The Selfish Woman

Valerie Jones
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The Selfish Woman podcast is for the high-achieving woman who's done everything right and it still isn't enough. Hosted by Valerie Jones - author of The Selfish Year, creator of the Queen Code methodology, and guide for women rebuilding after peak achievement - this podcast explores what comes after you've "made it" and realized the life you built doesn't fit anymore. Using a neuro-mythic lens, we explore the architecture of transformation: how to dismantle the performance structures keeping you impressive but empty, and rebuild your identity from sovereignty instead of survival. You'll hear conversations with powerhouse women navigating midlife reinvention: the partner questioning her pace, the executive who walked away, the entrepreneur choosing herself over her empire. This isn't about balance. It's about reclaiming your throne. Every episode asks: What if being "unapologetically selfish" isn't rebellion - it's remembering who you were before you learned to perform? Not self-help. Sovereign transformation through the Queen Code. Ranked #24 in Feedspot's Top 80 Badass Female Podcasts

  1. 12/16/2025

    Why Your 'Word for the Year' Fails: And How to Choose One That Changes Everything

    Most people choose a word for the year based on what they want to achieve, acquire, or accomplish. But that's not how transformation works.  In this episode, I'm sharing why your word of the year should be about who you're becoming, not what you want to get. It's a practice in identity, not goals. A call toward the woman you're evolving into. not a to-do list disguised as intention-setting.  I'll walk you through:  Why choosing a word based on outcomes keep you stuck in the same patterns  The difference between a word that motivates and a word that transforms  My own experience choosing 'selfish' as my word in 2020 - what it taught me, how it challenged me, and why it was exactly what I needed  How to choose a word that serves your evolution (not just your ambition)  This isn't about New Year's resolutions or vision boards. It's about claiming who you're becoming and letting that guide everything else.  WATCH THIS EPISODE ON YOUTUBE:  I'm now posting full video episodes on YouTube! If you prefer to warch rather than listen, head over to my channel and subscribe so you don't miss future episodes.  MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:  The Selfish Year - available everywhere books are sold, or click here  CONNECT WITH ME:  Substack: The Selfish Gospel weekly essays  Book: The Selfish Year  Instagram  LET'S TALK:  What's your word for 2026? Drop me a message on Instagram or YouTube.  SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW:  If you loved this episode, please subscribe and leave a review, on Spotify or Apple. It helps others find the show.  Thanks for listening. Now go choose your word, and let it choose you back.

    27 min

  2. 12/11/2025

    The Year of the Snake: What You Need to Shed Before 2026

    2025 is the Year of the Snake. 2026? The Year of the Fire Horse.  If you're familiar about Chinese zodiac symbolism, you know what that means: the Snake sheds what no longer fits. The Fire Horse charges forward with unstoppable momentum.  But here's the thing: you can't ride the Fire Horse into 2026 while still carrying 2025's dead weight.  This episode is about what needs to be shed now, before the year turns.  IN THIS EPISODE, I SHARE:  The symbolism of Snake and Fire Horse years: and what they're asking of us right now.  What a death cycle actually looks like (from someone living it): why you can't 'positive mindset' your way through and what to do instead.  The difference between shedding and suppressing: one creates space for growth, the other just buries what will resurface later.  A December ritual for intentional release: specific steps you can take this month to shed what's keeping you small, stuck, or performing.  Why 'not enough', shame, and old survival strategies have to go: and what becomes possible when you finally release them.  The gift of radical permission: why The Selfish Year is the book to give yourself (or someone you love) this holiday season.  What's coming in 2026: a hint at something I'm creating for women ready to make next year their Selfish Year  IF YOU'RE FEELING:  The tightness of an old identity that doesn't fit anymore  Exhausted by maintaining 'impressive'  Ready to stop carrying what's dead  Curious about what 2026 could look like if you actually chose yourself  ....this episode is for you.  RESOURCES MENTIONED:  Read the full essay: What a Death Cycle Actually Looks Like (from someone living it)  Get the book: The Selfish Year - perfect for gifting yourself and your friends permission this Christmas  Choose your 2026 word: Are you claiming SELFISH as your guiding intention for next year? Let me know!  SOMETHING'S COMING:  I'm gathering women who are ready to make 2026 their Selfish Year. A community....a container...a place where choosing yourself isn't rebellion, it's a homecoming.  I can't share all the details yet, but if you're feeling the pull toward radical selfishness - stay close.  CONNECT WITH VALERIE:  Instagram  Newsletter Work with Valerie  YOUR DECEMBER PRACTICE:  This month, ask yourself every morning:  What am I carrying that's already dead?  What old skin am I ready to shed?  What wants to emerge in 2026?  Then do one small thing - sage, movement, journaling, walking - to physically release it.  SHARE THIS EPISODE:  Know someone who needs permission to shed what's no longer serving them? Send them this episode. Sometimes the most generous thing we can do is name what's true.  RATE & REVIEW:  If this episode resonated please leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. It helps other women find The Selfish Woman podcast when they need it most.

    26 min

  3. 11/10/2025

    The 'Holy Sh*t' Moment: When You Start Toppling Your Sacred Cows

    This is a personal episode for me, one that I feel led to share with you, because I know it's going to resonate.  There's a moment in every woman's life when she look at what she's been worshipping - success, motherhood, marriage, being 'nice' - and realizes none of it was built for her freedom. That's the holy sh*t moment. The one where you finally stop trying to earn gold stars for suffering and start knocking over every sacred cow that's been keeping you in a cage.  This is aboout burning down the old rules, setting yourself free from everyone else's opinion of you, reclaiming your wild self, and realizing that sometimes the most spiritual thing you can do...is commit a little heresy.  Take the Reveal Your Mask quiz  Get your copy of The Selfish Year  Inquire about working with me as a private client  Read The Selfish Gospel on Substack  Watch on YouTube

    30 min

  4. 10/27/2025

    Hype Women! With Erin Gallagher

    In this episode I'm joined by Erin Gallagher, author of Hype Women: Breaking Free From Mean Girls, Patriarchy and Systems Silencing You.  Buckle up for a fiery conversation about what it really means to trust yourself after a lifetime of being told you're wrong. We talk about the incredible origin story of her book, and why she's not here to hype all women - especially not the ones still acting as foot soldiers for the patriarchy.  We also go there:  Who are the mean girls in your life?  Why do we keep trying to gather in circles with women who've burned us?  What does it mean to self-source instead of always giving your power away?  This one is bold, vulnerable and unapologetically honest. Press play and get hyped - for yourself.  Erin Gallagher is the CEO and Founder of Hype Women, an inclusive ecosystem hyping women to remember who the f**k they are, author of Hype Women, and host of the Hype Women Podcast.  Her book is an electrifying and extraordinary approach to life for ambitious women everywhere.  Connect with Erin  Buy your copy of Hype Women now!  The Phoenix private community  The Selfish Year

    44 min

  5. 10/20/2025

    The Mystic & the Machine: Merging AI with Inner Intelligence with Karen Romine

    What happens when strategic intelligence meets spiritual intuition?  In this electric conversation, I sit down with keynote speaker and author, Karen Romine, to explore the intersection of artificial intelligence and the unseen realms.  We talk about how AI is transforming the way we make decisions and scale our lives - and how inner knowing is the missing data point most women ignore.  Karen shares her journey from corporate strategy expert to discovering that she is a psychic medium (yes, both can live in one woman!), and how merging logic with intuition creates exponential growth.  This one's for the woman who knows she's meant to lead, but also trusts the whispers. The woman who wants to scale her vision without abandoning her soul. And the woman who's secretly felt there's more to 'data' than numbers.  We're not choosing between the mystic or the machine. We're using both.  Join Karen's book launch event  Get your copy of The Selfish Year

    42 min

  6. 10/13/2025

    Selfish Out Loud: Are You Willing to Pay the Price for Your Power?

    In this episode, I'm pulling back the curtain on what it really costs to be selfish. Not cute-selfish. Not #selfcare selfish. I'm talking about the kind of selfish that turns your whole life inside out. The kind that sets you free.  This is about the power you say you want...and the uncomfortable truth of what it takes to actually get it.  And I ask the question that could change everything:  Are you willing to pay the price for your power?  Introducing:  The Selfish Woman Protocol: From Masked to Magnetic  A 30-day experience for the woman who's done asking for permission. If you're ready to drop the masks, rewrite your story, and become magnetic as hell...this is for you.  Sign up to join the Protocol  Join the Exclusive Experience for $33 Get my book, The Selfish Year

    26 min

  7. 10/06/2025

    Rewrite the Mother Code with Dr. Gertrude Lyons

    What if the way you've been taught to mother - your children, your dreams, yourself - was never yours to begin with?  In this potent conversation, I sit down with Dr. Gertrude Lyons, author of Rewrite the Mother Code: From Sacrifice to Stardust, to unravel the outdated scripts women are handed about what it means to mother, and how to rewrite them from the inside out.  We talk about:  The hidden 'mother codes' shaping every area of your life (whether you have children or not)  Why sacrifice is not sacred, and what actually is  Reclaiming mothering as a creative, cosmic force - not a job description  What changes when you mother from love, not lack  Whether you're a mother, mothering yourself, or birthing something new into the world - this episode is a permission slip to mother on your own terms.  Let's go from martyr to medicine woman.  Connect with Dr. Lyons  Get Rewrite the Mother Code Information on The Phoenix  The Selfish Year - get your copy now

    54 min

  8. 09/29/2025

    My Everest, Your Dream: What it Takes to Rise

    Every woman has her Everest - the dream that feels impossible until suddenly, it isn't.  I had my Everest moment and I'm sharing what it was, how I got there, and how you can do it too. And how there's always another mountain to climb, if you want it.  I also talk about the most personal piece of my journey yet: why I wrote The Selfish Year, who I wrote it for, and why it matters right now.  This isn't just about my story. It's also about yours. I'm pulling back the curtain on what it takes to move from a dream to reality.  If you've ever needed proof that your wildest dreams are possible - and the push to finally go after it - this is it.    Get your copy of The Selfish Year  Leave a review  The Phoenix Membership details  Want me as your Coach? Book a consultation here

    30 min
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The Selfish Woman podcast is for the high-achieving woman who's done everything right and it still isn't enough. Hosted by Valerie Jones - author of The Selfish Year, creator of the Queen Code methodology, and guide for women rebuilding after peak achievement - this podcast explores what comes after you've "made it" and realized the life you built doesn't fit anymore. Using a neuro-mythic lens, we explore the architecture of transformation: how to dismantle the performance structures keeping you impressive but empty, and rebuild your identity from sovereignty instead of survival. You'll hear conversations with powerhouse women navigating midlife reinvention: the partner questioning her pace, the executive who walked away, the entrepreneur choosing herself over her empire. This isn't about balance. It's about reclaiming your throne. Every episode asks: What if being "unapologetically selfish" isn't rebellion - it's remembering who you were before you learned to perform? Not self-help. Sovereign transformation through the Queen Code. Ranked #24 in Feedspot's Top 80 Badass Female Podcasts

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  • Creator
    Valerie Jones
  • Years Active
    2021 - 2025
  • Episodes
    133
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Show Website
    The Selfish Woman

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