180 episodes

In The Refined Collective podcast, host and author of Sexless in the City, Kat Harris creates a safe space to have honest conversations around faith, sexuality, relationships, politics, identity, Christian culture, deconstruction, and more.

*What does the Bible really say about sex?
*How does our faith impact our politics?
*Is Christianity at odds with science?
*Is the Bible still relevant?

From purity culture, to deconstruction, dating apps, and LGTBQ+ issues—there’s no topic that’s off the table.

In this podcast Kat doesn’t pretend to be an expert, or to have all the answers about faith or Christianity. And though it’d be more convenient to have easy black-and-white answers, she invites you to discover God in the grey and unexpected spaces. Her hope is to look doubt in the face, be curious, seek God, and ask meaningful questions to address any ‘elephant in the room’ with openness, nuance and grace.

The Refined Collective Podcast Kat Harris

    • Religion & Spirituality
    • 4.9 • 1.1K Ratings

In The Refined Collective podcast, host and author of Sexless in the City, Kat Harris creates a safe space to have honest conversations around faith, sexuality, relationships, politics, identity, Christian culture, deconstruction, and more.

*What does the Bible really say about sex?
*How does our faith impact our politics?
*Is Christianity at odds with science?
*Is the Bible still relevant?

From purity culture, to deconstruction, dating apps, and LGTBQ+ issues—there’s no topic that’s off the table.

In this podcast Kat doesn’t pretend to be an expert, or to have all the answers about faith or Christianity. And though it’d be more convenient to have easy black-and-white answers, she invites you to discover God in the grey and unexpected spaces. Her hope is to look doubt in the face, be curious, seek God, and ask meaningful questions to address any ‘elephant in the room’ with openness, nuance and grace.

    Tears, Fears + Searching for Vision with Johan Martinez-Khalilian

    Tears, Fears + Searching for Vision with Johan Martinez-Khalilian

    I feel like I ended 2021 crawling to the finish line. (Anyone else?) So I did a few things: I took the last month off + I hired a business coach. It has felt like therapy. I decided to record our first session and share it with you. I got real, I also got defensive at times, I cried, and reached some real breakthroughs. I want you to have a raw and unedited look into my life, my career, my process, and where I’m stuck. And hopefully in the process… you can experience some breakthroughs of your own.

    • 1 hr 20 min
    I Kinda Suck at Dating: A 2021 Reflection

    I Kinda Suck at Dating: A 2021 Reflection

    It’s here: the final episode of 2021. Last years final episode was about how dating has changed in 2020. (You can listen to that episode here.) I have felt recently exactly what the title says: that I kinda suck at dating. So I wanted to be honest with you about what I’m moving through. I struggle with what to share and when to share it with you. I really want to honor my own process and I also want to be vulnerable with where I’m really at. So here goes it. 

    • 1 hr 1 min
    Church + S*x: How Did We Get It So Wrong? with Sheila Wray Gregoire

    Church + S*x: How Did We Get It So Wrong? with Sheila Wray Gregoire

    I believe we are in a season where women are rising up in a new way and making their voices heard. I am thrilled to be talking with Sheila Wray Gregoire, the author of The Great S*x Rescue. We’re talking all about her survey findings, the toxic messages we are taught about women and s*x, where those messages come from, and what the Bible actually says about it all.

    • 1 hr 5 min
    How to Get Real Results From Online Dating with Kait Warman

    How to Get Real Results From Online Dating with Kait Warman

    This episode is all about how to get real results from online dating, which is something I’m really interested in talking about right now because personally I have felt burnt out from online dating. I’ve also experienced some heartache in my love life recently (I don’t want to share that story with the whole world, but you can hear it on Patreon if you’re interested.) So this episode is just as much for me as it is for you. I am so excited to have my dear friend Kait Warman with me for this conversa

    • 56 min
    Is S*xual Compatibility a Myth? with Jaiya and Ian

    Is S*xual Compatibility a Myth? with Jaiya and Ian

    If you have watched Gwyneth Paltrow’s Netflix show “S*x, Love & Goop,” then you may recognize today’s podcast guests: Jaiya and Ian! I am so excited to be talking with them both today about the erotic blueprint, the 5 erotic blueprints, and whether s*xual incompatibility is actually a thing.

    • 1 hr 8 min
    Dear Diary: Excerpts from my Middle School Journal with Tutti del Monte

    Dear Diary: Excerpts from my Middle School Journal with Tutti del Monte

    Today’s guest is my best friend, Sara del Monte, or “Tutti” if you follow her on Instagram. Recently, I discovered my middle school journal and I have been going through it and reading it. I was sharing my discovery with Tutti and she had recently found hers as well. We decided it would be fun to do a podcast episode where we read our journals and psychoanalyze each other.

    • 58 min

Customer Reviews

4.9 out of 5
1.1K Ratings

1.1K Ratings

Katya64567 ,

AMAZING

I can't express how much I love Kat Harris. She is encouraging, sweet, humble, and vulnerable. EVERYONE NEEDS TO LISTEN TO THIS PODCAST!!!!

clairesettles ,

This was what I needed to hear.

I feel like Kat is a friend. She’s so easy to listen to ESPECIALLY when she shows up vulnerable. I’m in a very different place in my life than her but I still feel so connected to how she relates to the world. I soak up the wisdom she shares and will continue to root for her and the community she builds! I love you, Kat! -Claire

EmmiFortin ,

REAL Conversations!

I enjoy how Kat’s conversations are real and how she shows up honestly. She makes it so easy to connect with the topic that you feel understood in what you’re going through PLUS gives super tangible action steps to help you with your situation.

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