind of a newer phrase) and for both, having someone’s back means to be ready to protect or defend someone. To watch out for, take care of, and protect that person.
    So, when we talk about having your OWN back, it means doing that same thing but for yourself.
    And that’s the first point I wanted to make. While it’s very nice to have loved ones who want to have our back, the truth is, as nice as it is to have supportive friends and family, this is something we don’t need anyone else for. 
    We can learn how to have our own back.
    And I think it’s even more powerful and helpful when it comes from ourselves.
    I think having your own back is the key to finding the grit and resilience to keep going when you have a setback instead of quitting.
    I think it’s the key to staying passionate and excited about your career and life instead of just giving up and going with the flow.
    It’s the key to really BELIEVING in yourself instead of falling into the habit of tearing yourself apart when things don’t go as planned.
    And this is not something most of us are taught.
    But it’s incredibly important.

    For more, give the episode a listen.

    • 35 min
    How to Transform your Career and Life

    How to Transform your Career and Life

    We're almost at mid year and it's the perfect time reflect. 

    To look back on the year so far and evaluate whether you’ve made progress on the things we wanted to get done this year. 
    And even better, it’s a chance to look at the year ahead and make any adjustments needed so you can either stay the course if things are going well or maybe get things back on track if you don’t feel you’ve made the progress you wanted to make up to now.
    When most of us think about goal setting and personal development, we focus on the WHAT and the HOW. So, what we want to accomplish and how we plan to do it.
    That approach can work of course. But WHAT and HOW will only get you so far. So that’s a good approach to use when you’re going for career or life tweaks. Small shifts.  
    Today, I wanted to talk about those times in life when you want BIG TRANSFORMATION. When you want to significantly change one - or maybe several – areas of your life.
    When that’s what you’re going for, focusing on the HOW is not going to work. You’ll need to focus on the WHO. 
    Specifically, WHO you’ve been in your work and life so far this year. 
    And WHO you NEED to be going forward so you create the results you’re looking for in your career and life. Transformative results. Unexpected results. WOW results.
    This is a very different – and I think a far more impactful – way of thinking about goal setting and achievement. It’s a helpful perspective to consider using during times in your life where small and incremental change just isn’t going to cut it. And I think it’s going to be super interesting.
    So, let’s dive in.
    Like I said earlier, this is not how we’re taught to approach goal setting or any other aspect of our life for that matter. 
    Typically, when we think about where we want to go it’s ALWAYS from the perspective of where we are today. 
    That seems logical, right?
    It seems logical because it’s linear. 
    And there’s no denying that each of us are where we are in our life. 
    We have a very specific role in the current world. 
    A level of income.  
    A job title.
    A set of skills to offer.
    A set of people, possessions and things that make up our life.
    Where we live, who we associate with, our daily routines and habits, our interests, activities. All of it.  
    So, when we think about what we WANT to achieve or do NEXT, most of us think about our possibilities from that perspective. 
    We think about building our future from where we are today.
    And you can certainly do that. 
    There are times in life where that makes perfect sense. And like I said, it’s what most of us do.
    BUT what I want to offer today is a very different perspective. 
    I want to come at personal development from the OPPOSITE point of view.
    I want to think about personal development and goal achievement in a way that’s completely divorced from your current identity. Meaning, who you think you are in the world and how you think about your possibilities.
    For more, give the episode a listen.

    • 27 min
    I'm a Fraud (Lies We Tell Ourselves #5 of 5)

    I'm a Fraud (Lies We Tell Ourselves #5 of 5)

    So, today is the last episode on our series, “Lies We Tell Ourselves.” 
    This series is foundational to everything we teach in my business. Because we’re never really taught in our career that our ability to achieve our goals doesn’t come from good breaks or great bosses or networking or even being great at what you do. Sure, those things are important. But you can HAVE those things and STILL find yourself stuck and miserable.
    Why?
    Because you can work as hard as you’d like but if you don’t learn how to manage your mind you can easily find yourself living in uncertainty, fear, self-doubt no matter how success you LOOK on the outside. If you don’t purposefully direct your brain, what’s going on INSIDE can make you miserable. 
    And when you’re not connected to the real source of the issue, it’s easy to spend your time chasing opportunity. Looking for the perfect boss. Or the “right” title or salary. Or a better culture. Or whatever.
    And I’m not saying those things aren’t important. But what I AM saying is that you can have all the great things. You can have everything you always said you ever wanted. And still be miserable. And you might not even know why if you don’t connect into what’s going on inside.
    In your brain.  
    And that concept is especially relevant today because we’re going to talk about the last “lie” in this series which is “I’m a fraud.”
    This is a hallmark of Imposter Syndrome, a pattern of thought that causes you to doubt your abilities, hence the thought “I’m a fraud.” And it disproportionately affects high achievers, especially those who find it difficult to accept their accomplishments. In fact, researchers say up to 80 percent of people report having Imposter-like thoughts at some point in their career. 
    I’m very well acquainted with this one so I’ve got a lot of perspective to share here that I think will be super helpful for so many of you. 
    So, let’s dive in.
    Now you might hear a statistic like 80% and wonder, how can that be true? Well, apparently it is, because according to the National Institute of Health, in 2019, there was a review of 62 studies on Imposter Syndrome and according to THAT, up to 82% of people report having thoughts along these lines at some point.
    And it’s also important to note that most of them are women, though it does affect men too. And as I said earlier, it disproportionately affects high achievers. It can impact anyone in any profession at any stage of their life – from college up to the most senior level corporate executives or entrepreneurs.
    And the problem with this Imposter thought pattern is that you end up working harder than you need to because you’re holding yourself to impossibly high standards. And it will eventually take a toll on your emotional wellbeing (and maybe physical too). And even though you’re literally KILLING yourself to deliver top caliber – maybe unachievable – standard of work, the thought pattern actually can impact your work performance. 
    So, what does Imposter Syndrome look like? 
    Well, it’s characterized by a pattern of thought that’s grounded in something called “perceived fraudulence.” I sort of think about it as a set of “beliefs” or rules that a high achiever develops that maybe early on in their career drives them forward. But eventually, because it’s a level of performance that is unattainable and so therefore, is unsustainable, if it’s not addressed, it can have the opposite effect. And honestly? It just makes you miserable.
    Here are what I call, some of the Imposter Rules. The informal and impossible set of rules high achievers with Imposter-like thoughts may live by. 
    For more give the episode a listen.

    • 23 min
    I'm Too Busy (Lies We Tell Ourselves #4 of 5)

    I'm Too Busy (Lies We Tell Ourselves #4 of 5)

    In the last three episodes, we’ve focused on the “Lies We Tell Ourselves.” 
    Specifically, how negative, or false thoughts get stored away in our brain without us knowing it. Then we think those things over and over again until they become beliefs. And then, without us realizing it, we’ll find ourselves in a situation that triggers that old belief. And we’ll find ourselves thinking that same, familiar, and somewhat negative thought. And because that thought is so familiar, we’ll just accept it as “the truth.” When really, it’s just an old thought that got stored away and that no longer serves you. 
    As we’ve also discussed, these negative thoughts can come from what people have said to us. Or what you made things people said to you or things you experienced MEAN about you and your possibilities. This inner interpretation happens, many times, without us even realizing it. 
    And I’ve found that those negative self-beliefs will typically come up when we’re contemplating taking on something big and new. Something that’s maybe outside our comfort zone. 
    So, at the heart of these “Lies we tell ourselves” is fear. 
    Fear of judgment.
    Fear of failure.
    Maybe even fear of success.
    Right?
    So, the idea of trying the new thing causes those subconscious negative thought patterns to appear. And their job is to cause us to shrink back. To stay right where we are. 
    That’s just our brain trying to keep us safe. But really, the danger is that it gets us stuck. That it keeps us playing small and keeps us from pursuing the things we really want in our life. 
    The first three episodes of this series focused on some of the most common lies we tell ourselves, which are:
    “It’s too late”
    “I don’t know how”, and… 
    “I’m not good enough.” 
    So, if you haven’t done so yet, I encourage you to go back and give those episodes a listen. Because if we’re not aware of what we’re thinking OR that those thoughts aren’t actually TRUE but instead, are just old, programmed ways of thinking – ways that probably NEVER served you and most certainly aren’t serving you today - any of those lies could get you stuck. 
    It’s very important to know that.
    But TODAY, we’re going to talk about another lie we tell ourselves. And I think it’s the most common one, which is “I’m too busy.” Because this is such a common thought, this episode is going to be super helpful to so many. 
    So, let’s dive in.
    Now before we go any further, I want to first acknowledge that in today’s always-on world, most of us ARE, in fact, quite busy. 
    We have jobs.
    We have families.
    We have homes and lives and loved ones to care for.
    We have our own self-care.
    We have interests and hobbies.
    And in today’s connected, high-tech world, it’s the rare person that would say their lives are leisurely or calm or that their time is their own. 
    Most of us feel this ever-present intense pressure to be always on. To be connected. To be available.
    The lines between our work and home life are blurry to say the least.
    And if you have a challenging boss or a difficult work culture that only makes the problem worse. 
    I get that always on pressure. I’ve lived it myself. So, I know how hard it can be to hear the idea that “I’m too busy” is just a thought that isn’t necessary true.

    For more, give the episode a listen.

    • 32 min

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